My #WalkAway Story Series: James

My #WalkAway Story Series is a bigger and more long term project for A Lady of Reason, and it’s all about YOU! This is your big chance at getting your voice heard and your own story out there! For many closeted conservatives, afraid for our livelihood, social networks, family connections, even physical safety now, being stuck in the closet can be extremely isolating and it’s easy to feel like it’s you against the world sometimes! I certainly feel that way! By sharing our stories collectively, I hope to give a voice to you, my dear readers and followers here on WordPress and Social Media, to show each other camaraderie and that in fact, we’re NOT alone, just in the shadows. Well folks, it’s time to come out of the shadows and into the light! The “silent majority” is at least half of our nation, so you’re not truly alone. Come and hear others, and add your own voice, your own story to the mix, of what it’s like being a conservative in an increasingly Leftist country! Send me an e-mail at or direct message me at @aladyofreason1 on Twitter to add YOUR story!!! 🙂 I’ll send you the standard question list, or you can just write it free form as a narrative…

This wonderful #WalkAway story comes from James, a Twitter fan who reached out to me via direct message! I apologize if anyone could not contact me before by direct message on Twitter, but now I have remedied the issue so if anyone wants to, they can send me a message request asking for the #WalkAway question list 🙂 James’ WalkAway story is very insightful and worth the read!

Tell me about yourself briefly:

My name is James. I am an American, born and raised, and I am in my early thirties. I am a practicing attorney and I deal in international contract law. My career has afforded me the opportunity to travel and live in many different countries. I am currently based in Colombia.

When did you become conservative? If you were ever liberal, what made you walk away?

I don’t know that I “became” a conservative so much as I always was one and just didn’t know it. When I was in high school and college, I called myself a liberal but only as a result of never having met a self-identified conservative. For that matter, I never recall encountering libertarians or anarchists or agrarians or any other type of politically involved person. Until I was in my mid-twenties, everyone I met was either leftist or politically agnostic.

I went to a Jesuit high school and then on to undergraduate and law at a Jesuit university. As you may know, the Jesuits are very deep in to social justice. During my tenure under “The Order”, I was heavily involved in social justice and liberation theology politics. As I reflect on it now, it seems hilarious. Many of the Jesuit priests I knew were engaged in teaching ideas considered heretical by the Catholic Church (pro-abortion, pro-divorce, and so on).

Once I left law school and entered the real world, the economic realities of life began to immediately hit me. My previous leftist leanings in this area began to fade rather quickly. I did not enjoy paying near 50% of my income to the government, only to turn around and aid clients (corporations, unions, NGOs) in bilking the government for that same money. However, I remained resolutely socially liberal. Specifically, I was heavily indoctrinated in to women’s rights issues.

My conversion in to social conservatism was merely a matter of changing my identifier, as I had really been quite conservative my whole life. Although, I didn’t know it. I dated the same woman from the time I was in high school until my last year of law school. We broke up and I entered the contemporary dating market with eyes wide shut… at 23 years of age. The first woman I dated after law school was my boss’s daughter (he set us up). She was very in to women’s issues, as well. As she should have been, because it turned out she had been working as a prostitute for a number of years. When her father and I found out, not only did her “woke” friends help her move out of her fathers house, they also assisted in filing suit for parental abuse and neglect against the man. I have known him for many years. The man is a saint.

There was a lot more to it than that, but suffice it to say that I began to question exactly what purpose much of the feminist doctrine I had been taught actually served. As I continued dating, my poor innocent conscience was shocked by the things I was hearing from the (often upper middle class) women I was dating. You name the issue and I have a story. Tattoos from head to toe. Morbid obesity masquerading as body positivity. Three kids out of wedlock or three abortions to avoid it. More sexual partners than a whole neighborhood of women would have had “back I the day”. But the worst of it was that it all came with an attitude of extreme entitlement – the idea that any man should just accept them as they were, with no improvement and no explanation.

All of this drove me to actually read some of the foundational feminist thought leaders. And… my eyes were opened. I would encourage anyone who supports feminism to please read notable feminist author (Greer, perhaps as she is a bit more palatable). It will cure you of your feminism completely. And so I walked away, leaving some family and lifelong friends.

Do you feel at all afraid to be openly conservative? If so, how do you cope with being closeted?

How I feel about openly espousing conservative views depends on where I am. When I am in the US, I spend a lot of time in NYC, LA, and Chicago. I simply do not discuss politics in these places. It is too great a risk to my business. However, when I am in South America or, even, Russia or China, I am fairly open about it. That I feel more at ease speaking freely in the latter two countries than the United States should frighten anyone with any sense.

I deal with being a closeted conservative in the US by spending as little time as possible there. I very much regret to say that travel has caused much of the luster of America to fade. If I do return to live full time in the US, I will most likely move to a more rural area in the Western states.

What advice to you have for other conservatives afraid to speak out?

I will not offer untested advice. I will only tell you what I am doing. Much of the fear I see comes from conservatives afraid of institutional and social retribution. I am minimizing the potential for this in my own life. I have opened my own legal firm and I am broadly diversifying my client base. I have extended my social network to include people I otherwise might not interact with – farmers, blue collar workers, the devoutly religious. They are some of the most decent and down to earth people I have ever met. And, as I alluded to earlier, I am looking at relocating to a more rural environment in a red state. I hope you will find, as I am finding, that minimizing the downside allows a person a certain political freedom and license they might not otherwise have in these crazy times.

