My #WalkAway Story Series: James

My #WalkAway Story Series is a bigger and more long term project for A Lady of Reason, and it’s all about YOU! This is your big chance at getting your voice heard and your own story out there! For many closeted conservatives, afraid for our livelihood, social networks, family connections, even physical safety now, being stuck in the closet can be extremely isolating and it’s easy to feel like it’s you against the world sometimes! I certainly feel that way! By sharing our stories collectively, I hope to give a voice to you, my dear readers and followers here on WordPress and Social Media, to show each other camaraderie and that in fact, we’re NOT alone, just in the shadows. Well folks, it’s time to come out of the shadows and into the light! The “silent majority” is at least half of our nation, so you’re not truly alone. Come and hear others, and add your own voice, your own story to the mix, of what it’s like being a conservative in an increasingly Leftist country! Send me an e-mail at aladyofreason@outlook.com or direct message me at @aladyofreason1 on Twitter to add YOUR story!!! 🙂 I’ll send you the standard question list, or you can just write it free form as a narrative…

This wonderful #WalkAway story comes from James, a Twitter fan who reached out to me via direct message! I apologize if anyone could not contact me before by direct message on Twitter, but now I have remedied the issue so if anyone wants to, they can send me a message request asking for the #WalkAway question list 🙂 James’ WalkAway story is very insightful and worth the read!

Tell me about yourself briefly:

My name is James. I am an American, born and raised, and I am in my early thirties. I am a practicing attorney and I deal in international contract law. My career has afforded me the opportunity to travel and live in many different countries. I am currently based in Colombia.

When did you become conservative? If you were ever liberal, what made you walk away?

I don’t know that I “became” a conservative so much as I always was one and just didn’t know it. When I was in high school and college, I called myself a liberal but only as a result of never having met a self-identified conservative. For that matter, I never recall encountering libertarians or anarchists or agrarians or any other type of politically involved person. Until I was in my mid-twenties, everyone I met was either leftist or politically agnostic.

I went to a Jesuit high school and then on to undergraduate and law at a Jesuit university. As you may know, the Jesuits are very deep in to social justice. During my tenure under “The Order”, I was heavily involved in social justice and liberation theology politics. As I reflect on it now, it seems hilarious. Many of the Jesuit priests I knew were engaged in teaching ideas considered heretical by the Catholic Church (pro-abortion, pro-divorce, and so on).

Once I left law school and entered the real world, the economic realities of life began to immediately hit me. My previous leftist leanings in this area began to fade rather quickly. I did not enjoy paying near 50% of my income to the government, only to turn around and aid clients (corporations, unions, NGOs) in bilking the government for that same money. However, I remained resolutely socially liberal. Specifically, I was heavily indoctrinated in to women’s rights issues.

My conversion in to social conservatism was merely a matter of changing my identifier, as I had really been quite conservative my whole life. Although, I didn’t know it. I dated the same woman from the time I was in high school until my last year of law school. We broke up and I entered the contemporary dating market with eyes wide shut… at 23 years of age. The first woman I dated after law school was my boss’s daughter (he set us up). She was very in to women’s issues, as well. As she should have been, because it turned out she had been working as a prostitute for a number of years. When her father and I found out, not only did her “woke” friends help her move out of her fathers house, they also assisted in filing suit for parental abuse and neglect against the man. I have known him for many years. The man is a saint.

There was a lot more to it than that, but suffice it to say that I began to question exactly what purpose much of the feminist doctrine I had been taught actually served. As I continued dating, my poor innocent conscience was shocked by the things I was hearing from the (often upper middle class) women I was dating. You name the issue and I have a story. Tattoos from head to toe. Morbid obesity masquerading as body positivity. Three kids out of wedlock or three abortions to avoid it. More sexual partners than a whole neighborhood of women would have had “back I the day”. But the worst of it was that it all came with an attitude of extreme entitlement – the idea that any man should just accept them as they were, with no improvement and no explanation.

All of this drove me to actually read some of the foundational feminist thought leaders. And… my eyes were opened. I would encourage anyone who supports feminism to please read notable feminist author (Greer, perhaps as she is a bit more palatable). It will cure you of your feminism completely. And so I walked away, leaving some family and lifelong friends.

Do you feel at all afraid to be openly conservative? If so, how do you cope with being closeted?

