You Do Have a Point, But….

It’s no surprise to many conservatives that the Left likes to attack us with ad hominems, smear us, attack our character, ruin our reputations and chalk us up to being closed minded bigots. Standing by our convictions and being apart from what’s the popular attitude of the moment has cost us friends, networking, even jobs and family connections! Despite being the silent majority, we certainly don’t feel like it! I of course, have had my fair share of observing this too, as I am putting my views out there online in an open forum. And contrary to what many on the Left believe about fellow conservatives and myself, we can attest to not being simply “closed minded bigots” in our motivations for taking a seemingly harsher view on certain issues.

See, what may surprise many liberals who automatically dismiss everything I have to say simply because I support Trump as president, or consider myself a conservative is that my views are actually more nuanced than your cherry picking of them are. Why would that be? Well here’s the surprise:

I think you have valid points too in many of your positions which I do have to acknowlege and take into consideration when I argue my own viewpoint. 

It’s not always a cake walk rebutting every point you make, albeit I will say many are easily refutable too! The reason why we end up on opposite sides of the debate though is because while I do think your basic premise sounds valid on its face, there are nuances that I add that lead me to the conclusion that premise does not extend that far, or there are caveats you need to understand, or maybe, there’s a middle ground between either extreme, and guess what? I DO make these caveats in my articles about various issues, but thus far, I’ve observed very few of my critics directly address them, instead choosing to ignore those for my more extreme views only as if I never made a nuance in my argument. So here are some examples of places where I can see your point too, but why I end up disagreeing with your overall position and the nuances you overlooked when you rebutted me:

I understand the need to keep our leaders accountable and within the law, including Trump. However, making baseless accusations not backed up by facts then never admitting what he does right reflects far more on you than him. Also, why turn a blind eye to accountability within your own party leaders?

I understand the idea of being able to step out of an uncomfortable situation that would bringing up uncomfortable feelings and past trauma. I’ve done it too. However, safe spaces in college for example, only hinder your own personal growth as I realized as I matured, I needed to challenge myself to feel uncomfortable at times to grow intellectually.

I understand that we are a nation of immigrants and others should get the chance our ancestors did too. However I also know that we need to put our current citizens’ needs first before we can extend the hand to others.

On a related note, I really don’t mind immigrants keeping their own cultural heritage, traditions, language, dress, food, music, faith, holidays, etc… in America anymore than I mind Germans hosting Oktoberfest, or the Italian community having Fiesta. However, there’s a difference between being proud of your heritage and keeping cultural traditions alive, and imposing them on others and demanding to be accommodated instead of adapting also to our culture too such as also learning our language and embracing our values of hard work, democracy and equality. It’s NOT an either or choice! You can do BOTH.

I understand the world is not perfect and not every child can be wanted or born into a good situation financially, emotionally and physically. I realize part of respecting the sanctity of life also means the quality of that life matters more than simply being biologically alive. I also realize the mother has rights too including her own right to live. However, the idea that the child has no rights at all and abortion is simply a healthcare choice for the mother’s convenience instead of the weighty ethical decision involving the  termination of a human life is not something I will accept.

I understand we cannot live in fear and paranoia just because of some bad apples out there and forget to be kind and accepting and see the good in people, but we also cannot let our guard down and let a bad apple hurt our country and its citizens.

I understand some have more “privilege” than others they were lucky to be born with, but they cannot control their gender or skin color anymore than you can control your race or gender that may disadvantage you. Making people feel guilty and putting the onus on them to solve your problems is as unfair as asking you to change something you cannot simply because you were born a certain way. Also note, race and gender are not the only things that make someone have “privilege”. A good socioeconomic status and strong support network work wonders…

I understand many transgender people are not bad people, nor do they want to go out and victimize others, but simply want to live how they wish. However, my issue is not with legitimate trans women but those who will use that as an excuse to prey on women in women’s spaces and dominate women’s sports unfairly due to physical strength and endurance exceeding women’s, or my issue is with trans men who insist they are capable of the physical strength of a man but are biological women weakening our defenses such as the armed forces. I don’t wish ill will on those who suffer greatly in a body they feel is not their own, but I also cannot accept that their needs outweigh the other 99%’s needs.

