10 Scary Issues The Liberals Conjured Up…

Halloween is here and everyone’s in a spooky mood! Like most people, I can appreciate a good scare around Halloween. However, fact can be stranger than fiction any time of the year, and the scariness of the real world is no trick! Here are some of the scary issues going on today spurred on by radical liberals and the culture of political correctness (click on the links to read more in detail about each issue):

1. “Hook up” Culture

As said many times before, in our current culture, sex is just a handshake. Marriage is just dating 2.0. Young ladies are told they can dress like skanks for men. Traditional values of committed life long marriages, and striving for marriage as your ultimate relationship goal, not just a hook up, being a virgin on your wedding day, the things our grandparents did, is going away in our society in favor of cheap sex or instant gratification and pleasure. It’s society’s reflection of the “I can do whatever I want consequence free” attitude of irresponsibility and instant gratification. Sites like Tinder and others don’t help the matter! Nor does the mainstream media, TV and movies! Our youth is being taught this sleazy lifestyle, and many boomers are embracing it too, on to their 2nd and 3rd marriages in a culture rife with divorce, STD’s and unwanted pregnancy! When did we decide instant gratification took precedence over the desire for a better future down the road? When did it become acceptable for our daughters to fling themselves at every guy they see to be “empowered” women? When did marriage become dating 2.0? Scary if you ask me…

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2. “Any Family is A Real Family”

To add to this list of horrors, and on a related note is the disintegration of the nuclear family. In a culture that goes for cheap sex and hook ups, more and more people who start families break them up for baser urges. “I’m leaving you for my secretary!”, “I’m divorcing you because I hate you and the kids!” “She’s hotter and gives me what I like…” etc… Then, many single mothers go on and whine then, and raise sons to be weak and feminized, and daughters to hate men and reject traditional femininity and marriage. Children are the ones who pay the price on this one. Children for broken homes are much more likely to have issues such as depression, substance abuse, eating disorders, trouble in school, “daddy issues”, a promiscuous lifestyle and repeat the cycle as adults! The glorification of single parenthood and the oppression of fathers in their children’s lives is rampant, and reflected in every psychology journal, magazines, TV, movies and the media! Even events like the father-daughter dance are being eradicated thanks to bitter single mothers! That’s not all though, the concept of same sex parents, who are in essence one parent since they don’t have the perspective of the other sex are being normalized too. The politically correct platitudes of “every family is a real family” go down the drain of reality when one sees the children who come out of it.

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3. The Welfare State

Oh, this is a biggie! All the minorities and immigrants on welfare crying “victim” of past oppression and won’t better themselves or their communities but settle for government housing! They drain our school system who has to raise their children for them, drain our healthcare with all their problems and unwanted pregnancies, drain our economy, our government, our charities, our food supply, our housing, and certainly our tax dollars! Indeed, it’s you and I, the working class and the middle class, who foot the bill through our tax money. A portion of your salary goes to these leeches! And who would blame them? We enable them and they’ve been doing it for generations! Welfare should be for those who genuinely can’t work, like our wounded veterans, and respectable families who need that leg up to get back in the workforce. However, now, people are leeching off it and are they grateful? No! The people who bombed the Boston Marathon sure weren’t! Nor are the ghetto hoodlums in low income areas around the country, only bringing crime and continuing the cycle of poverty and anti-intellectualism (lest you be called an Uncle Tom). To make matters even more frightening, many literally believe WE owe THEM welfare from cradle to grave, and they reason why they have so many problems in their communities is due to white oppression! Even if that were true, why keep your neighborhood in crime and disarray? Why want nothing better for your children except to repeat the cycle and torment any good kids who want a future? Why bring nothing to this country in return for its charity? Appalling if you ask me, and guess who subsidizes all of this? (Hint: Liberal Democrats who want more votes…)

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4. “Gender Benders!”

The issue of sex vs. gender is big now, and propagandized by mainstream psychology and science! In the “before time”, gender (which now the liberals say is distinct from biological sex) was determined the same way as sex. XX or XY human chromosomes. In recent years, due to influences like radical feminism that hates traditional gender roles, they decided it’s all arbitrary, and you can be anything you want regardless of genetics or settled science! People with what used to be called gender dysmorphia, are now normalized and victims of gendered oppression! Instead of a deep mental illness, it’s now perfectly normal for little boys to want to be little girls for instance! For grown men to “transition” into women and dismantle their families! Now, I don’t demonize the transgender people themselves, many do genuinely feel that way and have a real mental disorder. However, it’s not all harmless, such as the fact predators now are enabled to merely claim to be women to enter girl’s and women’s restrooms and locker rooms! More and more young people are being brainwashed by the idea gender is merely a social construct, not a normal biological one in normal people, and decide on impulse they’re the opposite gender, or even “other” that is neither gender! Until society stops normalizing a mental disorder as being progressive from the chains of gender roles, real women will be endangered by men pretending to be women to access their spaces, little boys and girls will be confused and brainwashed, families will be torn apart, and established objective science will be thrown away for popular sentiments and subjective propaganda!

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5. The Cult of Victim-Hood

This encapsulates so many groups, minorities, women, LGBT etc… The common denominator though is the world is out to get them, and owes them compensation and reparations! They seek not to better themselves, or appreciate the work that was done to help them, but rather to constantly whine, complain and demand more and more! If you don’t comply, they go full blown tantrum, with vitriol, ad-hominem attacks, and straw man arguments! They don’t want you to speak frankly or give any honest critiques of them. They pretend to be helpless against their misfortunes, such as crime, gangs, and poverty, or “sexism” and the “patriarchy”, or traditional marriage, gender roles, biological sex, the nuclear family and such that they deem oppressive. They’re “triggered” by an opposing view, “microagressed” on by innocent people who have no clue what they said was even remotely offensive. They’re the snowflake generation that feels doomed for life and doesn’t lift a finger to build their own future because of propaganda by liberals about our doomed economy, workforce and prospects for young people. The women who cry #metoo for a sexual mistake after the fact decades from when it happened. The minorities that claim “white privilege”. The transgender people who demand science be overturned for their gender dysphoric disorder and the world cater to 1% of 1% of the population. The bitter single moms who hate men and the traditional family set up as the norm. Basically, a generation of snowflakes with no resilience and immense fragility!