Thanks so so much James!!! I agree that while closeted, interacting with a diverse base of people does help you open your mind to others, such as fellow conservatives 🙂 I agree with your take on how feminism has become too radicalized! It’s hard, I’d think in Law to be openly conservative, as in many jobs, since the whole smearing of Kavanaugh by his own law Alma Mater!!! All I can say is stay strong and persist… To borrow the Lefty terms: Resist! Persist! 😉 Of course, you’re always welcome to write for my blog anytime! We need voices like yours to show others they’re not alone!

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We Need A Strong Defense…

Veteran’s day is a day to remember the valiant defenders of our country! Through their sacrifice and bravery, we can enjoy the freedoms that we as Americans cherish and are able to set as an example to the world! Our armed forces have defended us on land, sea and in the skies to ensure each and every one of us is safe and protected! We must not take that for granted, as in many other places, safety, as we can well see just by turning on our TV’s, is not a guarantee for most of the world!

The have-nots want what others have, it’s just human nature. It’s also human nature however, to take what one wants by any means possible, often unethically and through force. “Might makes right” for the majority of the world is the rule of thumb. However, in countries such as ours and others, diplomacy and democracy are the better path of choice. We strive for peace, but go to war to defend ourselves against others who want what we have. Our riches, our goods, our technologies, our job opportunities, our social advancement etc… but ironically often not our values! No, they seek to impose their own values, ones of “dog eat dog” and inequality and “might makes right”, while reaping in the spoils of what our values enabled to happen such as our groundbreaking technologies, the strong rule of law, our better standards of living, our job opportunities, and yes, annoying to admit: our welfare handouts and resources! The splendor and opportunity, the “American Dream” is seen by some as something not to work for and earn, but to take by force! To reap the spoils without working to sow the seeds (such as democratic values and creating higher standards of living) themselves!

Yep, we are not safe unless we have a strong defense! Something to say to the have-nots “You can’t just come in and take what is ours and spit on our values in the process, you have to WORK to achieve what we have. You have to make your own country a better place, not take ours and what WE worked hard to earn!” A message must be sent that America will not tolerate others just coming in, whether illegally or militarily to invade and leech or destroy us! This is where our armed forces come in: to send just that message! A skilled formidable army with the latest in military technology deters weaker countries and would be attackers to think twice before messing with us 😉

Before you say we’re not being threatened, and not in some major war, just look at what has happened recently! Acts of terrorism, ISIS on the rise and threatening to invade us any way possible! The whole region of the Middle East despises the West and America and couldn’t care less about our welfare, though many Lefties go out of their way to take pity on them! Telling huh? That we’re the ones concerned about the less fortunate around the world, yet they can spit on us and our values the minute they step into this country and no one bats an eye! They can live off welfare, drain our schools, take our jobs, and bringing more 3rd world lifestyles of “dog eat dog” leading to more crime, treating women and children and anyone who is different from their group as badly as they may have been treated back home, demanding their own laws to live by etc… and we’re supposed to tolerate that in order to be a benevolent nation! By being eaten from the inside out so to speak, or that “Giving Tree” in the famous novel that gave its entire self away! Why do you think people could pull off 9/11? The Boston Marathon Bombing perpetrators were on welfare and were given free handouts! Just take a good look at Europe being invaded already by 3rd world migrants being all the above mentioned, plus even more acts of terrorism from groups like ISIS!

Don’t think for one moment we as a country can be complacent! Europe is just like us in many ways! Good economies, good standards of living, good values of democracy and equality as well. Their countries are our allies! But that didn’t stop them from being invaded. Women being raped, jobs being taken, crime up, people stabbed, shot and even run over in many cities across places like England, Belgium, Germany, France etc… It’s no longer truly safe to visit these beautiful countries anymore 😦 They can easily be us in a heartbeat if we do as they did and became complacent in their take over. Our military is on the front lines (literally) watching for and stopping threats!

And I almost forgot, it’s not just little 3rd world nations out for us! Powerful nations, such as Russia, north Korea, China even, are watching us very closely. We’re a “frenemy” at best, and a rival! They may not invade like WWIII, but we grow weak, and they will take advantage. They may not be out for us because they have not, rather they are not democratic, and view us as weak and they can push us and take what they wish from us if we let them! Corrupt dictators and regimes are like that for the most part… If we don’t show them they are meeting their match, that we are their equals, they will not respect us. Trump luckily, is making progress diplomatically rather than military because of this principle! Indeed, showing our strength will not automatically lead to wars, but can prevent them, letting diplomacy take the lead instead!

A show of strength in our military does not lead to an overbearing military state and martial law! No! In just the right amount, not too little, but not too much either, we can show the world we want peace and diplomacy, but will fight the fight if needed and have what we need to crush our enemies! Sadly, some people just understand brute force… Diplomacy doesn’t work and is construed as weak. Negotiation is also weakness and groveling to some. For those narrow minded people who cannot be reasoned with, we must sadly show force to stop force. Luckily, many nations will listen to diplomacy and negotiation as long as they know we are formidable and this is the best, most efficient way to deal with us. It’s when we weaken and feel like we’re too big to be touched, too safe, it couldn’t happen here, does disaster strike! It CAN and DOES happen here! Just look at 9/11!

