How The Left is Driving A Wedge…

The Left’s derisive rhetoric and ideology has driven a wedge in much of society. From race wars, to gender wars. Gay versus straight, cis versus transgender. Black versus white. Christian versus Non-Christian. Etc…etc… Seeing the worst of intentions in innocuous comments. “Microaggressions” so microscopic yet so massive to the “victim”. Scapegoating, blaming, finger pointing, you name it! The Left fosters it. And what does all this un-nuanced black and white division do to society? You guessed it! Divided society at every level and among every group! Families are literally feuding over how one voted in 2016. Ostracism, insults, ultimatums are becoming more and more prominent in friendships, relationships, and families all over politics and social issues. An opposing opinion is no longer grounds for “disagreeing to disagree” then changing the subject. No! now it has to mean the other person is evil, bigoted, immoral, and even perverted in some cases!

Take this scenario, based off this article. A mom whose daughters are 13 and 15 wrote in to a columnist that she is upset that her husband and her father in law are telling jokes that all dads with daughters know about, such as “Dad better buy a shotgun for when they start dating!” Or “lock your doors!”. She claims it made her daughters uncomfortable as well as herself. The columnist wrote back in agreement saying that such jokes rob daughters of their agency, and make light of gun violence. Now, I agree with one thing: If the daughters don’t like it, they should stop out of respect for their daughters’ and granddaughters’ wishes.

However, lets dive deeper into what I argue this portrayal of this common family scenario has been seen through a lens of extreme projection and misguided conclusions. Jokes like those told by men one, are NOT taken literally (just like 99.9% of jokes!) and really meant to reflect a man’s sense of duty and honor towards his daughters, and more widely, protecting the women in his life. Quite frankly, a woman such as a mother, does not have the full sense of the dynamic between man-to-man interactions and how men express sentiments is not the same often as how a woman might express it. The “protect your daughters” jokes are an example of that. Grandpa was simply giving dad a man-to-man pat on the back so to speak, for the challenges of raising daughters and making sure their best interests are respected by any suitor.

The jokes are hyperbolic: Barring out and out abuse, a sane and reasonable man would not literally pull out a gun and terrorize a suitor! The point is that the jokes are meant to show how far a man would go to protect his daughter from mistreatment, exploitation, coercion or abuse if it were to occur, not that hell go out like a man man waving a gun at every teenage boy in town! While of course, mothers also are deeply invested in protecting their daughters from predatory or toxic men, the special role of an honorable man has always been to guard his daughters until he knows her chosen one is worthy of her, beyond what a woman is expected to do.

Grandpa, who’s “guilty” of said jokes, is not being a perv, or a chauvinist who believes that his granddaughters should literally be locked up like in some 3rd world culture, but a man who in his wisdom, is supporting the dad in his role as protector. As to the other argument about agency and autonomy, one, what other areas of major life choices would you argue a young teenager should have complete and total autonomy over? And two, why not complain more about cultures who literally KILL their daughters over an unapproved suitor and force her into marriage at the age these girls are? Where’s the feminist outrage over that??? You can argue all you want you don’t want men to occupy that traditional role guarding his daughter’s hearts, but what would you say of a man who’s just like, “Whatever… What do I care about my daughter’s dating habits…” As for the daughters themselves, perhaps they were conditioned from day one to look at men as potential perverts and misogynists and were primed to read disgusting undertones in grandpa’s well meaning comments.  Just look at the Girl Scouts of America telling parents young girls hugging grandpa leads to sexual coercion at work 20 years later! Just because mom, not socialized to have the honor code of a man, doesn’t quite understand the subtle nuances of the dynamic between Dad and Grandpa, doesn’t mean they have nefarious intentions or sexist attitudes! My case rests… 😉

The next scenario, related to family matters, is the case of a mother on an online forum freaking out over her 7 year old daughter’s kitten heels she bought for some special event, like a daddy daughter dance, let’s say. I’ve also covered this topic before too, but what shocked me was the mothers reaction to what Dad said: She said she was fearful and troubled because Dad said, guess what? “Wow! You look so grown up!” to his daughter when he saw her in those shoes. Mom believes that Dad’s comment was perverted in the worst possible way, and that yes, implied it meant Dad was lusting over his little girl comparing her to a grown woman! Even more shockingly, multiple women agreed with her!

Now, to a sane person, it sounds just like a dad amazed, as any parent is, of how fast is child is growing up. Seeing his daughter, in her fancy dress, her hair done up, some light makeup, and in those cute little shoes for her special dance with daddy, it is not out of the question that as a parent, he could see in her in that moment, some of the woman she will grow into very soon. A beautiful woman he will one day dance with again at her wedding. Or send off to her prom. What only the sickest most vile pervert would see in a little girl in kitten heels is a sex object to lust over!!! In the fight to stop oversexualizing girls, the  women’s rights movement has ironically, sexualized them to the extreme by seeing everything that was once innocent, as now sexual, sick and perverted! I can only think of two scenarios. Number one, mom is wildly and wrongly projecting the most vile thoughts on her husband for being a sentimental dad, or she married a complete monster and doesn’t deserve to raise a child if she allows him to be near her daughter. I strongly suspect the former case is more probable…

Lastly but certainly not least of all, another example of how a family can be utterly divided by Leftist ideology is the common case of that relative who says something un-PC at the family gathering. Now, instead of just chalking it up to an older generation who were raised with different norms, or an innocuous comment that just came off as “insensitive” as opposed to a targeted insult, many Left learning parents are struggling with whether or not to let the kids see Grandma, or Aunt Sally, or Uncle Joe over “sexist” or “racist” sentiments that most reasonable people outside of the radical Left wouldn’t interpret as openly racist or sexist for instance. apparently, it’s not enough to say to your kids, “I disagree with what Grandma says sometimes, and here’s why, but we still love her even though we differ on certain subjects…”

Now, it’s all or nothing. If Grandma’s not “woke” enough, she doesn’t make the cut! Or maybe just be open and honest and tell Grandma, or Uncle Joe or Aunt Susie not to bring those topics up in front of your kids when they come to visit. Many, even if they differ from your perspective will honor your request. After all, 5 year olds care more about Grandma’s cookies than Grandma’s political ideologies! 😉 However, why can’t we just be brave enough to expose our kids to differing views then let them know they can make up their own mind in their own time without pressure from either side? We can’t grow as people without thinking deeply and thinking for oneself after all.

In all three examples, we see families utterly divided by the Left. Granddaughters that see grandpa and their own father as sexist creeps for wanting to protect them. A wife who sees her husband and father in law as misogynistic and not having their children’s and grandchildren’s best interests at heart. A mother who implicitly views her own husband as a sick pedophile lusting over his daughter on the grounds of saying as every parent says, “You look so grown up!”. Parents across the nation alienating their kids from their grandparents, aunts and uncles over politics, ideas the children don’t even know about or care about yet. Teaching the kids that an opposing opinion is immoral, and the person holding it is bad and to be written off without hearing why they have that “offending” opinion. If that isn’t division, then what is??? I have liberals and conservatives in my family, and among my friends. If I alienated everyone who doesn’t think exactly like me, I’d be one lonely person! 😉

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Speaking of Microaggressions…

In my previous post, I talked about how the Left just loves to see maleficent intent in innocent mistakes and misunderstandings. How they see bigotry where only curiosity lies, or prejudice where there is merely ignorance and mistaken assumptions. How what was once formerly innocuous, or something that no one else would think to see or use in an offensive hurtful manner is now assumed to be a targeted attack. Nowadays, one cannot say nearly anything in fear of offending someone!