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6. Uncontrolled Borders

Immigration is a huge hot button topic. So are refugees. While many of us came from immigrants, it’s fair to say these ones are a bit different from the hard working industrious ones who helped build our country! The ones coming now, are draining our welfare system, medical care, schools, jobs etc… They’re bringing 3rd world cultures over to our country and making more crime and poverty. Many of these war torn refugees also bring the threat of terrorism in addition. Now, of course, there are exceptions to the rule. Some groups do bring more industry, and technology here, working in high powered careers. Not all Hispanic or Muslim immigrants are the lazy, backwards, stereotype and do work hard and try to better themselves and their families. Many do come here through legal channels, and don’t hop our borders only to leech off our system undocumented. I do genuinely feel for many in poverty and desperate straits who were forced to leave their culture and country. However, we can’t care for every person who is in need around the world. What about our own citizens? The homeless children and veterans. The poverty in our own country. Why is it always on America to take in these people and baby sit the world? Why can’t other countries pull their fair share too? People from war torn areas who have nothing are raised to be in a dog-eat-dog world. They bring that attitude of brutality over to 1st world nations like ours. Europe is in shambles over refugees bringing violent crimes like assault and rape as well as terrorism! MS-13 gangs and others plague our country from Hispanic countries. Why can’t our immigrants bring more assets to our country, not leeches? Until we can screen them more thoroughly, the bad apples get though too!

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7. “Clash of The Cultures”

On another related note, comes the cultural clashes between 3rd world vs. 1st world values. Ones like freedom, equality and democracy! Ones where women aren’t assaulted, and people robbed at gunpoint, or killed! Ones where hard work is the norm, not victimhood and leeching off the welfare state only to bite the hand that feeds you! The extremes the PC liberals go to cater to them are astounding, with special Sharia law set up, or ethnic neighborhoods where any outsider will meet their doom, or turning a blind eye to 3rd world criminals and gangs so you can be politically correct and not face uncomfortable truths. The traditional American work ethic of the working middle class who supports themselves and brings more to the country than takes is going away for fragile snowflakes who cry oppression. Not just immigrants and refugees of course are guilty of this. Minority groups here in the US like the much of the poor black community for instance! A culture of ghetto life, welfare, crime, and poverty that hates education and intelligence is not good for the country! It’s all a slight to every one in these groups who is NOT like that and does work hard at an honest living and values our country.

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8. Radical Feminism

The “Nasty Woman” movement really showed the extremes of the radical feminists. They brainwash our daughters to hate men and cry victim too. They infantilize women through the #metoo movement, painting women as helpless and clueless little children when it comes to sexual coercion. They try to say that traditional femininity is oppressive, traditional strong men are misogynists, and women ought to take part in hook up culture to be “liberated”. They do anything but make women look dignified! They replaced feminine elegance and grace of past generations with vulgar promiscuity, loose morals and masculine wannabes who resent men. From this movement stems callous attitudes like “her body her choice”, to misguided ones like shunning traditional femininity, the guidance of fathers, feminization of men, and more scary happenings!

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9. Reverse Discrimination

White privilege and affirmative action are prime examples! It’s unbelievable what the victimhood culture has duped many to believe is right! They claim that only whites are racist, or men are sexist, due to social power, but discrimination is discrimination no matter whose side it’s on! Many white men and women too, are refused job offers, college acceptances and other opportunities like housing or even being chosen for promotions for instance due to their sex or color of their skin. Now, for some groups it’s racist or sexist, but others it’s not??? Pretty scary to think that inequality is being done in the name of equality!

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10. Censorship of Conservative Views

Lastly, but certainly not least, the most scary thing of all is you can’t publicly say ANY of the above!!! I am forced to use a pseudonym as any of this would derail me socially and career wise! Almost all mainstream news sites are liberal and demonize conservatives (minus Fox News for now…). Major search engines like Google are blatantly liberal, and censor conservative sites, and social media like Facebook and Twitter also censor conservatives, even YouTube! Which are all owned by Google 😉 Even offline, people will shun you, and spew vitriol over conservative views. You can’t speak out even in your own family many times, and indeed, at least one family member shunned me over my blog! People have lost jobs, friendships, even family over being conservative. Some were even assaulted and lost their lives over conservative views! I guess we’re “in the closet” now! It’s a scary world out there for our lot, but there’s a silent majority rising, and pushing back. We need to support each other and speak out, to make our world a bit less scary 🙂

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Lastly… Happy Halloween!

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Leftist Parental Fears in Their Own Societal “House of Horrors”….

In keeping with a spooky theme of the Halloween season, I wanted to bring light upon this very pertinent, and honestly sad and disheartening observation: The Left sees everything that was once innocent or innocuous as sick and perverted in some manner or another! From extreme examples in parenting, to aspects of our #MeToo culture, to the Left, the world is a scary, predatory, unforgiving place! Ironic much of their fears revolve around sexual matters, when they advocate for sexual anarchy and hook up culture! The innocent is now perverted, and the perverted is now innocent! Thus, the paradox of the Left…

My first example, which inspired to to write on this comes from the many parenting forums and magazines I’ve read over the years. See, there seems to be this sense of moral panic, especially about raising girls. Questions of modesty, sexuality, and such are hotly debated, which seems appropriate for concerned parents, but many of these discussions take on paranoid extremes. For example, and I’ve written on this in specific detail before, the topic of little girl’s kitten heels and standard summer wedges are now seen as a way of exploiting and over-sexualizing girls. I’m not talking stripper stilettos mind you, but shoes such as these:

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Now, do any aspect of these shoes scream “sex kitten” to you??? Are they the shoes you would imagine on a prostitute or stripper, or a little girl in a poofy flower girl dress??? If you’re like minded and reasonable, your answer would probably also agree with mine being the latter conclusion… 🙂 However, many of these “woke” mothers, radical feminists, look at such shoes in disgust, only seeing the worst possible interpretation, that they make girls look at themselves as sex objects and have low self esteem! Whatever happened though, to the image of the little girl wanting to look like mom and look like a grown up lady and that’s literally it? How exactly does 2 inches of kitten heel make you magically turn into a sex object???

