What Does it Mean to Be “Affirmed”?

I’ve been thinking on this a while: What does it mean to be affirmed? You know, like the buzzword the Left loves to use to get everyone on board with one of their latest agendas. The official definition from the Merriam-Webster dictionary is:

Affirm (verb)
af·​firm | \ ə-ˈfərm \
affirmed; affirming; affirms

1 a: VALIDATE, CONFIRM
He was affirmed as a candidate.
b: to state positively
He affirmed his innocence.


2: to assert (something, such as a judgment or decree) as valid or confirmed
The court affirmed his conviction.


3: to show or express a strong belief in or dedication to (something, such as an important idea)
laws affirming the racial equality of all people

I think the closest definitions the Left uses is #1. to validate someone, such as their identity. The Left loves to speak of how the “affirm” this group or that group based on identity, or “affirm” their commitments to diversity and the like. Now, I think we can all agree that affirmation of identities we hold personally significant, or the affirmation of a fair minded principle is no cause for objection. By human nature, we all want to feel welcomed and respected by others, and feel included. We want our values and choices affirmed by others. If that is all affirmation is, then why hold objections or reservations? Thing is of course, there’s always a catch 😉 Perhaps the better question is what isn’t affirmation?

For the first common use of what it means to be affirmed in the eyes of the Left, affirming one’s identity, they make it sound like one can only be “affirmed” in society if their group is given complete deference free from any sort of criticism or critique and that their opinions are treated as infallible edicts! A common example is the use of “affirm” in relation to LGBTQ groups. Many people and institutions declare they’re LGBTQ affirming, and most moderates interpret it to simply mean that LGBTQ people are welcome there, and won’t be discriminated against and treated with respect. Now the majority including myself, have absolutely no objections to that definition of affirmation for any group. I don’t object to same-sex marriage or to the existence of LGBTQ people and believe they deserve the same respect as everyone else. However, I draw the line at special privileges such as taking affirmation to mean that if someone has a criticism of the LGBTQ community, such as the nature of its often far left-leaning political activism for one example, they are automatically “homophobic” and non-affirming! Just because someone critiques LGBTQ as an identity to use in identity politics doesn’t mean they’re against people choosing same sex relationships or marriage as a personal life decision.

On a related note, regarding the “T” for transgender in LGBTQ, affirmation should not mean bending biological facts or enacting laws that disregard physical gender differences or the opportunity for non- transgender people to take advantage of trans-friendly laws for their own nefarious intentions (i.e. women’s bathrooms opening to biological males). Transgender people deserve respect and compassion and the right to be free from harassment and persecution as much as anyone else. I am not arguing for segregation or ostracism of transgender people from society. However, affirming their “right” to deny biological, physical and physiological realities as genetic males and females despite their new gender identity is where I draw a line. Sure, many transgender men and women can live lives that for the most part, harm no one or impede upon anyone else’s freedom. That does not mean issues such as bathroom access, or sports for trans women, or certain careers for trans men that require increased physical strength and stamina don’t exist and whose implications and unintended consequences can be denied. Do I think genuinely trans men and women have some nefarious intent in pushing for breaking these boundaries? No. They want a life according to their gender identity and I can understand that. However unintended consequences such as non-transgender (regular old cis-gender) men taking advantage of transgender laws to gain access to women’s spaces, or be able to beat every other female in an all women’s sport are still here regardless of intent. What about a trans man wanting to be in an elite SEAL unit but not having the requisite physical strength and stamina as other men? Must we admit him or lower the bar so “he” can get a spot on the team? Does affirming the transgender community mean we must affirm even the unintended consequences of their desires? Can we show them respect and affirmation without infringing on other’s rights?

What about affirming the “lived experiences” of many minority groups most often, that claim we live in a country steeped in white supremacy and racism? Do I think everyone who has had a bad experience is lying or wrong? No, certainly bias and prejudice does exist! However, there can be other explanations, other factors for why someone had a negative interaction aside from racism and bias. For a few examples:

Someone could have had a bad day and took it out on you unintentionally.

Someone was in a rush so they didn’t see you when you said hi.

Someone had a completely different reason for a disagreement or conflict with you that had nothing to do with your race or ethnicity.

Someone said a comment they had no idea would come off as offensive or insensitive to you.

You weren’t truly qualified for the job you interviewed for or they hired someone they knew or came more recommended. Same for higher education acceptances, scholarships, internships etc… Same for most opportunities. That has happened to everyone including white males…

Your teacher or boss criticized your work because it actually needed improvement, not because you look different than the rest of the class.