How I feel about openly espousing conservative views depends on where I am. When I am in the US, I spend a lot of time in NYC, LA, and Chicago. I simply do not discuss politics in these places. It is too great a risk to my business. However, when I am in South America or, even, Russia or China, I am fairly open about it. That I feel more at ease speaking freely in the latter two countries than the United States should frighten anyone with any sense.

I deal with being a closeted conservative in the US by spending as little time as possible there. I very much regret to say that travel has caused much of the luster of America to fade. If I do return to live full time in the US, I will most likely move to a more rural area in the Western states.

What advice to you have for other conservatives afraid to speak out?

I will not offer untested advice. I will only tell you what I am doing. Much of the fear I see comes from conservatives afraid of institutional and social retribution. I am minimizing the potential for this in my own life. I have opened my own legal firm and I am broadly diversifying my client base. I have extended my social network to include people I otherwise might not interact with – farmers, blue collar workers, the devoutly religious. They are some of the most decent and down to earth people I have ever met. And, as I alluded to earlier, I am looking at relocating to a more rural environment in a red state. I hope you will find, as I am finding, that minimizing the downside allows a person a certain political freedom and license they might not otherwise have in these crazy times.

Thanks so so much James!!! I agree that while closeted, interacting with a diverse base of people does help you open your mind to others, such as fellow conservatives 🙂 I agree with your take on how feminism has become too radicalized! It’s hard, I’d think in Law to be openly conservative, as in many jobs, since the whole smearing of Kavanaugh by his own law Alma Mater!!! All I can say is stay strong and persist… To borrow the Lefty terms: Resist! Persist! 😉 Of course, you’re always welcome to write for my blog anytime! We need voices like yours to show others they’re not alone!

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My #WalkAway Story Series: Patriotic American

My #WalkAway Story Series is a bigger and more long term project for A Lady of Reason, and it’s all about YOU! This is your big chance at getting your voice heard and your own story out there! For many closeted conservatives, afraid for our livelihood, social networks, family connections, even physical safety now, being stuck in the closet can be extremely isolating and it’s easy to feel like it’s you against the world sometimes! I certainly feel that way! By sharing our stories collectively, I hope to give a voice to you, my dear readers and followers here on WordPress and Social Media, to show each other camaraderie and that in fact, we’re NOT alone, just in the shadows. Well folks, it’s time to come out of the shadows and into the light! The “silent majority” is at least half of our nation, so you’re not truly alone. Come and hear others, and add your own voice, your own story to the mix, of what it’s like being a conservative in an increasingly Leftist country! Send me an e-mail at aladyofreason@outlook.com or direct message me at @aladyofreason1 on Twitter to add YOUR story!!! 🙂 I’ll send you the standard question list, or you can just write it free form as a narrative…

This #WalkAway story comes from an insightful conservative who wisely chooses to be under the pseudonym “Patriotic American”. Patriotic American fears backlash at work if he or she were to be known, which is a sad reality for many of us conservatives, myself included! Here’s Patriotic American’s wise words:

When did you become conservative? If you were ever liberal, what made you walk away?

I would not have ever labeled myself as a liberal or conservative until now. The other side has just gone insane. From shouting people out at restaurants to flinging around titles that they have no proof of such as racist and nazi, even to our President.
I wish they would do their research. I myself have done research on things that I hear about. I research articles and various media outlets not just one. Their movement has become an I hate Trump movement. He cannot ever do anything right. It’s not so much about their morals or beliefs as it is their hatred of the President.

Do you feel at all afraid to be openly conservative? If so, how do you cope with being closeted?

Yes, I am very hesitant to let my allegiance to the President be known. I work in such an environment that I do feel I would be ostracized and demeaned. I work among many educated and caring people. However, they have been so indoctrinated that they won’t or cannot see reason, or Even the very possibility of reason, for their hate. I deal with that by ” just walking away” from any conversation that might lead to shouting. I say shouting because there cannot be any reasonable conversation with them.

Patriotic American also had this insightful point about the #MeToo movement as well:

Seems like at this point they just sound like a bunch of crying feel bad for me martyrs. Which makes it harder for true victims and the police who try to investigate fairly. Additionally if it did happen this does not make every man a bad man. Is that what we should our girls of today? To be fearful of and doubt every man around? Do they not have husbands Sons boyfriends nephews fathers who should feel insulted at the comments thrown out to blame all men?

