Yes, Sometimes You Have to Work Harder Than The Next Guy…

I’ve wanted to bring up this point for a while now: Sometimes it takes more work to get where you want than for another person.

Now, as obvious as this sounds to most people, apparently this is breaking news for the Left! Their beef is the fact that not everyone has that “even chance” in life. The most commonly cited examples being racial minorities or women. The Left argues that racial bias and prejudice has held back countless qualified employees, brilliant students and hard working people from reaping the deserved rewards for their hard work. The idea that even despite the civil rights movement and a bigger push for equality, racism is still rife and people will do anything to get around anti-discrimination laws leading to the system keeping racial minorities in poverty and trapped in a downward spiral. Instead of seeing many minority communities as represented by lawyers, doctors, CEO’s etc… they are seen as welfare leeches, criminals and a drain on society.

Women too, as gender is the other huge example they argue about face similar bias in the eyes of the Left. Women are dismissed, not taken seriously, looked upon as weak, incompetent, and unsuited for many lines of work traditionally done by men. However, the trends have changed as more and more women break the barriers once faced by women historically. Never the less, the Left still argues women only are paid 3/4 of what men are and are held back from reaching higher levels in their respective careers and limited in stereotypes of more “feminine” lines of work.

In both cases of race and gender, the idea is that those who fall in to either (or both!) don’t have the same chances of a white male in particular of landing a good career or getting into a good school. In the minds of the Left, the system keeps them trapped, and the idea that in America, you can work your way up in this life is a fantasy. Now, I don’t deny that gross inequalities have existed historically, and still exist in society. I understand that not everyone does have an even chance at life and success and the wider forces of society do influence all of us and what we’re able to achieve. However, the Left misses a very crucial other piece of the puzzle to success: The individual’s determination to get what they want.

I think the Left has created their own reality about the situation. They over attribute social factors negating personal ones and other factors that may have had the outcome of being held back. I’ve argued more in detail about the whys in previous posts, but for the sake of the argument I want to make let’s assume everything the Left says about “the system” keeping women and minorities down is trueSo, to be clear here, the basic assumptions I am going off of are the ideas that racial minorities and women are kept back by society and that their race, gender or both have been the main factor in hindering their success in life.

However, who says race and gender are the only factors holding you back? Yep. Just because you weren’t hired you can automatically assume it had to be racially motivated, or because you’re a woman? What about factors such as social connections, family connections and networking? I personally have applied for many jobs where I had none of the above, and got the job. However, I’m sure I didn’t get the other 9 out of 10 I applied for because there was a shoe-in from within the company. Or the manager’s cousin needed work. Or I just didn’t know anyone who could put in a good word about me. Or in college, the professor running the research or that internship already knew another student well and liked their work while I came in as a complete stranger. College is the same! Ever heard of legacy admissions? 😉 Or the other family donated a ton of money to the school. Or the last spot was filled by the Dean’s nephew ahead of 20 other qualified students including you. You can’t rule out that factor if you have no connections for the job or the dream school you want no matter what your race or gender! You cant know for sure exactly why you didn’t make the cut, and if you lack connections of any kind, you can’t rule that out.

What about prior experience and qualifications? Yes, you might have a Master’s degree in business administration, but that company wants someone who worked in a bigger company or with a specific skill set. A college may not accept you if they want to fill some quota of different majors or clubs people are in. Maybe they wanted a more intense focus in specific types of community service. Just because you’re a female professor, or a professor of color doesn’t mean that’s the reason you didn’t get tenure. They might have wanted someone with different research concentrations. Or your class reviews went down this year. Or they have that shoe-in already no matter what you do to make yourself the most deserving. You would think jobs and schools would be transparent about such specific desires, but often times they’re not. I have applied to many opportunities without a strong history of past relevant experiences, and surprise, surprise, I wasn’t chosen. Am I entitled to jump to the conclusion it’s because I’m a woman despite my lack of relevant experience?

Now some might say, “but I did have a stellar resume, GPA, etc… and still didn’t get the job or into the school I wanted!” For that, I say see the paragraph on lack of connections, and consider the fact that as I just said, they might be looking for a specific thing you don’t have despite your experiences and qualifications. I had a strong academic record to bring to the table in my college application to my top choice school. However, I wasn’t accepted. Why? I don’t know exactly, but my guess is I didn’t have something else they wanted to bring to that next year’s class. However, a Y chromosome wasn’t my first guess! 😉 So in conclusion, there are other factors you need to consider before crying victim to racial or gender discrimination.

Even if you can eliminate those other factors in why you weren’t given the opportunity, and you can solidly conclude it was your race or gender, does that have to stop you? Maybe you do have to work twice as hard to prove yourself. Maybe you do have to put out more applications, follow up more, become more assertive in pursuing your career goals. Maybe you do need to prove to them your priority is with them, and not with what they assume it is. Is it fair you are under a microscope your colleagues or classmates are not? No! But is life fair 100% of the time for anyone? Maybe white guy down the hall isn’t getting promoted or is in danger of getting laid off because he doesn’t have connections despite being white and male, but you just don’t know his situation and assume he’s working his way up easily because of his skin color or his chromosomes when he might be under his own microscope too. Maybe you’re a minority, but have a degree, training, specific research, past relevant internships etc…the white person doesn’t giving you the edge on your resume when coming up for review.

Point is, regardless of if we get what we want or not, we all have a mixture of advantages and disadvantages that may include race and gender. I’m not saying there is no gender or racial bias out there. However, why is race and gender “extra special” and entitle you to cry victim over for example, someone who simply doesn’t have the right connections? You can argue, “but you have no control over race or gender”, but how much control do you have over whether or not you’re the manager’s cousin?

