#NotThem, Apparently…

So I thought I already covered about every angle of the flaws of the #MeToo movement, however, there is one glaring one still left: All the women who AREN’T being heard by the Left, who purports to uphold giving a voice to vulnerable women! Who are these forgotten women one might ask?

Well for starters, there’s Kavanaugh’s wife and daughters! During the smear campaign against Kavanaugh, his wife and young daughters were the targets of death threats and vile insults! Imagine, his 10 year old daughter was mocked, derided and vilely put in the spotlight in an appalling cartoon mocking her benevolence toward of all people, Christine Ford!  Yes, Kavanaugh said his daughter said that they should “pray for the woman” before bedtime during their prayers, after she learned Ford was smearing her dad! This act of goodwill (albeit naive if you ask me) was not applauded, but used to insult a 10 year old little girl in a vile cartoon saying she also prayed to God to forgive her “Angry, lying, alcoholic father for sexually assaulting Dr. Ford”! How would any Leftist feel if that was THEIR child??? The maker of that cartoon may have been within his legal rights to create that cartoon, but that certainly doesn’t mean it was within any moral rights to… If that little girl were the daughter of any of these Lefties, and the cartoonist a conservative, it would have been decried into the stratosphere! The Left in addition, went after Kavanaugh and demonized him into this vile monster, with zero regard for his wife and daughters. His daughters had to see their father smeared as a rapist, and probably learned more about sexual assault from that incident than their parents being able to talk about it within the comfort of their own timing and pace. His wife in her immense integrity and courage stood by her husband in truth as he was lied about again and again and again. As mentioned previously, although they won, the scars from that experience I’m sure are still there. However to the Left, these were inconsequential women… They were a-okay to threaten, and vilely insult for all to see. Their feelings were never once acknowledged, that it must have been hard for them to go through this even if Kavanaugh was truly a rapist. It wasn’t like anything Kavanaugh could have done was their fault, especially his daughters, who have absolutely zero say in who they were born to as their father!!! Their suffering was unacknowledged despite their own innocence…

And let’s take a look at the women in the lives of some of the oh so righteous Lefties who smeared him! Keith Ellison has allegations out against him for beating his ex girlfriend. She alleges:

“He looked at me, goes ‘Hey you f***ing hear me … and then he looked at me, he goes ‘Bitch, get the f*** out of my house,’ and he started to try to drag me off the bed,” Monahan said. “That’s when I put my camera on to video him.” (Woman Accusing Rep. Keith Ellison of Abuse speaks Out, CBS News)

However no one on the Left believed her story! A man allegedly put his hands on a woman and violently tried to drag her, and call her vile names, yet the woman is dismissed by the Left! The party that cries the cry of “believe all women”, even to the extent to no due process for the accused, dismisses an allegation when its against one of their own??? Really telling, isn’t it? Imagine if she were the girlfriend or wife of a conservative politician! And that is just one example of allegations of violence against women with Leftist perpetrators!

Oh, and of course, there’s Bill Clinton 😉 Let’s not forget all of his exploitation of numerous women as the President of the United States no less, and although impeached, none of the Democrats voted “yes”, and he was acquitted on all charges!!! Hillary defended him (even now saying #MeToo doesn’t apply to Bill!) and threatened his victims into silence! Imagine if he were Trump! I can hear the outrage now… Impeachment would happen in a split second! Not only that, both Hillary and Bill were advocating for #MeToo, and no one on the Left ever batted an eye at a proven sexual coercer and abuser endorsing the movement to end the exact abuse he did to countless young women!!! When do those women get to say #MeToo? They try and crucify Kavanaugh, yet let a proven abuser off the hook to talk about #MeToo… What on Earth gave him of all men, the right to say one word on the movement that was founded because of men like him, and of course Hillary, defending such an abuser of women???

It’s not just partner violence or sexual violence though that is affecting women that is being overlooked when it suits the Left! Threats of violence, death threats, doxxing, are all being used against the women in prominent conservative’s lives. When the Antifa mobs surrounded Tucker Carlson’s house with his wife home alone, and “almost broke the door” and his wife fears for her safety enough to hide in her closet and call 9/11 is that not threatening a woman with violence??? Even threats on social media and in the crowd about bringing a pipe bomb were hurled at Carlson and his family! Thank goodness the children weren’t home!!! If they don’t like Carlson, fine, protest peacefully, but to harass his wife and children??? Obviously, that mob couldn’t care less about an innocent woman and her children who have zero to do with Carlson’s opinions! Some more sane Leftists may have not condoned this particular incident, but the Left turns a blind eye continually on violent mobs such as Antifa. Again, imagine this was a Conservative mob, and the family was a Liberal’s. How do you honestly think the press and the Left would react???

Women victimized by Leftist perpetrators through sexual assault, violence, and threats are constantly overlooked and swept away by the Left to protect their own, while innocent, upright conservative men like Kavanaugh were smeared to the vilest degree! When can they get justice and feel safe in their own homes and for their children! When can the Left stop making excuses for deriding a 10 year old girl because “it’s just a cartoon”? As the party of political correctness and censoring speech not to offend, quite the hypocritical position! When can the wives, daughters, mothers, sisters, etc… of conservatives be put first by the Left and their #MeToo movement and anti-violence against women movements instead of cover ups and justifications for why a little girl is morally alright to smear publicly, wives and children threatened as collateral to get to their their husbands, the partners of Leftist perpetrators of violence get justice, and why this even is a political issue at all?! I would think violence intimidation and threats against ANY woman should be decried at the human level, never mind what their politics are! However, it’s clear to see some women get to cry rape, and a man is instantly smeared before and without any valid proof, while others are silenced and threatened and swept under the rug to protect other men in power… It all depends on whose side he and she are on… For all the women victimized by the Left, through threats, intimidation, violence, even sexual assault, when do THEY get to say “MeToo”???