Thank you so much Patriotic American! It is hard when you fear the stigma and ostracism that being a conservative in a rampantly radical Leftist world! I applaud your courage to speak out, even anonymously! Your ideas need to be heard, and our voices need to be spoken somehow! Until our country gets more tolerant, here is the right place! You’re more than welcome to voice your opinions here on A Lady of Reason!

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My #WalkAway Story Series: Deb

My #WalkAway Story Series is a bigger and more long term project for A Lady of Reason, and it’s all about YOU! This is your big chance at getting your voice heard and your own story out there! For many closeted conservatives, afraid for our livelihood, social networks, family connections, even physical safety now, being stuck in the closet can be extremely isolating and it’s easy to feel like it’s you against the world sometimes! I certainly feel that way! By sharing our stories collectively, I hope to give a voice to you, my dear readers and followers here on WordPress and Social Media, to show each other camaraderie and that in fact, we’re NOT alone, just in the shadows. Well folks, it’s time to come out of the shadows and into the light! The “silent majority” is at least half of our nation, so you’re not truly alone. Come and hear others, and add your own voice, your own story to the mix, of what it’s like being a conservative in an increasingly Leftist country! Send me an e-mail at aladyofreason@outlook.com or direct message me at @aladyofreason1 on Twitter to add YOUR story!!! 🙂 I’ll send you the standard question list, or you can just write it free form as a narrative…

This #WalkAway story is from another Twitter Follower named Deb who like many, originally weren’t all too political until the Left got more and more loony! This is her story:

Tell me about yourself briefly:

Ok. My real name is Deb. I grew up in a small town in Iowa. Born, raised & still in Iowa. My parents had 4 kids. I married in Feb 1978. We had 2 daughters, one born May 1984, the other Nov 1986. March of 1990, my husband was in an auto accident that caused severe head injury. Unfortunately it caused a total change in him. He had been a loving husband & father. He became abusive and hateful to me. He then also became hateful towards our daughters. In January of 1992 our divorce became final. I’ve never remarried. Today I am 59 yrs old. I have 4 grandchildren. Jordan is now 14, Jason is 11, Hayden is 4 and so is Zayden. They’re my life! 💜

When did you become conservative? If you were ever liberal, what made you walk away?

I don’t remember being overly political. I did register to vote a few years back, finally. I am registered as an No Party person. The 6 years I have paid more attention to stuff going on. Finally!! I had an Uncle and Aunt that lived in Arkansas, back in the days of the Clinton crime family running things down there. So, I had heard things. The more I paid attention the more I noticed. During Obama I started getting fed up. By the time Obama was going to be leaving, Hillary was running. . I was a Ted Cruz fan to start. When it came down to Hillary or Trump, it was Trump I voted for. No regrets!! I joined Twitter to be informed on politics. No way the media today gives you the real story! I have learned so much! The corruption in our government – Democrats and Rhinos alike, it’s enough to make a person sick! The Human Trafficking, Child trafficking, the Illuminati, about Pizzagate, that Hollywood, the music world their all terrible people. Adrenochrome their drug of choice and how they get it. I pray, for my daughters & grandchildren’s sake the MAGA movement persists and America can be saved. I’m not racist. I grew up in an all white community, I am white. My 4 yr old grandson is half black. Illegal aliens I see as a big problem. They have become over whelming. In Iowa… Factory farms (pigs, chickens). They have child after child after child!

Do you feel at all afraid to be openly conservative? If so, how do you cope with being closeted?

I am not afraid to be openly conservative. To me, it’s the best bunch. I see such hatred from the left, I just cannot imagine how or why anyone can view that as ideal. My parents, in their 80’s do not use computer so their news comes from the likes of CNN.

What advice to you have for other conservatives afraid to speak out?

I hope that any Conservative who is afraid to come out will eventually! I have never lived anywhere else but small town Iowa. I do see bigger cities might feel safer to be careful. I hope that all changes.  Keep up your wonderful writing, getting the word out!