Another example goes of course, with lightly padded bras for tweens and teens. Some parents literally sought out to decry a lightly padded training bra accusing it of over-sexualization, but the padding was merely to cover indecent nipples on a developing girl!  Or panic over the lace underwear that looks regular, not lingerie mind you, just plain old panties! I don’t understand this immense fear, as underwear is UNDER your clothes! The point for a modest girl is to NOT see it in public! Ergo, it makes ZERO difference if it’s plain white, lacy or leopard print. It will not be seen by anyone but you!!! Also noting, push up bras are not the path to promiscuity, I’ve worn them for years in my teens, with no thought of hooking up, nor unwanted advances. Your brain, not your boobs, ladies, decide how you act 😉 I’m so grateful my parents did not let such paranoia cloud their judgement, and raise a rebellious girl who was starved for autonomy, but instead one who thought for herself, and chose to be modest in action and dress as her own intrinsic choice!

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Oooh!!! So sick and perverted! The Horror!!!

Parents, there are FAR bigger battles to pick than underwear and 2 inch heels! I honestly  feel sorry for the parents, who parent in such extreme fear. I mean, what made you feel that the world is so sick and perverted, that a little girl’s kitten heel signals a toxic view of her sexuality she doesn’t even have yet?! I’m inclined to think some of these pearl clutching parents have had some traumatic experience of their own, by the level of fear they write with in discussing these issues. Perhaps it’s also radical feminist brainwashing that anything feminine is oppressive to women. Hook up culture is real, but kitten heels and training bras are not the path to it…

On a related note, comes the paranoia of the #MeToo era. I’ve written about this in great detail too in several posts already, however, I wish to bring to light the paranoia it spawned in what many would have seen as completely innocent and innocuous things even a year or so ago! The Girl Scouts, for example, told parents to stop having girls hug their relatives, or else it would set them up to take sexual favors in the future! I mean, seriously??? Hugging grandpa will send signals of sexual coercion being permissible? Is that the message YOU got from your childhood??? What about the idea that a fairy tale with the prince kissing Snow White or Sleeping Beauty sends a message of male sexual aggression and rape? Now a fairy tale must be “unpacked” to uncover its dangerous rape apologist side? Now think back: as a child, growing up with these stories, did you truly believe it was okay for a man to forcibly kiss or touch a woman because prince Charming kissed the princess awake? What about the idea that a little boy being a boy was a sexual threat if he kissed a girl on the cheek and she said “Eew! Cooties!” or a 5 year old boy being seen as a sexual assaulter because he hugged his teacher? Does this seem even remotely realistic, that a child who is years away from puberty could be some perverted sexual predator? What sort of sick perverted, twisted view of the world does one need to think on such terms? A world where a hug from grandpa is a set up for accepting sexual coercion.  A world where a little boy, in kindergarten is a sexual predator for kissing a girl in an innocent way as children do. A world where hugging your favorite teacher is an assault of the vilest degree. A world where the innocent is now evil, and the evil now innocent (as in many Leftist agendas)… What a strange paradox!

Hook up culture, promiscuity, immodesty, are all a-okay now and promoted. Broken families, divorce, sub par parenting, a consequence free attitude of entitlement are all perfectly acceptable to the Left, but heaven forbid a child hug her grandpa, kiss a girl, wear 2 inch heels to a party, try on her first training bra, enjoy a fairy tale, just be a little boy even! Such things that were once innocent and innocuous are now seen as perverted and damaging! I ask again: What leads a parent, or anyone really, to have such a distorted view of the world and society??? Things a generation ago were perfectly okay, and a part of everyone’s childhood!

Is our world really so perverted and disgusting, a cesspit of toxic sexuality and promiscuity hiding behind every corner, that a kitten heel is the same as the stripper’s stiletto, or the innocent elementary school crush toxic masculinity at work? That hugging your relatives on the holidays will lead to a life of sexual abuse by men? If they are indeed correct, maybe it’s their own fault we have fallen so far! A society where hook ups are handshakes, girls sleep around, and not save themselves for marriage, women are told they can dress as sleazy as they please, and are “empowered” to do so, divorce is normalized, broken homes rife all for the thrill of the next partner, I guess we have fallen far from being a more virtuous society!!! Thing is though, it is not us conservatives stirring that pot. We want a world where girls cherish their purity, and have self-respect. We want a world where every billboard has something else than a half naked lady on it. We want a world in which girls can be girls, and boys can be boys without some Freudian fantasy of sick perversions and uncontrolled ids!

The Left, and radical feminism has told lies of sexual anarchy equals empowerment though. Hook up culture is on them, not us! All the Leftist parents cowering in terror for their children’s innocence have played a part in creating this monstrosity by drinking the radical feminist kool aid about hook up culture as empowerment while sending mixed signals to repress one’s sexuality or see adult themes in innocuous things! Good news is though, I don’t think our world has indeed fallen as far was we think. Hugging grandpa is still just hugging grandpa. A playground kiss is a playground kiss. A little girl’s party shoe is for a party, nothing more. A training bra for tweens is a rite of passage, not a passage into promiscuity. Stop cowering in fear, people, and just see innocent things for what they are, not what your fears tell you they are. This sick perverted worldview is unhealthy and mentally damaging for you just as much as your children! Often, there really is nothing to fear but fear itself…

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“Woke” cave parents!…

My 2 Cents Interviews A Lady of Reason: My Copy of His Interview

I just want to add I encourage everyone to check out My 2 Cents as well and to thank him for this amazing honor to be interviewed on his site!!! In my own opinion, much of his works are worth far more than 2 cents 😉 This is my own copy of his interview of me on his own blog, link to original here: https://my2centsvideos.com/2018/10/19/my-2-cents-interviews-a-lady-of-reason/ Check out one of his more recent works on feminism: https://my2centsvideos.com/2018/09/25/why-metoo-culture-will-lead-to-2-awful-extremes/ and his amazing YouTube channel! I would have interviewed on there, but as I must remain anonymous in fear of Leftist vitriol, I had to sadly decline… 😦 Anyways, here’s my interview!!!