Also typical of the Left, however, is their ability to set the most hypocritical of double standards! While they claim legitimacy over the idea of a microaggression being harmful and far from trivial, they I argue now, create their own microaggressions against anyone they don’t like as well! See, two can play at the “microaggression” game 😉 The definition of a microaggression according to Psychology Today:

Microaggressions are the everyday verbal, nonverbal, and environmental slights, snubs, or insults, whether intentional or unintentional, which communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative messages to target persons based solely upon their marginalized group membership.

And guess what? I can list multiple examples from my own experiences, my family’s and also what is heard in the increasingly Leftist society that would fall under that definition in being hurtful, stereotyping, discriminatory, and marginalizing of conservatives and other quote “majority” identities that are said without anyone batting an eye! (And yes, all examples I cite were either personally witnessed, told to me by family and friends or seen in the media…) Now you tell me whether or not if the races and genders in my examples were reversed, they would be acceptable:

A professor in class apologizes to the class for all the white male scientists that existed throughout history versus more scientists of color and women… (To put this in perspective, imagine if it was an apology for all the Jewish scientists that existed!)

A close family member being told that he’s a man from quote, “that generation” (A.k.a, a baby boomer) in a contemptuous way and that he watched “too many John Wayne movies” to dismiss his opinions as an educator on protecting schools from shootings by arming security and teachers…

Numerous Lefties on social media assuming that I’m some Bible thumping fundie solely because I’m a conservative then trying to play the Jesus card on me, or their utter derision of anyone who is conservative out of genuine faith…

Similarly, Lefties assuming I must be anti-science because I’m a conservative who sees many Liberal agendas pushed as science, and their belief that Republicans are impervious to empirical data…

A professor tells the class that most people voted for Trump because they’re racist then spends the next 15 minutes, of every class period (in a class entirely unrelated to politics) berating Trump and his supporters…

A family friend who grew up in a broken home in poverty and worked hard to put all of his children through college and raise them in a middle class home with a stable family, only to be thanked by being told he’s unduly “privileged” due to nothing but his skin color by his own children…

A professor tells the class that white Republican men are the most dangerous terrorist group in the country…

Another family member of mine berating me over creating this blog and strongly implying that my opinions make me an inherently immoral person…

The numerous SNL and other skits played for laughs  such as this one, that don’t simply lampoon Trump as a political figure as any other has been throughout history, but make targeted personal attacks on the morality and character of everyone who decided to vote for him accusing them of the vilest forms of hatred…

Being told that being proud of your heritage and culture means you’re a white supremacist and bigoted against other cultures…

A male student in a class being told by the professor, that he is “part of the problem” and that he “threw all his female classmates under the bus” for standing up for due process for men who are accused, and challenging radical feminism…

A student in a US history class ranting about how the South has “always hindered progress” and promotes oppression and never embraces more egalitarian values to this day while several students in the class were known to be from Southern states…

Every “safe space” created to get away from white people, men, and conservatives and every literal white, male, conservative free zone…

A white professor asking a student of color, who is a first generation immigrant proud to have the opportunities this country offered, “What challenges living in America do you experience?” in a pointed and leading way (without asking about any benefits also) to in essence, ask “So, how have you been oppressed being a person of color in America?” Then have the student fumble around looking for a decent answer…

Now, on principle I reject the notion that microaggressions are something to be taken seriously, and believe treating them as such only leads to derisiveness and fragility. However, it is worth pointing out all the “little” slights and insults that marginalize us too are hurled by the Left in the most hypocritical fashion, as they decry exactly what they are doing to us, when applied to their own protected groups! So I spelled out some examples out of the many hundreds that are actually meant to sting and alienate that many don’t bat an eye at when hurled our way. Two can play at the Let Me Cry Microagression!© game after all 😉

So fellow patriots, did you have an experience of a “microaggression” similar to the ones I listed or a different one you want to share that happened to you? Please leave a comment! 🙂

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A PSA to The PC Crowd: Ignorance is Not Malevolence!

This observation came up for a while now in noting the various absurdities of the pro-political correctness crowd that in many cases, they seem to judge everything in a “one size fits all” sort of way. This is probably no surprise to many of my fellow conservatives, but I do want to expand on this particular aspect of it. Imagine a few scenarios if you will which I will proceed to describe:

A few students are gathered in the cafeteria for dinner at some college somewhere, and meet up with a few friends and acquaintances. Some of these friends also brought over their friend groups unknown to your group. To break the ice, one white student asks a student of color “Uh, so, where are you from?” The student of color answers “Oh, I’m from Upstate NY…”. The white student then prods further, “But, where are you from originally? Where are you really from?”

A guy goes out to a party on a Friday night with his buddies. They see a group of what looks to be girls wanting to look for a date to dance with and hang out with. One guy is nervous, and really doesn’t know what to say to start the conversation and absentmindedly blurts out “Hey, you’d look nice if you smile” to one girl staring off more absentmindedly. She gets angry and retorts “It’s not my job to smile for you!”

In a discussion about race, a participant says “I don’t see color, I treat everyone equally…” when asked how they would view a solution to stopping racism and racial bias.

A co-worker recently has come out that they are transitioning to be transgender. They tell everyone what pronoun to use and the new name they want to be called, but many at the office find it hard to remember either, and out of habit, refer to and accidentally address the person by their old name/pronouns. 

A white person called up on stage during a concert (This is based off a real event) to sing a rap song written and sung by a black performer included the “N”-word as it was in the lyrics of the song.

At the neighborhood picnic, a neighbor reveals he has Native American ancestry and someone asks “So, how Indian are you?”. 

All of the above examples are considered offensive and demeaning within the politically correct edicts. Reasons given for each scenario are asking where someone is from “others” that person and makes them feel like you don’t think they’re a legitimate American and like an exotic other. Asking a girl to smile is now considered sexist and a form of harassment, a sexist entitlement to make a woman conform to your needs vs. her own autonomy. The idea of being “colorblind”, the Left says, does not help not being racist, and in fact, now is racist as they believe it marginalizes the influence race plays in inequality. Not using the correct names and pronouns for a transgendered person de-legitimizes their choice to be transgender and live as their preferred gender. Non-black people are not allowed to use racial slurs, but black people are exempt as they are said to be “reclaiming” the slurs once used to oppress them. And in the last but certainly not the last example of what constitutes a PC faux pas, asking “How Indian are you?” is said to be ignorant and offensive as it implies they’re not a “real” Native American.

On the surface, these seem to be at least semi-believable explanations. They have been said over and over to the latest generation, including myself many times throughout school, media and society. However, looking deeper into each reveals the issues may not be so black and white in of themselves, but also the key factor: The intentions of the people who made such an “Un-PC” mistake.