(Hypocrisy at its finest 😉 )

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10 Scary Issues The Liberals Conjured Up…

Halloween is here and everyone’s in a spooky mood! Like most people, I can appreciate a good scare around Halloween. However, fact can be stranger than fiction any time of the year, and the scariness of the real world is no trick! Here are some of the scary issues going on today spurred on by radical liberals and the culture of political correctness (click on the links to read more in detail about each issue):

1. “Hook up” Culture

As said many times before, in our current culture, sex is just a handshake. Marriage is just dating 2.0. Young ladies are told they can dress like skanks for men. Traditional values of committed life long marriages, and striving for marriage as your ultimate relationship goal, not just a hook up, being a virgin on your wedding day, the things our grandparents did, is going away in our society in favor of cheap sex or instant gratification and pleasure. It’s society’s reflection of the “I can do whatever I want consequence free” attitude of irresponsibility and instant gratification. Sites like Tinder and others don’t help the matter! Nor does the mainstream media, TV and movies! Our youth is being taught this sleazy lifestyle, and many boomers are embracing it too, on to their 2nd and 3rd marriages in a culture rife with divorce, STD’s and unwanted pregnancy! When did we decide instant gratification took precedence over the desire for a better future down the road? When did it become acceptable for our daughters to fling themselves at every guy they see to be “empowered” women? When did marriage become dating 2.0? Scary if you ask me…

2. “Any Family is A Real Family”

To add to this list of horrors, and on a related note is the disintegration of the nuclear family. In a culture that goes for cheap sex and hook ups, more and more people who start families break them up for baser urges. “I’m leaving you for my secretary!”, “I’m divorcing you because I hate you and the kids!” “She’s hotter and gives me what I like…” etc… Then, many single mothers go on and whine then, and raise sons to be weak and feminized, and daughters to hate men and reject traditional femininity and marriage. Children are the ones who pay the price on this one. Children for broken homes are much more likely to have issues such as depression, substance abuse, eating disorders, trouble in school, “daddy issues”, a promiscuous lifestyle and repeat the cycle as adults! The glorification of single parenthood and the oppression of fathers in their children’s lives is rampant, and reflected in every psychology journal, magazines, TV, movies and the media! Even events like the father-daughter dance are being eradicated thanks to bitter single mothers! That’s not all though, the concept of same sex parents, who are in essence one parent since they don’t have the perspective of the other sex are being normalized too. The politically correct platitudes of “every family is a real family” go down the drain of reality when one sees the children who come out of it.

3. The Welfare State

Oh, this is a biggie! All the minorities and immigrants on welfare crying “victim” of past oppression and won’t better themselves or their communities but settle for government housing! They drain our school system who has to raise their children for them, drain our healthcare with all their problems and unwanted pregnancies, drain our economy, our government, our charities, our food supply, our housing, and certainly our tax dollars! Indeed, it’s you and I, the working class and the middle class, who foot the bill through our tax money. A portion of your salary goes to these leeches! And who would blame them? We enable them and they’ve been doing it for generations! Welfare should be for those who genuinely can’t work, like our wounded veterans, and respectable families who need that leg up to get back in the workforce. However, now, people are leeching off it and are they grateful? No! The people who bombed the Boston Marathon sure weren’t! Nor are the ghetto hoodlums in low income areas around the country, only bringing crime and continuing the cycle of poverty and anti-intellectualism (lest you be called an Uncle Tom). To make matters even more frightening, many literally believe WE owe THEM welfare from cradle to grave, and they reason why they have so many problems in their communities is due to white oppression! Even if that were true, why keep your neighborhood in crime and disarray? Why want nothing better for your children except to repeat the cycle and torment any good kids who want a future? Why bring nothing to this country in return for its charity? Appalling if you ask me, and guess who subsidizes all of this? (Hint: Liberal Democrats who want more votes…)

4. “Gender Benders!”

The issue of sex vs. gender is big now, and propagandized by mainstream psychology and science! In the “before time”, gender (which now the liberals say is distinct from biological sex) was determined the same way as sex. XX or XY human chromosomes. In recent years, due to influences like radical feminism that hates traditional gender roles, they decided it’s all arbitrary, and you can be anything you want regardless of genetics or settled science! People with what used to be called gender dysmorphia, are now normalized and victims of gendered oppression! Instead of a deep mental illness, it’s now perfectly normal for little boys to want to be little girls for instance! For grown men to “transition” into women and dismantle their families! Now, I don’t demonize the transgender people themselves, many do genuinely feel that way and have a real mental disorder. However, it’s not all harmless, such as the fact predators now are enabled to merely claim to be women to enter girl’s and women’s restrooms and locker rooms! More and more young people are being brainwashed by the idea gender is merely a social construct, not a normal biological one in normal people, and decide on impulse they’re the opposite gender, or even “other” that is neither gender! Until society stops normalizing a mental disorder as being progressive from the chains of gender roles, real women will be endangered by men pretending to be women to access their spaces, little boys and girls will be confused and brainwashed, families will be torn apart, and established objective science will be thrown away for popular sentiments and subjective propaganda!

5. The Cult of Victim-Hood

This encapsulates so many groups, minorities, women, LGBT etc… The common denominator though is the world is out to get them, and owes them compensation and reparations! They seek not to better themselves, or appreciate the work that was done to help them, but rather to constantly whine, complain and demand more and more! If you don’t comply, they go full blown tantrum, with vitriol, ad-hominem attacks, and straw man arguments! They don’t want you to speak frankly or give any honest critiques of them. They pretend to be helpless against their misfortunes, such as crime, gangs, and poverty, or “sexism” and the “patriarchy”, or traditional marriage, gender roles, biological sex, the nuclear family and such that they deem oppressive. They’re “triggered” by an opposing view, “microagressed” on by innocent people who have no clue what they said was even remotely offensive. They’re the snowflake generation that feels doomed for life and doesn’t lift a finger to build their own future because of propaganda by liberals about our doomed economy, workforce and prospects for young people. The women who cry #metoo for a sexual mistake after the fact decades from when it happened. The minorities that claim “white privilege”. The transgender people who demand science be overturned for their gender dysphoric disorder and the world cater to 1% of 1% of the population. The bitter single moms who hate men and the traditional family set up as the norm. Basically, a generation of snowflakes with no resilience and immense fragility!