Thank you so much Deb! Your voice is invaluable and we need more like you speaking out! Thanks for sharing your wonderful story, and you’re right: We all should come out eventually! I just hope that this country becomes accepting enough we won’t need to hide behind pseudonyms online, but speak truth to the world we live in personally too! Until then, you’re more than welcome to speak your voice on my blog anytime 🙂

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My #WalkAway Story Series: Sonia

My #WalkAway Story Series is a bigger and more long term project for A Lady of Reason, and it’s all about YOU! This is your big chance at getting your voice heard and your own story out there! For many closeted conservatives, afraid for our livelihood, social networks, family connections, even physical safety now, being stuck in the closet can be extremely isolating and it’s easy to feel like it’s you against the world sometimes! I certainly feel that way! By sharing our stories collectively, I hope to give a voice to you, my dear readers and followers here on WordPress and Social Media, to show each other camaraderie and that in fact, we’re NOT alone, just in the shadows. Well folks, it’s time to come out of the shadows and into the light! The “silent majority” is at least half of our nation, so you’re not truly alone. Come and hear others, and add your own voice, your own story to the mix, of what it’s like being a conservative in an increasingly Leftist country! Send me an e-mail at aladyofreason@outlook.com or direct message me at @aladyofreason1 on Twitter to add YOUR story!!! 🙂 I’ll send you the standard question list, or you can just write it free form as a narrative…

This story comes from a conservative outside of the usual box as she is not only a woman, but Hispanic as well! Like many conservatives outside the box of white, straight, and male, in addition to facing the prejudice all conservatives face, she also faces backlash within her own community, as the Hispanic community is very liberal. Let me introduce a fellow Lady of Reason, Sonia! This is some of her insights into being a  conservative Hispanic woman:

Tell me about yourself briefly:

My parents are Mexican. I was born in Houston TX. Just like being Catholic was the norm for his panics, so is being Democrat. The message that was ingrained in Hispanics were Republicans are rich racist politicians who don’t care about the needs of blacks or Hispanics. Working class Hispanics rely on the news for information, so there you go, Hispanics have been completely brainwashed into believing the Democratic LIE they’ve been feeding Hispanics. The sad thing is, many are still blind, including my parents.

When did you become conservative? If you were ever liberal, what made you walk away?

The year Trump decided to run for president was the first time in my life I took interest in the Presidential Election. So, why did I suddenly become a strong conservative supporter for Trump? Simple common sense is my answer. I looked at Democrats and Republicans as teams… I have a choice to be on team D or R. So I checked out the leaders Trump and Hillary. Hmmm… let me do a bit of a background check on both. In my research I found team D had a long history of extreme corruption, broken promises, lies and the list goes on… So for starters, basic common sense tells me tells me NO to team D.

Do you feel at all afraid to be openly conservative? If so, how do you cope with being closeted?

No and yes! I have no shame in being a Latina Trump supporter on social media, but sadly I’m afraid to put a trump bumper sticker on my car for fear of vandalism. I live in a Hispanic neighborhood, but honestly I don’t feel the average Hispanic feels as much hate as the left media portrays. I feel it’s an intimidation tactic on their part. My business owning family members who are now Republican refuse to come out as conservatives. I suggested to my cousin we need to organize a walking group to pass out Ted Cruz fliers in our neighborhood, her response was, ARE YOU CRAZY? We’ll be shot or run over!!!! I don’t feel that kind of fear. Many people I know are still afraid to publicly support Trump on social media in fear of back or being labeled a racist. Small business owners are also afraid of backlash. That only makes me a stronger Trump supporter. (The radical liberals) sound like the modern day KKK to me.

What advice to you have for other conservatives afraid to speak out?

Sadly, the Left’s only tactic to win is through bullying, intimidating, yelling, lying and destroying. Use caution when needed, but DO NOT BE AFRAID, speak up and fight for our country!!!

Thank you so much Sonia! Your insights are awesome, and bring a unique insight from a conservative who is also in a community that is majority liberal! Your determination to think for yourself, rather than succumb to identity politics is a great thing, and this country needs more people like you, ones who think for themselves! You show us that a person’s opinions don’t have to be defined by their race, or ethnicity, but by the strength of their reasoning! You’re always welcome to speak out more on my blog too! 🙂

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My #WalkAway Story Series: John