Saying “Where are you from?” because someone looks a little different is not always, and in fact is most likely not a pointed slight to make someone feel like an outsider. The question in any other context is simply used as an ice breaker to start a conversation and get to know a person more. It’s really context dependent and also in your tone of voice. Saying it in a suspicious and accusatory way does indeed hint to a less friendly intention, however a neutral question said in curiosity is most likely meant that way. In the scenario, however, it is pushed further when the answer wasn’t what the person was going for. Even then, I argue, it doesn’t have to be a display of bigotry. Is it always prejudice if the person genuinely had curiosity as to what part of the world someone’s heritage came from, especially if they do look different than most others around? Yes, in that case the person being asked is sort of “the other”, but the point in asking what part of the world they are from ethnically is to make them less of an outsider, and to become more familiar with them. Racism and prejudice can stem from ignorance, but the key to combating ignorance is asking questions to gain knowledge! Most who ask such questions, while can appear insensitive, are merely just curious, not prejudicial and suspicious. Curiosity is NOT bigotry!

Asking a girl to smile I will say, is probably awkward in most cases depending how you phrase it and  if you’re talking to a stranger. However, labeling it as depriving women of their bodily autonomy and being male entitlement is going way off the deep end! Think of it: A young guy who is shy and awkward around girls might blurt out something that’s a bit awkward and not quite the ideal pick up line, but is that an expression of oppressing women? I’d argue the last thing any nervous guy approaching a girl to ask her out feels is “entitled”! Asking a girl to smile is nowhere near REAL harassment of women…

Saying “I don’t see color” while not the catch all solution to end all forms of racism and bias, had its heart in the right place. While not solving racism, it fosters the attitude to help combat it as it is said in the spirit of treating every person as equal in human worth and dignity, regardless of skin color. The idea skin color isn’t even a factor in how we should treat others. The world would indeed be a much kinder place if we didn’t obsess over each other’s phenotypes…

I have other reasons to sympathize with those who don’t want to legitimize just “choosing” to be another gender and calling it reality, but in the common scenario that the pronoun and name conflict comes up, the issue of common habit, not a pointed rejection is a valid explanation. See, if you knew “Bob” your coworker as Bob and referred to him as a “he/him” for the 20 years you worked at the company, it may be a harder transition to consistently remember to call him “Susie” and “she/her” overnight! Even if you’re perfectly okay with his/her choice, just the sheer habit of knowing him by one name and identity takes a lot of getting used to, and slip ups happen… If the pronouns are different such as the made up gender neutral ones, it’s like learning a new language!

If you get invited to sing a song at a concert, that contains a swear word, and you say said taboo word, is it your fault as if you chose to say it spontaneously? If it’s not your own word, you’re just quoting someone else’s choice to use it, and if it’s in the song the artist invites you to sing, then why omit it? The person in that scenario that said the racial slur was NOT saying it to disparage anyone, nor was her own choice of words, but the lyrics to a popular rap sing she was INVITED to sing! Racism never even entered the picture other than she was white and singing along to a song written by a black artist. In this case, context means everything…

And in my last example, it’s related to the first one: Curiosity. No one is prodding to do detective work into if someone is a “real” Indian, or anyone else (Unless you’re running for political office capitalizing on that status 😉 )! People can be genuinely and innocently curious about things, and it means no more than that. Asking how Indian someone is is simply about curiosity, and many wouldn’t even think it would be offensive to ask any more than asking how much German or Italian ancestry someone had. Does anyone of mixed ethnic European ancestry feel invalidated and feel less German or less French or English for instance if someone asks how much ancestry they have of those respective countries?

And tying all these various examples of some “microaggressions” as the Left calls them together, the common theme is the “perpetrators” are either merely curious, or ignorant that it is coming off as offensive or insensitive. No one in all scenarios presented had deliberate intent to oppress, marginalize, invalidate and belittle anyone! Yes, pointed and snide comments can happen, and are meant to be offensive, and I advocate for everyone to stand their ground if insulted so. However, before making that comeback to shut them up, think first on the intention of that off color remark or seemingly insensitive comment or question. Did they mean to hurt or belittle you, or were they simply curious or ignorant of how it came off to your ears? Most, if told they offended would feel mortified and apologize right away! Let me emphasize this again: Curiosity is not bigotry. Ignorance is not prejudice. The vast majority of microaggressions are merely mistakes and misunderstandings, not targeted insults. The elder who uses that outdated word is just saying what was acceptable in their generation without malice. The kids dressed up as Indians aren’t thinking “Hey, isn’t it fun to marginalize Native Americans?” The nervous guy just blurted something awkward out and is embarrassed, not entitled! Ignorantly assuming something off a common stereotype betrays lack of knowledge and familiarity, not lack of acceptance and kindness.

Yes, I also realize damage can be done even with good intentions. However, intentions do matter. Breaking the prized vase does damage regardless if you pushed it on purpose or by being knowingly reckless, or simply bumped into it and it fell. However, one is judged to be an accident, and one a deliberate act or one you are culpable for neglecting to be careful of such an event. How is that done? By the intention of the person who did it! Why isn’t it the same for all these PC grievances too? A person may feel “othered” by a comment or question regardless of original intent, but in terms of judging the one who said it, one should consider did they mean any harm and did they know it would offend? Unfortunately, the politically correct crowd only sees everything as a one size fits all issue of perpetual offense and demonizing those who unwittingly commit the dreaded microaggression… Well, all I have to say to them is just wait until it’s YOU on the other end of the accusation… How will YOU want to be judged? 😉

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The Social Justice Glossary ;)

The radical liberals have come up with quite the glossary of SJW jargon, and for those who haven’t been immersed in the environment of their newspeak, some terms may be unclear or confusing! Therefore, I compiled this handy glossary to further decode their ever changing, inconsistent and hypocritical agenda! Of course, if you have more items I missed, please comment them below for all to see! 😉

A

Ad-Hominem (ad-ˈhä-mə-ˌnem) noun 1. A strategy to shut up the opposition by attacking their character, 2. What conservatives deserve anyways, 3. When you have no other arguments backed up with facts or evidence…

Affirmative Action (ə-ˈfər-mə-tiv ˈak-shən) noun 1. A way to virtue signal how enlightened we are by imposing artificial diversity for race, gender, etc… over merit based acceptance into jobs and schools and higher positions in either.

B

Bigot (ˈbiɡət) noun 1. A person who disagrees with the Left, 2. Someone who is intolerant of the Left’s agenda.

Bias (ˈbī-əs ) noun 1. Pointing out facts that do not suit the Left’s given narrative, 2. What Conservatives always have according to the Left…

C

Censorship (ˈsen(t)-sər-ˌship) noun 1. A strategy to shut up and silence the opponent and their ideas from getting out, especially before an election 😉

Christianity (kris-chē-ˈa-nə-tē) noun 1. The religion of Bible thumping fundies who are racist, sexist, homophobic etc.. etc…

Conservative (kən-ˈsər-və-tiv) noun 1. A racist, fascist, homophobe, bigot, Nazi etc…etc… 2. Someone to be shouted down, harassed and ostracized

(The) Constitution (kän(t)-stə-ˈtü-shən) noun 1. The document spelling out the “law of the land” for the United States, 2. The document the Left likes to disregard in favor of social justice agendas…

Cultural Appropriation (ˈkəlch-rəl  ə-ˌprō-prē-ˈā-shən) noun  1. Anything White people borrow from other cultures because of their imperialist, fascist, racist etc… nature by virtue of being white and being blamed for colonialism from generations past…

D

Deplorable (di-ˈplȯr-ə-bəl) noun 1. A Trump Supporter, 2. Any Conservative because they’re a bigot!!!