6. Uncontrolled Borders

Immigration is a huge hot button topic. So are refugees. While many of us came from immigrants, it’s fair to say these ones are a bit different from the hard working industrious ones who helped build our country! The ones coming now, are draining our welfare system, medical care, schools, jobs etc… They’re bringing 3rd world cultures over to our country and making more crime and poverty. Many of these war torn refugees also bring the threat of terrorism in addition. Now, of course, there are exceptions to the rule. Some groups do bring more industry, and technology here, working in high powered careers. Not all Hispanic or Muslim immigrants are the lazy, backwards, stereotype and do work hard and try to better themselves and their families. Many do come here through legal channels, and don’t hop our borders only to leech off our system undocumented. I do genuinely feel for many in poverty and desperate straits who were forced to leave their culture and country. However, we can’t care for every person who is in need around the world. What about our own citizens? The homeless children and veterans. The poverty in our own country. Why is it always on America to take in these people and baby sit the world? Why can’t other countries pull their fair share too? People from war torn areas who have nothing are raised to be in a dog-eat-dog world. They bring that attitude of brutality over to 1st world nations like ours. Europe is in shambles over refugees bringing violent crimes like assault and rape as well as terrorism! MS-13 gangs and others plague our country from Hispanic countries. Why can’t our immigrants bring more assets to our country, not leeches? Until we can screen them more thoroughly, the bad apples get though too!

7. “Clash of The Cultures”

On another related note, comes the cultural clashes between 3rd world vs. 1st world values. Ones like freedom, equality and democracy! Ones where women aren’t assaulted, and people robbed at gunpoint, or killed! Ones where hard work is the norm, not victimhood and leeching off the welfare state only to bite the hand that feeds you! The extremes the PC liberals go to cater to them are astounding, with special Sharia law set up, or ethnic neighborhoods where any outsider will meet their doom, or turning a blind eye to 3rd world criminals and gangs so you can be politically correct and not face uncomfortable truths. The traditional American work ethic of the working middle class who supports themselves and brings more to the country than takes is going away for fragile snowflakes who cry oppression. Not just immigrants and refugees of course are guilty of this. Minority groups here in the US like the much of the poor black community for instance! A culture of ghetto life, welfare, crime, and poverty that hates education and intelligence is not good for the country! It’s all a slight to every one in these groups who is NOT like that and does work hard at an honest living and values our country.

8. Radical Feminism

The “Nasty Woman” movement really showed the extremes of the radical feminists. They brainwash our daughters to hate men and cry victim too. They infantilize women through the #metoo movement, painting women as helpless and clueless little children when it comes to sexual coercion. They try to say that traditional femininity is oppressive, traditional strong men are misogynists, and women ought to take part in hook up culture to be “liberated”. They do anything but make women look dignified! They replaced feminine elegance and grace of past generations with vulgar promiscuity, loose morals and masculine wannabes who resent men. From this movement stems callous attitudes like “her body her choice”, to misguided ones like shunning traditional femininity, the guidance of fathers, feminization of men, and more scary happenings!

9. Reverse Discrimination

White privilege and affirmative action are prime examples! It’s unbelievable what the victimhood culture has duped many to believe is right! They claim that only whites are racist, or men are sexist, due to social power, but discrimination is discrimination no matter whose side it’s on! Many white men and women too, are refused job offers, college acceptances and other opportunities like housing or even being chosen for promotions for instance due to their sex or color of their skin. Now, for some groups it’s racist or sexist, but others it’s not??? Pretty scary to think that inequality is being done in the name of equality!

10. Censorship of Conservative Views

Lastly, but certainly not least, the most scary thing of all is you can’t publicly say ANY of the above!!! I am forced to use a pseudonym as any of this would derail me socially and career wise! Almost all mainstream news sites are liberal and demonize conservatives (minus Fox News for now…). Major search engines like Google are blatantly liberal, and censor conservative sites, and social media like Facebook and Twitter also censor conservatives, even YouTube! Which are all owned by Google 😉 Even offline, people will shun you, and spew vitriol over conservative views. You can’t speak out even in your own family many times, and indeed, at least one family member shunned me over my blog! People have lost jobs, friendships, even family over being conservative. Some were even assaulted and lost their lives over conservative views! I guess we’re “in the closet” now! It’s a scary world out there for our lot, but there’s a silent majority rising, and pushing back. We need to support each other and speak out, to make our world a bit less scary 🙂

Lastly… Happy Halloween!

#HimToo…

It seems talk about the #MeToo movement has been a really hot topic these past few weeks, especially in light of the Kavanaugh fiasco! My previous post, “The Flaws of #MeToo” has gotten a record number of views! I have touched upon many cogent points in that, and even older articles on the subject, however, I have not gone into greater detail over how it impacts men. #MeToo is a lose-lose for both sexes, and both sides of the political spectrum! The issue is, #MeToo by casting women as victims, casts men as perpetrators, as a corollary. It’s black and white, good vs. evil, quite literally! Any woman is a victim, and any man a perpetrator, leaving out any grey areas, and any nuances. A woman merely has to say “he did it” and is believed without a doubt, without credible evidence, credible witnesses or anything!

While many of us are aware to look our for our daughters, wives, mothers, sisters etc… to protect them from sexual assault, the current danger to our sons, husbands, fathers and brothers is overlooked. #MeToo plays up the risk of a woman being assaulted, but also the risk that any man is an assaulter! This creates an atmosphere of fear and tension between men and women, with women fearful of men, and men fearful of women accusing them falsely. The detractor may say, “but it isn’t a high risk of a man getting falsely accused, and we should focus more on our women than our men…” implicitly saying that it negates looking out for women, by looking out for men too. Both arguments are flawed.

One, many men have indeed been falsely accused, including one who should have been in the Supreme court a week ago!!! More and more cases are coming to light of men being exonerated after decades behind bars after the women admitted to lying. It is incredibly easy for a woman to accuse a man. Literally just say “he did it”, and all is believed! Don’t think for a moment women are somehow more morally upright than men, and would never smear a man for her own unethical gains. Women, like men, are simply human, for good and for bad. To think anything else, is to put women on a very condescending pedestal, treating her as childlike, instead of seeing her simply as a fallible human. A woman, equally as much as any man, could frame someone to gain something, money, notoriety, even absolve herself of personal responsibility if she regretted sex the next morning!