Those who say our military is too strong, that we must scale back, disarm and live in a pacifist way are dangerously naive to how the world works! Do I want us to be war-mongering militants??? No! Certainly not! I’d choose every possible option for a peaceful outcome to solving disputes over war any day and use war only as the last resort! I’m NOT advocating for a trigger happy country where we push the nuclear button over trivial matters! I agree war is an ugly ugly thing and is a lose-lose for all sides’ people. However, as long as there are war-mongers, who hate us, and want what we have by force, we must be ready to defend ourselves! As we ought to defend our homes from a burglar in the night by any means necessary, why not our country, as is it not all our home collectively??? Empowering our military does just that: protecting our country from those who would take everything we have and hold dear!

My final message to everyone is, never take for granted how lucky we are, and that there are millions who want it and will take it if we don’t stop them! Thank, appreciate, and honor every soldier for their service in helping us stay American! Trump may make America great, but our military truly KEEPS America great 😉

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#NotThem, Apparently…

So I thought I already covered about every angle of the flaws of the #MeToo movement, however, there is one glaring one still left: All the women who AREN’T being heard by the Left, who purports to uphold giving a voice to vulnerable women! Who are these forgotten women one might ask?

Well for starters, there’s Kavanaugh’s wife and daughters! During the smear campaign against Kavanaugh, his wife and young daughters were the targets of death threats and vile insults! Imagine, his 10 year old daughter was mocked, derided and vilely put in the spotlight in an appalling cartoon mocking her benevolence toward of all people, Christine Ford!  Yes, Kavanaugh said his daughter said that they should “pray for the woman” before bedtime during their prayers, after she learned Ford was smearing her dad! This act of goodwill (albeit naive if you ask me) was not applauded, but used to insult a 10 year old little girl in a vile cartoon saying she also prayed to God to forgive her “Angry, lying, alcoholic father for sexually assaulting Dr. Ford”! How would any Leftist feel if that was THEIR child??? The maker of that cartoon may have been within his legal rights to create that cartoon, but that certainly doesn’t mean it was within any moral rights to… If that little girl were the daughter of any of these Lefties, and the cartoonist a conservative, it would have been decried into the stratosphere! The Left in addition, went after Kavanaugh and demonized him into this vile monster, with zero regard for his wife and daughters. His daughters had to see their father smeared as a rapist, and probably learned more about sexual assault from that incident than their parents being able to talk about it within the comfort of their own timing and pace. His wife in her immense integrity and courage stood by her husband in truth as he was lied about again and again and again. As mentioned previously, although they won, the scars from that experience I’m sure are still there. However to the Left, these were inconsequential women… They were a-okay to threaten, and vilely insult for all to see. Their feelings were never once acknowledged, that it must have been hard for them to go through this even if Kavanaugh was truly a rapist. It wasn’t like anything Kavanaugh could have done was their fault, especially his daughters, who have absolutely zero say in who they were born to as their father!!! Their suffering was unacknowledged despite their own innocence…

And let’s take a look at the women in the lives of some of the oh so righteous Lefties who smeared him! Keith Ellison has allegations out against him for beating his ex girlfriend. She alleges:

“He looked at me, goes ‘Hey you f***ing hear me … and then he looked at me, he goes ‘Bitch, get the f*** out of my house,’ and he started to try to drag me off the bed,” Monahan said. “That’s when I put my camera on to video him.” (Woman Accusing Rep. Keith Ellison of Abuse speaks Out, CBS News)

However no one on the Left believed her story! A man allegedly put his hands on a woman and violently tried to drag her, and call her vile names, yet the woman is dismissed by the Left! The party that cries the cry of “believe all women”, even to the extent to no due process for the accused, dismisses an allegation when its against one of their own??? Really telling, isn’t it? Imagine if she were the girlfriend or wife of a conservative politician! And that is just one example of allegations of violence against women with Leftist perpetrators!

Oh, and of course, there’s Bill Clinton 😉 Let’s not forget all of his exploitation of numerous women as the President of the United States no less, and although impeached, none of the Democrats voted “yes”, and he was acquitted on all charges!!! Hillary defended him (even now saying #MeToo doesn’t apply to Bill!) and threatened his victims into silence! Imagine if he were Trump! I can hear the outrage now… Impeachment would happen in a split second! Not only that, both Hillary and Bill were advocating for #MeToo, and no one on the Left ever batted an eye at a proven sexual coercer and abuser endorsing the movement to end the exact abuse he did to countless young women!!! When do those women get to say #MeToo? They try and crucify Kavanaugh, yet let a proven abuser off the hook to talk about #MeToo… What on Earth gave him of all men, the right to say one word on the movement that was founded because of men like him, and of course Hillary, defending such an abuser of women???