You didn’t feel welcome at work or school because maybe, the dynamic between those coworkers or other students/professors didn’t fit your style of socializing or learning. Not every workplace or school is right for you and you should find a better fit. Not that anyone specifically had an agenda against you, but your style of relating just didn’t mesh with theirs. I think everyone has experienced this at least once in their career/education. You won’t instantly connect with everyone you meet.

In the course of your life, you will be in situations where you feel more apart, or even alienated from others around you. Sometimes they are being exclusionary and closed minded and unwelcoming. Other times, you and they simply don’t relate to each other as well. Not every workplace is for you. Not every school is for you. Not every friend group will be yours. Not every opportunity will be yours. Often times, this will have nothing to do with your race or any other identity but is simply one of the many setbacks in life. When we affirm the more identity-oriented interpretations of these events/experiences, to the exclusion of considering other factors before jumping to the worst interpretation, is this what affirmation should mean?

It can be hard as many, including me, genuinely don’t want to invalidate or belittle what others say were painful experiences. We wouldn’t want others to do that to us either! Many who cite negative experiences at school, work or socially are genuine in their pain. I think we should acknowlege that they feel that way, but at the same time, not be obligated to take their every word as infallible truth! How many times have we been upset due to a misunderstanding? That did not make what we felt any less real, but the facts surrounding the feelings were misperceived. Is that distinction, while a delicate balancing act especially when we ourselves don’t know the full story, too hard to understand? We can affirm someone’s emotions as genuine, but not blindly affirm their conclusions. Hear them out, but then seek out the facts before passing judgment.

A final thought, what about affirmation for my identity? Affirmation of my identity as a conservative and other fellow conservatives? In most major institutions such as schools and our workplaces, the mainstream media, much of government, family and friends etc… there is little to none. I and many others have had the “lived experience” of feeling uncomfortable to express our views in the classroom or at work while those around us express their freely. We’ve endured snide remarks from professors, teachers, bosses, even “friends” about how backward people like us are. We see every other group be treated as if they were untouchable, free from any criticism or reproach while we are damned if we do and damned if we don’t. Don’t call out for affirmation if you happen to be white, male and especially both! Don’t call out for affirmation if you’re a minority who is also a conservative since the Left thinks they own you and you’re a “race traitor”. No professor’s office or boss’ office ever had a “(insert group here)-friendly” sticker for conservatives to show that they too are welcome. The Left thinks of us as a malignant majority, but how can that be when the mainstream media, every school and work place, every authority figure, tv show, movie etc… are all affirming of the Left but not of us?

So, one can safely conclude like all the buzz words they like to use to sway the moderates on the fence who haven’t looked deeply into them, “affirmation” for the Left translates to “agree with our select groups and causes or else you’re a big meanie!”

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A Tale of Two Protests…

A rally that was supposed to be a peaceful demonstration for patriots to stand up for Trump on January 6th disappointingly turned into a chaotic event. Scores of people occupied the Capitol building and some stepped over the line into fear tactics, and even violence. When the dust finally settled, 4 died, the National Guard had to be called, a curfew enforced in DC, and several arrests. I think we can all agree this violent mob chaos was a disgrace and does not represent the real patriot or mainstream Trump supporter. Indeed, many prominent conservatives, including our President openly decried and denounced the violence and chaos, reminding every fellow American that no matter what the cause, violence and fear is never the answer to create change in a democracy. Despite the widespread condemnation of the rotten apples who only hurt Trump’s cause and the conservative community, the liberal media is swarming over this as proof of “right wing” domestic terrorism and proof we are dangerous insurrectionists who need to be censored and banned. The left even went as far as to give Trump a permanent ban on Twitter, a heavily left leaning platform! In some ways not surprising, as they were looking for any excuse, and this seems to be the perfect one.

Now contrast the widespread (and justified) condemnation for the behavior shown at the Capitol Building with the BLM riots and “autonomous zones” from this past summer. Violent insurrection? Check. Calling the National Guard? Check. Curfews? Check. Destruction of property? Check. Making people fear for their safety? Check. Arrests? Check. We can go on and on… Yes, the cause may be different, the side may be different, even the scale and duration of events is different. But the chaos? The violence and fear? Nope! Those riots caused for more destruction and went on for longer and with more people in several cities across the country. Did their behavior honestly reflect the simple idea that black lives matter as much as any other life? Were their actions reflective of a movement who only wants equality and justice? No matter what your opinion is of BLM, violent riots, chaos and looting harms volumes more than it ever would help actual black lives.