The other argument is flawed as well, because looking after the men in our lives, and standing up for their right to due process and a fair investigation, does NOT negate the fact we also ought to look after the women in our lives and empower them to speak up in case of real sexual assault! Can’t we do both??? Saying, “not all men”, and men need protection too from false allegations is just as valid, as saying women need protection for sexual assault and need to be empowered too. It is not merely an excuse to deflect off the women’s issue of sexual assault by men. The men’s issue of false accusations is JUST as real and has happened in reality, not just in theory! We, as humanity, should look out for our fellow humans, of BOTH sexes, and both measures can be done to help EVERYONE get justice and protection, it shouldn’t be a competition for victim-hood! #HimToo, the counter-hashtag to #MeToo has the right to exist just as much. The original intention of the #MeToo movement has been hijacked by radicals who abuse it to undermine who they want. #HimToo gives a voice to the victims of this radicalization from a more rabid, vitriolic #MeToo that has smeared many an innocent man, even boy!!!

Yes, the #MeToo hysteria has even gone after boys too young to even know about sexuality or even think of hurting any girl or woman! Cases such as a little boy being accused of sexual assault at school, in his ELEMENTARY school, for hugging his teacher, a grown woman!!! A kind, innocent, pure gesture perverted into something truly sickening as to imagine a child being capable of this, by the #MeToo mindset of paranoia against men! Even teenage boys, the same age as a teenage girl, are vilified as predators, instead of young people exploring their own budding sexuality while the girl of the exact same age and developmental stage is viewed as a vulnerable potential victim and damsel in distress! I don’t blame men in the least for being more afraid to hire women, date women, and even casually interact with them alone due to #MeToo! The movement, which was meant to empower real victims against abuse of power, now is vilifying all men as sex predators, from ages 6-60 and beyond!!! Not to mention, men and boys are sexually assaulted too, sometimes by women! Can they say #MeToo as well??? Apparently not by the Left’s double standards and hypocrisy!

We as women, must look out for our sons, husbands, fathers, brothers etc… as it could easily be them next! Don’t fall into the fallacy, ladies, that your men are too upright, proper and righteous to be framed, as some opponents of my view argue. Simply “not raping women” is not enough in this #MeToo hysteria! Even looking at women, complimenting anything on a woman, her clothes, her hair, her shoes etc…, merely being behind a closed door with one is enough! And for some, not even knowing a woman and being anywhere near her, as any woman can simply make up a story and be believed! One woman’s son was framed for assaulting these cliques in high school, and had to go to court dates, even detained in juvenile detention, over allegations the girls later admitted were completely false because they “didn’t like him”! This should send chills over every mother’s, wife’s, sister’s, daughter’s spines!!! Our country is in the grips of witch hunts, hysteria and the court of public opinion, rather than the court of law, due process, evidence and justice! Our men are called upon to defend us in case of assault, why can’t we be there, as only a woman can, to defend them if heaven forbid, they get smeared with an allegation. In this world of identity politics, and not believing someone outside of a group and not being allowed to comment on issues of that group, our voices as women are crucial in turning the tide on #MeToo! We need to show the Left not all women subscribe to demonizing our men and boys, and stand with them, to defend their innocence from the kangaroo courts of popular opinion and emotion. Ladies, our sons, husbands, brothers, fathers, uncles, nephews, male friends, and indeed, any man needs us, the female half of humanity, to say “#NotMe”, before we are forced to say “#HimToo” when “him” becomes “them”: YOUR loved ones!!!

(The painting “Not Guilty” by Abraham Solomon captures what a relief it is for the women to see the man they care about was proven innocent. In the #MeToo hysteria, such a scene today will be rarer and rarer unless we as women, defend our men!)

The Flaws of #MeToo

I’ve written any times through out my blog on issues such as the hypocrisy of the #MeToo movement by the Left! How, while a noble premise, to give women voices against powerful abusers in authority, it does the exact opposite of what it’s supposed to do: empower women and bring justice and fairness. The problem is, while #MeToo sounds great in theory, in practice, it has some very detrimental implications and unintended consequences.

#MeToo Casts Women as Helpless Victims and Little Children

#MeToo implies women are merely helpless little victims, damsels in distress if you will, little children who are naive to what sexual coercion is. The narrative of “always believe” because alleged victims don’t lie, or at a minuscule chance of it, is flawed for the application to grown women! Even teenagers! Look, a small child does not know much at all about sexual coercion, or the slimy tactics and red flags of grooming and exploitation. Nor would be familiar enough with such concepts to lie about them. However, this is certainly NOT the case for a grown woman, even an older teenager! Yes, some may be uninformed and naive, but must learn in order to protect themselves. Forewarned is forearmed. My parents always talked to me about such dangers, and even from the tender age of 12, I knew the concept of rape and sexual assault! Thing is, while extremely unpleasant to have such conversations with young children, it must happen to empower them! Even the Left can agree and does encourage parents to teach very young children how to spot sexual abuse and inappropriate situations and most importantly, tell someone immediately! Point is, a grown woman is not a mere helpless child: she is aware of sexual dangers and should be empowered to put safeguards in place for her protection before hand too! It seems to me, incredibly misogynistic, and condescending to view women in any other way than empowered and capable of spotting and putting a stop to unethical coercion!

Not Telling Has Endangered Countless Other Women Over These Decades of Silence

Another point: If you don’t tell, and wait decades, like many have, it only endangers other women, countless others who then say “me too” later on! Think of it. If it stopped at woman #1, if the allegations are true, then women numbers 3,4,5….100 don’t have to! While being victimized is not ever deserved, not speaking out so other women won’t be makes you have a part to play by your silence letting the perpetrator get away with more crimes. Think of it this way: Not reporting a burglary makes it easier for more of the neighborhood to get robbed when they can get away with it! You may have been a victim, but your silence is letting others just like you become victims too!

It Also Casts Women as Being Easily Mentally Overpowered by Men

Not quite the feminist idea #MeToo wants to go for! 😉 While I think we can all unanimously agree many men are physically stronger than women, and can force and hold one down to assault them, and have the upper hand, many instances of #MeToo was about sexual coercion. A man in a position of authority pressuring women to submit to him to get ahead or avoid some consequence. Unless that consequence was threat of harm or death to herself/family, a woman can still say “no”. “No” may come at a greater cost, but is a job promotion, or benefits, or such worth your integrity? Giving away one of your most precious gifts and your personal dignity for some career? Look, I get some women may feel forced financially, but many #MeToo cases were from women in high powered careers making loads of money! Not to mention, we can all agree it is a vile thing to abuse authority to coerce women or anyone for that matter! That is NEVER in doubt here! Accordingly , there are more and more things in place, such as human resources and steep penalties in the workplace for sexual harassment. Giving in only lets the perpetrator win, instead if saying “no” and reporting those unethical slimy acts to the proper authorities! Coercion is a slimy, sleazy, unethical thing to do, and authority figures must be held accountable for it! Saying “no” to their demands, and speaking up immediately to proper authorities helps fight that, and “no” is always on the table unless he’s physically forcing you down or making violent threats! “No” may come at the greater cost, yes, but sometimes doing the right thing comes at the greater cost. Ladies, we are strong, empowered and capable. We should not believe our fellow women are so weak to be mentally overpowered by a man doing unethical things!

