#NotThem, Apparently…

So I thought I already covered about every angle of the flaws of the #MeToo movement, however, there is one glaring one still left: All the women who AREN’T being heard by the Left, who purports to uphold giving a voice to vulnerable women! Who are these forgotten women one might ask?

Well for starters, there’s Kavanaugh’s wife and daughters! During the smear campaign against Kavanaugh, his wife and young daughters were the targets of death threats and vile insults! Imagine, his 10 year old daughter was mocked, derided and vilely put in the spotlight in an appalling cartoon mocking her benevolence toward of all people, Christine Ford!  Yes, Kavanaugh said his daughter said that they should “pray for the woman” before bedtime during their prayers, after she learned Ford was smearing her dad! This act of goodwill (albeit naive if you ask me) was not applauded, but used to insult a 10 year old little girl in a vile cartoon saying she also prayed to God to forgive her “Angry, lying, alcoholic father for sexually assaulting Dr. Ford”! How would any Leftist feel if that was THEIR child??? The maker of that cartoon may have been within his legal rights to create that cartoon, but that certainly doesn’t mean it was within any moral rights to… If that little girl were the daughter of any of these Lefties, and the cartoonist a conservative, it would have been decried into the stratosphere! The Left in addition, went after Kavanaugh and demonized him into this vile monster, with zero regard for his wife and daughters. His daughters had to see their father smeared as a rapist, and probably learned more about sexual assault from that incident than their parents being able to talk about it within the comfort of their own timing and pace. His wife in her immense integrity and courage stood by her husband in truth as he was lied about again and again and again. As mentioned previously, although they won, the scars from that experience I’m sure are still there. However to the Left, these were inconsequential women… They were a-okay to threaten, and vilely insult for all to see. Their feelings were never once acknowledged, that it must have been hard for them to go through this even if Kavanaugh was truly a rapist. It wasn’t like anything Kavanaugh could have done was their fault, especially his daughters, who have absolutely zero say in who they were born to as their father!!! Their suffering was unacknowledged despite their own innocence…

And let’s take a look at the women in the lives of some of the oh so righteous Lefties who smeared him! Keith Ellison has allegations out against him for beating his ex girlfriend. She alleges:

“He looked at me, goes ‘Hey you f***ing hear me … and then he looked at me, he goes ‘Bitch, get the f*** out of my house,’ and he started to try to drag me off the bed,” Monahan said. “That’s when I put my camera on to video him.” (Woman Accusing Rep. Keith Ellison of Abuse speaks Out, CBS News)

However no one on the Left believed her story! A man allegedly put his hands on a woman and violently tried to drag her, and call her vile names, yet the woman is dismissed by the Left! The party that cries the cry of “believe all women”, even to the extent to no due process for the accused, dismisses an allegation when its against one of their own??? Really telling, isn’t it? Imagine if she were the girlfriend or wife of a conservative politician! And that is just one example of allegations of violence against women with Leftist perpetrators!

Oh, and of course, there’s Bill Clinton 😉 Let’s not forget all of his exploitation of numerous women as the President of the United States no less, and although impeached, none of the Democrats voted “yes”, and he was acquitted on all charges!!! Hillary defended him (even now saying #MeToo doesn’t apply to Bill!) and threatened his victims into silence! Imagine if he were Trump! I can hear the outrage now… Impeachment would happen in a split second! Not only that, both Hillary and Bill were advocating for #MeToo, and no one on the Left ever batted an eye at a proven sexual coercer and abuser endorsing the movement to end the exact abuse he did to countless young women!!! When do those women get to say #MeToo? They try and crucify Kavanaugh, yet let a proven abuser off the hook to talk about #MeToo… What on Earth gave him of all men, the right to say one word on the movement that was founded because of men like him, and of course Hillary, defending such an abuser of women???

It’s not just partner violence or sexual violence though that is affecting women that is being overlooked when it suits the Left! Threats of violence, death threats, doxxing, are all being used against the women in prominent conservative’s lives. When the Antifa mobs surrounded Tucker Carlson’s house with his wife home alone, and “almost broke the door” and his wife fears for her safety enough to hide in her closet and call 9/11 is that not threatening a woman with violence??? Even threats on social media and in the crowd about bringing a pipe bomb were hurled at Carlson and his family! Thank goodness the children weren’t home!!! If they don’t like Carlson, fine, protest peacefully, but to harass his wife and children??? Obviously, that mob couldn’t care less about an innocent woman and her children who have zero to do with Carlson’s opinions! Some more sane Leftists may have not condoned this particular incident, but the Left turns a blind eye continually on violent mobs such as Antifa. Again, imagine this was a Conservative mob, and the family was a Liberal’s. How do you honestly think the press and the Left would react???