I understand we need to treat everyone of all colors fairly and equally, and make sure they are not being discriminated against. However that also extends to the majority too as true equality is not what you take away from someone who already is on top, and giving it to the bottom, but giving the bottom what the top already has so EVERYONE has the same rights and privileges. Shutting down white people’s opinions or not hiring someone because they’re white citing past inequality only creates reverse discrimination.

I understand that we should be aware of what we say so we don’t hurt someone, but they should be aware not everything people say that sounds hurtful was meant to be and that maybe it was you who misinterpreted what they really meant. Also, I understand we should not be going out of our way to be “offensive” and rude, but not everything needs to be taken so gravely nor is it meant to genuinely offend. Also, sometimes, the truth hurts but needs to be acknowledged despite offending people.

As a woman, I understand that women have not always had ideal treatment by society. However, women have more power and greater freedom than countless other places in the world here in America. Whining about a tampon tax or pink razors for women or the fact a guy told you to smile once does not compare to having acid thrown in your face for not hiding it and being sold as a “wife”, (a.k.a sex slave) by your father to a man at age 12. Nor do we need to be like men and take on traditional men’s roles to be “empowered” and autonomous human beings.

Among other examples!

And to make one final important point, why can’t we just talk? Why can’t instead of dismissing me as a closed minded bigot who is all wrong, actually tell me why I’m wrong and give me specific examples? Now, I do acknowlege the few who do make more nuanced arguments against my arguments and I commend them. I’m talking to those who just want to endlessly rant about me being wrong and a bigot without giving any substantive counter arguments of their own, or simply showing me where I messed up. I’m not allergic to facts and figures. I’m not dismissive if someone makes the effort to try and educate me on a topic in a scholarly manner coming from a desire to help. What I do shut down though, are the ranters and ravers who only want to be a troll. I honestly would love to know why you didn’t vote Trump without going into an unhinged tirade of accusations without telling me why you think they’re true. Or more specifically why you might feel it’s unjustified to say Western Culture is beneficial compared to the 3rd world, or why you want more illegals in the country, or more gun control, or less strict abortion laws, why you believe white privilege is a thing, or why you think we need safe spaces etc…etc…

One critic of mine claimed they were a cultural anthropologist. Well guess what? I’m very interested in anyone who’s an academic in a scientific field and what they have to say and why. Instead of ranting and raving about me being wrong based off you being a cultural anthropologist, why not actually take the time to educate me, one lover of anthropology to another and not righteous SJW to some bigot, why my arguments about Western Culture are wrong beyond simply crying “past oppression!” Side note to all the scholars out there who disagree with me, I want to learn from your expertise and find out why you think I’m wrong. However I learn nothing from you just flaunting your credentials at me then proceeding to simply state I’m wrong. Unlike your stereotypes of conservatives, I do not embrace pseudo-scientific bunk and hate intellectuals! You may be shocked to find out I have a deep passion for topics such as the natural and social sciences.

Overall, if you simply critique my views from a desire to educate me and help, I’m not offended nor dismissive of you. I will listen, even if we end up not agreeing after the fact. I can respect a well made argument against me and maybe even modify my own views. Just stop the ranting, raving and personal attacks. And next time you criticize my position, please take the time to read the caveats and acknowlege them!

But It’s Their Reality…

This has been an observation I’ve had for a long time now observing my Leftist friends, classmates and coworkers: Apparently, we DON’T attend the same school, work at the same job, nor live in the same society even! Yes, we see each other on a regular basis in the same settings, but our perceptions of our reality couldn’t be more black and white! As if somehow I have a completely alien experience compared to everyone else! Why? To be honest, I’m not quite sure…

Let’s start with my most startling observation… My college experience. When I was in college, I thought I picked an amazing school. A beautiful campus. Nice housing. Great food. Warm and welcoming people who welcome you with open arms into the school community and reach out to make everyone feel welcome. An administration that cares about its students, good security, faculty who are excellent in their fields and deliver a high caliber education. What more can you ask for? However, all I heard from many of my peers was “This school has nothing to offer academically”, “The campus police are incompetent and ignore real issues”, “The administration keeps secrets and isn’t transparent enough in addressing student concerns”, and even more shockingly:

There are too many white students and they’re rude and racist toward students of color…

Women are afraid to even go out of their dorms in broad daylight going to class because of men harassing and cat calling them and that there are “several known rapists on campus!”