While reading through other blog posts, I recently discovered the blog of a woman who goes by the name A Lady of Reason. Taking a look at the about section of her blog, it says the following:

A Lady of Reason is a blog for women who are in the secular community as atheists, agnostics and non-religious but have socially conservative values. This might seem like a contradiction to some, as many who do hold more conservative views tend to do so from a religious standpoint. However, here at A Lady of Reason, we believe that beliefs in conservative values do not need religion to be justified.

I’ve since been following her blog and am very impressed with her content. I’ve been discouraged by the horrible advice that is being given to so many young women on a regular basis, especially by so called “women’s ministries” that profess to be giving advice from a conservative, Christian perspective (i.e. Allyson Rowe, Katie Emmerson, Girl Defined, etc.). While there are in fact some Christian/religious ministries that are giving good advice to young women, A Lady of Reason avoids much of the pseudo-spiritual sounding, emotional nonsense that typically accompanies Christian women’s ministries.

I invited A Lady of Reason to have a discussion about some of her views and the result was the below interview. I encourage all my viewers/readers to check out her blog.

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My 2 Cents: Can you quickly introduce yourself to my subscribers? Briefly explain who you are and how you got into blogging.

A Lady of Reason: I go under the Pseudonym “A Lady of Reason” because due to the current Leftist vitriol, I must remain anonymous. I’ve been blogging on A Lady of Reason since Last December, so almost approaching a year now! I chose the name “A Lady of Reason” because I wanted to start a blog for women on conservative issues, especially women’s issues such as radical feminism and hook up culture. I thought the term “Lady” evokes a sense of the lost elegance and grace, as I often say, that women no longer seem to posses; that is, the manners and refined decorum of ladies in past eras. In this day and age of the “Nasty Woman”, I sought to create a place to advocate for women who don’t subscribe to radical feminism and want to be more like the ladies of past eras, who defined themselves as traditionally feminine. I chose “Reason” to describe them, as in my blog, I also wanted to touch upon deep and nuanced issues. I have a very intellectual personality, and feel that women can also embrace being deeply intellectual and can tackle big issues, all while being a traditional feminine woman in dress, values and behavior.

A reason why I started blogging about political and cultural issues geared toward fellow women was I already tried to start a more general blog on conservative issues, and have A Lady of Reason as a sister side blog, but I ultimately preferred to focus on this blog as my main blog. I thought there was a gap that I could fill, as many conservative blogs are for and written by people of faith, but I wanted to reach out to conservatives in the secular community and talk about conservative issues facing women in a non-religious way. Since launching my blog, many people of faith have followed and liked it, so now I can say my blog is geared towards all conservative women secular and religious. Also, since I’ve branched out to general conservative issues too, not just women’s, I welcome men as well as a demographic for my blog. I am amazed by how many views, likes, comments and wonderful networking I’ve made by like minded people who too, are fed up with the radical liberal climate of America.

My 2 Cents: Your blog states that you are blogging for secular women with conservative values. What led you to adopt the values that you currently hold?

A Lady of Reason: I never had much of a political identity until after Trump got elected. From a very young age, my parents and I talked about liberal bias in schools and in the media and society, and for that, I am ever so grateful and I’d probably be a snowflake now if they hadn’t been proactive in countering the brainwashing! However, politics never interested me that much. Even during the Obama years. I think what truly led to my own true political awakening, was watching the Left melt down over Trump during the campaign, and after he got in office, I saw how he is changing the nation for the better, and how the Left has gone into unprecedented meltdowns, vitriol and histrionics. Since this new atmosphere of hysteria has begun, I honestly was amused by their antics, and thus, follow them more closely. I’ve also been frustrated and angered at their vitriol and my eyes have opened more fully to how they are undermining the country with their so called “tolerance”!

For my social values, as I am predominantly a social conservative, I think I’ve just chose to adopt them. I’ve valued modesty since my teen years, and embraced traditionally feminine clothing from a young age. I’ve talked about with my dad especially, and studied on my own all the detriments of hook up culture and “any family is a real family” divorce culture. From personal experience, it shocked me how brainwashed many of my fellow classmates were in these issues, coming from broken homes and had hook ups, and how they reacted as if any opposing view point was anathema to them! As a secular person, see, I do not have a deity to fall back on, or holy text to tell me what to think in terms of values. No god is telling me my skirt must be X long, or I have to wait until marriage to have sex. However, I chose such values based on what I feel are objective, observable benefits to modesty, such as good, solid guys respecting and wanting women who dress modestly and don’t “advertise” themselves, or all the detriments of promiscuity, such as STD’s, unwanted assault, unwanted pregnancies etc… Better to wait until choosing a life partner for my two examples. In essence, I choose my values, which happen to be conservative based on their effectiveness in running a smooth society and wholesome lifestyle. Many of my conservative values agree with many people of faith, I just justify them in a different way. It’s funny to see my Leftist haters get confused, as they stereotype all conservatives as fundamentalist zealots with arbitrary morals! Like, a secular conservative literally does not compute in their brainwashed programming systems…

My 2 Cents: Do you think there are any legitimate aspects to feminism, or has the whole enterprise become a social justice nightmare?