Women victimized by Leftist perpetrators through sexual assault, violence, and threats are constantly overlooked and swept away by the Left to protect their own, while innocent, upright conservative men like Kavanaugh were smeared to the vilest degree! When can they get justice and feel safe in their own homes and for their children! When can the Left stop making excuses for deriding a 10 year old girl because “it’s just a cartoon”? As the party of political correctness and censoring speech not to offend, quite the hypocritical position! When can the wives, daughters, mothers, sisters, etc… of conservatives be put first by the Left and their #MeToo movement and anti-violence against women movements instead of cover ups and justifications for why a little girl is morally alright to smear publicly, wives and children threatened as collateral to get to their their husbands, the partners of Leftist perpetrators of violence get justice, and why this even is a political issue at all?! I would think violence intimidation and threats against ANY woman should be decried at the human level, never mind what their politics are! However, it’s clear to see some women get to cry rape, and a man is instantly smeared before and without any valid proof, while others are silenced and threatened and swept under the rug to protect other men in power… It all depends on whose side he and she are on… For all the women victimized by the Left, through threats, intimidation, violence, even sexual assault, when do THEY get to say “MeToo”???

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(Hypocrisy at its finest 😉 )

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When Incivility Becomes Explosive: A Guest Post by Time Foolery

Time Foolery is a wonderful “Lady of Reason” I met through Twitter! She has insightful ideas and a talent for writing! Here’s her insightful take on the current bomb scares:

On Wednesday, October 25th, a series of non-lethal “bombs” were “delivered” to leading Democrats and, before anyone can begin looking for a culprit, CNN et al. immediately jumped on President Donald J. Trump and blamed his “rhetoric” for the event, which many see as merely a false flag operation meant to enrage Democrats and get them voting. Republicans are currently out-voting Democrats in early polling, and many Dems literally walked away in the past month with vows to vote red this November thanks to Democratic bad behavior over the Kavanaugh hearings.

Violence of any kind is deplorable, but incivility in this world is nothing new. Democrats who are holding on tooth-and-nail seem to have a serious problem equating the behavior of their leaders to what happened, if it was indeed a true terroristic threat. In the past two years, Republicans have faced harassment in restaurants and at their jobs. Cars with Trump- related bumper stickers have been vandalized. Majority Whip Steve Scalise was shot. Candidates were attacked just last week. Antifa creates riots every chance they get. And WHO has encouraged such behavior? NOT Republicans.

Maxine Waters, Eric Holder, and Hillary Clinton all recently have called for incivility towards Republicans, with Holder telling his mindless followers that when Republicans go low, “we kick them!” With this truly violent rhetoric coming from the Left aimed at their less-than-intelligent base, it’s no wonder places like Berkeley became a scene of rioting, at the direct behest of Maxine Waters no less!! And they wonder why someone from the Right might do something like this??

The fact is, Republicans have been tolerating the Left and their calls for Communist-style incivility for the past two years simply because we won and saw this behavior as being to our benefit ultimately. The ongoing temper tantrums and craziness caused the #WalkAway Movement to be born, then gave it over 20,000 new followers in the short time since the Kavanaugh hearings. People who are critical thinkers saw the theatrics for what they were – a George Soros-funded “Free Fer All” designed to damage the entire legal process by trying to discount it completely. If they can’t get what Soros wants honorably, he gives them money, printed signs and his blessing to wreak havoc. This time, it didn’t work and he didn’t want to pay his minions afterward. Apparently he only pays on results, and the protesters began protesting that their checks never arrived. That certainly told the tale for anyone who was left wondering what the hell they’d just witnessed in the hearings. It was no longer a suspicion, it was a confirmation that a Hungarian outsider is, and has been, seeking to subvert the Constitution, and the United States itself.

And yet there was still no outrageous reaction from the Right. It was all “par for the course” in recent years and again, letting them misbehave did more for Republicans than it ever did for the Democrats. And early voting proves that.

So, next ploy: a caravan of Honduran and other illegals is paid to head north to invade the United States. Who exactly is footing the bill is ambiguous, but Soros’ Open Society has its name written all over it. It’s an idea – challenge immigration law and ICE by sending people supposedly looking for a better life to engender support for the abolishment of our immigration laws. But then the stories started coming to the fore that it’s mostly men on the move; that there are criminals and MS-13 amongst them; and that the few women and children on the march are being sexually attacked by men in the caravan. Nothing that wouldn’t scare the pants off any free thinker who realizes this isn’t a group who’s truly looking for a better life, but know they’ll get it anyway in return for their votes if the Democrats have anything to say about it. This was meant to drum up sympathy for illegals, but instead it has frightened Republicans and Democrats alike who realize this is a disaster walking our way. Another failed attempt by Liberals to excite their base.

So, what else to do to get sympathy and “righteous” indignation going? Trying to take out a good man and his family didn’t work. Harassing and attacking Republicans and their leaders didn’t work. And now the caravan has backfired tremendously. You can almost hear Hillary Clinton’s cogs turning, “I know! Let’s have a fake bomb scare!”

This wouldn’t be the first time in history that a political party has created a false flag operation to shore up flagging political power. Hitler himself had the Reichstag burned and blamed it on a Communist patsy to build up angst against his political enemies with those who weren’t already on the Nazi bandwagon. And it’s a play straight out of Saul Alinsky’s own directive on how to take down your opponents. In short, it reeks of Democratic desperation and very few are buying CNN’s line that Trump caused this. This isn’t to say that some less-than-normal nut job didn’t do this, and it’s certain someone has already been lined up to take the fall if not, but how long did Democrats expect Republicans to keep taking their bad behavior before clap-back commenced? How many Antifa roadblocks need to go up before normal citizens get fed up and someone less able to control themselves returns the favor? Two years almost exactly.