#MeToo is Hurting due Process and “Innocent Until Proven Guilty”

The noble aspect of the #MeToo movement, to give a voice to the once voiceless against unethical men in power, has now swung too far the other way: never believing the alleged perpetrator could be innocent also. The law of the land says “innocent until proven guilty in a court of law”, yet, in the court of popular opinion, a man smeared with such vile allegations as raping and assaulting women will forever be guilty regardless of proof! The fear of “but what if he really did do it?” is understandable. Admit it: Even I feel that way sometimes when I hear the stories… However, we must rise above that and think: What if he were me? What if I were the one being smeared unfairly? Would I want a fair trial, and if innocent, a full pardon and clearing of my name? What about for our fathers, husbands, brothers, male friends? Those we care about? The guilty should be punished under the fullest extent of the law, but the innocent found out and spared! Indeed, if the wrong man is punished, three, not just one injustice was done. An innocent man is punished, the victim gets no real closure, and a guilty man walks free! Defending the innocent for itself is a higher principle: if innocence does not matter, no one is safe from unjust punishment! Vile cases of women being hurt in the worst possible way gets everyone hot under the collar and emotional, myself included, but facts MUST trump feelings to get to the bottom of every allegation!

It is Also Casting Unnecessary Suspicion on Men

#MeToo on a very related note, is also causing more and more women to fear men. Now, every man is eyed as a potential rapist! The innocent elementary school boy crush and kiss is now “sexual assault” because the girl said “Eew! cooties!” The male coworker who complimented your blouse is now lecherous. The boss who called you into his office and shut the door is now at great risk for any false allegation. The family man and devoted husband and father is now an abuser and potential pedophile! Even consensual sex is viewed as “he must have pushed her to do it”! In some cases, when the “victim” said she said YES!!! The narrative of the damsel in distress must be believed at all costs, even when she said she said “yes”! Any woman can derail a man for his entire life, ruin his career, ostracize him from society, even imprison him on a dubious claim! This, ladies, should concern you for every man you know and love in your life. Your father, brother, husband, son, etc… As the men in your life should be concerned for you, their wife, daughter, sister, mother etc… about potential sexual assault. As any woman could be hurt, any man now can be falsely accused of doing the hurting. One does not negate the validity of the other. BOTH sexes can look out and protect one another! We need to stand by our men, and defend them too from a false allegation, as they would give their lives for you heaven forbid you be hurt!

Any Valid Critique is Considered “Victim Blaming” and Justifying Sexual Assault Against Women

This one is the biggest misconception and flaw! Criticizing #MeToo and bringing valid scrutiny on sexual assault allegations is perceived as victim blaming and shaming. However, is is not true! Getting to the bottom of an allegation, and thoroughly investigating and cross examining both sides is just standard procedure! The real implication in this is that women are never lying, or are always correct in the who, what where etc… In reality though, it has been proven eye witness testimonies are often flawed, memories are foggy and incomplete, especially from decades ago! The assault may have indeed happened, but it was a blur, and you misidentified the suspect! That happens all the time too in many cases, not just sexual assault! Who robbed your house? This person or that one who looks very similar? How tall was he or she? Build? Eye color? Hair color? Hair style? Distinctive facial features? etc… See what I mean! Now remember it from 30 plus years ago…. Where there other witnesses with a more solid memory or proof? Police reports? Forensic evidence collected? A lot of factors go into a fair investigation of any crime, more importantly in ones such as these! Even assertions such as saying the woman had some personal responsibility in preventing it or preventing others from being victimized too does not justify what was done to her if it was proven it was done to her! Causation is NOT justification!

For example: Being drunk at a party and someone taking advantage is wrong for the person who took advantage. Period. However why did you get so drunk you made yourself vulnerable to such victimization? We can say we need to teach boys and men to treat women with respect and never harm them. That is valid and I totally agree. However, there will still always be those who don’t. Same with robbers. We teach our children not to steal, yet there have been thieves since humanity found the concept of private property. One could argue you’re blaming the victim of a robbery too by asking them why they didn’t lock their doors, hide valuables and walk in dark secluded alleys,that and yet, it’s not some horrible victim shaming thing to ask such valid inquiries! No one has the right to steal your stuff because you made a foolish choice, ever. No one is justified in mugging you because you walked down the wrong street and had valuables on you. However, is it wrong to say you should have been more careful? Taken more precautions? No! Look, it’s not fair women have to watch out for creeps and predators. It’s not just that women can’t go to a party and get a little buzzed or wear skimpy outfits without being at greater risk. But that’s the cold hard reality, ladies! We have to take precautions to be proactive in protecting ourselves. If something happens despite all that, it happens. But don’t cry “poor me” if you literally walked into the lion’s den! We protect ourselves by doing proactive things, like locking doors, being alert to our surroundings, self defense etc… to help reduce our chance of being victimized by criminals. If a crime happens despite all that, it’s NOT your fault, but if you were careless, a part is on you for putting yourself in such a compromised position, in any crime, not just #MeToo matters!

Overall, #MeToo has too many flaws for a reasonable woman to hop on board with. I appreciate the good intentions and its noble premise, but we must judge things on effectiveness, not solely intention. The consequences of adopting this view is a lose-lose for BOTH men and women! We are empowered, capable, human beings, ladies! We are not helpless victims, little children or damsels in distress! We are accountable for our actions, and should be held to a fair standard in our integrity and honesty like anyone else. #MeToo should be for vulnerable women who in earnest, want justice for themselves and due punishment for those who would be so vile as to abuse their power and a woman in such a way! However it’s been used as a political smear tactic that makes #MeToo crying wolf, hurting REAL victims of assault with all these dubious claims in recent months and years! Look, I want what everyone wants: Justice for women who have been abused. However, we need something more objective than #MeToo. I say #NotMe! 