Discrimination (dis-ˌkri-mə-ˈnā-shən) noun 1. Treating a person or group unfairly and in a biased manner; can only be applied to whom the Left chooses…

Diversity (də-ˈvər-sə-tē) noun 1. What must be artificially imposed to gain enlightenment points and virtue signal how “woke” one is…

Due Process (ˈdü ˈprä-ˌses) noun 1. See “evidence“…

E

Entitlements (in-ˈtī-tᵊl-mənts) noun 1. Special treatment the Left demands for its members or else go into a righteous meltdown…

Evidence (ˈe-və-dən(t)s) noun 1. A foreign concept to the Left…

Evil (ˈē-vəl) noun 1. Anything at all the Left opposes…

F

Fact (ˈfakt) noun 1. A true statement; inconsequential when it doesn’t fit the Leftist narrative…

Fascist (ˈfa-​shist) noun 1. A person who supports Conservatism, 2. An insult to shut up your opponent

Feelings (ˈfē-liŋs) noun 1. Goes in place of evidence during any debate or policy change, 2. Held sacred above all else and cannot be hurt under pain of microaggression and triggering…

Feminism (ˈfe-mə-ˌni-zəm) noun 1. A movement to crush the “patriarchy”, 2. Women rule, men drool…

G

Gender (ˈjen-dər) noun 1. A social construct that oppresses women and non-binary/gender nonconforming people, 2. A product of the patriarchy!!!

Guilt Trip (ˈgilt ˈtrip) noun 1. A tactic to make the opponent feel guilty over wrongs they have not actually done; used often to demand reparations….

Gun (ˈgən) noun 1. A weapon that can kill and cause mass casualties, so therefore must be banned for all the good guys so criminals can still steal and use them to commit crimes and shooting sprees unimpeded, 2. The shape of which anything completely unrelated to guns causes panic and suspensions, expulsions, and psychological evaluations in public schools…

H

Hatred (ˈhā-trəd) noun 1. Supporting or believing in anything the Left disapproves of…

Hillary Clinton noun 1. A big Leftist idol, 2. Triggered a meltdown when she did not get in office in 2016…

Homophobe (ˈhō-mə-ˌfōb) noun 1. Anyone who criticizes the Gay community or LGBTQ communities contrary to what the Left pushes, 2. Religious conservatives by default…

Hypocrisy (hi-ˈpä-krə-sē) noun 1. What the Left accuses everyone else of but themselves despite having the most double standards…

I

Impeach (im-ˈpēch) verb 1. To get rid of the president (aka. Donald Trump) from the office of the presidency 2. What needs to be done to Trump…

Inconsequential (in-ˌkän(t)-sə-ˈkwen(t)-shəl) adjective 1. Whatever is deemed contradictory to “The Narrative”…

Islam (is-ˈläm) noun 1. The “religion of peace” 2. Who helps fund the Left’s agenda and gains votes for the Left…

Islamophobe (is-​ˈlä-​mə-​ˌfōb) noun 1. Anyone who dares criticize or scrutinize Islam…

Innocence (ˈi-nə-sən(t)s ) noun 1. Not being guilty; to be determined by popular opinion by the Left…

J

Justice Kavanaugh noun 1. A high school gang rapist and sexist misogynist, anti woman hating patriarchal MAN!  2. “We do not consent!!!”….

K

Kneel (ˈnēl) verb 1. To get on one knee to protest for the Black Lives Matter movement especially at sporting events during the National Anthem by slighting the military and first responders who served the country…

L

 (The) Left, (‘left) noun 1. The political ideology of everything on this list… 2. The party of “righteousness” and “tolerance”

LGBTQ noun or adjective 1. The lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or queer movements lumped into one umbrella term which will NOT be questioned or criticized in any way lest you be called a “homophobe”, “transphobe” etc… 2. A modifier describing the agendas of said groups…

Logic (ˈlä-jik) noun 1. See “evidence“….

M

Man (ˈman) noun 1. The supreme oppressor of women; especially if old and white, 2. A sexist term used to describe both men and women together, but omits “women” triggering radical feminists…

Mansplain (ˈmanˈsplān) verb 1. To express one’s opinion as a man; specifically on women’s issues that radical feminists deem off limits for men to have an opinion about…

MeToo (ˈmē ˈtü) noun 1. A movement meant to enable women to accuse men without evidence or due process in matters of sexual assault allegations to virtue signal how un-sexist one is and to encourage men to take the blame for acts they never actually did…

Microaggression (mī-krō-ə-ˈgre-shən) noun 1. Anything that offends based on the Left’s protected groups, 2. A devastating insult that originally was meant to be harmless

Minority (mə-ˈnȯr-ə-tē) noun 1. Any group the Left deems to be marginalized and victimized by straight, white men….

Multiculturalism (məl-tē-ˈkəlch-rəli-​zəm) noun 1. The agenda to accept any culture’s values, regardless if they clash, undermine, or seek to overthrow our own culture and its values…

N

National Rifle Association noun 1. “Baby killers” and child murderers according to the Left due to their gun rights and 2nd amendment advocacy…

Nazi (‘nät-sē) noun 1. What to call a Conservative to get them to shut up when you have no sound arguments…

Non-Binary (ˈnən ˈbī-nə-rē) adjective 1. Describing the feeling of not belonging to either gender, but switching between them or not having any at will…

N-Word noun 1. A highly offensive derogatory word towards black people, but used by black people constantly in vernacular speech and rap music however is forbidden to any other group to use it by the Left…

O

Obama noun 1. The best president ever according to the Left, 2. The Left’s supreme idol…

Open Borders (ō-pən ˈbȯr-dərs) noun 1. Everyone can come unto America no matter how many or any history of criminal behavior, violence or ability to earn a living, 2. Abolish ICE!!!

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Patriarchy (ˈpā-trē-ˌär-kē) noun 1. The society made by men, especially old white men oppressing women…

Participation Trophy (pär-ˌti-sə-ˈpā-shən ˈtrō-fē) noun 1. A prize or reward given out to all despite differing levels of merit to earn such an award due to potential hurt feelings instead of actual merit deserving of the honor itself…

Political correctness (pə-ˈli-ti-kəl kə-​ˈrek(t)-​nəs) noun 1. Any phrase, word, or idea the Left approves of…

Protest (ˈprō-ˌtest) verb 1. Whine, scream, make silly slogans and signs, impede others from getting where they need to go, climb monuments, make vagina costumes, etc… until you get your way, 2. Make threats if that doesn’t work…

Public School (ˈpə-blik ˈskül) noun 1. Leftist indoctrination factory for the next generation…

Pussy Hat (ˈpu̇-sēˈhat) noun 1. A pink knitted hat use to show resistance to “the patriarchy”…

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Question (ˈkwes-chən) noun 1. A thought that must not be thought of, 2. Something that will not be answered in a logical and rational manner, 3. Invites ad-hominem attacks if asked…

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Racist (ˈrā-​sist) noun or adjective 1. someone who dares to criticize the Left’s special interest minority groups, 2. Anything that is against the Left’s narrative about minority racial groups

Refugee (ˌre-fyu̇-ˈjē) noun 1. Any person coming into the US that the Left takes pity on and disregards any safety concerns or impact on US citizens over, 2. A term often used to evoke emotions of pity by the Left to describe legitimate threats entering the US but will further the Left’s agenda…

Reparations (re-pə-ˈrā-shəns) noun 1. Rewards, often money given by the Left to groups they deem worthy of victimhood for injustices years, often decades or even centuries in the past; often by the descendants or wider group that had no connection to any historical injustice…

Resist (ri-ˈzist) verb 1. To fight against Trump, Conservative values and sound reasoning that doesn’t support “The Narrative”

Reverse-Discrimination (ri-ˈvərs dis-ˌkri-mə-ˈnā-shən) noun 1. The Left’s version of racism and sexism towards white people and men to atone for traditional racism and sexism to “even the score”…

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Snowflake (ˈsnō-ˌflāk) noun 1. A person who seeks entitlements, gets offended over every minor thing, and breaks down at the slightest challenge and demands participation trophies; often on the Left….