Whether real or false flag, this divisiveness and the violent rhetoric of the Democratic Party has the full blame for this current climate and are already receiving their punishment in having caused their Blue Wave to fizzle out. It will be interesting to see what happens after the election and the Democrats have lost yet again.


Thanks so much Time Foolery for your insightful take on the issue! 🙂 I will stress the caveat though, that until we know more we should not be too confident this was not one of our own gone rogue. However, the case she presents is a strong one for sure! If the perpetrator was a conservative all I have to say is this:

We must condemn violence on any side of the aisle including our own! No matter how loony the Left gets we must never stoop to their level and incite violence ourselves! I strongly oppose the targets threatened but I will never condone intimidating them with any violence of any kind. Ideas must be fought with ideas, not threats of violence! I am glad all are safe and unharmed! Threaten the ideas; NEVER the people holding them…

Time Foolery is an early member of the #WalkAway Movement, a life-long journalist, novelist and editor of various publications and internationally acclaimed books, and is an expert on Billy the Kid. She is a native of Texas now living in Canada. She wrote and edited for Stryker-Indigo Publishing, mostly sports books, one which disproved Canada inventing hockey.

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(Adults use their words to get what they want, not bully tactics! We must rise above this lunacy!!!)

All Cultures are Valid… Except Ours!

So, an academic topic I really enjoy is cultural anthropology. I find it extremely fascinating to study what makes up elements of culture, and the cultural variation around the globe. Perhaps the most fascinating thing to me, and I’m sure many anthropologists is the idea that an idea or concept in our worldview, can seem so “normal” we take it completely for granted and feel it’s just the way the world works, not culturally bound. For example, our idea of time as linear, we can go forward in time, but not back to most, including me is just another law of the universe. However, some cultures see time as cyclical, which to many of us in the West, is a completely foreign concept! Even things such as a shared word meaning between two languages that can be translated the same, can have different definitions to different cultures! Confused??? The word in each language would be translated the same such as “bara” in Ancient Hebrew, is “to create” in English, but in the West, we think of creation as “ex-nihilo”, out of nothing, you create something by putting materials together for instance, whereas in the Ancient Hebrew conception of creating, it really meant more in the sense of everything is there, but they reorganize it all to bring order from chaos. Think of this analogy: We can “create” a closet out of wood and plaster, or we could “create” order within the closet by rearranging all our misplaced junk inside of it! Point is, much of what is true in people’s worldviews are relative, not always the same objective way of thinking. I love studying these cool differences, and appreciate the wide variety of thought within the human species! It would be quite boring if we were all the same!

However, issues do arise when cultural differences are more of a moral and ethical nature. Values we reject as deeply unjust and unfair do not sit well with our cultural view of the matter. It’s hard to be the objective anthropologist when you’re morally offended! Therefore, they came up with the principle of cultural relativism, which basically is the idea we should’t judge other cultures for their way of life, nor feel ours is “superior” and we’re above the rest of the world. This is all fine and dandy, within scholarship and objective study, but what about when cultural clashes happen in our own lives???

Many cultures coming over to this country are in opposition to many of our values, such as a more egalitarian, democratic society. They are more hierarchical and rigid, whereas we want more social mobility and equality. They want to treat women as property, and we strive for a more egalitarian view of them as fellow humans, endowed with the same rights as we have and ought to have the same autonomy. They don’t want a sense of cultural relativism, and feel theirs is the only “right” way of doing things. We try to Related imageembrace more differences between peoples. They want unquestioned authority, whereas we want the ability to hold our leaders accountable. They want only one faith, while we enshrined separation of church and state. They want to speak their native language, yet demand we accommodate them instead of learning ours too to integrate with us. They want only to have their own ways, never thinking they could embrace both our ways and their own. They want to use brute force and fear, rather than diplomacy to settle disputes. They want to treat their children as property as well, while we want to nurture them into becoming autonomous adults. This isn’t the whole of the matter, but many examples of how Western values and other values don’t quite mix as well… Many speak of a “culture war” between the West and many other 3rd world countries, and its true, we want one thing, they want another.

The defenders of such 3rd world values say, but, isn’t much of this culturally relative? Who’s to say who has  the “better” values? Aren’t we just being bigoted when we impose our ways onto others? Those points would be valid, except that our way HAS shown to be more beneficial in objective, not just moralistic or culturally dependent terms. Think of it: more 3rd world immigrants come to the West, not their own fellow 3rd world countries. People have given up the culture and language they were born into, lost everything just to come over to the West! Why??? What would make us take such a drastic leap of faith? Our science has lead to technologies, medical care, and progress that has decreased mortality rates across the board at all ages! We now can treat disease and illness. People have a much higher standard of living over here. Compared to countries where slavery is still around, ethnic and cultural minorities and women are 3rd class citizens, a disease can kill you, infant mortality is sky high, people are slain for being “heretics”, dictators rule with an iron fist over the helpless people, corruption is rife, and so on and so on, Western values of democracy and equality and more technology to better people’s lives sounds a lot better for everyone! The data is in, and shows a thriving culture based on Western values here and abroad! This isn’t merely a moral argument on how things should be because I said so, but based on human quality of life supported by data!