So what’s a person to do? You have to work harder than everyone else, exceed expectations, be held to a higher standard, and you can’t control your race or gender. The solution seems to be mind blowing to the Left: Instead of whining and demanding affirmative action programs and quotas, actually put in the extra work to get what you want. Yes. Outwork the next guy and if you have to work twice as hard, work twice as hard! If the world thinks you don’t look like what you want to be, don’t whine about how oppressed you are, prove them wrong by pushing hard to achieve your goals. You may need more patience. People might push back and try to limit you. Not hire you. Not admit you. You probably won’t get in as fast as a more “privileged” person. But will you let that stop you? And what if there is no one like you in your dream field? Well someone had to be the first woman/minority doctor, lawyer, researcher, PhD holder, engineer, etc…  Why can’t the next someone be you? Blaze the trail yourself if you want the path created. Our heroes we look up to in the history books all did in spite of the prejudice and bias.

If you give up, doesn’t that just let those whom you feel are keeping you down win? If you throw in the towel and don’t call back, stop applying, don’t push for what you want to do in life and say “Well, I’m a person of color/woman so I will never get where I want to be” then you gave up on yourself. Not the world. Is it fair you’re held back more than others for reasons you have no control over? No! But that’s reality. Don’t whine about wanting change, BE the change! Hurdles don’t mean a closed door. They just mean a door that’s a little harder to unlock. But there is a key. That key just means working harder than the other guy sometimes… All you need is to be given one chance for that door to open. It’s up to you to have the motivation to seek it out. You CAN go far in life, you just have to work a little harder sometimes 🙂

One final point: What about the fact that white males are passed over now due to affirmative action programs? Perhaps today being a woman or minority is now the advantage 😉 …

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Equally Treated : Equally Criticized

Criticism: Everyone gives it, everyone gets it! This has been known to all who have ever had an opinion about anything! Even more benign topics than politics or morality, such as pineapple on pizza, is it gross or tasty? Chocolate or vanilla? Dog lover or cat lover? The list goes on and on in our everyday lives we don’t even think of, nor truly care about if someone happens to have a different idea of what they like. Of course though, when the stakes are a little higher than “what’s for lunch?” disagreements get more heated! From gay rights, to religion, to racial issues, gender issues, foreign policy, etc…etc… issues that will affect countless people other than yourself, disputes on how to handle them provoke far more conflict.

Issues that both sides of the aisle can agree needed change, such as blatant racism, segregation, the oppression of women, intolerance for different lifestyles, religions, etc… that led to violence, threats and out and out bigotry, have been addressed and still are. I think we can all agree it was a good thing to stop segregation, lynch mobs, slavery etc… or stop treating wives and children as property, or letting women reap the rights and duties as citizens of this country too. Or to be more open minded to a changing society and learning about those who are different from ourselves. We’ve come along way from a century ago and many things I’ll admit I’m glad we can leave behind in the history books.

However, there comes a new issue with this newfound freedom many groups now enjoy alongside us: The pendulum swinging too far the other way! See, I don’t mean that in the sense they are too equal and should be put back in a state of disadvantage and inequality again, but in their right and just equality with the traditional “majority”, they feel in order to be our equal, they must become our superior! How is this?

Well, take the issue of criticism. It is true many minority groups feel that if a member of the majority group criticizes any aspect about them, this must mean that the criticizer wants to revoke their equality in this country and set them back a century! Now, in a way, I can get an understanding of why some may feel this way. If you genuinely feel that the group who gave you your equality is bitter and resentful and wants any excuse to find a way to revoke it, then yeah, I can understand that. Or if historically, that group had a voice and you didn’t, you might feel that when today, your former “oppressors” speak up and critique something, it can bring flash backs of that earlier time where you didn’t have a voice to respond.

Trouble is of course, just because you feel a certain way, doesn’t make it true! Just because something “feels” like past oppression, doesn’t mean it is. For one example, a brutally honest critique of a minority group doesn’t always mean that the person making the criticism does it out of hatred or bigotry for that race. It may sound very harsh and uncharitable to hear, but that person may have a valid point. If one says that for example, the Black community is disproportionately affected by crime and has a 75% illegitimacy rate, and this should change to build better communities and families, unless these assertions came out of thin air and are false, it is a valid criticism that needs to be addressed. Just because, say, the person noting this was White, doesn’t mean they say this out of ill will, bigotry and hatred for the black community, anymore than when fellow Black leaders such as Walter Williams and Thomas Sowell say it. No more “racist” than when someone in the Black community wishes to offer a criticism of White people and ask them to address something that they feel needs fixing, such as racial bias…

Or look at Native Americans. Reservations often have similar issues with crime and gangs. Child abuse and alcoholism are rife. So is poverty, and no, it’s not solely “the white man’s fault!”. Does bringing this up beyond blaming white people mean that person hates Indians? Not necessarily! You don’t need to be Native American to see the devastation alcoholism and poverty had affected many of their communities! Perhaps maybe, just maybe, the outsider who raised the issue genuinely wants to help and to do so, must bring it out into the open?

Every society has things that are good, and things that need to be looked at with a critical eye and addressed. Hiding one’s need for change behind labels such as “racist” and making excuses that only your group can ever critique your society when the issues at hand are plain for all to see, lets a blind eye be turned to pressing issues as of course no one likes being criticized and told they need change! If the only people who can criticize you are you, then how honest will you really be with yourself??? Outside 3rd parties help eliminate some internal bias or even just shortsightedness for things an insider may take for granted. An obvious fabrication and lie told about a group is not the same as a proven fact that happens to be unflattering being called out in the open by others. A criticism is not the same as slander!

A slightly different circumstance but related to the idea of being immune from any outside criticism is happening to the gay community. It’s now the law of the land gays have the same civil rights, including a legal marriage here in the United States. In fact, being gay is becoming more and more accepted and less stigmatized. I know plenty of gay people, who are just like you and me, have jobs, go to school, like the same things, and are probably among your friends, classmates, coworkers, your favorite celebrity, etc…  From even a few decades ago, the LGBT community has made immense strides in being socially accepted and are being represented exponentially in the media and in society.