“Whatever Happened To My Party?”: An Interview With The Common Man

The Common Man is a regular reader and commenter here on A Lady of Reason. I have enjoyed much of his sensible and insightful comments he’s made on the blog. He’s graciously taken the time and given me the honor of giving me an interview with him over the subject of how he used to be a Democrat, but ultimately turned away from the party. This is his perspective as a fellow conservative.

So, tell me a little about yourself first:

I’ve been a teacher for 41 years at New England schools and colleges. My family members were moderate Democrats. From a young age, I’ve been a part of the workforce and both my upbringing and my present status is that of a middle class working individual. I am married, have a daughter and am a home owner.

In your correspondence with me, you said you used to be a Democrat. Could you tell me a little more about that?

The Democratic Party has changed substantially from the 1960’s to the present. Since that time there have been many changes in the party for the negative. I’ll list some of the major points in no specific order. The continued support of a welfare system initially intended to assist persons and families who were at risk evolved into a lifestyle in poorer communities where we see individuals and families accepting welfare as a substitute for education, training, and employment which would contribute to their towns, cities, and ultimately, the country. The civic leaders of these poorer communities became part of the problem, but furthering programs that allow them to prosper, while creating a dependency in their consistency on the welfare checks, child support checks, food stamps, Section 8 housing, free medical services on and on… All of it being supported by US citizens who actually work and contribute to our society. That imputes the system, and the civic leaders. When my family members immigrated to this country, they were required to have a job waiting for them here in America. They came, they worked, and became American citizens paying taxes, and helping to build their communities as productive people. This was the American Dream. The liberal concept of uncontrolled, wide open borders with an unlimited amount of drain resulting on our schools, medical facilities, police forces, and of course, the taxpayers who pay for it all was not a reality in past years. The Democratic concept of building a voting constituency based upon people entering the country illegally, became a reality. I like all fair minded people became disenchanted with the party.

What were the first inklings of discontent for your support of the party and when did they start to happen?

It started with the Clintons. I began to recognize that Washington was operating above the law and although busy with raising a family and working two jobs, I kept my eyes and ears open for changes within the party. As I saw in more recent times that enemies of the United States, such as Al-Qaeda, became emboldened with a more far left liberal series of changes within the laws. I realized the the obvious that we were providing these types of groups with free reign to come here and make their violent statements. Global powers who seeked to benefit from the willingness of our government to make trade deals that favored them, and weakened America’s economy. When President Obama took office, I had hoped he, being a man of color, we would see a re-imagining of how America assists people of color in impoverished urban settings. In fact, he campaigned to people of color strongly indicating that he would reform their educational systems, they way that they are dealt with in criminal situations, and in general their entire socio-economic challenges. This did not happen. The facts are that he clearly emboldened through direct action, a number of countries while weakening our position militarily, and economically, resulting in huge advantages for them and putting the United States last. This is a globalist, far-left, Marxist series of actions delivered to the American people by a well dressed, well spoken, smooth talking gentleman president.

In brief, what was the eventual tipping point in leaving the Democratic party?

All of this came to a head in the Clinton vs. Trump election for the presidency. When the truth outed that the Clintons had long engaged in elitist, highly questionable practices regarding the law, their finances, fundraising, and use of what can only be termed as underhanded manipulation of the former, I started to have doubts about her as our president. On the other side, Trump, who I’ve always seen as kind of a brute, seemed to be less able to hide his past and who he was as a high powered millionaire businessman, a person who had many women and affairs, and spent time as a celebrity with men’s programming such as the Spike Channel on cable TV, etc. These weaknesses and events seemed to be while troubling, were somehow less so than the Obama-Clinton union. Let me add also that, I grew up in a household with strong women, with a father and grandfather who taught me no prejudices against women, but to admire how strong a woman can be.

The Nation has been polarized greatly since the 2016 Presidential Election. Have you been all that politically active before then? And if not, what made you now?

Here before like many working family men, I was not overly involved in politics. The culmination of all that I have stated above coming to light drew me to become involved on a level a level I had not before.

Much of the Conservative side has been unpopular and greatly censored since. I know I have struggles being a closeted conservative, yet speaking out here on A Lady of Reason. How do you deal with the backlash and vitriol of the radical liberals?

The Democratic party has enjoyed control of the greater majority of all of our media here in America for at least 25 years. Now that real opposition has taken place in the form of the election of a Republican president, the voice of the Democratic party has become increasingly far-left, radical, desperate and divisive. When I fact check what I’m seeing in magazines, newspapers, online and in 95% of the media, I find that the majority of it is untrue. Like most Americans, I will listen to the truth, regardless of what your party is. However, when I am lied to by powers who call themselves quote “news”, I am then compelled to label these entities unreliable and on the payroll of the far-left. This problem is pervasive and as a full time teacher teaching ages four though adult I have observed firsthand the teachers’ union including college professors indoctrinating young people toward an ideology that is politically Left. In essence, quote “growing” a huge constituency of future Democratic voters. It is the mandate of a teacher to instruct their students to learn both sides of any debate, ideology, or faith and then having researched these topics, make their own decisions. This has not happened! These are some of the key points to why I reached the turning point leading me away from the Democratic party and coming to the sad reality that this can no longer be my party.

Have you ever had a negative experience in person with a radical liberal?

I am smart enough and I’m old enough to know that the type of discussion that you have fostered with your important blog will when discussed face to face with this group will ultimately not lead to fair discourse. I have no desire to be accused of being a racist, homophobe, misogynist, and any other number of devices used to shout down any person that presents factual evidence contrary to this growing far left liberal ideology, and as seen in more recent times, beyond that, many if these groups have resorted to physical violence which I will not engage in unless my back is against the wall and a matter of life and death. Therefore I do not put myself in that position. May we hope it never comes to that.

Thank you for your time thus far, but I want to end with one last question: What is your advice for fellow closeted conservatives that want to speak out?