The radical left, however, is not swayed. They still want to drudge up some of our more unflattering past of being imperialist and intolerant ourselves towards other cultures, but that has PAST! We’re far more tolerant and aware of being culturally relativist now more than ever! They want to claim that we must be “tolerant” of these 3rd world cultures coming into the West, but create a double standard when it is applied to our own culture!  Think of it:

  • We’re not allowed to say we want our culture to remain governed by our values, yet the people coming here from the 3rd world are allowed to live by theirs over here!
  • We are not allowed to proselytize our values over in THEIR country, yet they are free to do so in OURS!
  • We can’t impose our morality on them, yet they can on us when it’s convenient!
  • They can live by their own laws, in their own insular communities, and be governed by their own values, but when we demand that too, we’re “white supremacists”…
  • They can worship their own faith exclusively without criticism in their community, yet we’re held to the higher principle freedom of religion for all, yet they are exempt!
  • We must accept that cultural differences do exist, and are equally valid as ours, yet they are allowed to degrade ours!
  • Even a more innocuous example, other cultures all over the world are allowed their own standards of beauty for men and women, yet we are criticized for having our own cultural ideal of beauty because that’s not “body positive”!
  • They can think freely whatever they want, and be defended by “cultural relativism” while our cultural ideas are scrutinized and nit picked to the max!
  • When they treat others, women, minorities, those of lower social status, etc… as 3rd class citizens and property over here, we are supposed to shut up and accept that as “their way’, yet if we ever tried to pull a stunt like that, we’d have to answer for it!
  • The “West” is intolerant, rigid, and moralistic, yet other Non-Western cultures are put on a pedestal of resistance to the West and portrayed by the Left dare I say, as “noble savages” (which is ironic since that’s an imperialist stereotype in itself!)
  • Western medicine and science is devalued for more “natural” cures from 3rd world places which have no scientific basis!

When do we get our share of cultural relativism??? The principle goes BOTH ways, people! If we have to tolerate them, and all we disagree with culturally of theirs, why aren’t the same arguments made in our defense too when we’re criticized? Overall, the radical liberal snowflakes only have “tolerance” and relativism for what they pick and choose! Our culture is a-okay to bash, degrade and deride! It’s also amazing, I’ll add as my final point, that many 3rd world values are exactly what the Left accuses us of having that is immoral, which for rabid liberals, is quite the irony!!! 😉

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The hypocrisy of the Left is astounding when it comes to cultural relativism!

#NotHim: Kavanaugh Is Confirmed!!!

 Judge Kavanaugh is now JUSTICE Kavanaugh!!! 

This is a huge victory for the common man and woman, to have an honorable man such as Kavanaugh in our judicial branch of government! For a man smeared so vilely, and had his family attacked, it seemed impossible for him to get in due to the paranoia of the Left! The #MeToo hysteria seemed to rage on, but evidence, facts and reason luckily prevailed in the end 🙂 The accusation of sexual assault, even gang rape of women is vile, and must be taken seriously, however, feelings must not rule the day over facts and evidence! Due process is a cornerstone of our democracy, as so many regimes can smear and punish people on whims and made up charges, whereas our nation demands more: solid proof of guilt before declaring it! “Innocent until proven guilty” in a court of law is the law of the land, but so often, it gets obscured in the court of popular opinion and the kangaroo courts of feelings! The Left has shown just how vile it can become, just to get its way, and I think that is why this political miracle, dare I say considering the rampant vitriolic Left, occurred!

You see, this is not just any supreme court nomination. No! I don’t often believe it when people say that an event is the most unique or unprecedented in history to be literally true, but I will say that Kavanaugh’s confirmation IS indeed a historic moment for the political fabric of this nation! Confirming Kavanaugh has shown that we the people, will NOT bow to the court of feelings and popular opinion. We will NOT bow to Leftist lunacy, and no due process for the accused! We will NOT “Flake” out 😉 of upholding justice and the laws of the land, and the values of our democracy! And most importantly, we WILL NOT condemn a man, or anyone without evidence and facts!

This is not just about Kavanaugh either! This was about every father, husband, son, brother, uncle, nephew, male friend, and every man in America! Men who could at the word of some spiteful accuser, have his life torn apart, attacked and decimated! Just look at Kavanaugh leading up to this monumental moment: his reputation smeared, his wife and daughters sent death threats. His 10 YEAR OLD subject of a vile, disgusting cartoon! A 10 year old little girl who was innocent of anything her father ever did!!! THAT people, is what the Left has shown us it is capable of: Attacking not only his wife, but his CHILD! And they say they defend the vulnerable…. (Grrrrr…..) This confirmation sets a positive precedent for all men in this country, one of due process, fair investigations, and FACTS over feelings! We should all rejoice, men and women alike, for you, gentlemen, are safer, and you, ladies, breathe a sigh of relief for your husbands, brothers, fathers, sons etc…. Will this stop every part of the risk towards men? No! Certainly not! We must still fight the fight. This is just one victory, in a larger war! However, we must relish in the victories, and brace for our losses. This vote has sent a message to the country, “We will not tolerate the kangaroo court of feelings and mob rule, we stand with the laws of the land and the values of our democracy”… That, for our men, is a victory! Rejoice!!!!