My #WalkAway Story Series is a bigger and more long term project for A Lady of Reason, and it’s all about YOU! This is your big chance at getting your voice heard and your own story out there! For many closeted conservatives, afraid for our livelihood, social networks, family connections, even physical safety now, being stuck in the closet can be extremely isolating and it’s easy to feel like it’s you against the world sometimes! I certainly feel that way! By sharing our stories collectively, I hope to give a voice to you, my dear readers and followers here on WordPress and Social Media, to show each other camaraderie and that in fact, we’re NOT alone, just in the shadows. Well folks, it’s time to come out of the shadows and into the light! The “silent majority” is at least half of our nation, so you’re not truly alone. Come and hear others, and add your own voice, your own story to the mix, of what it’s like being a conservative in an increasingly Leftist country! Send me an e-mail at aladyofreason@outlook.com or direct message me at @aladyofreason1 on Twitter to add YOUR story!!! 🙂 I’ll send you the standard question list, or you can just write it free form as a narrative…

This #WalkAway story comes from John, who wants to use his voice to expose the witch hunt mentality of the #metoo movement and the Left against men! In addition, he generously provided his story too for my #Walk Away story series!

Tell me about yourself briefly. When did you become conservative? If you were ever liberal, what made you walk away?

I’ve always been conservative even ran for Congress in 2000 as a Republican soon after I filed for office is when attack against the woman,my significant other took place. My parents were liberals, all my siblings are liberals. They have always been radical in their beliefs. They all believe the ends justifies the means. I’ve learned majority of lefties think and act this way. My family declared something is very wrong with me to be a Conservative. I’m Conservative first, Republican second.

 Do you feel at all afraid to be openly conservative? If so, how do you cope with being closeted?

I don’t hide my conservative beliefs, and have no problem sharing them or defending them. P.C. was and is destructive to our society and I’ve never participated in it. I took some heat in 2000 for not being PC. My response was always,PC was designed to keep people from being truthful by attacking them for doing so,as to protect agenda of the left. I will be truthful and not lie in order to not upset whomever over whatever.

I believe the success of this which largely depends on deprivation of due process gave birth to the #metoo attacks. Tactics are the same, women are declared innocent and pure, men evil and guilty. Once accusations made, innocent or not the man loses credibility. People begin to doubt the man, all based on unproven claims. This is not right it must be stopped, the curtain of corruption must be pulled back and lay bare the dirty deeds that have been done for nearly 30 years that all started with VAWA. VAWA has a profit motive as well. DOJ disperses funds to states for every restraining order issued, states then share these funds with pet programs, law enforcement and courts. This is why state statutes that govern when an order is to be issued are ignored. There is a money motivated factor as well as a political factor for automatically issuing one, every time one is asked for. They also are “kryptonite ” to the credibility, future of the man and a tool of criminals to be used against any witness they believe will, or have reported their crimes. This tool is very powerful. The #metoo project and it is a project, has eliminated need for a freely issued “tool” to come from a judge, and allows any woman to make any claim against any man expecting the man to cave with hopes he can salvage his life and protect his family.

One more thing, while an “order” is in effect, a man cant own a firearm or use one, this presents a problem for our military. There has also been efforts to prevent any man who ever had an order “tool” against him from owning a firearm, this is a back door way of disarming millions of men. Divorce attorneys now, often recommended that women first get 1 of these freely issued “tools” against her husband,prior to filing for divorce.
It automatically destroys his credibility, causes him to be removed from the home by law enforcement, and often causes man loss of his job, because employer, like most believes man must have done something wrong or an order would not have been issued.
The man has zero standing in divorce court, if man fights for custody joint or otherwise, if he fights for anything, the woman then calls police to claim her husband violated the order she does not have to prove it,the cops dutifully arrest the man without probable cause, for most men at that point they are done,for now, he understands his wife can lie at will, and cops with zero probable cause will arrest him. Some men spend years in prison over this, again zero evidence is required. The claim of the woman is all that is required. I can’t find that in Constitution or Bill of Rights.

The rule of law has been ignored, abused for decades, to promote and protect leftists and their agenda, and never doubt, or forget that to leftists the ends do justify the means. Our laws are being subverted again on a worldwide stage. We have elevated women so high in this country, you need a telescope to see them. Questioning the claim makes anyone a target. I want to help expose and end this behavior, tactic, strategy by the left, of attacking and destroying men or anyone in power that don’t agree with leftists agenda.