You need to invest time in researching the truth and since you will find overwhelmingly, that your magazines, newspapers, internet and TV is 95% controlled by the Left, you will have a hard time fining the facts. It takes a lot of work to shift through and filter out what is really taking place. Remember that Fascism as seen by Italy’s Mussolini and the 3rd Reich started as a controlling of all that people see and heard in their media. What we’re seeing now is a mass blanketing of all that we see and hear with a far left agenda. If a person is not willing to do the digging, they will be kept in the dark, and worse than that, likely to simply follow in lockstep with what others are doing. In conclusion I’d like to say to you, Lady of Reason, what you have provided us giving voice to topics with factual accounting is crucial. I for one know this is what all of our citizens need in order to make rational decisions for our country’s well-being.

—The Common Man

Thank you Common Man! It was an honor getting to see your perspective! If anyone else wants to have a guest post or an interview, please contact me at aladyofreason@outlook.com and write the topic you want to talk about!

Hu(man)ity? Part II: The Bother with Binaries…

In the last post, we explored the issue of “gender neutral” language, and the politically correct censorship of traditional words like “man” to describe humankind. The smaller issue of using male gendered terminology excluding the acknowledgement of women in public life and the workforce and as a part of humanity was addressed in the last post and why the issue is ultimately inconsequential. This time however, I address the wider issue at stake: that the very use of gendered language is evidence of an implicit patriarchal attitude that women are literally “less than” fully human and that anything associated with womanhood is bad.

This issue goes beyond just language in relation to men and women, but things one would not normally think of as overtly gendered. A few feminists have proposed a theory, that our culture is implicitly patriarchal by the very way language our is structured. They claim that things such as thinking in opposing binaries, opposites if you will, such as light/dark, good/bad, reason/emotion, white/black, man/woman, active/passive strong/weak etc… are evidence of a sexist view. The reason being is that in these opposing binaries, one of the two things is considered superior, such as light over dark, good over evil, logic over emotion, active over passive etc… The more positive traits in their examples are traditionally associated with masculinity and maleness. They claim since Western culture thinks in these opposing binaries, and that all the favorable ones are associated with men, then that must mean it is anti-woman. Some even went so far to label our language “phallocentric” as they believe it favors the male sex. They also claim that the traditional logical and analytical mindset based on reasoning and logic is also a male quality, and since our culture favors it, it is inherently sexist against women and female qualities such as emotion and more fluid structures of thought and language.

Many adherents to this view feel that the change needed is in “deconstructing” these binaries, and placing less emphasis on logical reasoning in Western culture. The issue with this view is one, who said that qualities like “good”, “light”, “active”, “reason”, “strong” and “white” as examples, necessarily have to be associate with the male sex? Word like “good” and “light” to me at least, have no gender connotations, “white” might have racial connotations, but not gendered ones to me. “Reason”, “strong” and “active” are words traditionally associated with men, but do they have to be? And if so, does that make them any less valuable? Who said the male sex owns the ability to view the world in an objective, rational worldview based on sound evidence and logic? I find it sexist in itself to claim that such traits are exclusively male in the first place and not qualities women can have as well! I personally don’t appreciate a hysterical, emotional, subjective mess of either sex! Plenty of men ignore reason in favor of emotion in many matters equally as women! Humanity seems to have a tendency for using emotion over reason in general… I agree that reason is better than pure emotion to guide us through our worldviews and perceptions, but not becuase it is “male”, but because its merits transcend gender divisions. Conversely, are we to say that men, by nature are unfeeling and apathetic, and traits like compassion and empathy are negative for humanity on the assumption that it is associated with femininity? Try telling that to many of the great humanitarians and moral activists who happened to be male! What is wrong with being assertive and trying to take control over what happens in your life? Many women are encouraged by feminists to have more autonomy and control over their lives by being assertive. Are we to reason this assertiveness is exclusively a male trait, and that women shouldn’t be assertive because it means trying to be like men and devaluing women? I think not. Assertiveness in itself has benefits that apply regardless of gender. My point is, just because a trait might be traditionally associated with one sex or the other, doesn’t meant that the trait in itself is invalidated or any less beneficial! So what if reason is associated with men? Or compassion and empathy with women? Doesn’t it sound silly to conclude that just because certain things are associated with one gender, in this case men, one should dismiss it in order to reject masculinity?

To me it sounds pretty immature and petty. I mean seriously? Women should reject traditional methods of reason and logic or an objective worldview based on the idea that it’s associated with men and therefore patriarchal and sexist? I don’t know about you, but to me, rejecting reason would only make any sexist thoughts about women worse and only confirm the stereotype of women being hysterical hormonal wrecks! The idea that our thinking style, one of binaries or based on logic and objectivity is inherently “male” is only sexist in itself in that any beneficial characteristics in our thought processes are owned by the male sex, and not a shared treasure among humanity as a whole. The idea seems to implicitly say that women are indeed not rational beings, and are indeed lesser than as qualities labeled as theirs are lesser than men’s. Trying to “fight back” by rejecting clearly beneficial things like rational analysis, assertiveness, strength, etc… only confirm that implicit idea that they are for men only, and rejecting them to reject maleness inherently accepts such notions as true. Why can’t we see the traditionally “masculine” traits as beneficial for everyone, not just men, and embrace them as good for humanity all together? Let’s get over our obsession with whatever traits are traditionally associated with, and just embrace the benefits of them, regardless of what sex you are.

This whole idea of our culture being “phallocentric” due to favoring traits associated with maleness that are actually neutral, and that logical reasoning is patriarchal, is absurd. Our specific thinking style and worldview might differ from other cultures, but that does not mean it shows that we think women are inherently “bad” or subversive, or less people than anyone else. Associating male traits with a fuller personhood is sexist in itself as it confirms the belief that maleness= personhood. Yes, the idea of the autonomous agent, the assertive, reasoned, logical, objective person, able to control one’s own destiny and choices in life, strong in body and character is describing the ideal man. However, this image of the “ideal man” can equally apply to women, and the traits in themselves that make up this now “ideal person” are still beneficial regardless of who possess them, man or woman. Rejecting them only serves to cut off your nose to spite your face, so to speak! Let’s be reasonable here: men and women can benefit from traditional binary traits deemed historically to be male. Crying “patriarchy!” whenever something remotely associated with men come up in life is like crying “wolf!” when there’s none: pretty soon, no one listens!…

No traditionally male cultural ideas allowed! (That means you, Socrates, Plato and Aristotle…)

Hu(man)ity? Part I: Gender Neutral Language

Many have heard already that there is a movement to change the English language to include more “gender neutral” terms. Basically, “gender neutral” terms are words that seek to omit any reference to the male sex in them, the reason being it excludes women and is sexist. Examples of this new trend are instead of saying words like mailman, fireman, policeman, etc… one must now say “mail carrier”, “firefighter”, or “police personnel”. Even the word “freshman” is now banned in some colleges, with the new politically correct term being “first year student”. Notably, sophomores, juniors and seniors are exempt from this politically correct tirade! On its surface, the movement to be more inclusive by using gender neutral language seem like a step forward for acknowledging the other half of humanity, but in reality, it only serves as an inconsequential and quite absurd issue.