Socialism (ˈsō-shə-ˌli-zəm) noun 1. The Left’s ideal society and government 2.The only way forward from Trump’s fascism…

Social Justice Warrior (ˈsō-shəl ˈjə-stəs ˈwȯr-yər) noun 1. A righteous virtue signaler and a TRUE veteran (unlike those who have actually seen real combat)…

Soros noun 1. The Left’s “sugar daddy” behind many Leftist movements…

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Tolerance (ˈtä-lə-rən(t)s) noun 1. To promote the agendas of your special interest groups, but ignore others, 2. A buzzword to throw out whenever anyone offers a critique of any of your chosen groups, 3. To turn a blind eye to issues within those groups affecting others.

Toxic Masculinity (ˈtäk-sik mas-​kyə-​ˈli-​nə-​tē) noun 1. The Left’s distortion of normal masculine qualities as being detrimental and sexist…

Transgender (tran(t)s-ˈjen-dər) adjective 1. A person who decided to identify as the opposite of their biological sex, 2. Anyone who says they are 😉

Transphobia, Transphobic (tran(t)s-ˈfō-bē-ə) noun or adjective  1. What to call valid concerns over transgender policies affection others, 2. What to say if anyone questions the transgender narrative or brings up biological evidence…

Trigger, Triggered (ˈtri-gər) verb 1. To offend and make one paralyzed with trauma mentally, emotionally etc…

Trigger Warning (ˈtri-gər ˈwȯr-niŋ) noun 1. A heads up that ideas you don’t like or will offend you will be discussed so you can A. avoid it or B. censor it for everyone else…

Trump noun 1. IMPEACH!!! IMPEACH!!!….

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Uncle Tom noun 1. Any person in the black community who doesn’t subscribe to the welfare state and wants a better future through education and hard work according to the Leftist black community…

Understanding (ən-dər-ˈstan-diŋ) noun 1. What the Left demands of everyone else towards their special interest groups and their ideology without extending it towards their opponents’ positions and reasoning…

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Victimhood (ˈvik-təmˈhu̇d) noun 1. The ideal state of a group to gain reparations, compensation and the right to complain and whine for past or imagined injustices by the Left to certain groups they deem worthy…

Virtue Signal (ˈvər-(ˌ)chü ˈsig-nᵊl) verb 1. To convey how much of a loyal Lefty you are and how “woke” you are through insincere and superficial platitudes, actions and slogans.

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Welfare State (ˈwel-ˌfer ˈstāt) noun 1. A social system where a select group gets to live off of others’ earnings and never find a job for themselves from cradle to grave and through multiple generations, 2. What the Left does to gain more of a voting base from certain communities…

Western Culture (ˈwe-stərn ˈkəl-chər) noun 1. The imperialist oppressor of our select minority groups, 2. A culture who is built on white supremacy, heteronormative standards and the patriarchy!!!

White Fragility (ˈhwīt frə-​ˈji-​lə-​tē) noun 1. White people having the audacity to be offended by being constantly shamed and blamed for historical injustices in the present they took no part in whatsoever…

White Supremacy (ˈwīt sə-ˈpre-mə-sē) noun 1. The idea of racial pride for those of European decent, “White” or “Caucasian”, 2. Whatever the Left deems to be prejudicial against their protected groups by people in such categories…

Woke (ˈwōk) adjective or verb 1. Describing a person who subscribes to the Left’s agendas and virtue signals them faithfully, 2. To actively take part in such an agenda, 3. To be in the state of being “woke”…

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Xenophobe (ˈze-nə-ˌfōb) noun 1. A person who criticizes the Left’s immigration narrative, also used frequently with “racist”, and “Nazi”.

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Ye (formerly Kayne West) noun 1. A rap singer who became conservative, greatly angering the Left, 2. An “Uncle Tom” for resisting the Left’s foot hold on the black community

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I got too triggered making this list to go any further 😉 😉 😉 ….

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My Womanhood is NOT Your Costume…

Transgenderism is a hot and contentious topic for the Left, with many angles at play! The part I want to focus on in all this lunacy though, is on the premise the Left has put out in that since gender is a mere social construct, it justifies the legitimacy of recognizing transgender people, especially women, as being entitled to be treated as if they were actual biological women (or men, but I’ll focus on women for the scope of this article)! Their argument is that gender is a social construct, something society raises you to be, rather than an innate quality. They further add the confusion that the undeniable biological aspect is now written off as its own separate thing as one’s “sex”, but “gender” is the purely social aspect, such as wearing certain clothing, or liking certain things over others. In essence, it really comes down to a nature vs. nurture debate, and how fluid these concepts really are.

Now, I will say up front, I don’t think that many people who label themselves transgender are being insincere or that they just want to be say, a woman on a superficial whim. I think many truly do feel they were born in the wrong body, and have sympathy for how much that must hurt and how utterly confusing that must be. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone! However, society deciding that this is normal for a person to feel about themselves is absurd, not just a normal biological variation! I also argue that the idea of “gender as a social construct” brings with it many detrimental and frankly insulting implications that many take for granted and completely overlook!

First off though, what are we really saying when we say that? It’s not just a neutral statement of a proposed fact. No! It’s the logical flaw that by implying it’s not a natural trait, and it’s not innate, it doesn’t matter at all. The real idea behind this is that gender should be obsolete, and because it’s not something we consider natural anymore, it’s completely outdated and irrelevant! What we really mean by “gender is a social construct” is that “gender is something artificially imposed and needs to be gotten rid of”.  That statement is loaded, and carries a very heavy value judgement! If it were natural, in Left’s mind, they couldn’t undermine and de-legitimize it as easily..

But, you know what also is a “social construct”? Race! That’s right, the Left now says race too is not grounded in biology, but in society’s whims! However, can we be trans-racial??? Heck no! Just ask that woman who was ousted for being biologically white, but identified as black! If a white person tries to do so, they are automatically being racist, and appropriating someone’s race! One may argue, “but racial differences are very obvious, so you’d know someone cannot be another race…” but don’t men and women look different? And not just clothes, make up and hair! Men grow beards, women don’t. Men’s bodies are bigger, stockier, stronger, differently shaped. Not to mention what’s down below! 😉 Humans after all, are a sexually dimorphic species! The argument against racial appropriation by the Left, that especially if white, you can’t just wear say, a black person’s styles, appropriate their music, their traditions, their food, their heritage and claim you’re one of them, is based on the idea that you haven’t been through their struggles. You want the “fun” aspects of being them, but you haven’t faced their hardships. Haven’t faced their struggles, their obstacles, and to add insult to injury, you’re part of why they have those struggles. Yet, you want to claim their unique heritage as your own??? The nerve!