A Lady of Reason: I think feminism, what it should be at least, is about gender EQUALITY, in the sense that both genders are equal in their dignity as human beings. The fallacy the feminists today fall into, is that women must be able to do everything a man can do to be “equal”. Which in reality, is actually an extremely sexist view! Modern feminism strongly implies women must be like men in order to be worth something. She must have a career, and wear pants, and act like a man such as being assertive in her nature in order to be “empowered”. The traditional feminine roles of gentleness, nurturing, care giving etc… are devalued, along with being a wife and mother and caring for family in the private sphere of life. A dress is oppressive and inconvenient, children are holding you back from being a “career woman”, a woman who is a homemaker is a domestic slave are messages of the radical feminist movement. A woman is empowered by having a more masculine sexuality, she must be able to sleep with as many guys as she pleases, and dress as provocatively as she wants, in order to be “empowered”. Gone are the days of women waiting for sex to be a milestone, instead of a handshake, or acting lady like in manner and values. The male is the ultimate standard women are now held to. Whatever he can do, she must do in order to be valued as an autonomous, empowered person. I’d say feminism has become the SJW nightmare! It also condescends women, as I’ll note further in your next question by making them into helpless victims in the event their new “empowered” stance requires personal responsibility for their unbridled actions.

My 2 Cents: It’s been my experience that too many women today believe they can make whatever decisions they want and not have to worry about consequences. Would you agree or disagree, and why do you think that is?

A Lady of Reason: I absolutely agree!!! MeToo is the perfect example! Women now want more sexual freedom, for example, but are unwilling to pay the price if it doesn’t go their way. Now, if they regret a hook up, they can blame it on the man, and say he raped her even if it was consensual, and everyone will believe her. The feminists can play up their feminine vulnerability stereotype when they want to and it suites them, while decrying it when it doesn’t. They can just cry “MeToo” and play victim for their fake allegations, as I’ve noted in detail on my blog in several articles. Also, women get away with casting themselves as victims of assaults when they did nothing to lessen their risk of victimization and everything to heighten it, such as sleazy clothes and unsafe behavior sending off signals you want sexual attention. Men aren’t mind readers, ladies! Don’t send off signals you want sexual attention if you don’t!

Another example is divorce culture and broken families. The empowered woman now feels free to just divorce someone, without even thinking about her children’s well being! No! It’s all about her, and always the guy’s fault too! The radical feminist puts her own happiness in reliving being a young teen dating again after, without any thought to how she tore the very foundation of a stable childhood from her children, then treat them like the 3rd wheel from her trashed marriage. She then absolves herself of guilt by making her children feel guilty for wishing they had an intact family and their REAL father, not live in boyfriend #56… Feminism, on a related note, also excuses sub par parenting in this vein too. Mommy puts herself first now, not her kids, and avoids guilt over parenting mistakes at all costs, or else she’s oppressed in actually holding herself to high standards! Then again, motherhood is devalued as enslaving in the eyes of radical feminists! Personal responsibility has no place in their “don’t judge me” attitude, they can just play the poor oppressed woman card to get out of every mistake they make, in family matters, careers, parenting, sex, you name it! Casting women as little children, and helpless victims, while the antithesis of TRUE female empowerment, is done all the time to get out of the sticky situations they put themselves in by their own behavioral anarchy such as hook up culture for instance. As a side note, they demonize men, as someone has to be the perpetrator for them to be the victim! It’s the man’s fault I’m divorced, he coerced me, he assaulted me, he’s oppressing me by wanting a feminine woman etc.. etc… Saddest thing is: we as a society are buying into this con-job! So yes, they ARE getting away with it!

My 2 Cents: If you had to quickly summarize the best piece of advice you could give to young women and young men in the age of feminism what would it be?

A Lady of Reason: Don’t buy into the feminist lies!!! You are empowered, capable and strong women in your traditional feminine role! Don’t let anyone tell you you need to act like, dress like, and be a man in all but name in order to be worth something in life. You are just as needed in this world as a wife and a mother as in any job that could replace you. You also, are fully capable of being responsible for your actions. You are not a helpless victim, at the mercy of the “patriarchy”. You CAN say “NO!”. You can stand up for yourself. You are empowered to make choices such as preventative measures to lessen your chance of victimization, such as dressing modestly, not going down secluded spots, etc… Is this fair that women have to take extra precautions in life? NO! Is it fair we can’t just dress as sleazy as we like and still be safe? NO! But that’s reality. We must live with it and acknowledge it. Women can be ladies of elegance and grace in this culture of vulgarity, hook ups, and hysteria! The modern woman is not the “Nasty Woman”, she is one who is empowered to make her own choices, and empowered to take responsibility for the outcome of her choices. She is autonomous, and used her freedom wisely and responsibly. She is not under the thumb of a man, but freely chooses to love, cherish, value and serve the men in her life freely and out of love, not obligation. A true empowered woman, ladies, is one who takes pride in her womanhood, not in trying to be a copy of what a man is. Another important point: Speak up for fellow women who are pressured by the radical feminist agenda and show them it’s okay to be a feminine woman. Also, speak up for the men as in this culture of identity politics, a woman’s voice is far more powerful than a man’s on the subject of the flaws of feminism. Lastly, my strongest piece of advice is to THINK FOR YOURSELF! Don’t let the Left brainwash you into their sexist lies of what empowerment looks like…

And to young men: Stay strong!!!! I can’t emphasize this enough! You will be attacked, derided, even threatened for speaking the truth about how feminism hurts women, and of course, men! You will be called every vile thing, be accused of oppressing women, even being labeled a rape apologist! However, still speak out! Your opinions are not invalidated just because of your biological sex. A valid opinion is valid no matter who says it. It is not a “sin” to want a virtuous wife, who values elegance and grace, and is devoted to you, as you ought to be to her. You are not the servant in a relationship any more than the lady you date or marry is. You get to make choices, set boundaries, speak your mind as much as she does. I also advise you to embrace your manhood. It’s NOT toxic to be a man, despite the radical feminist propaganda! You should be the rock she leans on, to whom she looks to for protection, the guide for your future daughters in what to expect from men and how to treat men. You should cherish, honor, love and protect the women in your lives, and honor their feminine role as of equal worth, and they, equal in their dignity as human beings to you. Don’t be the “soyboy” we often hear about and the Left embraces. However, also realize women are human too, not just virtuous angles…. Women can, have and do lie about what happened “that night”. The advice to wait for sex in marriage is not just for the ladies mind you! You may not get pregnant, but you may get some one pregnant then be forced to pay child support, or be accused of a false assault! BE CAREFUL. Don’t ever doubt that it could happen to you! Make sure every liability is covered. Your life will be completely destroyed if you’re accused, even if proven innocent! Choose your women wisely… No matter how much the Left vilifies the traditional man though through radical feminism, keep staying strong, and stand up for your manhood as well!!!
Lastly to both: THINK FOR YOURSELVES!!!!