The crux of the matter rests on the assumption that our Western Culture, and other cultures around the world are deeply patriarchal and do not view women with the full personhood of men. The male sex is the default for “humanness” or personhood, and women are excluded for being full persons. A sub section of this wider concern brought up in most everyday uses of the “gender neutral” movement is that unlike in the past, women are entering more parts of public life and the workforce, so it is outdated to refer to people in various professions as “men”. While this seems like a big deal, it is really inconsequential in the grand scheme of women’s issues. Firstly, it was historically the case that the overwhelming majority of people such as policemen, firemen, businessmen and such were indeed men, hence the term. Since women have entered these professions much more recently, it is not unreasonable that such terms are a holdover from when it was men exclusively. While many may argue that it is just as easy to change the terms to reflect a more current reality, it is unrealistic for everyone to just stop and drop using terminology they grew up using their entire lives.

Another argument is also that if one is talking about a female person in any of these roles, terms like policewoman, businesswoman, etc… do exist. Not to mention, in other languages, like Spanish and German, terms for male and female professionals are the norm, even to the extent that we do not have in English. Masculine and feminine endings exist in many languages and both are used in contexts that we do not have, such as addressing people, introducing yourself to people, even describing people! Examples include the word for “farmer” in German (Der Bauer vs. Die Bäuerin), which do not make that gendered distinction in English, and to describe a hardworking man in Spanish one would say he is trabajador, but for a woman, she is trabajadora. In some languages including Arabic, one uses different masculine or feminine endings on words used to ask people things like their name or “how are you?” for examples, depending on gender or even for talking about yourself if you are a man or woman!

An Arabic example:

How are you?	m – (kayfa ḥālak) كيف حالك؟ f – (kayfa ḥālik) كيف حالك؟
Reply to ‘How are you?’	أنا بخير شكرا و أنت؟ m – (Ana bekhair, shukran! Wa ant?) أنا بخير شكرا و أنت؟ f – (Ana bekhair, shukran! Wa anti?)

An Ancient Greek example:

I’m … years old

Ἔτεα … γεγονώς (Étea … gegonōs) – m Ἔτεα … γεγονυῖα (Étea … gegonuía) – f

It is clear from many many languages around the world, the female sex is represented and acknowledged in language alongside the male sex to an extreme extent, compared to English! “Man” is clearly not the default linguistically for many peoples! Perhaps some of the claims that the male sex is the inherent default state is a bias for English speakers whose language is highly simplified grammatically compared to other languages, and do not use heavily gendered language. Maybe English speakers view being male as more prominent judging from language alone, but that would mean everyone else is far more aware of the other half of humanity, which I disagree with in that English speakers aren’t.

Another prominent example of how the “gender neutral” movement has gotten more ground is in academia. The word “man” in the more general sense of “humanity” is not banned or heavily discouraged in scholarly works. Again, the argument against it is that it is sexist and excludes women being considered too, but this does not hold up. A traditional definition for “man” is a human of the male sex, and for humanity as a whole. “One small step for man, but one giant leap for mankind” shows these two distinctions: it was literally a small step for a man to go onto the moon but it was a great “leap” for the knowledge and achievements of humanity as a species.

The word “man” has many a time been used clearly in the context of meaning humans as a whole, not just males specifically. Many argue that this is reflective of a patriarchal view for men being more “human”, and that when one says “man’ in that context, they are really thinking only of what men think, do or experience. However, one cannot prove that simply by using “man”, or by extension, “he” as the default pronoun. Stylistically, alternating “he” and “she” or “s/he”, “he/she” and “they” in the singular can be very confusing! Just because it is the traditional habit of choosing “he”, it is too far a projection to say it was done with sexist intent or implications. One could easily write “she”, but it is simply the stylistic convention to use “he”. Nothing more, nothing less. Not to mention, the words “humanity”, and “humankind” still contain the word “man” in them! One could just as easily argue these terms are built around the word “man” as a stem, even the words “human” and “woman“! Therefore, they are sexist and unacceptable too! Some feminists have indeed altered the spelling of “woman” to “womyn” just to get rid of the word “man” in it! At least this level of ridiculousness has not yet reached mainstream academia or the mainstream media, but I wouldn’t be surprised if it did! We already have gender neutral pronouns!

I find this whole “gender neutral” movement, banning the word “man’ to mean humanity, or forced usage of gender neutral words for different occupations to be ultimately illogical and inconsequential. Women face much more concrete issues than whether or not some academic uses the word “man” in their journal article or philosophical treatise or someone says the word “policemen” or describe the police force as a whole for an example! The fact that these terms were traditionally used, and reflect a different era does not make them detrimental to women any more than any other historical cultural holdovers we have from our past! The reason why we call boats “she” comes from Old English, when we had grammatical genders. Do we need to call boats “she” anymore? No. We can change it to reflect our current situation today, but it is a harmless holdover from a bygone era. Same with using the word “man” as in humanity, or talk of people in certain jobs with the suffix “-men”, without implying that women are not in the human race, or in the workforce. People who use such terminology have no hidden sexist or patriarchal agenda, they are simply speaking to people who should intuitively know they mean both men and women. English simply does not have that distinction in its grammar like other languages. To me, the whole issue is mainly another case of politically correct censorship and newspeak tying to force its own agenda by controlling how we express ourselves linguistically. Overall, this issue I argue, should be blamed on English’s lack of gendered grammar, not on the inherent sexism of “man” 😉

A “gender neutral” being conceived by the comic play write Aristophanes. The story he wrote said that men and women were once one creature, who must now find their “other half”.