It’s not just partner violence or sexual violence though that is affecting women that is being overlooked when it suits the Left! Threats of violence, death threats, doxxing, are all being used against the women in prominent conservative’s lives. When the Antifa mobs surrounded Tucker Carlson’s house with his wife home alone, and “almost broke the door” and his wife fears for her safety enough to hide in her closet and call 9/11 is that not threatening a woman with violence??? Even threats on social media and in the crowd about bringing a pipe bomb were hurled at Carlson and his family! Thank goodness the children weren’t home!!! If they don’t like Carlson, fine, protest peacefully, but to harass his wife and children??? Obviously, that mob couldn’t care less about an innocent woman and her children who have zero to do with Carlson’s opinions! Some more sane Leftists may have not condoned this particular incident, but the Left turns a blind eye continually on violent mobs such as Antifa. Again, imagine this was a Conservative mob, and the family was a Liberal’s. How do you honestly think the press and the Left would react???

Women victimized by Leftist perpetrators through sexual assault, violence, and threats are constantly overlooked and swept away by the Left to protect their own, while innocent, upright conservative men like Kavanaugh were smeared to the vilest degree! When can they get justice and feel safe in their own homes and for their children! When can the Left stop making excuses for deriding a 10 year old girl because “it’s just a cartoon”? As the party of political correctness and censoring speech not to offend, quite the hypocritical position! When can the wives, daughters, mothers, sisters, etc… of conservatives be put first by the Left and their #MeToo movement and anti-violence against women movements instead of cover ups and justifications for why a little girl is morally alright to smear publicly, wives and children threatened as collateral to get to their their husbands, the partners of Leftist perpetrators of violence get justice, and why this even is a political issue at all?! I would think violence intimidation and threats against ANY woman should be decried at the human level, never mind what their politics are! However, it’s clear to see some women get to cry rape, and a man is instantly smeared before and without any valid proof, while others are silenced and threatened and swept under the rug to protect other men in power… It all depends on whose side he and she are on… For all the women victimized by the Left, through threats, intimidation, violence, even sexual assault, when do THEY get to say “MeToo”???

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(Hypocrisy at its finest 😉 )

My #WalkAway Story Series: Patriotic American

My #WalkAway Story Series is a bigger and more long term project for A Lady of Reason, and it’s all about YOU! This is your big chance at getting your voice heard and your own story out there! For many closeted conservatives, afraid for our livelihood, social networks, family connections, even physical safety now, being stuck in the closet can be extremely isolating and it’s easy to feel like it’s you against the world sometimes! I certainly feel that way! By sharing our stories collectively, I hope to give a voice to you, my dear readers and followers here on WordPress and Social Media, to show each other camaraderie and that in fact, we’re NOT alone, just in the shadows. Well folks, it’s time to come out of the shadows and into the light! The “silent majority” is at least half of our nation, so you’re not truly alone. Come and hear others, and add your own voice, your own story to the mix, of what it’s like being a conservative in an increasingly Leftist country! Send me an e-mail at or direct message me at @aladyofreason1 on Twitter to add YOUR story!!! 🙂 I’ll send you the standard question list, or you can just write it free form as a narrative…

This #WalkAway story comes from an insightful conservative who wisely chooses to be under the pseudonym “Patriotic American”. Patriotic American fears backlash at work if he or she were to be known, which is a sad reality for many of us conservatives, myself included! Here’s Patriotic American’s wise words:

When did you become conservative? If you were ever liberal, what made you walk away?

I would not have ever labeled myself as a liberal or conservative until now. The other side has just gone insane. From shouting people out at restaurants to flinging around titles that they have no proof of such as racist and nazi, even to our President.
I wish they would do their research. I myself have done research on things that I hear about. I research articles and various media outlets not just one. Their movement has become an I hate Trump movement. He cannot ever do anything right. It’s not so much about their morals or beliefs as it is their hatred of the President.

Do you feel at all afraid to be openly conservative? If so, how do you cope with being closeted?

Yes, I am very hesitant to let my allegiance to the President be known. I work in such an environment that I do feel I would be ostracized and demeaned. I work among many educated and caring people. However, they have been so indoctrinated that they won’t or cannot see reason, or Even the very possibility of reason, for their hate. I deal with that by ” just walking away” from any conversation that might lead to shouting. I say shouting because there cannot be any reasonable conversation with them.

Patriotic American also had this insightful point about the #MeToo movement as well:

Seems like at this point they just sound like a bunch of crying feel bad for me martyrs. Which makes it harder for true victims and the police who try to investigate fairly. Additionally if it did happen this does not make every man a bad man. Is that what we should our girls of today? To be fearful of and doubt every man around? Do they not have husbands Sons boyfriends nephews fathers who should feel insulted at the comments thrown out to blame all men?

Thank you so much Patriotic American! It is hard when you fear the stigma and ostracism that being a conservative in a rampantly radical Leftist world! I applaud your courage to speak out, even anonymously! Your ideas need to be heard, and our voices need to be spoken somehow! Until our country gets more tolerant, here is the right place! You’re more than welcome to voice your opinions here on A Lady of Reason!

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A Very Special Midterm Message…

Addendum: So the Dems got the House of Representatives, but we still got the Senate! Not the big victory we wanted, but we must be grateful for all of our parts to play in keeping the Senate, and remember: 2020 is coming sooner than we know it, and with this lunacy continued, might be a blessing in disguise 😉 Midterms may be over, but the message remains the same! Don’t break down and tantrum, try harder for 2020! 