My 2 Cents: Excellent words of advice and thank you for agreeing to chat.

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Again, I encourage everyone to check out A Lady of Reason. As I’ve noted in all discussions I’ve been involved in, the fact that I endorse her blog does not necessarily mean I always agree with everything she says, but I can say with confidence that she is giving good advice that will lead to successful living if followed, especially for young women.

I’d like to thank her again for having this discussion, and that is My 2 Cents. So take it for what it’s worth.

Thank you again so so much My 2 Cents for this AMAZING honor!!! You’re always more than welcome to guest post on my blog or write anything you want for me as well!

#HimToo…

It seems talk about the #MeToo movement has been a really hot topic these past few weeks, especially in light of the Kavanaugh fiasco! My previous post, “The Flaws of #MeToo” has gotten a record number of views! I have touched upon many cogent points in that, and even older articles on the subject, however, I have not gone into greater detail over how it impacts men. #MeToo is a lose-lose for both sexes, and both sides of the political spectrum! The issue is, #MeToo by casting women as victims, casts men as perpetrators, as a corollary. It’s black and white, good vs. evil, quite literally! Any woman is a victim, and any man a perpetrator, leaving out any grey areas, and any nuances. A woman merely has to say “he did it” and is believed without a doubt, without credible evidence, credible witnesses or anything!

While many of us are aware to look our for our daughters, wives, mothers, sisters etc… to protect them from sexual assault, the current danger to our sons, husbands, fathers and brothers is overlooked. #MeToo plays up the risk of a woman being assaulted, but also the risk that any man is an assaulter! This creates an atmosphere of fear and tension between men and women, with women fearful of men, and men fearful of women accusing them falsely. The detractor may say, “but it isn’t a high risk of a man getting falsely accused, and we should focus more on our women than our men…” implicitly saying that it negates looking out for women, by looking out for men too. Both arguments are flawed.

One, many men have indeed been falsely accused, including one who should have been in the Supreme court a week ago!!! More and more cases are coming to light of men being exonerated after decades behind bars after the women admitted to lying. It is incredibly easy for a woman to accuse a man. Literally just say “he did it”, and all is believed! Don’t think for a moment women are somehow more morally upright than men, and would never smear a man for her own unethical gains. Women, like men, are simply human, for good and for bad. To think anything else, is to put women on a very condescending pedestal, treating her as childlike, instead of seeing her simply as a fallible human. A woman, equally as much as any man, could frame someone to gain something, money, notoriety, even absolve herself of personal responsibility if she regretted sex the next morning!

The other argument is flawed as well, because looking after the men in our lives, and standing up for their right to due process and a fair investigation, does NOT negate the fact we also ought to look after the women in our lives and empower them to speak up in case of real sexual assault! Can’t we do both??? Saying, “not all men”, and men need protection too from false allegations is just as valid, as saying women need protection for sexual assault and need to be empowered too. It is not merely an excuse to deflect off the women’s issue of sexual assault by men. The men’s issue of false accusations is JUST as real and has happened in reality, not just in theory! We, as humanity, should look out for our fellow humans, of BOTH sexes, and both measures can be done to help EVERYONE get justice and protection, it shouldn’t be a competition for victim-hood! #HimToo, the counter-hashtag to #MeToo has the right to exist just as much. The original intention of the #MeToo movement has been hijacked by radicals who abuse it to undermine who they want. #HimToo gives a voice to the victims of this radicalization from a more rabid, vitriolic #MeToo that has smeared many an innocent man, even boy!!!

Yes, the #MeToo hysteria has even gone after boys too young to even know about sexuality or even think of hurting any girl or woman! Cases such as a little boy being accused of sexual assault at school, in his ELEMENTARY school, for hugging his teacher, a grown woman!!! A kind, innocent, pure gesture perverted into something truly sickening as to imagine a child being capable of this, by the #MeToo mindset of paranoia against men! Even teenage boys, the same age as a teenage girl, are vilified as predators, instead of young people exploring their own budding sexuality while the girl of the exact same age and developmental stage is viewed as a vulnerable potential victim and damsel in distress! I don’t blame men in the least for being more afraid to hire women, date women, and even casually interact with them alone due to #MeToo! The movement, which was meant to empower real victims against abuse of power, now is vilifying all men as sex predators, from ages 6-60 and beyond!!! Not to mention, men and boys are sexually assaulted too, sometimes by women! Can they say #MeToo as well??? Apparently not by the Left’s double standards and hypocrisy!

We as women, must look out for our sons, husbands, fathers, brothers etc… as it could easily be them next! Don’t fall into the fallacy, ladies, that your men are too upright, proper and righteous to be framed, as some opponents of my view argue. Simply “not raping women” is not enough in this #MeToo hysteria! Even looking at women, complimenting anything on a woman, her clothes, her hair, her shoes etc…, merely being behind a closed door with one is enough! And for some, not even knowing a woman and being anywhere near her, as any woman can simply make up a story and be believed! One woman’s son was framed for assaulting these cliques in high school, and had to go to court dates, even detained in juvenile detention, over allegations the girls later admitted were completely false because they “didn’t like him”! This should send chills over every mother’s, wife’s, sister’s, daughter’s spines!!! Our country is in the grips of witch hunts, hysteria and the court of public opinion, rather than the court of law, due process, evidence and justice! Our men are called upon to defend us in case of assault, why can’t we be there, as only a woman can, to defend them if heaven forbid, they get smeared with an allegation. In this world of identity politics, and not believing someone outside of a group and not being allowed to comment on issues of that group, our voices as women are crucial in turning the tide on #MeToo! We need to show the Left not all women subscribe to demonizing our men and boys, and stand with them, to defend their innocence from the kangaroo courts of popular opinion and emotion. Ladies, our sons, husbands, brothers, fathers, uncles, nephews, male friends, and indeed, any man needs us, the female half of humanity, to say “#NotMe”, before we are forced to say “#HimToo” when “him” becomes “them”: YOUR loved ones!!!