However, this apparently is not enough. Despite all the acceptance as well as gaining the clear legal right they wanted to see happen nationwide, they now demand that no one can ever criticize or disagree with their lifestyle. Look, some people have religious objections to the gay lifestyle. Some find it distasteful in their personal opinion. There is still opposition to gay marriage. And yes, instances of threats and violence and bullying have affected the gay community. Thing is though, there is a vast difference between those who do actual violence and threats towards gay people, and those who in their private opinion, don’t embrace the idea of being gay for religious reasons or otherwise. Many of these people would never threaten a gay family, or do violence against them. Those that do are a very small minority who we can all agree are in the wrong regardless of their opinions!

No one is entitled to force people to like and embrace your choices in life. You have the right under federal law to be gay and to be free from threats and violence as much as any other citizen in this country. What you don’t have the right to however, is to make everyone embrace your choices or else be labeled a “bigot!” and demonized. I personally don’t mind gay people and nor does my family who would love me just as much if I were gay myself. What I do mind though, is the idea that any valid criticism of the gay community, or someone’s personal distaste for the gay lifestyle must be stamped out and compelled to agree with it in the name of “acceptance”. No, not everyone has to “accept” your choices in their personal opinions!

Still don’t understand? Take my own personal example. I’m an atheist, and a “minority” within the conservative community. Some of my fellow religious conservative peers say things about atheism and non-believers I can find too harsh and un-nuanced, such as the idea that my non-belief means I don’t have any real moral code based in anything real. Or that my life is unfulfilled and I must be angry and bitter. Now, I will argue against these assertions about my non-belief, but I will never demand religious people stop criticizing atheists to spare my “delicate feelings”! They have just as much right to their own opinion and criticisms about my lifestyle choice to be an atheist as a fellow atheist. Many religious people may find atheism distasteful, and that’s okay. The beauty of this country is we can all have our own opinions! Now, it crosses a line if they were to threaten me or openly discriminate against me, but again, criticism alone does NOT equal discrimination! I can be a non-believer in this country just as you can be gay, and we both have the legal right to be what we are. What more should we demand??? Anything beyond that to me smacks of entitlement!

To sum all this up in general for everyone, no one is immune from criticism, nor is entitled to be! As a conservative as well, don’t I and many of my fellow patriots know it! 😉 We don’t demand the Left never criticize us. Just don’t threaten us and our families, bar us from jobs, and ostracize us from society. Nor do we seek to stifle the voices of minorities, women, gays, etc… as in the past. We just want to still let our voices be heard alongside yours now. We do want equality for all in this country. But equality means we all can be equally criticized as well as equally heard! And don’t forget of course, of you want to be free from criticism, then don’t feel entitled to hurl it at others, like straight, white cisgendered males for instance! 🙂

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He Had a Dream…

Perhaps one of the most iconic speeches of the past century was the “I Have a Dream” speech by Martin Luther King Jr. A civil rights activist, he truly was on the front line fighting the prejudices of his day. Prejudices that included segregation in schools and businesses, a world where a black person could be refused service, black children denied entrance at attractions, couldn’t even drink from the same water fountain, and yes, even lynched… His activism inspired others after him to mark a day in his honor for people to reflect on what his dream was and where we are today with it.

Now, most think that this topic resides more in Leftist discourse than conservative discourse, but I disagree! Yes, the Left has pushed the narrative of black oppression, and more widely, people of all races but white, and use MLK to prove their points. However, this is flawed. First of all, since when did the Left own the dream MLK gave the black community? Where in his speech does it say “I have a dream for black democrats…” I thought that dream was for everyone… The Left however, seeks to control the narrative of black oppression and of course, blames the white race.

Problem is, and I’ve covered this in far greater detail before in my “Breaking the Cycle” post, not all issues within the black community today are caused directly by white people and past oppression, such as the Jim Crow discrimination MLK did fight against! In a pop culture that embraces music with themes of gangsters, drugs, prostitutes and objectifying women, clothes that signal “I’m a gangster”, rundown neighborhoods condoning crime where promising young people are gunned down in their prime, anyone who wants better labeled uncle Toms and such, is not a society that breeds independence and respect! One honestly can’t blame one other race for injustices long past, for the current poverty and crime in a society that perpetuates it through their clothes, music, language, trashes their neighborhoods, bullies their best and brightest, objectifies women and where 75% or so are without a father figure, and has welfare cradle to grave rather than just to get back on their feet. Yes, you can be poor, and your past can disadvantage you greatly, but the past is gone now. Sounds brutal and cruel to say this so frankly, but change cannot happen until the truth is spelled out. MLK knew that when he called out the issues plaguing his generation!

Now, in the present day, and with a blank slate as a future, why not rewrite your story? Black people, who have been enslaved a century ago have broken the bonds of that servitude and created their own identity in America. Black people who were’t even allowed to be in the presence of white people now are able to go where they please, be friends with, even marry white people, things never dreamed of in the Jim Crow era not so long ago! Do people of color still face prejudice and injustices? Of course they do! But so does everybody else… Prejudice is as old as humanity, and far older than the modern notions of race! It’s how you fight back and overcome that prejudice that determines your strength, not your victimhood status like the Left wants to believe! See, being a victor and not a victim, as another inspiring conservative black leader Candace Owens says, does not mean you were never victimized and treated unjustly. It means you fought back and empowered yourself instead of capitalizing on your helplessness… The black community has risen out of Jim Crow and was once thriving in this country. However now, much of it is sinking back into the “hood”, a life of crime and welfare as a lifestyle…

Now do all black people embrace such a detrimental culture??? Absolutely not!!! Countless people of color are appalled, embarrassed, and saddened they are painted with that awful stereotype! Don’t take my word for it! Black conservatives like Thomas Sowell and Walter Williams say it outright: their community needs a huge change! They, and other rising black leaders, such as Candace Owens who formed the current #Blexit Movement for people of color to leave the Leftist narrative of dependency and victimhood, and CJ Pearson, another rising young black conservative on Twitter, want more for their neighborhoods, their race, and their society. To them, skin color does not define who they are, what their destiny will be and what they have to think.