Today is a big day for America!!! Get off the couch, out of bed, turn off your computer, put down your phone, get dressed and head out to the polls! A Red Wave can’t make itself! You may be but a drop in the bucket, but every great tsunami is made of millions upon millions of drops all put together! Let’s get out there and put our votes where our mouths are, and fight with our greatest weapon: our ballots! Whether you’re openly conservative or feel the need to stay hidden, today is your day to truly come out and shine 🙂 Today is YOUR day to let America hear YOUR voice in where we ought to go!

Do we want open borders, hook up culture, “any family is a real family” propaganda, broken homes, MeToo hysteria and witch hunts, disrespect for our country and the people who serve it, a compromised Constitution, more government interference, public school indoctrination factories, college craziness, a generation of embittered, constantly offended fragile snowflakes, political correctness, internet censorship, a one sided media, the politicization of innocuous things, transgender lunacy endangering women, the welfare state, reverse discrimination, trigger warnings/microaggressions, resentment of men as “the patriarchy”, a white privilege guilt trip as the new “white man’s burden”, where any valid critique of a group or culture triggers meltdowns, selective outrage, where a nuanced argument or critique is met with vile ad-hominem attacks, even threats of violence, where you can lose your job, your friends, even family over a political stance, where we must hide or else be ostracized by society, and much much more???

OR do we want controlled immigration, less government interference, respect for our country and its values, a fair and balanced education that shows both sides of an issue, due process and innocent until proven guilty, science to determine fact from feeling, women and girls safe in their own bathrooms and dressing rooms, upholding the Constitution, honoring our soldiers and law enforcement, equality of opportunity based on merit, not skin color, gender, etc… etc…, a culture of virtue where marriage is sacred, families are intact and our children come first, women act like ladies of elegance and grace, not “nasty women”, the rights of the people to be treated as capable adults by our government who serves us, not the other way around, an internet where ideas flow freely, where journalism covers both sides, where free speech is a key virtue of a democracy, where an uncomfortable idea makes us think not hide from it, where an unpopular opinion is not hatred and entire groups of people aren’t scapegoated as the source of all oppression, where we can all laugh with each other all in good fun and not feel slighted at every little thing, where the American Dream is real, and hard work ,not living off one’s victimhood is rewarded, A country where we don’t have to stay hidden any longer…

We need people like you, like all of us to get out there and show America what its people really stand for! Denial or fact facing? Propaganda or truth? Journalism or biased opinion pieces? Education or indoctrination? Disagreements or death threats? Investigations or inquisitions? Arguments or ad hominems? Promiscuity or virtue? Marriage or broken homes? Crime and terror, or vetting? 3rd world values or equality and democracy for all? Merit or skin color? Gender or evidence? Hypocrisy or integrity?Chromosomes or feelings? Hysteria or protection? Fragility or resilience? Handouts or hard work? Ideas or censorship? Etc… etc… It’s up to YOU! Get off your butts and take action! Vote the change you want to see in the world! 😉

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The Common Man Gets a Rebuttal Part I: Dems are Dumb Responds

The Common Man got a rebuttal for his article “Whatever Happened to My Party?” from a Left leaning detractor. As A Lady of Reason welcomes civil debate, I posted her comment in the comments in the article itself, but Dems are Dumb offered some counterarguments to her rebuttal. Here is Dems are Dumb’s rebuttal to her points… The original headings from the detractor have been preserved. Dems are Dumb does not address two points, so I chose to omit them. His rebuttals are in RED:

On accepting welfare as a substitute for education, training, and employment:
Have you been on welfare? I was for a brief period in the late 1990’s. Applying for, receiving, and keeping welfare is a full-time job. You have to show up with a list of every job you applied to, and the contact person so they can call to make sure you’re being honest. And they do. Our government does not offer low-cost job training, employment opportunities, or low-cost education via the welfare office. I thought welfare was only slightly harder than completing a Master’s thesis. (Interesting that the writer found a welfare application more difficult than a Master’s thesis. Considering that many people on welfare in the U.S. are functionally illiterate, one must question how challenging this commenter’s Master’s program was.) The cycle is, the person works 1-2 jobs at minimum wage and can’t afford to live. If the person has kids, it’s worse. They have to take sick days for their child, they have to have access to medical care, they have to pay for childcare before and or after school. They put their low paying job at risk because they do not have a lot of rights within the parameters of their job. They want to get a decent paying job, but education seems out of their reach. Maybe they can get financial aid, a pell grant, etc. Maybe even a scholarship, but what about food, housing, books, supplies, etc. They have to continue to work a lot of hours at the minimum wage job, letting their school work take a back seat, thus perhaps losing a scholarship due to harsh life situation. Student loans today are out of hand largely due to the sharp increase in college tuition. College is no longer a place where anyone can go. It is becoming more and more elite. (Doesn’t this contradict the earlier comment that a welfare application is more challenging than a Master’s thesis? Wouldn’t that seem to imply that the average welfare recipient is educated to the point of being capable of post graduate level work? If that’s the case, it would appear that economics have not been a bar to education. Another issue with the above paragraph is the commenter’s assumptions about minimum wage jobs. Most minimum wage job holders are teenagers and others with minimal job skills. One takes a minimum wage job to acquire basic job skills. As people gain experience and skills they generally progress to higher paying jobs. The economist Thomas Sowell and others have cited IRS figures that show those at the lowest level of income usually progress to a higher level within a decade and often reach the highest quintile (20% of income earners) during their earning career. Those who choose to start a family and raise children while they are still at the minimum wage level create problems for themselves because they did not build a stable economic situation before taking on that added responsibility. Sowell also points out that the poverty level for married couples with children is in the single digits. Given all that, I would suggest that someone who has earned a Master’s degree in some marketable field and has not been able to find work paying more than minimum wage and nevertheless chose to raise kids is a bit of an anomaly.)
I live in Norway now (moved here 4 years ago). We are a welfare state. Our unemployment benefits feature free job re-training into a new field of work if desired, or if necessary. Weekly job fairs that are easy to attend. All jobs here pay at least $20/hour, meaning that virtually no one can find themselves in a situation of not being able to live, making government welfare mostly only necessary to the disabled (intellectual and physical). If everyone in America had access to universal healthcare, imagine how much medical costs would drop. I paid 24% taxes in the US, plus I had an insurance premium, co-pays, and deductibles, had to save for college for my boys, and for my retirement. This put me up to at least 40% of my salary if not more. Now I pay 32%. University will be tuition-free for my boys (they will need to buy books, and a living space). My pension comes out of my tax, plus My job puts in an additional 5%. I pay a co-pay every time I go to the Dr. Once I hit about $350, everything is free including prescriptions until Jan 1st. Prescriptions are cheap because the government does not allow drug companies to set the prices. I can buy private insurance as well, and it is very affordable due to the low-cost of medical services. I have found I do not need it though. Imagine how much cheaper healthcare would be if 300 million people paid $30 a month out of their paycheck, had to meet a $350/$400 cap, etc. The cost of medical care and procedures would drop because everyone would be covered and paying. In the long run, it would be so much cheaper than medicare and medicaid which are a joke. Every sick person that goes into an emergency room uninsured gets medical care, which is then charged back to the state. This stuff is coming out of your taxes, yet you are not benefiting for it, and it is not helping the greater good of society. (And here I thought all the issues with healthcare in the U.S. were resolved by the Affordable Healthcare Act, silly me. One factor that a quick Google search indicates is that Norway is a country with a small population that is able to subsidize welfare programs via oil revenues. That allows the government to provide education and healthcare below cost. It isn’t a question of how efficiently the Norwegians are able to organize a welfare state but rather how much a county with a small population can distribute oil revenues. I know very little about the Norwegian health care system. I can say that in countries such as Great Britain and Canada where the government provides health care they have longer waiting periods for that care and fewer available options for treatment. Such health care isn’t free, the system just separates the price of it from the actual cost. Aside from what one pays in taxes, one pays in terms of those longer waiting periods and fewer choices.Hidden costs have a habit of coming back to haunt you. I also know little about the Norwegian university system but I have some experience with the German system which is also government funded. Although admission is free, it is also very competitive depending on the field of study. My quick Google search does indicate that the more desirable fields of study, there are more applicants than places at Norwegian universities. To me that indicates that those who are able to attend pay only part of the cost through their taxes (and their share of the nation’s oil revenues) while receiving subsidies from everyone else. If the actual costs weren’t disguised in the welfare program, I wonder whether those who didn’t get to go to a university might have wanted to do something else with their tax dollars and their share of the oil revenues than paying for someone else’s education.)

The borders are wide open:
How do you think most illegal immigrants get to the United States? Over half of illegal immigrants arrive on a travel visa and just never go back, or arrive via border crossing cards and never go back. Our borders are more secure than they have ever been, and this is backed by statistical scientific findings. Also, illegal immigration has been steadily decreasing since 2005. Immigration from Mexico has decreased by 57% from 2008-2012 (Pew Research). Fact: The borders have never been so secure. There is no indication that people coming illegally are being allowed to vote. If and when this is happening it is a clear case of voter fraud. A more serious issue is Russia hacking into our voting machines, and influencing our political discourse. (I agree that a significant part of illegal immigration is from those who overstay their visas. I question those studies that indicate they outnumber those who cross the border illegally because I am skeptical of our ability to determine the latter figure. Ranchers who have land on the border and others see illegals crossing in significant numbers regularly but achieving a reasonable estimate of their number is guesswork especially given the active attempts to cover up their presence in sanctuary cities and elsewhere. If we can’t count them, how can we tell how many there are? As for the numbers going down, doesn’t that reduction in illegal immigration cited above coincide with the rise of sanctuary cities and other efforts to frustrate the counting of illegals? It reminds me of the famous “body counts” in the Vietnam war that proved to be wildly inaccurate. One other distinction between those who overstay their visas and those who enter illicitly is that there is some vetting as part of the visa process to exclude dangerous criminals and terrorists. Even if someone so vetted overstays a visa, they pose less danger of crime or terrorism because of the vetting. Regardless of the relative numbers, the potential risk increases with the lack of vetting. As for the claim that there is no indication that illegals are being allowed to vote, anyone claiming that hasn’t been following the reports of the many instances where they have been allowed and indeed encouraged to vote. As for Russia hacking into our voting machines, then President Obama stated just before the 2016 election that it hasn’t happened and couldn’t happen. If the FBI knew of it, I find it difficult to believe that they didn’t bother to inform the White House and I am skeptical that there exists evidence of it and the special prosecutor just hasn’t decided to announce it yet. As the saying goes: “You’re entitled to your own opinion but not your own facts.”)