Now I know for a fact both statements were false when I went to school. All I’ve ever known was a warm, welcoming, inclusive community who opened their arms to all students.  I never once say any white students being openly rude to a student of color, refusing to be near them, to be friends, much less being blatantly racist! Not once have I ever seen outright bullying, or even as much as a “microaggression”. As for the allegations of harassment, I also have never experienced anything even remotely close to the sort as a woman myself. Not even walking back from a late night dance at 12:00 am! Much less in broad daylight going to a class on a random Tuesday for example, walking to a class nor were there ever hoards of  predatory men just waiting to harass women. Yet some of my fellow female classmates said they were harassed daily simply going to lunch by men whereas I was never even spoken to by a guy unless it was to say “hi” or “excuse me” to get past me. Now, I’m not saying there were never instances of racism or sexism on campus that I simply wasn’t privy to, of course there are always isolated incidents. But as a pattern and a campus culture as a whole? Nope! I lived on campus as much as they did yet never once witnessed a blatant act of racism or harassment, or even a remotely rude one… My experience at college was amazing at a great school with great support for those who are serious about studying and not just goofing off. They wouldn’t tolerate such antics and issues such as blatant harassment.

So where on Earth was all of this coming from? I really don’t know for sure, but my best guess is that they are simply looking for something to virtue signal over and be a group. The people in question making such allegations were all far Left, and in that light, perhaps it’s not too surprising they seemed to have an alternate reality! See, if they can whine collectively about something in their reality, they feel much more satisfied. In their reality, they lived in a racist cesspit of “white privilege” for four years of college. In their reality, they were harassed by men on a day to day basis and knew several rapists prowling around campus. But keep in mind, in the Left’s reality, EVERYTHING is either racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, xenophobic etc…etc…

Of course, this is not confined to whiny entitled college kids who learn far Left. Leftists in general seem to have a separate reality in society at large! A country of opportunity, freedom and some of the best standards of living in their perception is one of inescapable poverty, racism, sexism, intolerance, xenophobia, one devoid of opportunities except for the top 1% to name a few! The party who deems itself the most accepting and tolerant, to everyone else, cannot tolerate anyone who thinks differently without labeling them as a bad person. The party of anti-racism only sees racist perspectives in regards to white people scapegoating them for everyone else’s issues. A party that thinks women are 3rd class in America where women in 3rd world countries are treated like dirt and even killed outright. The party who thinks the West is the worst culture on Earth despite higher standards of living and technology as well as progressive social values such as democracy and equality.

A party that lets in illegals in record numbers saying they aren’t a threat despite thousands on welfare, in jails and hiking up the violent crime rates. A party that sees legal gun owners as the enemy while criminals with no regard for gun laws are free to shoot as they please unhindered by law abiding citizens. A party that sees Trump as a fascist, racist tyrant akin to Adolph Hitler when we now have a better economy, trade deals, healthcare and a president who puts America first. A party that purports to stand for social “justice” creates ideologies that uphold double standards, inequalities and injustice. To the Left, they ARE the answer for society, but to everyone else, are creating more inequality, divisiveness and seem to be living on a different planet! Then again, it’s their reality!

No matter what you can never please them either! You do one thing to be more inclusive, it’s not inclusive enough to the next group! Or it’s too inclusive and one group wants another excluded from their little clique. Take for example the “Vagina Monologues” written to “empower” radical feminist women. Once lauded, now are deemed not inclusive enough because and I quote, “not all women have vaginas!” One progressive idea this week becomes un PC the next week. The Left’s problems in addition to being formed from an entirely different perception of the world, also cannot be solved in a reasonable way now either as what is “woke” today is forbidden tomorrow!

Well guess what Lefties? I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again! Your reality is not THE reality! In the absence of actual observations, evidence, statistics, etc… then most likely, your assertions that in an attentive warm and friendly school there are swarms of racists and predators, illegals are harmless when countless people have been murdered by them, legally owned guns the the issue when criminals use theirs without the law, women are treated like dirt in America when women in the 3rd world are killed, maimed and abused by men who see them as nothing, America is a land of tyranny when other countries like Venezuela are on the brink of a coup by starving citizens, and our current president is Adolph Hitler when he has made far more progress than 8 years of the previous guy, society is racist when they elected a president of color for 2 terms in a row etc…etc… Maybe, just maybe, you might want to reassess “your reality”…

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(Oh, and  P.S. , please stop moving the goal posts whenever you’ve been out-debated by more reasoned logic than your own. But that’s for a whole other post 😉 )