Yet, there was no widespread condemnation from BLM leaders. They encouraged the riots in the name of “reparations”! The left did nothing to condemn and stop the chaos, and called anyone a racist for criticizing them. Despite it being also within a raging pandemic no one even blinked at the thought of thousands packed in the streets like sardines. As businesses shut down, they were broken into and looted while the business owners could only stand by and watch or face arrest. The famous “autonomous zone” CHAD, CHAZ, or CHOP or whatever else, stood for a whole month before being cleared out! Name a prominent left leaning politician or celebrity or any public figure who condemned the behavior shown over the past summer. Name anyone on the left who said the rioter’s behavior dishonored, not honored, the lives lost to alleged police brutality.

Now going back to the recent events on the Capitol: President Trump decried the violence. Several conservative politicians decried the violence. Fellow conservatives on social media all decried the violence. Even though we all dislike, even hate, the policies of many who work in the Capitol, we never said they deserve violence and to fear for their lives. True conservatives know a democracy and the rights we all have as Americans applies to all, not merely those who we agree with. We are deeply embarrassed and disgusted our peaceful event was corrupted into what it was. Thing is, new evidence is coming to light, (despite being suppressed by the leftist mainstream) that many of the actual rioters and violent agitators were Antifa and other far left groups disguised as Trump supporters to sabotage our peaceful event. Yes, every group has its wing-nuts and we’re no different, but the wing-nuts don’t represent the other 99%. At every other Trump inspired event, thousands of fellow patriots gathered together without incident. This is out of character with the other events led by conservatives for Trump and should have raised suspicions from the start.

Before all this, I watched a video by Vox, a heavily left leaning news site geared towards college age millennials and teenagers that argued that the news coverage of the violence in many cities over the past summer mischaracterized a vast majority peaceful movement. They argued that news often focuses on the outliers, the more extreme ends to sell a more interesting story, violence is more eye catching, and also because it can be hard to capture all nuances of the complex subjects protests can cover whereas focusing in on an extreme helps simplify it for outsiders. It wrapped up by saying not to buy into the media’s mischaracterization and oversimplification of their chosen movements by the actions of a few bad apples. Now, compare that attitude towards how the leftist media has covered this event! The left is blatantly turning a blind eye to violence from their own chosen causes, yet is quick to condemn the actions of a tiny minority within the 75 or so million who voted Trump in this past election. In contrast, as stated before, numerous conservatives including President Trump swiftly condemned the violet actions allegedly done in the name of conservatives and Trump. You can see the hypocrisy in black and white.

No one has the right to use violence and terror to get their way in this country or in any democratic society. This applies to any political party, religion, race, ethnic group, special interest groups etc… I and fellow conservatives have always upheld the rule of law for everyone, including ourselves. We aren’t justifying the violence that happened at the Capitol when we call out the utter hypocrisy of how it’s been covered compared to left leaning insurrectionists and their violence. I don’t care about your opinion on whether the election was stolen, or if BLM is a worthy movement reflective of the inherent value of black lives when you cross that line. Violence is violence no matter who it comes from, so why is one group’s violence covered up en masse, while another’s is characterized as representative of 75 million people of whom 99% are peaceful law abiding citizens? Why are our leaders condemning the bad apples in our barrel while theirs cover up, deny and then attack you for calling out their silence about theirs? Saying we condemn violence done in our name, yet we also condemn the double standards being applied to how it’s perceived compared to the left’s own share of violence and chaos is not mutually exclusive!

Patriots, we must show the country that those who took part in this disgrace were not us. This was never us. And most likely were literally not us!

Leftist Lunacy 2020!

It feels like a century ago, but 2019 was only a year ago! For those who remembered, I did a post recalling the lunacy of 2019 and closed with “here’s to an even loonier 2020…” Little did I know I ought to have been more careful for what I wished for 😉 The Left had a field day last year, but this year was their time to really let loose the lunacy…

A Lady of Reason presents: Leftist Lunacy 2020!

Ringing in The New Fear

Early into 2020 more information on the new Wuhan Coronavirus, or COVID-19 as it was named, came out. President Trump recommended shutting down travel from China to the US to get ahead of stopping potential spread before it gets too out of hand, but one can guess how that was received: Accusations of racism and xenophobia by many Leftist leaders, including Joe Biden, Nancy Pelosi, NY Mayor Bill de Blasio, and even Anthony Fauci, the “top authority” on Covid-19 among many others. Basically, their reasoning could be distilled into “Trump’s a racist!” for taking early precautions. Apparently early on into the Covid craziness, the real fear wasn’t about an unknown virus and a potential pandemic on our hands, but making sure no one associated the new virus with their best buddy, China… On a related note, naming the virus was an almost equally loony task for the powers that be! Unlike the Spanish Flu, Ebola, Lyme Disease, West Nile Virus, German Measels etc… Calling COVID-19 the Wuhan or China virus was “racist”, “Xenophobic” and “inciting violence” against Asian Americans. That makes sense: Just like how we scapegoat everyone from Lyme, Connecticut for why we must check ourselves for ticks every summer…