Race does not define a person’s character, actions do. That is the core message of MLK’s activism. The segregation, discrimination, poverty and such of his time was fueled by this notion that the black race was inherently inferior, subhuman and less deserving due to their skin color, their genetics, and a flawed view that their inherent natures were inferior to the white race. Luckily this attitude is being destroyed more and more in the present day. Black people have achieved greatness. Proven themselves just as much of value as anyone else. One was our president (albeit not a great one!) for two terms. Point is, do you honestly imagine that happening in 1960??? If people of color can achieve the presidency for two terms in a row, then why are so so many disproportionately in prisons and poverty? The Left has an easy answer: racism. However, the truth is far more nuanced, including of course, internal societal attitudes about crime and education…

I admire conservatives of color and think they too, have their own dream. I can’t speak for them with 100% certainty, but I do believe they would likely have these dreams:

A dream where their race is defined by their merit, not their skin color via affirmative action…

A dream where their communities want more than just gangs and poverty…

A dream where a generation graduates high school and goes onto college and beyond in record numbers, not in prisons disproportionately to the rest of the US population!

A dream where all little boys and girls are raised with loving involved fathers and intact families…

A dream where their race represents the top CEO’s, business men and women, professors, academics, doctors, lawyers, in people’s minds, not a welfare or victimhood stereotype!

A dream where every young aspiring student is applauded for getting great grades and scholarships to fine institutions, celebrate as the best and brightest, not derided as an uncle Tom or beaten if caught with a book…

A dream where their leaders challenge them into action, not lull them into complacency with dependence and victimhood to gain more votes…

A dream ultimately, where they’re seen as people, period. Not defined by traits merely skin deep by anyone!

Yes, they too, have their own dream! Dreams of being just like everyone else, who is successful, driven, determined, bright and passionate to make a real and lasting change! That is MLK’s legacy. Not something dated from the 60’s, but the message that change can, and must be made continuously as new challenges arise. He truly was a victor, NOT a victim! To all conservatives of color: I admire your perseverance, your strength, and determination in the face of prejudice of not just those who shun conservatives and the frank truths in our world, but from your own communities, your own people, a party who thinks they own you and your goals, dreams and aspirations! Always remember, YOU define you, NOT your skin color!

Happy MLK day 🙂

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Oh, and for those who will cry “racist!” at me and think I’m pulling this all out of my butt, take a look at these:

Black student rejects victimhood status: ‘I am going to break stereotypes’

Civil Suit Filed As Gifted Black Girl Bullied For “Acting White,” Principal Refused To Act

Walter William’s Insights…

Thomas Sowell’s Wisdom

And more and more are walking away!…

10 Scary Issues The Liberals Conjured Up…

Halloween is here and everyone’s in a spooky mood! Like most people, I can appreciate a good scare around Halloween. However, fact can be stranger than fiction any time of the year, and the scariness of the real world is no trick! Here are some of the scary issues going on today spurred on by radical liberals and the culture of political correctness (click on the links to read more in detail about each issue):

1. “Hook up” Culture

As said many times before, in our current culture, sex is just a handshake. Marriage is just dating 2.0. Young ladies are told they can dress like skanks for men. Traditional values of committed life long marriages, and striving for marriage as your ultimate relationship goal, not just a hook up, being a virgin on your wedding day, the things our grandparents did, is going away in our society in favor of cheap sex or instant gratification and pleasure. It’s society’s reflection of the “I can do whatever I want consequence free” attitude of irresponsibility and instant gratification. Sites like Tinder and others don’t help the matter! Nor does the mainstream media, TV and movies! Our youth is being taught this sleazy lifestyle, and many boomers are embracing it too, on to their 2nd and 3rd marriages in a culture rife with divorce, STD’s and unwanted pregnancy! When did we decide instant gratification took precedence over the desire for a better future down the road? When did it become acceptable for our daughters to fling themselves at every guy they see to be “empowered” women? When did marriage become dating 2.0? Scary if you ask me…

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2. “Any Family is A Real Family”

To add to this list of horrors, and on a related note is the disintegration of the nuclear family. In a culture that goes for cheap sex and hook ups, more and more people who start families break them up for baser urges. “I’m leaving you for my secretary!”, “I’m divorcing you because I hate you and the kids!” “She’s hotter and gives me what I like…” etc… Then, many single mothers go on and whine then, and raise sons to be weak and feminized, and daughters to hate men and reject traditional femininity and marriage. Children are the ones who pay the price on this one. Children for broken homes are much more likely to have issues such as depression, substance abuse, eating disorders, trouble in school, “daddy issues”, a promiscuous lifestyle and repeat the cycle as adults! The glorification of single parenthood and the oppression of fathers in their children’s lives is rampant, and reflected in every psychology journal, magazines, TV, movies and the media! Even events like the father-daughter dance are being eradicated thanks to bitter single mothers! That’s not all though, the concept of same sex parents, who are in essence one parent since they don’t have the perspective of the other sex are being normalized too. The politically correct platitudes of “every family is a real family” go down the drain of reality when one sees the children who come out of it.