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(The painting “Not Guilty” by Abraham Solomon captures what a relief it is for the women to see the man they care about was proven innocent. In the #MeToo hysteria, such a scene today will be rarer and rarer unless we as women, defend our men!)

The Flaws of #MeToo

I’ve written any times through out my blog on issues such as the hypocrisy of the #MeToo movement by the Left! How, while a noble premise, to give women voices against powerful abusers in authority, it does the exact opposite of what it’s supposed to do: empower women and bring justice and fairness. The problem is, while #MeToo sounds great in theory, in practice, it has some very detrimental implications and unintended consequences.

#MeToo Casts Women as Helpless Victims and Little Children

#MeToo implies women are merely helpless little victims, damsels in distress if you will, little children who are naive to what sexual coercion is. The narrative of “always believe” because alleged victims don’t lie, or at a minuscule chance of it, is flawed for the application to grown women! Even teenagers! Look, a small child does not know much at all about sexual coercion, or the slimy tactics and red flags of grooming and exploitation. Nor would be familiar enough with such concepts to lie about them. However, this is certainly NOT the case for a grown woman, even an older teenager! Yes, some may be uninformed and naive, but must learn in order to protect themselves. Forewarned is forearmed. My parents always talked to me about such dangers, and even from the tender age of 12, I knew the concept of rape and sexual assault! Thing is, while extremely unpleasant to have such conversations with young children, it must happen to empower them! Even the Left can agree and does encourage parents to teach very young children how to spot sexual abuse and inappropriate situations and most importantly, tell someone immediately! Point is, a grown woman is not a mere helpless child: she is aware of sexual dangers and should be empowered to put safeguards in place for her protection before hand too! It seems to me, incredibly misogynistic, and condescending to view women in any other way than empowered and capable of spotting and putting a stop to unethical coercion!

Not Telling Has Endangered Countless Other Women Over These Decades of Silence

Another point: If you don’t tell, and wait decades, like many have, it only endangers other women, countless others who then say “me too” later on! Think of it. If it stopped at woman #1, if the allegations are true, then women numbers 3,4,5….100 don’t have to! While being victimized is not ever deserved, not speaking out so other women won’t be makes you have a part to play by your silence letting the perpetrator get away with more crimes. Think of it this way: Not reporting a burglary makes it easier for more of the neighborhood to get robbed when they can get away with it! You may have been a victim, but your silence is letting others just like you become victims too!

It Also Casts Women as Being Easily Mentally Overpowered by Men

Not quite the feminist idea #MeToo wants to go for! 😉 While I think we can all unanimously agree many men are physically stronger than women, and can force and hold one down to assault them, and have the upper hand, many instances of #MeToo was about sexual coercion. A man in a position of authority pressuring women to submit to him to get ahead or avoid some consequence. Unless that consequence was threat of harm or death to herself/family, a woman can still say “no”. “No” may come at a greater cost, but is a job promotion, or benefits, or such worth your integrity? Giving away one of your most precious gifts and your personal dignity for some career? Look, I get some women may feel forced financially, but many #MeToo cases were from women in high powered careers making loads of money! Not to mention, we can all agree it is a vile thing to abuse authority to coerce women or anyone for that matter! That is NEVER in doubt here! Accordingly , there are more and more things in place, such as human resources and steep penalties in the workplace for sexual harassment. Giving in only lets the perpetrator win, instead if saying “no” and reporting those unethical slimy acts to the proper authorities! Coercion is a slimy, sleazy, unethical thing to do, and authority figures must be held accountable for it! Saying “no” to their demands, and speaking up immediately to proper authorities helps fight that, and “no” is always on the table unless he’s physically forcing you down or making violent threats! “No” may come at the greater cost, yes, but sometimes doing the right thing comes at the greater cost. Ladies, we are strong, empowered and capable. We should not believe our fellow women are so weak to be mentally overpowered by a man doing unethical things!

#MeToo is Hurting due Process and “Innocent Until Proven Guilty”

The noble aspect of the #MeToo movement, to give a voice to the once voiceless against unethical men in power, has now swung too far the other way: never believing the alleged perpetrator could be innocent also. The law of the land says “innocent until proven guilty in a court of law”, yet, in the court of popular opinion, a man smeared with such vile allegations as raping and assaulting women will forever be guilty regardless of proof! The fear of “but what if he really did do it?” is understandable. Admit it: Even I feel that way sometimes when I hear the stories… However, we must rise above that and think: What if he were me? What if were the one being smeared unfairly? Would I want a fair trial, and if innocent, a full pardon and clearing of my name? What about for our fathers, husbands, brothers, male friends? Those we care about? The guilty should be punished under the fullest extent of the law, but the innocent found out and spared! Indeed, if the wrong man is punished, three, not just one injustice was done. An innocent man is punished, the victim gets no real closure, and a guilty man walks free! Defending the innocent for itself is a higher principle: if innocence does not matter, no one is safe from unjust punishment! Vile cases of women being hurt in the worst possible way gets everyone hot under the collar and emotional, myself included, but facts MUST trump feelings to get to the bottom of every allegation!

It is Also Casting Unnecessary Suspicion on Men

#MeToo on a very related note, is also causing more and more women to fear men. Now, every man is eyed as a potential rapist! The innocent elementary school boy crush and kiss is now “sexual assault” because the girl said “Eew! cooties!” The male coworker who complimented your blouse is now lecherous. The boss who called you into his office and shut the door is now at great risk for any false allegation. The family man and devoted husband and father is now an abuser and potential pedophile! Even consensual sex is viewed as “he must have pushed her to do it”! In some cases, when the “victim” said she said YES!!! The narrative of the damsel in distress must be believed at all costs, even when she said she said “yes”! Any woman can derail a man for his entire life, ruin his career, ostracize him from society, even imprison him on a dubious claim! This, ladies, should concern you for every man you know and love in your life. Your father, brother, husband, son, etc… As the men in your life should be concerned for you, their wife, daughter, sister, mother etc… about potential sexual assault. As any woman could be hurt, any man now can be falsely accused of doing the hurting. One does not negate the validity of the other. BOTH sexes can look out and protect one another! We need to stand by our men, and defend them too from a false allegation, as they would give their lives for you heaven forbid you be hurt!