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Flattening our Freedoms

Who can forget early March when “flattening the curve” was all the rage? The idea was to take 2 weeks to self isolate so less people get sick and overwhelm the healthcare system. Instead of creating a sharp spike in cases, we would create a broader flatter distribution. Good idea right? Until one realized that 1. Until herd immunity is achieved we’re all still vulnerable, and 2. Broadening the curve only prolongs the outbreak and self isolating will not achieve herd immunity, and 3. We can’t wait years for some miracle cure stuck in our houses unable to function and support ourselves. Speaking of being unable to do anything during this period, many states imposed shut downs and mandatory isolation on their citizens. Visiting family and friends? Nope! Shopping? Nope! Travel? Nope! Playing in a secluded park with your own kids with no one else around? Nope! Paddleboarding on a beach in total isolation? Nope to that as well…

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Closed for Business

But, what if I own a business or need to go to work? Sorry! From the spring into late summer, stores, restaurants, recreational centers, museums, places of worship, etc… were all closed down. Only essential businesses were to be open, which apparently included the liquor stores and abortion clinics… It was okay to buy liquor but not some grass seed at Walmart (a “lived experience” of mine). Can’t work on Zoom? Sorry! You’re not elite enough for the powers that be to care. There were some relief packages, but much of it was given to the Left’s favorite businesses and not small businesses, and had many strings attached such as setting up sanctuary cities and open borders… In 2020, an unprecedented number of families struggled with unemployment and financial hardship due to arbitrary and hypocritical shutdowns.

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Who Killed Grandma?

Tragically, many did die from Covid, but the vast majority were the already vulnerable elderly. In most outbreaks, the very young and very old are most susceptible and make up most casualties and severe cases. Not just for COVID-19. However, many of these deaths could have been preventable, not by more shut downs for the healthy, who were needed to help the country stay afloat so the vulnerable could stay home, but isolation of the vulnerable from the outside. So why then, did governors such as Cuomo order NY to put Covid positive patients in nursing homes with vulnerable and sickly elderly people??? Wasn’t that the exact opposite of the idea to protect the elderly from catching Covid? As families were literally forbidden to be in the room as their loved ones died in hospitals and nursing homes, Covid positive patients were being shipped to nursing homes en masse.

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Fudging the Numbers

If it’s any consolation however for some, there’s also evidence that the numbers of direct Covid casualties may have been shall we say, “inflated”. Grandpa has a heart attack and the body tests positive for Covid at the autopsy? Covid death! Someone fell off his motorcycle but tested positive? Covid death! Patient had flu like symptoms and pneumonia but it’s ambiguous? Covid! Now this may seem absurd to some, but what gets tallied for their stats and what’s on the death certificate may be entirely different things… I wouldn’t put it past them to get results they want to justify their lunacy.

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1,2,3,4… Covid Don’t Apply No More!

By the summertime, even some on the Left were getting bored of Covid news non-stop, 24/7. So when a “certain someone” had a confrontation with police and resisted arrest, and had a heart attack while being restrained, the Left had their new cause to rally around. Murder! Outrage! White supremacist tyranny! Defund the police! The claim was that the police abused their power and refused to let the man breathe, asphyxiating him and causing his death. George Floyd became the Left’s new martyr, killed due to white supremacy. Autopsy findings made no mention of asphyxiation saying it was a heart attack and there were no physical indications the specific cause of death was due to his airway being blocked. One can argue the method the police used to restrain was completely wrong in of itself, but would the same reaction have happened had Floyd been white? I think we all know the answer to that! “Inconsequential facts” aside, this sparked BLM and Antifa riots where they looted already struggling businesses, set fires and had violent riots in which a black police officer, Officer David Dorn was killed by a looter. Yet no one even blinked an eye at his death. There was no golden casket or state funeral, or international outrage. Apparently not all Black lives matter. Thousands of rioters filled the streets in cities like Minnesota, New York, Minneapolis, Chicago, etc… Wait a second! Did Covid magically go away? What about all the lock downs and social distancing? When I thought of “herd immunity”, I didn’t think it meant herd everyone within sneezing distance of each other!