Well, guess what? This should apply to gender too! If what the Left says is true, about women being disadvantaged, then what gives a man the right to appropriate what belongs to women? If women are living in fear of being assaulted by men, raped by men, paid less than men, devalued as lesser, then why on Earth should a man get to appropriate their unique heritage, in other words, as women? If it is true, as many Leftists believe, that men have male privilege, just like whites have white privilege, then isn’t it privilege to be able to just pick and choose to express one’s self as the female gender but have the option of going back to being a man when convenient? It’s just like a white person wearing blackface! They can take off the color at the end of the day. A person of color has to live with it, and the stigma it allegedly brings. Well same for gender! A guy can take off the dress, the heels, the make up, shave his head again. A woman, however, cannot just transform into a man and all her troubles will go away! She cannot take off her “costume” so she won’t be assaulted, raped, paid less, devalued. She has to live with the struggles too, not just the perks. The man in the dress can punch the attacker, throw off the rapist, while she is helpless to throw off someone twice her strength! Even if he decides to never live as a man again, he still can get the upper hand with his physically stronger body! Also, in line with the Left’s concept of privilege, isn’t it a form of privilege to be able to just throw away your privilege??? A man choosing to be a woman gives up his “male privilege” and swapping it for vulnerability and scorn. However, as “oppressed” as he then makes himself, he chose to take on that. A real woman didn’t. She was born with the fact she would have far greater chances of being assaulted, raped, devalued. She does not have the luxury to throw away privilege wantonly, nor gain it by becoming a man!

No. It’s NOT a two way street. Transgender men are not just “one of the guys”. They do not have extra “privilege”. However, a transgender woman now must be treated as a full woman by Leftist decree! Even if he genuinely feels like he wants to live his life as a woman and never go back, he can. That’s the thing. And that he had the choice to give up his “privilege” of being a man in the Left’s allegedly “patriarchal” society. Real women never have those luxuries. Just like a white person can impersonate, and maybe even genuinely feel like a black person, but has the choice to go back to being white and on top, to take off the “costume”. If a guy wanting to be a girl wants to wear the pretty dresses, the heels, curl his hair, go to the girl’s nights as one of the girls, hang at the mall, do all the fun things women like to do, he should also have had to face her struggles. To be afraid to walk alone at night. To carry pepper spray. To know the fear of being harassed on the street. To be held back on the job. Underestimated, viewed as weak, a victim. Why should someone get to reap in the rewards, without having to go through the struggles? Do I believe the world is really so bleak for women? Not as much as the Left certainly does! But by the Left’s own logic and views on women being oppressed, this is a logical argument…

Also, and less obvious, is a quite insulting implication inherent in this argument: That womanhood, as a social construct, is merely just a superficial costume that anyone can put on… The idea that all womanhood really is, is putting on a dress and heels and make up, styling your hair, and doing “girly things”. As long as you do those, you’re a woman! However, I and many other women would disagree! There’s so much more than superficial looks or going through the motions involved in the intangible parts of womanhood.  The sisterhood all women share together in their deep experiences, and very natures runs far deeper than our make up, our heels, or dresses and hair. Liking shopping and fashion and traditional womanly things is not all there is to our very essence, our unique humanity as women. See, also like one’s race, one’s sex does indeed affect how you perceive the world, and how the world perceives you. Women do not have the same upbringing, the same experiences as men, not because there’s a mass conspiracy that half of humanity wants to oppress us, but because of the simple fact we are NOT men!

Our trillion or so cells speak the plain and simple truth: we are different in our very core. Study after study shows girls consistently play in a more nurturing way than boys. We evolved to nurture, to be more gentle, to be social. We evolved to be the child bearers, and experience the wonders of motherhood, which no man will ever experience. Even the Left acknowledges this in its anti-man “you can never have an opinion on women’s issues because you aren’t a woman!”. See? Even they know, deep down men and women are innately different! That our experiences differ. Our challenges differ. Our womanhood runs far deeper than any costume, any “social construct”, yet, the Left argues implicitly in the idea that a man can put on a dress, heels, inject some hormones, that he can be a woman through superficial behaviors alone, that womanhood is just an actor’s role to play and our feminine style a mere “costume” that can be taken on and off. Oh, and by the way, doesn’t the use of hormones help point to our biological differences too??? 😉  One can’t say hormones our bodies we’re genetically programmed to release upon puberty that make us different are a “social construct”!

Ladies, we are NOT just a costume that anyone can just put on and pretend to be! Our womanhood, our shared experiences, our challenges, the deep bond rooted in womanhood we share with our mothers from day 1 cannot be replicated in someone who is biologically, and socially, raised as a man! Even those who were raised to be men from infancy, but were biological women always felt “different” and not like just another “guy”… Same for girls who were guys inside… To say that womanhood is something anyone can be on a whim, on a feeling, is gravely belittling and insulting to women everywhere! It’s like a woman saying she can just experience every aspect of manhood, without his struggles, his upbringing, his innate nature.

Yes, I know people literally feel they were born in the wrong body, a woman’s soul/mind in a man’s body, but if you were raised as a man, are biologically a man, then no you can’t truly feel like a true woman, know what it is to be one, anymore than one can truly, intrinsically perceive the world like someone who’s a native speaker of a language can versus someone who happens to speak it fluently but was not raised from day 1, in the culture of the speaker! Yes, you can learn a language quite well, but you can never truly perceive the world and be a native speaker within their cultural matrix and have their exact perception of the world though their native tongue. That’s my analogy for experiencing the opposite sex’s world… You can play the part well, but you cannot truly be the real deal unless you are!

Look, I don’t demonize transgender people for wanting to be the other sex. What I do heavily criticize though, is the idea that they can be the exact same, and be entitled to the exact same treatment as a real woman in this case, because they never truly can be. And they know that themselves! Indeed! No matter how much they “transition”, they know in their heart of hearts they are not a woman in the same way as real biological women! They can come mighty close, even look like a woman, sound like one, like in the case of Jazz Jennings, maybe you can’t even tell just by looking. But do you honestly feel “women” like “her” truly, honestly, and 100% believe they are indeed women in every single sense of the word??? I’m not out to say she needs to switch back, or she’s out to hurt anyone personally. She’s probably just trying to genuinely live out “her” life as a woman.

However, she and the others set a precedent where society devalues our essence, our very humanity as women that only a real, biological woman can ever truly know. The inherent sexism in the idea that men can just be women upon their choice devalues our womanhood into a superficial acting job! If a person’s race is not your costume, a person’s culture is not your costume, why should a person’s gender or sex be someone else’s to appropriate? This is heresy for the Left to say, but I will say it loud and clear guys, : My womanhood is NOT your costume! 