Enemies of the state emboldened by the left:
Like Russia is emboldened to meddle in our democracy and has not been condemned by the current administration? Like pandering to Kim Jong Un and treating him with more respect than our European allies? Like pandering to the Prince of Saudi Arabia, and just taking his word? When Saudia Arabia has produced those members of Al Qaeda that our government sanctions and gives a free pass to? I would say there are plenty of enemies of state emboldened by the right as well. (As regards Russian meddling, vide supra. Now as for the “pandering to Kim Jong Un” is this coming from the same anti-Trump people who criticized Trump for calling Kim “Little Rocket Man” and reminding him that although Kim might have a button, Trump’s was a lot bigger. Somehow, I missed the reports of Trump saying anything similar about our European allies. I assume that the comments about the Saudis refer to the death of Kashoggi. The sentence immediately following the criticism of Trump’s alleged pandering to the Saudi Prince takes him to task regarding the members of Al Qaeda whom the Saudis “gave a free pass.” That seems like another attempt to have it both ways. Kashoggi was a member of the Muslim Brotherhood terrorist group, an admirer of Bin Ladin. He was a supporter of Al Qaeda and ISIS. He was more than just an journalist. To me it appears that the worst that one can say about the Saudis is that they expired Kashoggi’s “free pass.” We use drones, they chose a different method. Also, the current Turkish administration has a pretty bad record regarding journalists. Is the left criticizing Trump for pandering to Erdogan? How about China?)
Obama is a far left Globalist:
I am a moderate conservative, and I was not a big fan of Obama, because I felt that he was too conservative and didn’t change anything very much from the Bush era. Globalist, maybe. Far left, no way. (Sorry fella, but saying that you are a moderate conservative who felt that Obama was too conservative just doesn’t pass the laugh test. If that’s your position, you obviously have a different definition of “conservative” than most of us who call ourselves conservatives use. I suspect that you are so far to the left that you think that you are in the center. I suggest that you have a few conversations with some real conservatives to get an understanding of how most of the country understands the term.)

Far left liberals resorting to increasing violence:
Factually both the far left and the far right are resorting to increasing violence. (Check out the recent riots in Portland, OR. The right has no counterpart acting on anything like the scale of Antifa. One doesn’t see the right mobbing politicians and bureaucrats at restaurants or in the halls of Congress. I would also suggest that it isn’t just the far left. People high in the Democratic party support and encourage it, for example Maxine Waters, Keith Ellison and Hillary Clinton to name just a few. In addition, the Mayor of Portland Oregon encouraged violence by preventing the police from protecting citizens from Antifa rioters. If you encourage the mob you share responsibility for their actions. You don’t see anything like that from people in authority on the conservative side.)

The nation has been polarized since the 2016 election:
Wrong. The nation has been becoming increasingly polarized over the last two decades. Some argue that it began with the 24-hour news cycle (Fox, MSNBC, CNN). (I agree that it has been increasingly polarized over the last two decades however the rate of increase has gone up dramatically since the 2016 election. Where was Antifa in 2008 and 2012?)

Democratic party controls the media:
No, they do not. News can show a definite bias, and that is something the reader needs to be aware of. One thing I think is really great here in Norway is that a newspaper or tv news has to pay a fine if they print/broadcast anything that cannot be factually backed up. Maybe try reading foreign press in regards to the US. Most of Europe is strict about reporting factual based news, and calling out non factual. (While the party might not actually control the media, the media is dominated by those who share the Democratic party’s agenda. During the Obama administration, they were caught agreeing to use administration talking points for their news stories. As for Norway’s fining the media for what they publicize if they can’t back it up factually, doesn’t that indicate a degree of government control over the media? Who decides if it is backed up? How many stories critical of the government are killed because the media is afraid to tangle with bureaucrats who have the power to fine them. From my own experience working in a (non-media) business highly regulated by the government I know how much power the threat of sanctions gives those bureaucrats. Consider this, a media outlet might be able to challenge government fines in court but they still lose because the government attorneys are paid for by the government but the media outlet must hire their own attorneys. That means that even though you beat the fine in court, you are still out the legal fees which often are more than the fine. ( if you don’t believe that, you’re lucky because you’ve never had to hire a lawyer.) Such control can be insidious. While the government might be inclined to fine someone for a news story critical of the government, they would have less incentive to do so with a story critical of the opposition. Similarly, they would have incentive to go easier on a newspaper or broadcast station that generally supports the government than one who is more often critical of it. Although you can readily see where the government chose to impose a fine, the cases where the government could have imposed a fine but didn’t are less apparent. Reasons for that forbearance generally are invisible because such cases are unlikely to be challenged in court, but those regulated will get the message. It’s like having a baseball umpire that is part of the home team. It’s hard to avoid the suspicion that whether he calls a pitch a ball or a strike isn’t influenced by his support for his hometown.)