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3. The Welfare State

Oh, this is a biggie! All the minorities and immigrants on welfare crying “victim” of past oppression and won’t better themselves or their communities but settle for government housing! They drain our school system who has to raise their children for them, drain our healthcare with all their problems and unwanted pregnancies, drain our economy, our government, our charities, our food supply, our housing, and certainly our tax dollars! Indeed, it’s you and I, the working class and the middle class, who foot the bill through our tax money. A portion of your salary goes to these leeches! And who would blame them? We enable them and they’ve been doing it for generations! Welfare should be for those who genuinely can’t work, like our wounded veterans, and respectable families who need that leg up to get back in the workforce. However, now, people are leeching off it and are they grateful? No! The people who bombed the Boston Marathon sure weren’t! Nor are the ghetto hoodlums in low income areas around the country, only bringing crime and continuing the cycle of poverty and anti-intellectualism (lest you be called an Uncle Tom). To make matters even more frightening, many literally believe WE owe THEM welfare from cradle to grave, and they reason why they have so many problems in their communities is due to white oppression! Even if that were true, why keep your neighborhood in crime and disarray? Why want nothing better for your children except to repeat the cycle and torment any good kids who want a future? Why bring nothing to this country in return for its charity? Appalling if you ask me, and guess who subsidizes all of this? (Hint: Liberal Democrats who want more votes…)

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4. “Gender Benders!”

The issue of sex vs. gender is big now, and propagandized by mainstream psychology and science! In the “before time”, gender (which now the liberals say is distinct from biological sex) was determined the same way as sex. XX or XY human chromosomes. In recent years, due to influences like radical feminism that hates traditional gender roles, they decided it’s all arbitrary, and you can be anything you want regardless of genetics or settled science! People with what used to be called gender dysmorphia, are now normalized and victims of gendered oppression! Instead of a deep mental illness, it’s now perfectly normal for little boys to want to be little girls for instance! For grown men to “transition” into women and dismantle their families! Now, I don’t demonize the transgender people themselves, many do genuinely feel that way and have a real mental disorder. However, it’s not all harmless, such as the fact predators now are enabled to merely claim to be women to enter girl’s and women’s restrooms and locker rooms! More and more young people are being brainwashed by the idea gender is merely a social construct, not a normal biological one in normal people, and decide on impulse they’re the opposite gender, or even “other” that is neither gender! Until society stops normalizing a mental disorder as being progressive from the chains of gender roles, real women will be endangered by men pretending to be women to access their spaces, little boys and girls will be confused and brainwashed, families will be torn apart, and established objective science will be thrown away for popular sentiments and subjective propaganda!

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5. The Cult of Victim-Hood

This encapsulates so many groups, minorities, women, LGBT etc… The common denominator though is the world is out to get them, and owes them compensation and reparations! They seek not to better themselves, or appreciate the work that was done to help them, but rather to constantly whine, complain and demand more and more! If you don’t comply, they go full blown tantrum, with vitriol, ad-hominem attacks, and straw man arguments! They don’t want you to speak frankly or give any honest critiques of them. They pretend to be helpless against their misfortunes, such as crime, gangs, and poverty, or “sexism” and the “patriarchy”, or traditional marriage, gender roles, biological sex, the nuclear family and such that they deem oppressive. They’re “triggered” by an opposing view, “microagressed” on by innocent people who have no clue what they said was even remotely offensive. They’re the snowflake generation that feels doomed for life and doesn’t lift a finger to build their own future because of propaganda by liberals about our doomed economy, workforce and prospects for young people. The women who cry #metoo for a sexual mistake after the fact decades from when it happened. The minorities that claim “white privilege”. The transgender people who demand science be overturned for their gender dysphoric disorder and the world cater to 1% of 1% of the population. The bitter single moms who hate men and the traditional family set up as the norm. Basically, a generation of snowflakes with no resilience and immense fragility!

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6. Uncontrolled Borders

Immigration is a huge hot button topic. So are refugees. While many of us came from immigrants, it’s fair to say these ones are a bit different from the hard working industrious ones who helped build our country! The ones coming now, are draining our welfare system, medical care, schools, jobs etc… They’re bringing 3rd world cultures over to our country and making more crime and poverty. Many of these war torn refugees also bring the threat of terrorism in addition. Now, of course, there are exceptions to the rule. Some groups do bring more industry, and technology here, working in high powered careers. Not all Hispanic or Muslim immigrants are the lazy, backwards, stereotype and do work hard and try to better themselves and their families. Many do come here through legal channels, and don’t hop our borders only to leech off our system undocumented. I do genuinely feel for many in poverty and desperate straits who were forced to leave their culture and country. However, we can’t care for every person who is in need around the world. What about our own citizens? The homeless children and veterans. The poverty in our own country. Why is it always on America to take in these people and baby sit the world? Why can’t other countries pull their fair share too? People from war torn areas who have nothing are raised to be in a dog-eat-dog world. They bring that attitude of brutality over to 1st world nations like ours. Europe is in shambles over refugees bringing violent crimes like assault and rape as well as terrorism! MS-13 gangs and others plague our country from Hispanic countries. Why can’t our immigrants bring more assets to our country, not leeches? Until we can screen them more thoroughly, the bad apples get though too!

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7. “Clash of The Cultures”

On another related note, comes the cultural clashes between 3rd world vs. 1st world values. Ones like freedom, equality and democracy! Ones where women aren’t assaulted, and people robbed at gunpoint, or killed! Ones where hard work is the norm, not victimhood and leeching off the welfare state only to bite the hand that feeds you! The extremes the PC liberals go to cater to them are astounding, with special Sharia law set up, or ethnic neighborhoods where any outsider will meet their doom, or turning a blind eye to 3rd world criminals and gangs so you can be politically correct and not face uncomfortable truths. The traditional American work ethic of the working middle class who supports themselves and brings more to the country than takes is going away for fragile snowflakes who cry oppression. Not just immigrants and refugees of course are guilty of this. Minority groups here in the US like the much of the poor black community for instance! A culture of ghetto life, welfare, crime, and poverty that hates education and intelligence is not good for the country! It’s all a slight to every one in these groups who is NOT like that and does work hard at an honest living and values our country.