You’re right, John! The #metoo hysteria only hurts women, not helps, by casting them as helpless victims, and of course hurts men by demonizing them as guilty in the eyes of many! To the Left, men are only jerks and potential rapists! You have so much courage saying this as a man, as despite the backlash myself and other women receive for criticizing #metoo, men are far more likely to be branded as rape apologists right off the bat! Keep speaking out and getting the facts out there! You’re always welcome to speak out more on this blog! #NotMe 

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My #WalkAway Story Series: Cautious Conservative

My #WalkAway Story Series is a bigger and more long term project for A Lady of Reason, and it’s all about YOU! This is your big chance at getting your voice heard and your own story out there! For many closeted conservatives, afraid for our livelihood, social networks, family connections, even physical safety now, being stuck in the closet can be extremely isolating and it’s easy to feel like it’s you against the world sometimes! I certainly feel that way! By sharing our stories collectively, I hope to give a voice to you, my dear readers and followers here on WordPress and Social Media, to show each other camaraderie and that in fact, we’re NOT alone, just in the shadows. Well folks, it’s time to come out of the shadows and into the light! The “silent majority” is at least half of our nation, so you’re not truly alone. Come and hear others, and add your own voice, your own story to the mix, of what it’s like being a conservative in an increasingly Leftist country! Send me an e-mail at aladyofreason@outlook.com or direct message me at @aladyofreason1 on Twitter to add YOUR story!!! 🙂 I’ll send you the standard question list, or you can just write it free form as a narrative…

This next #walkaway story comes from a Twitter follower who chose to go under the pseudonym “Cautious Conservative”. He has found the bravery to speak out and make the “silent majority” a little less silent 🙂 As a white, middle aged, Christian man, he is in one of the last groups left that’s socially acceptable to spew racism, sexism, vitriol, ageism, and religious intolerance towards. I commend him for speaking out, as unlike some conservatives, he has about zero “privilege” to use to speak out in his identities! Though it may seem like the world is against you, many many are right alongside you! This is his #WalkAway story:

When did you become conservative? If you were ever liberal, what made you walk away?
I was “raised” in a blue-dog democrat family (in rural Alabama) and thought Jimmy Carter was God’s gift to America when I was in High School. {Hardly “liberal” but not conservative.} Then, I went off to Auburn University, one of the most conservative public universities in the country, learned the value of hard work and taking care of myself, and my views evolved. There wasn’t a watershed moment, although the Iranian hostage release to Reagan was close.

Do you feel at all afraid to be openly conservative? If so, how do you cope with being closeted?
Yep. I was raised in the South, worked for almost 30 years in the federal government. I learned to keep my best thoughts to myself *not* because it was politically-incorrect but because it was the law. But, it wasn’t very hard because almost every person I knew regardless of gender or race agreed on the most important issues, even though some voted differently. (Granted, Obama changed the definition of “what we could agree on” and made things much, much harder out in the wild.) Just three years ago, I retired and moved to Colorado for a new job. Objective folks may say Colorado is “a purple state” but Denver-metro and Boulder County are the real thing. I have had some people totally “unfurl” to me (on the job) because they assume everyone is like them. Raised in the South, I am quiet and reserved — so, I manage and I cope. There are just a few folks here that are “woke” to the South (to borrow a phrase) — when I first arrived, a few older guys that understood the South asked me around about questions like, “So, obviously you are Baptist — what else can you tell me about yourself?” Sort of a safe test, that I would confirm or deny and pretty much reveal my beliefs and politics. Typically, I’d just say something like “My mother taught Sunday School in a rural Baptist Church for 50 years but my granny was Church of God (which, if they truly know the South, make Baptists look like Catholics).” From there, we develop secret handshakes, codes, and ciphers (grin).

What advice to you have for other conservatives afraid to speak out?
Look, as a straight, white, conservative, middle-aged, Christian man, it isn’t about fear. It is about peace. I am angry as hell about the Christine Blasey Ford falderal. But, God save me if I dare say anything about it. #MeToo is very real, young lady. If someone like me questions Ford’s motives or integrity, I am admitting to be a sexist (if not a closet rapist). I have one very dear friend here at the office, a guy raised in Louisiana, as liberal as all get-out, but we seldom converse about politics; however, I strayed and mentioned to him my complete frustration with Senator DiFi making a mockery of the confirmation process. He lost his mind and was screaming at me about Merrick Garland (Obama’s lame-duck nomination). Yeah, don’t do it, boys. Just mind your business and vote every November. What I do try to do is read news from across the aisle, more so than from my own camp. (I try to watch ZERO televised “news” because it is thoughtless drivel regardless of the side.) READ. Sun Tzu said it this way, “If you (truly) know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles.” Finally, I’d say pick your battles.