However, the fight is not over! Our victory must not make us blinded and lazy. We won the battle, but not the war! The Left is going insane as we speak! Just as bad, perhaps, as when Trump got in as president! They will want to impeach him now, but luckily that will be harder to do than keep him out now he’s in! Kavanaugh, although he won, still lost in many ways. He lost some of his reputation to slander. He lost countless hours worrying. He lost having joy in his home since this whole fiasco began. He lost his peace of mind for his threatened wife and children. The children lost their innocence, as yes, they know the truth of all the vile allegations! I’m sure they too, lived in fear of being hurt, attacked, slandered themselves! Imagine being 10 or 13, and having his family be YOURS at that vile time of chaos! His wife had to show an amazing depth of fortitude and loyalty. A TRUE virtuous wife ladies, we must all strive to be! Yes, today, the Kavanaugh family can rejoice with the rest of us, but the trauma they each faced personally, and as a family still must be addressed. They will always carry those wounds with them from the vile Leftist smear campaign! What can we do to help? VOTE!!! Vote for common sense and reason! Get your voices heard! Show Kavanaugh and every other man in your life that you will not stand for what happened these past few weeks, ladies! We walked a thin line today. He only won by 2 votes. A little more push, and the Left could have easily won! Rally the troops for the fight for reason, common sense and justice whenever we can, —and must! Kavanaugh’s confirmation, overall, lets us say with the greatest joy:

#NotHim!!!

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#HimToo…

It seems talk about the #MeToo movement has been a really hot topic these past few weeks, especially in light of the Kavanaugh fiasco! My previous post, “The Flaws of #MeToo” has gotten a record number of views! I have touched upon many cogent points in that, and even older articles on the subject, however, I have not gone into greater detail over how it impacts men. #MeToo is a lose-lose for both sexes, and both sides of the political spectrum! The issue is, #MeToo by casting women as victims, casts men as perpetrators, as a corollary. It’s black and white, good vs. evil, quite literally! Any woman is a victim, and any man a perpetrator, leaving out any grey areas, and any nuances. A woman merely has to say “he did it” and is believed without a doubt, without credible evidence, credible witnesses or anything!

While many of us are aware to look our for our daughters, wives, mothers, sisters etc… to protect them from sexual assault, the current danger to our sons, husbands, fathers and brothers is overlooked. #MeToo plays up the risk of a woman being assaulted, but also the risk that any man is an assaulter! This creates an atmosphere of fear and tension between men and women, with women fearful of men, and men fearful of women accusing them falsely. The detractor may say, “but it isn’t a high risk of a man getting falsely accused, and we should focus more on our women than our men…” implicitly saying that it negates looking out for women, by looking out for men too. Both arguments are flawed.

One, many men have indeed been falsely accused, including one who should have been in the Supreme court a week ago!!! More and more cases are coming to light of men being exonerated after decades behind bars after the women admitted to lying. It is incredibly easy for a woman to accuse a man. Literally just say “he did it”, and all is believed! Don’t think for a moment women are somehow more morally upright than men, and would never smear a man for her own unethical gains. Women, like men, are simply human, for good and for bad. To think anything else, is to put women on a very condescending pedestal, treating her as childlike, instead of seeing her simply as a fallible human. A woman, equally as much as any man, could frame someone to gain something, money, notoriety, even absolve herself of personal responsibility if she regretted sex the next morning!

The other argument is flawed as well, because looking after the men in our lives, and standing up for their right to due process and a fair investigation, does NOT negate the fact we also ought to look after the women in our lives and empower them to speak up in case of real sexual assault! Can’t we do both??? Saying, “not all men”, and men need protection too from false allegations is just as valid, as saying women need protection for sexual assault and need to be empowered too. It is not merely an excuse to deflect off the women’s issue of sexual assault by men. The men’s issue of false accusations is JUST as real and has happened in reality, not just in theory! We, as humanity, should look out for our fellow humans, of BOTH sexes, and both measures can be done to help EVERYONE get justice and protection, it shouldn’t be a competition for victim-hood! #HimToo, the counter-hashtag to #MeToo has the right to exist just as much. The original intention of the #MeToo movement has been hijacked by radicals who abuse it to undermine who they want. #HimToo gives a voice to the victims of this radicalization from a more rabid, vitriolic #MeToo that has smeared many an innocent man, even boy!!!