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8. Radical Feminism

The “Nasty Woman” movement really showed the extremes of the radical feminists. They brainwash our daughters to hate men and cry victim too. They infantilize women through the #metoo movement, painting women as helpless and clueless little children when it comes to sexual coercion. They try to say that traditional femininity is oppressive, traditional strong men are misogynists, and women ought to take part in hook up culture to be “liberated”. They do anything but make women look dignified! They replaced feminine elegance and grace of past generations with vulgar promiscuity, loose morals and masculine wannabes who resent men. From this movement stems callous attitudes like “her body her choice”, to misguided ones like shunning traditional femininity, the guidance of fathers, feminization of men, and more scary happenings!

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9. Reverse Discrimination

White privilege and affirmative action are prime examples! It’s unbelievable what the victimhood culture has duped many to believe is right! They claim that only whites are racist, or men are sexist, due to social power, but discrimination is discrimination no matter whose side it’s on! Many white men and women too, are refused job offers, college acceptances and other opportunities like housing or even being chosen for promotions for instance due to their sex or color of their skin. Now, for some groups it’s racist or sexist, but others it’s not??? Pretty scary to think that inequality is being done in the name of equality!

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10. Censorship of Conservative Views

Lastly, but certainly not least, the most scary thing of all is you can’t publicly say ANY of the above!!! I am forced to use a pseudonym as any of this would derail me socially and career wise! Almost all mainstream news sites are liberal and demonize conservatives (minus Fox News for now…). Major search engines like Google are blatantly liberal, and censor conservative sites, and social media like Facebook and Twitter also censor conservatives, even YouTube! Which are all owned by Google 😉 Even offline, people will shun you, and spew vitriol over conservative views. You can’t speak out even in your own family many times, and indeed, at least one family member shunned me over my blog! People have lost jobs, friendships, even family over being conservative. Some were even assaulted and lost their lives over conservative views! I guess we’re “in the closet” now! It’s a scary world out there for our lot, but there’s a silent majority rising, and pushing back. We need to support each other and speak out, to make our world a bit less scary 🙂

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Lastly… Happy Halloween!

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When Denial Turns Deadly: Terrorism

In the wake of the horrors that took place on September 11, 2001, our country’s innocence was shattered for good. We thought such a drastic tragedy could not befall a country like ours, that we were too strong, and had enough of a defense to keep us safe, yet on 9/11/2001, that all changed when Al Qaeda attacked the Twin Towers and the Pentagon. No longer could we deny the possibility of a stealthy deadly attack on US soil. 3000+ lives lost proved that point. We scrambled to find out what to do to stop future attacks. We increased airport security. More places did better checks of people and tried not to let just anyone in. We sent our military over to the countries harboring terrorist groups like Al Qaeda and finally got Osama Bin Laden, who was responsible for 9/11. Our country is forever changed by the events on that day. The lesson learned is we cannot take our relative safety for granted anymore and trust everyone who comes here. We must be vigilant. “See something, say something”.

However, it’s been 17 years since that horrific day as of today. In those 17 years, I’m afraid, we still didn’t let the lesson from 9/11 sink in. More terrorist attacks are plaguing Europe especially with ISIS and even here, with the Boston Marathon Bombing. In the news there’s shooting after shooting, a new nauseating trend for mass violence in recent years. Europe is no longer all that safe to be in, with shootings, bombings, even stabbings abound! As for the US, we claim to be hard on terrorism, yet are in blatant denial of our national security in our new policies on immigration and asylum.

One thing President Trump did during his term thus far was restricting immigration, asylum, and travel from countries with known terrorist groups, like ISIS in places like Iraq, and Syria for some. He, like many, although we feel for the immigrants and refugees fleeing war torn areas, we must put our country’s safety first, and not let terrorists slip through the cracks along with the innocents. Many liberals are now decrying such a move, saying it’s not about terrorism, but racism as he would let Europeans in but not “brown people” and likened it to past discrimination of Eastern Europeans in the early 1900’s. Harsh truth is though, many refugees seem to not be the weak women and children, but able bodied men, and many come from a culture that is hostile to our country. They were taught that America caused their poverty and suffering, so no wonder if some resent us. Also, ISIS threatened to sneak people over here to do terroristic acts. While it sounds harsh to paint all refugees with that brush, the innocents coming simply to flee their own dangers, many are bringing the danger here.

Unpleasant truths include more crime when these refugees and immigrants settle here. They bring their own 3rd world culture over here, of tyranny and oppression and cut-throat survival opposed to US democratic ideals. They live in insular neighborhoods which are unsafe for any outsider to go in, creating their own slums here in the US. Many too, have connections to terrorists back in the “old country” they have incentive to help or protect, or family threatened by terrorists so they’re forced to keep silent. Even if they’re not doing crime or terrorism here in the US, many are dirt poor, have nothing and are unskilled. They have no social capital to give to our country, and are supported by our welfare state. They drain our hospitals, schools, charities etc… with their needs, while US citizens like homeless veterans, children and poor people here are not getting their needs met. Trump was accused of doing a “cultural genocide” by liberals, yet why not bar people with nothing to offer from leeching off our already broken systems?