Thank you so much! Your wisdom is awesome and much needed! I’m honored you took the time to share your wonderful story and advice with the world! Feel free to come again and write a guest post, or comment, here on A Lady of Reason. It’s nice to know allies are out there, and we must all speak out for each other! They may force us into the closet at times, but we will always find ways to step out! 🙂

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My #WalkAway Story Series: Dems are Dumb

My #WalkAway Story Series is a bigger and more long term project for A Lady of Reason, and it’s all about YOU! This is your big chance at getting your voice heard and your own story out there! For many closeted conservatives, afraid for our livelihood, social networks, family connections, even physical safety now, being stuck in the closet can be extremely isolating and it’s easy to feel like it’s you against the world sometimes! I certainly feel that way! By sharing our stories collectively, I hope to give a voice to you, my dear readers and followers here on WordPress and Social Media, to show each other camaraderie and that in fact, we’re NOT alone, just in the shadows. Well folks, it’s time to come out of the shadows and into the light! The “silent majority” is at least half of our nation, so you’re not truly alone. Come and hear others, and add your own voice, your own story to the mix, of what it’s like being a conservative in an increasingly Leftist country! Send me an e-mail at aladyofreason@outlook.com or direct message me at @aladyofreason1 on Twitter to add YOUR story!!! 🙂 I’ll send you the standard question list, or you can just write it free form as a narrative…

This very detailed and articulate story is from a regular reader here on my blog, who chose (humorously) the pseudonym “Dems are Dumb”! Hear his words of wisdom:

When did you become conservative? If you were ever liberal, what made you walk away?
The terms “liberal” and “conservative” mean different things to different people. To me they are shorthand terms for various positions on the conservative and liberal “shopping lists” such as gun control, abortion, immigration etc. that address the role of government versus the individual. If you buy the stuff on the conservative shopping list then you’re a conservative and if you go for the items on the liberal list then you’re a liberal. I think of myself as a libertarian. I buy more many items on the conservative list but, I do sneak a few of the liberal items into my shopping cart as well. For me, the deciding factor is whether or not a specific position imposes state interference on an individual’s choices. Because liberal positions tend to call for more state interference than do the conservative positions, I identify more with the conservative side. Treebeard in the Tolkein trilogy put it well: “I’m not entirely on anyone’s side because no one is entirely on my side. But there are those whose side I’m entirely not on.”

In my youth, I identified as a liberal. As is the case with most people, my first experience with government authority was as a student in the public school system. To say that I was not impressed would be an understatement. The system struck me as arbitrary, hypocritical and authoritarian. In those days, school faculty and administrators tended to be conservative. That was during the Vietnam war and dissent was considered an offense. Draconian dress codes and hair length restrictions were tools to crush individuality. They tried to teach us what to think rather than equip us with the tools to make our own decisions about things. I saw them more as drill sergeants than as true educators. The left was the opposition and because of that they opposed the restrictive atmosphere and were free speech advocates. I naturally sided with them.

Even into my early years in college, I didn’t notice the inherent contradiction in my views. I was distrustful of government authority and opposed to interference in individual decisions that do not directly hurt others. On the other hand, I embraced the liberal philosophy which included big government programs. At first, any attempt to point out the cognitive dissonance in my combination of both my distrust of authority along with pro big government views fell on deaf ears. In retrospect, that was natural. Like most kids, I grew up in an environment where my parents provided everything for me so it didn’t seem unnatural for government to do the same. The first cracks in my liberal identification started in college.

I went to a very liberal college. The group there that was the most to the left held views that generally coincide with main stream leftists today with one exception. Back in the day, they proudly proclaimed that they were Marxists while today’s leftists try to avoid that admission. The Marxists back in college advocated restricting conservative views. I remember a discussion that I had with some of them where they said that they need to protect people from dangerous (i.e. non-Marxist) political views just as adults need to prevent small children from touching a flame and burning themselves. I heard similar views from leftists elsewhere as well. That’s when it started to dawn on me that they only were cool, dissident free speech advocates when they were in the opposition. Once they got into power, they were the same self righteous, dictatorial authoritarians as the old conservatives, but with one difference. The leftists called for more intrusive and controlling government programs making them more dangerous. I suspect that the modern school and college experiences would find them equally dictatorial.