Yes, the #MeToo hysteria has even gone after boys too young to even know about sexuality or even think of hurting any girl or woman! Cases such as a little boy being accused of sexual assault at school, in his ELEMENTARY school, for hugging his teacher, a grown woman!!! A kind, innocent, pure gesture perverted into something truly sickening as to imagine a child being capable of this, by the #MeToo mindset of paranoia against men! Even teenage boys, the same age as a teenage girl, are vilified as predators, instead of young people exploring their own budding sexuality while the girl of the exact same age and developmental stage is viewed as a vulnerable potential victim and damsel in distress! I don’t blame men in the least for being more afraid to hire women, date women, and even casually interact with them alone due to #MeToo! The movement, which was meant to empower real victims against abuse of power, now is vilifying all men as sex predators, from ages 6-60 and beyond!!! Not to mention, men and boys are sexually assaulted too, sometimes by women! Can they say #MeToo as well??? Apparently not by the Left’s double standards and hypocrisy!

We as women, must look out for our sons, husbands, fathers, brothers etc… as it could easily be them next! Don’t fall into the fallacy, ladies, that your men are too upright, proper and righteous to be framed, as some opponents of my view argue. Simply “not raping women” is not enough in this #MeToo hysteria! Even looking at women, complimenting anything on a woman, her clothes, her hair, her shoes etc…, merely being behind a closed door with one is enough! And for some, not even knowing a woman and being anywhere near her, as any woman can simply make up a story and be believed! One woman’s son was framed for assaulting these cliques in high school, and had to go to court dates, even detained in juvenile detention, over allegations the girls later admitted were completely false because they “didn’t like him”! This should send chills over every mother’s, wife’s, sister’s, daughter’s spines!!! Our country is in the grips of witch hunts, hysteria and the court of public opinion, rather than the court of law, due process, evidence and justice! Our men are called upon to defend us in case of assault, why can’t we be there, as only a woman can, to defend them if heaven forbid, they get smeared with an allegation. In this world of identity politics, and not believing someone outside of a group and not being allowed to comment on issues of that group, our voices as women are crucial in turning the tide on #MeToo! We need to show the Left not all women subscribe to demonizing our men and boys, and stand with them, to defend their innocence from the kangaroo courts of popular opinion and emotion. Ladies, our sons, husbands, brothers, fathers, uncles, nephews, male friends, and indeed, any man needs us, the female half of humanity, to say “#NotMe”, before we are forced to say “#HimToo” when “him” becomes “them”: YOUR loved ones!!!

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(The painting “Not Guilty” by Abraham Solomon captures what a relief it is for the women to see the man they care about was proven innocent. In the #MeToo hysteria, such a scene today will be rarer and rarer unless we as women, defend our men!)

The Flaws of #MeToo

I’ve written any times through out my blog on issues such as the hypocrisy of the #MeToo movement by the Left! How, while a noble premise, to give women voices against powerful abusers in authority, it does the exact opposite of what it’s supposed to do: empower women and bring justice and fairness. The problem is, while #MeToo sounds great in theory, in practice, it has some very detrimental implications and unintended consequences.

#MeToo Casts Women as Helpless Victims and Little Children

#MeToo implies women are merely helpless little victims, damsels in distress if you will, little children who are naive to what sexual coercion is. The narrative of “always believe” because alleged victims don’t lie, or at a minuscule chance of it, is flawed for the application to grown women! Even teenagers! Look, a small child does not know much at all about sexual coercion, or the slimy tactics and red flags of grooming and exploitation. Nor would be familiar enough with such concepts to lie about them. However, this is certainly NOT the case for a grown woman, even an older teenager! Yes, some may be uninformed and naive, but must learn in order to protect themselves. Forewarned is forearmed. My parents always talked to me about such dangers, and even from the tender age of 12, I knew the concept of rape and sexual assault! Thing is, while extremely unpleasant to have such conversations with young children, it must happen to empower them! Even the Left can agree and does encourage parents to teach very young children how to spot sexual abuse and inappropriate situations and most importantly, tell someone immediately! Point is, a grown woman is not a mere helpless child: she is aware of sexual dangers and should be empowered to put safeguards in place for her protection before hand too! It seems to me, incredibly misogynistic, and condescending to view women in any other way than empowered and capable of spotting and putting a stop to unethical coercion!

Not Telling Has Endangered Countless Other Women Over These Decades of Silence

Another point: If you don’t tell, and wait decades, like many have, it only endangers other women, countless others who then say “me too” later on! Think of it. If it stopped at woman #1, if the allegations are true, then women numbers 3,4,5….100 don’t have to! While being victimized is not ever deserved, not speaking out so other women won’t be makes you have a part to play by your silence letting the perpetrator get away with more crimes. Think of it this way: Not reporting a burglary makes it easier for more of the neighborhood to get robbed when they can get away with it! You may have been a victim, but your silence is letting others just like you become victims too!