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An Open Letter to The Every Day Liberal…

*The original term used to address the Left wasn’t as neutral as I wanted it to be for the tone of my letter, so I changed it. Thanks Doug in the comments and a few fellow conservative followers for pointing that out. (Yes, I will admit to and fix what I believe to be my mistakes…) In the spirit of what I’m trying to say, I hope this edit helps a bit. Mea culpa 😉 If you are reading it for the first time, never mind…

Dear every day Liberal,

Yes you. The average Joe or Jane on the street. My fellow classmates, co-workers, professors, friends, family members. The ones I eat lunch with, work with on projects, hang out after work with, are at my dinner table during the holidays, at my birthday party, who taught me new things in class and who I shared ideas with outside of class. This isn’t addressed to the corrupt hypocritical Lefty politicians in Washington, or Soros, or the multitude of the insane Lefties on the news every night. This isn’t addressed to you, Obama, or Clinton, or Warren, or Cortez or any of the other nutcases! This is addressed to the average guy and girl I see everyday on the street, and are a part of my life:

You’re quite a paradox in my mind. The Left is the party of much intolerance and hypocrisy. Black and white thinking, doing what feels good over what is good, living in “your reality” versus the reality. Crying #MeToo wearing pussy hats, or climbing statues in protest. Hating the guns or the walls which protect us, and the country and culture that made us so great, and the dream of the world. Denying the reality of a generation of broken homes, or applauding promiscuity while denigrating marriage. Attacking a man who provides and protects the weak, calling it “toxic” while saying you’re against sexism while telling women they have to be like men to be worth anything as a human being. Demanding the world owes you handouts for victimization done generations ago, to dictating what words we can use in case we offend someone. And so on and so on…

That said, many of my Liberal peers and professors have been truly kind and accepting people in real life. Far from the raging protester at the rallies on the news, they’ve been the ones to say “hi” to me and let me hang out with them. You’re the one who sat with me at lunch that day in high school when you saw me alone and built a friendship with me. You’re the one who comforted me when I went through some personal troubles. You’re the one who lets me take pictures with you and your friend group at events. You’re the one I could talk to after class on a multitude of academic topics, and appreciated my insights in the classroom. You’re the one that “got” that reference I hinted at in a joke because like me, you know the science or history I was referring to. You’re the one who listened at least partially with an open mind to my challenge of your view in class. You’re the one at the table during the holidays, or the one who spends time with me, as your niece, cousin, grandchild, and such, and loves me unconditionally as family. You’re genuinely a kind, loving person who can make an awesome loyal friend, wonderful teacher or devoted family member.

However, you still believe, at least moderately, in the #MeToo movement, social justice, reparations for victimhood, the idea that white privilege is a thing, guns are bad, walls are bad, our president is a racist, sexist, and should be impeached, illegals are our responsibility to look after, “acceptance” means no criticism or critique of any group (unless of course, they’re conservative), manhood is “toxic”, and to believe in “your truth”. So, how can what seemingly sounds like a Jekyll and Hyde situation be compatible in one person? Seemingly intolerant and radical on one hand, yet a good friend, kind person, good professor or loving family member on the other? I think I found one possible answer:

You are on the Left because of your kindness… Now, with all the before mentioned, how on Earth is that possible, when the Left so far has been far from kind! Thing is, I think you see your Left leaning views as an extension of your kindness. I know you to be a kind, genuinely accepting person. Someone who wants to treat everyone according to the Golden Rule. Who doesn’t want to be an exclusionary bully. Make people feel bad. Turn people in need away. Who is selfless and gives yourself to others at every opportunity. And most importantly, have been taught for years the Left is the party of kindness, tolerance, acceptance and open mindedness. To you, the Left is the way forward out of the dark days of racism, sexism and discrimination. You’re not the politicians in Washington who know they’re gaming the system and are being selfish, or the true radicalized Lefty with a genuine hatred for anyone except people like you. You earnestly feel most likely, that the Left’s politicians are making true change for the better. You’re just an average person, trying to do the right thing, and the Left has told you if you’re a kind accepting person, they’re the party for you!

Trouble is, despite this, I’m still afraid if you knew I was conservative you’d shun me. No, you don’t know my politics in real life. I deliberately stay away from talking about it openly in fear of ostracism and discrimination. Now, I know my readers are thinking, “Well some friends! They’re not so tolerant after all!” But hold on a moment! Consider why some might react so strongly. It may not be due to their conscious desire to discriminate, but because they were taught from day 1 conservatives stand for everything that they don’t like and are the bullies, and who wants to be friends with a nasty old bully? Certainly not me! No one wants to be friends with someone they feel is bigoted, intolerant, closed minded and makes others feel bad! I sure wouldn’t if I thought that about someone. In fact, most kind people would shun that person out of their values of kindness!

Thing is, I and other conservatives are not the “bullies” the Left programmed you to believe! Like you, the average conservative is just a plain old person, who is as kind as you are. We want equality for all too, just not special treatment. We want to solve society’s issues and fight for what’s fair and just, but we want to follow the facts, even if unflattering or undesirable. We are proud of our country and our culture, but not deluded by it. We want to give you the voice that was once stolen from you, but also keep ours too without being accused of silencing you yet again. We treat everyone who comes in our doors and in our country with the respect and dignity entitled to human beings. We will fight by your side for any denied rights, but we don’t want to take responsibility for justices we never personally committed against you either. We value both men and women, but understand equal does not have to mean identical. We joke around, sometimes off color jokes too, and don’t say “PC” words, but that doesn’t mean we truly believe in hurtful messages and would feel awful if we truly hurt someone we cared about. We want to help others less fortunate with our kindness, but we also want to determine who is worthy of such kindness, and our limited resources. Yes, some people do mistake kindness for weakness and will take advantage! If you give kindness, you should also get kindness back.

We too will be your friends, co-workers, teachers, loving family members, and include you too. Think of it: If I were so “intolerant” as you might think if you were to know my true political opinions, why would I still hang out with you? Be your friend? Or enjoy your knowledge and what you can teach me in class instead of dismissing you as a “snowflake” with nothing to offer me academically? Or why would I be open to bonding with you when you come to visit during family gatherings if I truly were the “bully” the Left brainwashed you to believe!

Instead of only seeing our political affiliations when we hang out the next time, why don’t we see each other as multi dimensional people and our politics only one side of our many sides? Let’s do some artwork together, or study together, or look at fashion. Let’s go to the mall and shop, or grab dinner after class. Let’s talk about our goals and dreams. Maybe even our ideas about the world and society with open minds to our differences as well as our agreements. Maybe one day, we can have a hearty debate then shake hands after 🙂 I hope one day I can come out of my own “conservative closet” and you’d give me the same open mindedness and acceptance you give others. One day, I hope you see me as the nuanced multidimensional person I am, just as I am trying harder to see you as too. We have our politics, but they don’t define all we are as people. I don’t want to be a puppet on a string, or a sheeple for some higher ups pushing an agenda telling me to revile those who think differently than I, do you? So dear every day Liberals, let’s forget the labels and just be friends.