Walking away from the left was a process for me rather than an instant revelation. One thing that pushed me away from liberalism was the leftist position on gun control. Aside from the toy guns that I played with as a kid, I wasn’t terribly interested in guns until I got to college. There I made several good friends (still close friends today) who were firearms enthusiasts. They got me interested in firearms and that started me looking at the political aspects of the gun control issue. I looked at the issue from both sides reading and listening to arguments from both sides. I saw that the pro-gun side used facts and logic while the anti-gun positions depended on hysterical emotionalism, disingenuous arguments and shameless mendacity. Because I became a firearms enthusiast myself, the left’s dishonesty regarding the issue did much to alienate me and caused me to become skeptical that liberals could be trusted about anything if they were so untrustworthy on the second amendment.

As I look back on it, my political views matured as I did. Experience taught me that facts are stubborn things and cannot be ignored without bad results. Believing that something is true because one wants it to be true is to ignore the facts. When I started applying that lesson to political analysis, I had to look at the question of how well liberal economic policies worked out where they had been adopted. What I saw did not indicate that socialism was a good route to follow despite how well it sounded. As part of my questioning, I read the work of free market economists such as Thomas Sowell and Walter Williams. I found them refreshing in that they relied on facts and logic rather than emotional suasion to explain their positions . As I matured, I found such free market arguments pushing me away from liberalism and more towards libertarian conservativism. Part of learning from experience is learning to distinguish between a sound argument and the the sales pitch from a snake oil salesman. That was a significant factor in my walk away from liberalism.

My views on politics and other matters are not static. They change as I observe more and hear different arguments. My opinions differ from those I held ten years ago and might well differ from the the way that I’ll think ten years from now.

Do you feel at all afraid to be openly conservative? If so, how do you cope with being closeted?

Even in my college days in a overwhelmingly liberal college, I was not afraid to express dissenting views. It never occurred to me to do otherwise. One of the great things about college is that you encounter people who think for themselves. Not everyone there does, but enough do to make college interesting and enlightening. One can find like minded people even when they are in a minority. I do not think it helpful to disguise one’s opinions for fear of isolation. After all, when are you more alone, when you are by yourself or when you are around people with whom you are afraid to be yourself? I also found that people who respect themselves and their own views tend to win the respect of others. I did not consider those who did not respect my right to hold opinions to be worthy of my time.

I never wanted to be a public persona so I never published my views or posted on the internet. That wasn’t for fear of being openly conservative but rather a preference for privacy. Although anyone looking at the back of my vehicle would readily see that I am pro-gun, I refrained from putting on any overly inflammatory bumper stickers because I frequently park in a city and I know many leftists have no compunctions about vandalizing a vehicle that draws their ire. I prefer not to gain attention.

Before I retired, I would avoid political discussions in a business environment because I believe that politics has no place on the job. I think I would have felt the same way if I were a liberal. Other than that, I had no compunction about discussing politics. Over the years, I’ve learned that political arguments seldom change anyone’s mind so I don’t bother with them much. I’ve grown to see the value in disagreeing without being disagreeable.

What advice to you have for other conservatives afraid to speak out?

Because I haven’t been afraid to express my opinions, I’m not sure what advice to give to those who are afraid. Personally, I see no need to look for arguments but I see no need to pretend liberal when I’m really a conservative or vice versa.
For the past few decades, I’ve lived in an area where most people have conservative opinions so I don’t have a lot of first hand experience of what conservatives have to put up with in liberal areas. That makes it difficult to advise people who are in more intimidating situations. What works for me might not work for you and we all must decide for ourselves how or whether to express their convictions in the face of opposition. All that I can say is that the secret of life is showing up for it. If you are looking for inspiration, I can suggest that you look up the life of Cassius Marcellus Clay, not the heavyweight boxing champion who changed his name to Muhammad Ali but the ardent abolitionist who lived in the pre-civil war south. He openly and vocally campaigned against slavery in the face of opposition so violent that it’s said that he gained enough experience to write a manual on bowie knife fighting.

Thank you so so much for your detailed answers, and wise insights! You are more than welcome to do a guest post or comment on my blog anytime! It’s great to get your voice out there! Thank you, “Dems are Dumb” 😉 !

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