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The Great Republic of CHAZ

Did you know in the year 2020 a brand new Nation sprung up? You didn’t? Well one did, and it was called CHOP, or CHAZ, or…. I can’t keep track! This new sovereign nation professed values of Leftist “tolerance” and “inclusion” for all, by demanding photo ID’s, setting up their own de-facto police force (in the no “racist”-cop zone), and terrorizing local businesses and inhabitants of Seattle, WA. They also had a “booming” economy which required supplies from the outside world and even grew their own mini “gardens”. Despite a less than stable government, including 4 shootings and shooting deaths of those as young as 16, CHAZ lived on: For all of 1 month…

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Cutting Class for Covid

Everyone hated when summer vacation ended and school began again, but as adults, one would think that it wasn’t such a big deal to go back to your job! Cue hysterical teachers and teacher’s unions: No in person school until Covid is gone! Despite children not being a significant factor in transmission, and in-person learning being essential for the educational needs, and even social/emotional needs of many children, teachers called for schools to be shut down for everyone. Not just older more susceptible teachers, but young healthy ones too cried for no in person school. The fruits of this lunacy? A spike in D’s and F’s, students being grades behind, un-equal access to learning online, at risk youth slipping through the cracks and diminished mental health for all! What a wonderful start to the school year… Unlike all the grocery store workers, restaurant workers, postal workers, janitors, etc… who also “didn’t sign up” for battling a pandemic on the job yet keep the country running, teachers, apparently are more worthy of less risk than the rest.

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“You Know The Thing…”

If 2020 couldn’t be made more nutty, 2020 was also the pivotal year for the anti-Trumpers to try and get Trump out! In addition to Covid fear, the Left also stoked everyone’s anxiety over Trump possibly winning again. And their fears may have been founded: 71 million people voted Trump again. However, Biden was declared the winner, along with his diversity-pick Kamala Harris for Vice President. Trouble is, were they really??? It sounds like a conspiracy theory, but there’s evidence the election counters were rigged. Mail-in ballots sent out for this election, using Covid as an excuse are far more susceptible to fraud. Why were mail carriers told to not deliver ballots? What about the missing ballots? More ballots than voters? Thousands of “lost” ballots all for Biden and none for Trump? The fact that Facebook and Twitter censor and block comments and likes on posts disputing their claim to victory? Hmmm…. The ultimate irony: The Left, of all people, declares we can’t get past losing the election!

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Do as I Say, Not As I Do…

Who’s ready for round II…… of more shut downs?! Due to claims of increasing numbers of Covid cases, some places are re-shutting down again and instituting more lock downs and stay at home orders. However, apparently, these don’t apply to everyone. Governor Gavin Newsom and several top health officials dined at an upscale restaurant called the French Laundry, indoors, and not socially distant despite telling Californians to stay at home! Another case involved the hypocrisy of small businesses such as a woman’s restaurant getting shut down as Newsom forbid outdoor dining yet a few yards away was a tent with outdoor dining for actors on a movie set! So much for fearing Covid…

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I’ll Be (Forced to Stay) Home for The Holidays

Last year, could anyone have guessed that deciding to celebrate the holidays with your family would be seen as controversial or some ethical controversy? In 2020, the “War on Christmas” turned into biological warfare according to the Left! Whatever your family celebrated this holiday season, for many it was pressured into being smaller to non-existent! Yes, some people may have legitimate reasons to avoid gatherings this year, but for most, the hype is well… a hype. For those like my grandma who is taking more risk, she chose to host our annual celebration with her as at her age, every day is a gift and the next is certainly not guaranteed with any more certainty than her catching Covid. For some people who chose to celebrate in person this past year, there may not be a next year to look forward to getting back to normal. Think on that before you judge any family’s decision to have celebrated in person. Social and governmental pressure to cancel plans with family in my mind at least, cross the line. My family my choice 😉

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Have You Seen The Vaccine?

On a positive note to wrap up 2020, some long awaited vaccines came out in record time! The coveted Holy Grail for the Covid panickers has arrived! Rejoice O Lefties! Now, I’m hesitant to just dive right in and be their first guinea pig, and some adverse reactions are being reported already so this may not be the miracle cure. I also think that the most vulnerable, such as the elderly and those with health issues, then healthcare workers need it first. Not young healthy individuals! At this point, I see no reason for me, for instance, to get it but the choice is yours. Some fellow conservatives have even stronger reservations, and see this as yet another way for Leftist government control and even possible coercion to get the vaccine impinging on individual freedoms. While I’m not dead set against the vaccine, I wouldn’t put anything past the Left at this point! We need cautious optimism about this vaccine and 2021. The real question in my mind is, the Left has said they’d restrict things “until there’s a vaccine”, yet their shut downs continue. So what’s their next excuse, and how long will We The People put up with this?

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Here’s to a Less Loony 2021!