Signed,

—A Lady of Reason, and fellow human being…

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Saving Yourself for Marriage: It’s Not Just for the Ladies…

I advocate for waiting until marriage to have sex and practicing abstinence as it is about the only 100% effective birth control 😉 The dangers of promiscuity are rife, and include STD’s unwanted pregnancies and not to mention, a damaged reputation! Sleeping around has real and lasting consequences. It’s not just theoretical fluff made to scare you in middle school health class! From seedy people, to getting into a mess of who gave whom that nasty rash, to “who’s its daddy?”, the dangers of promiscuous sex are rife! It makes sense that sex has been linked to morality throughout history, as the consequences are steep if not done carefully and with great consideration of who you choose and when you choose to. However, a large criticism of the topic of the heavy risks of promiscuity is that it’s mainly, unfairly that is, geared towards women but not men. The feminists say that men get a free pass often times, and can be “players” and use promiscuity as a status symbol, while women are expected to reign in her sexuality and not be promiscuous like men can. While there is truth in this allegation, I argued before that women should be more guarded and cautious about their sexual appetite as women do in fact, have a lot more to lose such as an unwanted pregnancy! Never the less, my main point now is, it’s not just the ladies who need to be careful and avoid promiscuity!

Yes, men face less risks that women do in regards to unbridled sex. Less stigma, danger of meeting the wrong people who could hurt them, and no unwanted pregnancy! However guys, the coin has two sides 😉 You can get a girl pregnant and have to pay child support for the next 18 years! She can say you’re the dad and smear your reputation along with hers. You may avoid being raped forcibly or beaten up by a bad guy, but beware the wrath of an angry father who thinks you corrupted “his little girl”! STD’s don’t discriminate between sexes at all. She has it, you got it! Being a “player” may sound cool to your buddies, but no respectable girl worthy of a stable marriage and family life will want to marry a guy who plays around! To get a lady, you must be a gentleman. Players attract cheap girls who will do it with anyone, not suitable wives and mothers of your future children! The “fun gal” wears off by the next morning. Better to wait for your forever wife 🙂

If none of this persuades you, consider the immense legal risks of playing the field with every girl you see! Let’s say you’re in college… You go to a party, want to have a little fun tonight, meet some hot girls. Ooh! That girl across the room is a 10! Your buddies encourage you to make a move. She likes you, and pretty soon, we all know where this is going next… Fast forward to the next morning. She’s gone. You get an angry text from your parents. What’s going on? Turns out her parents contacted yours and threatened to press charges in court for statutory rape! What??? But how? She basically jumped on me! Turns out she wasn’t 18 yet. She was the 16 year old sister on the college tour staying for the weekend with her older sister in college. But, she looks like she’s 20! She didn’t act like she was only 16 years old… She sounded like a fellow college girl! But here you are, facing potential charges in court for statutory rape because her daddy thinks you corrupted his “sweet 16” naive, innocent little angel!

Yes guys, this scenario plays out all the time! You could be the guy who would never dream of taking advantage of an underage girl, but easily mistake a well developed and mature sounding 16 year old for an 18 year old! I mean, honestly, let’s all take off our PC hats and say it out right: 16 and 18 are NOT that different! Two years. That’s all it can be between consensual sex and a criminal act with the law set at that arbitrary number. Even 17 a few months shy of 18 is still considered a minor, incapable of consent! And yes, girls do lie…. Take this example! Is this fair? Not really when you think of it. Are honest, moral guys just looking for a good time with an appropriately aged consenting partner supposed to demand ID now? How can you ever be 100% sure that young lady is of age or that other girl isn’t! Looks CAN be deceiving. I personally looked younger than my real age, so a guy could have passed me up at 18 but taken the other 16 year old who looked like she was 20! (Thankfully, I was raised to be wiser than to ever be in such a scenario!)

The only 100% “safe” solution is to A: Never choose young looking women as sex partners and only stick to those over 30… (Yes, many older teenagers, 16,17, even 15 in some cases look like they’re in their 20’s) or B: Don’t be a player and want to score every girl you don’t even know and only choose a well known intimate partner who has no secrets from you, a.k.a. a girlfriend or preferably wife! If you play around, it can be like Russian roulette, not only for unwanted pregnancies you have to pay for, angry fathers, STD’s, and decent women not wanting to come within a mile of you, but you could end up in jail, and on a sex offender registry. Trust me. That will ruin your life. Period! NO ONE wants to live near or hire an alleged “sex offender”! Oh, and last point on this topic, even with a steady girlfriend it can be statutory rape!  It happened to a 19 year old who dated a girl only 2 or 3 years younger! Wait until you meet a girl, get to know her and tie the knot!

And another major point and for men of every age! #MeToo hysteria. If you sleep around, it may haunt you even decades later if the girl wants to get back at you for something, be famous, get money or some other gain. Just look at Kavanaugh! He probably didn’t even have sex, but that didn’t stop Christine Ford from smearing him for a month or more! One word from any woman, one who regretted the foolish drunken sex you both had, wants to get out of her daddy being mad at her for getting pregnant even though she freely consented even if you’re both minors, wants to spite you on the job, anything really. Good, decent, honest boys and men who would never even think to take a woman against her will, never say lewd things, never touch her inappropriately, can be smeared in the blink of an eye! Being a private act, it’s just your word vs. hers, and in this society, hers often wins. I hate to say it, but in this society, you are a predator, and she is the victim. Doesn’t matter if you never touched her. Even were in 100 feet of her. In a society now where a little 5 year old is labeled a predator for hugging a teacher, it’s easy to see how every man is seen as a rape waiting to happen by the #MeToo crowd!

While even men who never had sex with a lot of women or were promiscuous are being smeared, not having sex with women you don’t know well even an acquaintance, lessens your risk of being framed and accused. Mike Pence, though being smeared now as misogynist for staying away from being alone with women, has an excellent point. By never putting himself in a position were a woman can say anything unsubstantiated, he drastically lessened his risk for false allegations! Being more guarded around women, and not putting yourself in potentially risky situations such as alone, behind closed doors, and of course, being intimate with women you aren’t intimately close to such as a long term steady girlfriend or wife, is not just about arbitrary morality and prudishness. It can save your butt from being thrown in the slammer 😉 A sad world I know, but this is the reality for men in the era of radical feminism, #MeToo hysteria… Nothing is ever innocent to the left!

Gentlemen: Please wait for just that perfect girl. Wait to be with your wife. Wait to be with the woman you can fully trust, be vulnerable around and still feel safe in that there isn’t a risk of her smearing you later, the woman with whom you shared all your secrets, the woman who is faithful to you alone, the woman who will spend the rest of her life with you, the one woman you want to call “wife”. Girlfriends can come and go, but a woman who honors her vows in marriage to you, and entrusts her body to you in the form of deepest intimacy is about the only truly “safe” woman to be intimate with. Don’t settle for skanks, and “good time gals”. Don’t choose instant gratification and a mountain of risks and liabilities over a lifetime of intimacy with just the perfect girl for you. True love, (and satisfaction 😉 ) waits!

And on a last, but certainly not insignificant note, is think about the girl. Think about the girl who should save herself too for just the right guy. You dally with her, and she too is deprived of giving her future husband one of her greatest gifts. You helped turn her milestone as a woman into a cheap handshake. Be the bigger man. The foolish, naive young girl who thinks a fling would be fun needs guidance, not instant gratification for her curiosity! A real man tells her “no” and that she’s worth more than to give herself away to any guy who asks! Treat her like how you would want your daughter to be treated by a gentleman! A real man waits for a woman ready to give herself to him for life, and honors and protects the integrity of young ladies who have yet to find their one and only 🙂

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