Let’s not forget the people who bombed the Boston Marathon were on welfare and got free college, medical etc… from us! While many people from these war torn places are innocent of terrorist affiliations, they being a host of other issues, like crime, 3rd world mentalities and drain our systems. Never the less, terrorism is indeed quite a real threat, just look at Europe, who are doing it the politically correct way! Paris, Brussels, Manchester, London, Etc… The question is, do we need to take that risk? Do we need more 9/11’s or Boston Marathon bombings in our future? Which major city will be next, since if the liberals get their way, one of denial and political correctness, it’s only a matter of time…

Look, not all Muslims are Islamic extremists, not all Syrians are with ISIS etc. However, we can’t take that risk when so many are especially coming from 3rd world places into our country. Yes, the refugees have my sympathy and I don’t blame them for coming here to flee their own horrors. But, we need to put our country’s safety first, before protecting everyone else. Who said we were responsible for babysitting the world? Who said it’s all on us to take them in and give them our resources that ought to go to our own citizens? Terrorism is a real threat now and the anniversary of one of our most horrific days ought to be a stark eye opening reminder to protect ourselves first before more 9/11’s occur. How many more lives must be foolishly lost to terrorism here and abroad due to radical liberal denial? Never Forget what can happen when we let our guard down…

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“Whatever Happened To My Party?”: An Interview With The Common Man

The Common Man is a regular reader and commenter here on A Lady of Reason. I have enjoyed much of his sensible and insightful comments he’s made on the blog. He’s graciously taken the time and given me the honor of giving me an interview with him over the subject of how he used to be a Democrat, but ultimately turned away from the party. This is his perspective as a fellow conservative.

So, tell me a little about yourself first:

I’ve been a teacher for 41 years at New England schools and colleges. My family members were moderate Democrats. From a young age, I’ve been a part of the workforce and both my upbringing and my present status is that of a middle class working individual. I am married, have a daughter and am a home owner.

In your correspondence with me, you said you used to be a Democrat. Could you tell me a little more about that?

The Democratic Party has changed substantially from the 1960’s to the present. Since that time there have been many changes in the party for the negative. I’ll list some of the major points in no specific order. The continued support of a welfare system initially intended to assist persons and families who were at risk evolved into a lifestyle in poorer communities where we see individuals and families accepting welfare as a substitute for education, training, and employment which would contribute to their towns, cities, and ultimately, the country. The civic leaders of these poorer communities became part of the problem, but furthering programs that allow them to prosper, while creating a dependency in their consistency on the welfare checks, child support checks, food stamps, Section 8 housing, free medical services on and on… All of it being supported by US citizens who actually work and contribute to our society. That imputes the system, and the civic leaders. When my family members immigrated to this country, they were required to have a job waiting for them here in America. They came, they worked, and became American citizens paying taxes, and helping to build their communities as productive people. This was the American Dream. The liberal concept of uncontrolled, wide open borders with an unlimited amount of drain resulting on our schools, medical facilities, police forces, and of course, the taxpayers who pay for it all was not a reality in past years. The Democratic concept of building a voting constituency based upon people entering the country illegally, became a reality. I like all fair minded people became disenchanted with the party.

What were the first inklings of discontent for your support of the party and when did they start to happen?

It started with the Clintons. I began to recognize that Washington was operating above the law and although busy with raising a family and working two jobs, I kept my eyes and ears open for changes within the party. As I saw in more recent times that enemies of the United States, such as Al-Qaeda, became emboldened with a more far left liberal series of changes within the laws. I realized the the obvious that we were providing these types of groups with free reign to come here and make their violent statements. Global powers who seeked to benefit from the willingness of our government to make trade deals that favored them, and weakened America’s economy. When President Obama took office, I had hoped he, being a man of color, we would see a re-imagining of how America assists people of color in impoverished urban settings. In fact, he campaigned to people of color strongly indicating that he would reform their educational systems, they way that they are dealt with in criminal situations, and in general their entire socio-economic challenges. This did not happen. The facts are that he clearly emboldened through direct action, a number of countries while weakening our position militarily, and economically, resulting in huge advantages for them and putting the United States last. This is a globalist, far-left, Marxist series of actions delivered to the American people by a well dressed, well spoken, smooth talking gentleman president.

In brief, what was the eventual tipping point in leaving the Democratic party?

All of this came to a head in the Clinton vs. Trump election for the presidency. When the truth outed that the Clintons had long engaged in elitist, highly questionable practices regarding the law, their finances, fundraising, and use of what can only be termed as underhanded manipulation of the former, I started to have doubts about her as our president. On the other side, Trump, who I’ve always seen as kind of a brute, seemed to be less able to hide his past and who he was as a high powered millionaire businessman, a person who had many women and affairs, and spent time as a celebrity with men’s programming such as the Spike Channel on cable TV, etc. These weaknesses and events seemed to be while troubling, were somehow less so than the Obama-Clinton union. Let me add also that, I grew up in a household with strong women, with a father and grandfather who taught me no prejudices against women, but to admire how strong a woman can be.

The Nation has been polarized greatly since the 2016 Presidential Election. Have you been all that politically active before then? And if not, what made you now?

Here before like many working family men, I was not overly involved in politics. The culmination of all that I have stated above coming to light drew me to become involved on a level a level I had not before.

Much of the Conservative side has been unpopular and greatly censored since. I know I have struggles being a closeted conservative, yet speaking out here on A Lady of Reason. How do you deal with the backlash and vitriol of the radical liberals?

The Democratic party has enjoyed control of the greater majority of all of our media here in America for at least 25 years. Now that real opposition has taken place in the form of the election of a Republican president, the voice of the Democratic party has become increasingly far-left, radical, desperate and divisive. When I fact check what I’m seeing in magazines, newspapers, online and in 95% of the media, I find that the majority of it is untrue. Like most Americans, I will listen to the truth, regardless of what your party is. However, when I am lied to by powers who call themselves quote “news”, I am then compelled to label these entities unreliable and on the payroll of the far-left. This problem is pervasive and as a full time teacher teaching ages four though adult I have observed firsthand the teachers’ union including college professors indoctrinating young people toward an ideology that is politically Left. In essence, quote “growing” a huge constituency of future Democratic voters. It is the mandate of a teacher to instruct their students to learn both sides of any debate, ideology, or faith and then having researched these topics, make their own decisions. This has not happened! These are some of the key points to why I reached the turning point leading me away from the Democratic party and coming to the sad reality that this can no longer be my party.

Have you ever had a negative experience in person with a radical liberal?