It Also Casts Women as Being Easily Mentally Overpowered by Men

Not quite the feminist idea #MeToo wants to go for! 😉 While I think we can all unanimously agree many men are physically stronger than women, and can force and hold one down to assault them, and have the upper hand, many instances of #MeToo was about sexual coercion. A man in a position of authority pressuring women to submit to him to get ahead or avoid some consequence. Unless that consequence was threat of harm or death to herself/family, a woman can still say “no”. “No” may come at a greater cost, but is a job promotion, or benefits, or such worth your integrity? Giving away one of your most precious gifts and your personal dignity for some career? Look, I get some women may feel forced financially, but many #MeToo cases were from women in high powered careers making loads of money! Not to mention, we can all agree it is a vile thing to abuse authority to coerce women or anyone for that matter! That is NEVER in doubt here! Accordingly , there are more and more things in place, such as human resources and steep penalties in the workplace for sexual harassment. Giving in only lets the perpetrator win, instead if saying “no” and reporting those unethical slimy acts to the proper authorities! Coercion is a slimy, sleazy, unethical thing to do, and authority figures must be held accountable for it! Saying “no” to their demands, and speaking up immediately to proper authorities helps fight that, and “no” is always on the table unless he’s physically forcing you down or making violent threats! “No” may come at the greater cost, yes, but sometimes doing the right thing comes at the greater cost. Ladies, we are strong, empowered and capable. We should not believe our fellow women are so weak to be mentally overpowered by a man doing unethical things!

#MeToo is Hurting due Process and “Innocent Until Proven Guilty”

The noble aspect of the #MeToo movement, to give a voice to the once voiceless against unethical men in power, has now swung too far the other way: never believing the alleged perpetrator could be innocent also. The law of the land says “innocent until proven guilty in a court of law”, yet, in the court of popular opinion, a man smeared with such vile allegations as raping and assaulting women will forever be guilty regardless of proof! The fear of “but what if he really did do it?” is understandable. Admit it: Even I feel that way sometimes when I hear the stories… However, we must rise above that and think: What if he were me? What if were the one being smeared unfairly? Would I want a fair trial, and if innocent, a full pardon and clearing of my name? What about for our fathers, husbands, brothers, male friends? Those we care about? The guilty should be punished under the fullest extent of the law, but the innocent found out and spared! Indeed, if the wrong man is punished, three, not just one injustice was done. An innocent man is punished, the victim gets no real closure, and a guilty man walks free! Defending the innocent for itself is a higher principle: if innocence does not matter, no one is safe from unjust punishment! Vile cases of women being hurt in the worst possible way gets everyone hot under the collar and emotional, myself included, but facts MUST trump feelings to get to the bottom of every allegation!

It is Also Casting Unnecessary Suspicion on Men

#MeToo on a very related note, is also causing more and more women to fear men. Now, every man is eyed as a potential rapist! The innocent elementary school boy crush and kiss is now “sexual assault” because the girl said “Eew! cooties!” The male coworker who complimented your blouse is now lecherous. The boss who called you into his office and shut the door is now at great risk for any false allegation. The family man and devoted husband and father is now an abuser and potential pedophile! Even consensual sex is viewed as “he must have pushed her to do it”! In some cases, when the “victim” said she said YES!!! The narrative of the damsel in distress must be believed at all costs, even when she said she said “yes”! Any woman can derail a man for his entire life, ruin his career, ostracize him from society, even imprison him on a dubious claim! This, ladies, should concern you for every man you know and love in your life. Your father, brother, husband, son, etc… As the men in your life should be concerned for you, their wife, daughter, sister, mother etc… about potential sexual assault. As any woman could be hurt, any man now can be falsely accused of doing the hurting. One does not negate the validity of the other. BOTH sexes can look out and protect one another! We need to stand by our men, and defend them too from a false allegation, as they would give their lives for you heaven forbid you be hurt!

Any Valid Critique is Considered “Victim Blaming” and Justifying Sexual Assault Against Women

This one is the biggest misconception and flaw! Criticizing #MeToo and bringing valid scrutiny on sexual assault allegations is perceived as victim blaming and shaming. However, is is not true! Getting to the bottom of an allegation, and thoroughly investigating and cross examining both sides is just standard procedure! The real implication in this is that women are never lying, or are always correct in the who, what where etc… In reality though, it has been proven eye witness testimonies are often flawed, memories are foggy and incomplete, especially from decades ago! The assault may have indeed happened, but it was a blur, and you misidentified the suspect! That happens all the time too in many cases, not just sexual assault! Who robbed your house? This person or that one who looks very similar? How tall was he or she? Build? Eye color? Hair color? Hair style? Distinctive facial features? etc… See what I mean! Now remember it from 30 plus years ago…. Where there other witnesses with a more solid memory or proof? Police reports? Forensic evidence collected? A lot of factors go into a fair investigation of any crime, more importantly in ones such as these! Even assertions such as saying the woman had some personal responsibility in preventing it or preventing others from being victimized too does not justify what was done to her if it was proven it was done to her! Causation is NOT justification!