The Third Reich started controlling what people saw and heard:
This only happened after the Reich won the peoples’ trust. Before they were able to control it, they had to poison the peoples’ minds against the press (hence the use of Lügenpresse, or lying press). Hitler launched a huge campaign to his rabid followers that they couldn’t believe what they were seeing, hearing, and reading (fake news). He told the truth, everyone else was lying. He was charismatic enough and had a following that had blinders on to everything besides him as a leader. Only then was the Reich able to actually control the media for propaganda purposes. (Hitler’s voter support peaked around 36-37%. He came to power in a coalition and he had street thugs similar to Antifa to support him as well. Once he controlled the police, he could let those thugs attack anyone who spoke against him (by the way, similar in kind though Hitler’s SA acted to a much greater degree than Portland Oregon let Antifa run wild.) Also, the concentration camps for political opposition opened early in his rule. It’s questionable how much he won the people’s trust and how much he won their fear. He promised much to the German people as well as made sure that they, disarmed and helpless to oppose him, knew that there was a stick as well as a carrot. That didn’t require general trust, just control over the government. If you don’t believe that the threat of violence can inhibit the press, I suggest that you ask your local paper to put on a “draw-Mohammad” contest and see what their reaction is.)
Anyway, I wanted to point out that by seeing one side as being inherently right/good and the other side as being inherently bad/wrong, you are a part of the problem and not the solution. (I agree that neither side has a monopoly of being right, but then again, you can say that about most any conflict. I suggest that the question isn’t who is 100% right but who is better at transferring power from the government back to individuals. After all, the individual is the ultimate minority.)

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My #WalkAway Story Series: Deb

My #WalkAway Story Series is a bigger and more long term project for A Lady of Reason, and it’s all about YOU! This is your big chance at getting your voice heard and your own story out there! For many closeted conservatives, afraid for our livelihood, social networks, family connections, even physical safety now, being stuck in the closet can be extremely isolating and it’s easy to feel like it’s you against the world sometimes! I certainly feel that way! By sharing our stories collectively, I hope to give a voice to you, my dear readers and followers here on WordPress and Social Media, to show each other camaraderie and that in fact, we’re NOT alone, just in the shadows. Well folks, it’s time to come out of the shadows and into the light! The “silent majority” is at least half of our nation, so you’re not truly alone. Come and hear others, and add your own voice, your own story to the mix, of what it’s like being a conservative in an increasingly Leftist country! Send me an e-mail at or direct message me at @aladyofreason1 on Twitter to add YOUR story!!! 🙂 I’ll send you the standard question list, or you can just write it free form as a narrative…

This #WalkAway story is from another Twitter Follower named Deb who like many, originally weren’t all too political until the Left got more and more loony! This is her story:

Tell me about yourself briefly:

Ok. My real name is Deb. I grew up in a small town in Iowa. Born, raised & still in Iowa. My parents had 4 kids. I married in Feb 1978. We had 2 daughters, one born May 1984, the other Nov 1986. March of 1990, my husband was in an auto accident that caused severe head injury. Unfortunately it caused a total change in him. He had been a loving husband & father. He became abusive and hateful to me. He then also became hateful towards our daughters. In January of 1992 our divorce became final. I’ve never remarried. Today I am 59 yrs old. I have 4 grandchildren. Jordan is now 14, Jason is 11, Hayden is 4 and so is Zayden. They’re my life! 💜

When did you become conservative? If you were ever liberal, what made you walk away?

I don’t remember being overly political. I did register to vote a few years back, finally. I am registered as an No Party person. The 6 years I have paid more attention to stuff going on. Finally!! I had an Uncle and Aunt that lived in Arkansas, back in the days of the Clinton crime family running things down there. So, I had heard things. The more I paid attention the more I noticed. During Obama I started getting fed up. By the time Obama was going to be leaving, Hillary was running. . I was a Ted Cruz fan to start. When it came down to Hillary or Trump, it was Trump I voted for. No regrets!! I joined Twitter to be informed on politics. No way the media today gives you the real story! I have learned so much! The corruption in our government – Democrats and Rhinos alike, it’s enough to make a person sick! The Human Trafficking, Child trafficking, the Illuminati, about Pizzagate, that Hollywood, the music world their all terrible people. Adrenochrome their drug of choice and how they get it. I pray, for my daughters & grandchildren’s sake the MAGA movement persists and America can be saved. I’m not racist. I grew up in an all white community, I am white. My 4 yr old grandson is half black. Illegal aliens I see as a big problem. They have become over whelming. In Iowa… Factory farms (pigs, chickens). They have child after child after child!

Do you feel at all afraid to be openly conservative? If so, how do you cope with being closeted?

I am not afraid to be openly conservative. To me, it’s the best bunch. I see such hatred from the left, I just cannot imagine how or why anyone can view that as ideal. My parents, in their 80’s do not use computer so their news comes from the likes of CNN.

What advice to you have for other conservatives afraid to speak out?

I hope that any Conservative who is afraid to come out will eventually! I have never lived anywhere else but small town Iowa. I do see bigger cities might feel safer to be careful. I hope that all changes.  Keep up your wonderful writing, getting the word out!

Thank you so much Deb! Your voice is invaluable and we need more like you speaking out! Thanks for sharing your wonderful story, and you’re right: We all should come out eventually! I just hope that this country becomes accepting enough we won’t need to hide behind pseudonyms online, but speak truth to the world we live in personally too! Until then, you’re more than welcome to speak your voice on my blog anytime 🙂

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