I am smart enough and I’m old enough to know that the type of discussion that you have fostered with your important blog will when discussed face to face with this group will ultimately not lead to fair discourse. I have no desire to be accused of being a racist, homophobe, misogynist, and any other number of devices used to shout down any person that presents factual evidence contrary to this growing far left liberal ideology, and as seen in more recent times, beyond that, many if these groups have resorted to physical violence which I will not engage in unless my back is against the wall and a matter of life and death. Therefore I do not put myself in that position. May we hope it never comes to that.

Thank you for your time thus far, but I want to end with one last question: What is your advice for fellow closeted conservatives that want to speak out?

You need to invest time in researching the truth and since you will find overwhelmingly, that your magazines, newspapers, internet and TV is 95% controlled by the Left, you will have a hard time fining the facts. It takes a lot of work to shift through and filter out what is really taking place. Remember that Fascism as seen by Italy’s Mussolini and the 3rd Reich started as a controlling of all that people see and heard in their media. What we’re seeing now is a mass blanketing of all that we see and hear with a far left agenda. If a person is not willing to do the digging, they will be kept in the dark, and worse than that, likely to simply follow in lockstep with what others are doing. In conclusion I’d like to say to you, Lady of Reason, what you have provided us giving voice to topics with factual accounting is crucial. I for one know this is what all of our citizens need in order to make rational decisions for our country’s well-being.

—The Common Man

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Thank you Common Man! It was an honor getting to see your perspective! If anyone else wants to have a guest post or an interview, please contact me at aladyofreason@outlook.com and write the topic you want to talk about!

The “Privilege” Walk: One Step Forward, One Step Back…

This month, I want to shed some light on a huge issue dividing conservatives and radical liberals: race. Many liberals accuse us of not wanting to and avoiding frank discussions about race. I say “challenge accepted! ” I’m going to try to write some articles on different issues involving race this month as an overarching theme…

Many proponents of political correctness bring up a concept called “white privilege”. For those who aren’t familiar with the concept, it is the idea that white people have an advantage socially, economically, culturally, etc. based on their race, being white. Often this concept is brought up to try to get white people to acknowledge the disadvantages minorities have, but it often backfires into reverse discrimination. While race can be a factor that “privileges” people in society, white privilege ignores other factors independent of race, such as socio-economic status, family stability, the environment one grew up in, opportunities, social connections, and yes, gender, sexuality and even religion. While these can intersect to give a combo of advantages and disadvantages to everyone, focusing on white people having less adversity in their life mostly due to their race dismisses all the other factors, such as poverty and personal adversity such as a death of someone close, or another tragedy. Some say there’s no such thing as reverse discrimination because white people are the dominant group. That might have been the case decades ago, but now, we have ushered in a new age of far more equality and have tipped the scales the other way. Don’t understand? Let me use a technique PC proponents use all the time: The “privilege walk”.

  1. Take a step forward if you feel the mainstream media is bringing more and more awareness to the issues you face in society.
  2. Take a step back if expressing pride in your race can easily be misconstrued as racial supremacy.
  3. Take a step forward if your family-makeup (ie. who makes up your immediate family, especially spouses) is becoming more accepted as a norm than an exception.
  4. Take a step back if others dismiss the contributions of historical figures of your race based on their race.
  5. Take another step back if gender and race was the factor in dismissing a historical figure of your group.
  6. Take a step forward if jobs, schools, housing and other opportunities are making a special effort to represent your group.
  7. Take a step forward if media such as TV, movies and literature are becoming more inclusive towards your group and more apt to represent them.
  8. Take a step back if a cultural norm or tradition from your group is thought of as discriminatory.
  9. Take another step back if defending your desire to openly practice the cultural norm or tradition is misconstrued as being exclusionary of other’s norms and traditions.
  10. Take a step forward if you can ask for a space for your group exclusively.
  11. Take a step back if doing so is construed as discriminatory and unacceptable.
  12. Take a step forward if your political leanings are becoming more widely accepted and advocated for.
  13. Take a step back if your political leanings are attacked on a societal and personal level, and you are labeled “bigoted” or “backwards” for holding them.
  14. Take a step back if a critique of the other side’s position on an issue they feel affects them is construed as hatred and prejudice.
  15. Take a step forward if others feel special concern not to offend you.
  16. Take a step forward if you are allowed to use terminology that is only permissible by your group.
  17. Take another step forward if that also encompasses cultural practices, material culture, language, and dress.
  18. Take a step back if formerly innocuous comments and gestures are construed as racist or sexist, or even assault.
  19. Take a step back if you provide quantitative evidence for an unpopular position, but are still construed as being arbitrarily prejudiced.
  20. Take a step back if you are afraid to openly express your politics in fear of ostracism or even physical violence.
  21. Take another step back if this also includes an opinion on another group’s position.
  22. Take a step back if you have a hard time finding media such as news, tv shows, and literature that represent your views.
  23. Take a step forward if you can easily find sites online that advocate for your side of prominent issues.
  24. Take a step back if you have a hard time finding websites that advocate for your views, and are considered “fringe” or “radicalized”
  25. Finally, take a step back for each category you belong to: white, male, cisgender, heterosexual, conservative, and middle class. All those identities are limited as to what they may and may not express in regards to other groups.

You might have noticed, that many of these statements for steps forward are the “victories” minority groups have won. While discrimination is not 100% gone from our society, keep in mind the privileges minorities have “won” over the years. An egalitarian society treats everyone by the same standards, regardless of groups that separate people. If we swing the pendulum to the point where we have to guilt trip and attack the once dominant group, we are no longer treating everyone equally if that group is afraid to express any critique anymore. PC proponents, you have asked white, male, cisgendered, straight people to “check their privilege” and be aware of the advantages they take for granted in society. Many people in these categories genuinely want a more equal and just society, and are more than willing to work with you to make that a reality. Don’t alienate them by making them “the enemy”. Please return the favor and check your privilege as well.

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