For example: Being drunk at a party and someone taking advantage is wrong for the person who took advantage. Period. However why did you get so drunk you made yourself vulnerable to such victimization? We can say we need to teach boys and men to treat women with respect and never harm them. That is valid and I totally agree. However, there will still always be those who don’t. Same with robbers. We teach our children not to steal, yet there have been thieves since humanity found the concept of private property. One could argue you’re blaming the victim of a robbery too by asking them why they didn’t lock their doors, hide valuables and walk in dark secluded alleys,that and yet, it’s not some horrible victim shaming thing to ask such valid inquiries! No one has the right to steal your stuff because you made a foolish choice, ever. No one is justified in mugging you because you walked down the wrong street and had valuables on you. However, is it wrong to say you should have been more careful? Taken more precautions? No! Look, it’s not fair women have to watch out for creeps and predators. It’s not just that women can’t go to a party and get a little buzzed or wear skimpy outfits without being at greater risk. But that’s the cold hard reality, ladies! We have to take precautions to be proactive in protecting ourselves. If something happens despite all that, it happens. But don’t cry “poor me” if you literally walked into the lion’s den! We protect ourselves by doing proactive things, like locking doors, being alert to our surroundings, self defense etc… to help reduce our chance of being victimized by criminals. If a crime happens despite all that, it’s NOT your fault, but if you were careless, a part is on you for putting yourself in such a compromised position, in any crime, not just #MeToo matters!

Overall, #MeToo has too many flaws for a reasonable woman to hop on board with. I appreciate the good intentions and its noble premise, but we must judge things on effectiveness, not solely intention. The consequences of adopting this view is a lose-lose for BOTH men and women! We are empowered, capable, human beings, ladies! We are not helpless victims, little children or damsels in distress! We are accountable for our actions, and should be held to a fair standard in our integrity and honesty like anyone else. #MeToo should be for vulnerable women who in earnest, want justice for themselves and due punishment for those who would be so vile as to abuse their power and a woman in such a way! However it’s been used as a political smear tactic that makes #MeToo crying wolf, hurting REAL victims of assault with all these dubious claims in recent months and years! Look, I want what everyone wants: Justice for women who have been abused. However, we need something more objective than #MeToo. I say #NotMe! 

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When the Victim Becomes The Enabler

This is a PSA from A Lady of Reason: If you’re in an abusive relationship, get out! It’s not worth it. He will find a way to hurt, even kill you in many cases. Words can become actions, and punches only get harder the more he knows you’ll take them. Leaving will only get harder with time. I get that it’s very scary and not all women can have the safety or means to leave right away, but do it as soon as you can! No one deserves abuse. However, when children are involved, it’s a whole different ballgame.

I will not make excuses or add caveats here. I may sound harsh, but I stand by what I’m about to tell you. If you have kids, you need to leave!!! It’s not just about you anymore now, but innocent lives who weren’t foolish enough to enter such an abusive relationship and ignore the warning signs. Just because you were put under his spell, doesn’t absolve you of being the adult and protecting your children. Parents have a sacred duty to protect their children at any cost. I get that many women feel unsafe leaving, but when you have kids, you just have to take that risk. It’s your duty to protect your kids, even at the peril of your own life. The effects of even witnessing such abuse will scar children for life, and are scarring them now. What does it say to your daughters, who watch mommy get beat up every night by a man? That men are entitled to hurt women? That women have no voice in their own marriages? What does it say to your sons? Daddy is okay to do that? Women should just take the threats and hits? Women are weak and spineless and will put up with it? In many cases too, he will branch out and abuse and hit the kids as well. If that does occur, speaking frankly, you’re the ultimate coward. If you allow him to lay hands on your kids, you absconded your duty as a parent to protect your children. Many battered women will tolerate him beating them within an inch of their lives, but leave as soon as he lays hands on the kids. Even if the abuse isn’t physical, who’s to say he isn’t with them when you’re laying in bed all alone that night? You know what I’m implying here…

There are NO excuses to stay in an abusive relationship with children stuck in the middle. He’s not just abusing you, he’s abusing them. If you let him, you’re abusing them as well, for not standing up for them. I get if you don’t have kids, you can decide when you leave for yourself, but with kids, it’s not about you. If you have kids and are enabling your abuser, you’re not a victim in my eyes. The kids are the real victims. You’re just a pathetic enabler. You are the adult here, there are resources and people who will help you. It’s up to you, not your 5 year old to reach out for help! Don’t wait for them to gain the courage to tell people at school. YOU gain the courage to make those plans to leave right now! If you left but returned, shame on you! You fell for his trickery and he will abuse you and your kids all over again. It’s the classic textbook cycle of abuse. You just sent the message to your kids that such things are forgivable, which they’re not! Look, you might be saying, “Who are you to judge???” “You’ve never been in this scenario!”… Well guess what? I don’t have to be! Everyone around you can witness the devastation to your children. Your friends who have tried to help you ad nauseum, but now have given up since you won’t help yourself. Your family who has also let you stay with them, but have had the pain of seeing their child go back time and time again to an abuser, and their grandchildren endangered. The teachers at school, who know your kids are struggling at home, who are afraid to go home, a place where they should feel the safest. The doctor, who sees the tell tale signs on you and your kids, but can’t do anything to help until you take advantages of the resources he gives you. This society in general seems to shy away from admitting personal responsibility, and embracing “victimhood”. When will people say it outright? If you stay in an abusive relationship with children involved, you’re not a victim, you’re an enabler! Please get out! Here are some resources I found to help you get started:

Getting Help with Domestic Violence Family and Youth Services Bureau

Path to Safety – The National Domestic Violence Hotline

Safety Plan for Victims of Domestic Violence

Effects of Domestic Violence on Children

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