Any Valid Critique is Considered “Victim Blaming” and Justifying Sexual Assault Against Women

This one is the biggest misconception and flaw! Criticizing #MeToo and bringing valid scrutiny on sexual assault allegations is perceived as victim blaming and shaming. However, is is not true! Getting to the bottom of an allegation, and thoroughly investigating and cross examining both sides is just standard procedure! The real implication in this is that women are never lying, or are always correct in the who, what where etc… In reality though, it has been proven eye witness testimonies are often flawed, memories are foggy and incomplete, especially from decades ago! The assault may have indeed happened, but it was a blur, and you misidentified the suspect! That happens all the time too in many cases, not just sexual assault! Who robbed your house? This person or that one who looks very similar? How tall was he or she? Build? Eye color? Hair color? Hair style? Distinctive facial features? etc… See what I mean! Now remember it from 30 plus years ago…. Where there other witnesses with a more solid memory or proof? Police reports? Forensic evidence collected? A lot of factors go into a fair investigation of any crime, more importantly in ones such as these! Even assertions such as saying the woman had some personal responsibility in preventing it or preventing others from being victimized too does not justify what was done to her if it was proven it was done to her! Causation is NOT justification!

For example: Being drunk at a party and someone taking advantage is wrong for the person who took advantage. Period. However why did you get so drunk you made yourself vulnerable to such victimization? We can say we need to teach boys and men to treat women with respect and never harm them. That is valid and I totally agree. However, there will still always be those who don’t. Same with robbers. We teach our children not to steal, yet there have been thieves since humanity found the concept of private property. One could argue you’re blaming the victim of a robbery too by asking them why they didn’t lock their doors, hide valuables and walk in dark secluded alleys,that and yet, it’s not some horrible victim shaming thing to ask such valid inquiries! No one has the right to steal your stuff because you made a foolish choice, ever. No one is justified in mugging you because you walked down the wrong street and had valuables on you. However, is it wrong to say you should have been more careful? Taken more precautions? No! Look, it’s not fair women have to watch out for creeps and predators. It’s not just that women can’t go to a party and get a little buzzed or wear skimpy outfits without being at greater risk. But that’s the cold hard reality, ladies! We have to take precautions to be proactive in protecting ourselves. If something happens despite all that, it happens. But don’t cry “poor me” if you literally walked into the lion’s den! We protect ourselves by doing proactive things, like locking doors, being alert to our surroundings, self defense etc… to help reduce our chance of being victimized by criminals. If a crime happens despite all that, it’s NOT your fault, but if you were careless, a part is on you for putting yourself in such a compromised position, in any crime, not just #MeToo matters!

Overall, #MeToo has too many flaws for a reasonable woman to hop on board with. I appreciate the good intentions and its noble premise, but we must judge things on effectiveness, not solely intention. The consequences of adopting this view is a lose-lose for BOTH men and women! We are empowered, capable, human beings, ladies! We are not helpless victims, little children or damsels in distress! We are accountable for our actions, and should be held to a fair standard in our integrity and honesty like anyone else. #MeToo should be for vulnerable women who in earnest, want justice for themselves and due punishment for those who would be so vile as to abuse their power and a woman in such a way! However it’s been used as a political smear tactic that makes #MeToo crying wolf, hurting REAL victims of assault with all these dubious claims in recent months and years! Look, I want what everyone wants: Justice for women who have been abused. However, we need something more objective than #MeToo. I say #NotMe! 

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“Who’s Your Daddy?”: The War on Fatherhood

I have mentioned before in A Lady of Reason about the disintegration of the nuclear family to make way for politically correct “any family is a real family” propaganda, and mentioned the importance of a strong father figure in the lives of girls, but I wanted to devote more into elaborating on some specific issues regarding fatherhood.

The traditional two parent family, married mom and dad is unfortunately a rarity these days. Barely a quarter of people I knew in school had a stable two parent household with an active father figure. Perhaps many of the PC liberals grew up in the divorce generation, spanning from the baby boomers up to now. Since the sexual revolution, the traditional two parent home, and the value of marriage gave way to hook ups, flings and an attitude of non-commitment and disregard for the fallout. In many households, the fathers were absentee and walked out, or were simply “baby-daddies” and sperm donors. I theorize many of the liberals grew up jaded and cynical since they had no real father figure or strong man in their lives. Those kids then went on to have more kids and perpetuate the same cycle, with the same non-committal attitudes. They have told themselves and their children lies about how you don’t need a father, and a woman can raise kids all by her lonesome and be equal to a two parent household. The radical feminists keep telling women and girls that they shouldn’t depend on a man and that having a man around signals oppression. This all lead to cynical attitudes about men and fatherhood. Even in families with dads still around, the radical feminists prefer them to be weak and subordinate to the female members of the family, rather than take the lead in the household. Paradoxically, the liberals whine that too many men don’t step up and take care of their families, and just walk out, they attack any societal expression of the fathers who are in the picture. This I feel, is a “war on fatherhood”.

Examples of this war are everywhere! A major example is simply the downplaying of the father figure in children’s lives. The liberals want us to believe that fathers are inconsequential, and single mothers can do both jobs just as well. However, this is a politically correct lie, simply to soothe some whiny, bitter single mom’s hurt feelings. For all the things a mother can give to her children, she cannot give the perspective a man can for their children. Children needs both parents in the picture to get a more well rounded upbringing. An issue plaguing our society today due to lack of father figures are boys growing up to be weak and hyper feminized, instead of learning how to be strong men. Single mothers paranoid to simply let “boys be boys” are raising a generation of emotionally fragile, weak young men who cannot take charge like their grandfathers did and be the rock in the family. Men were once raised to honor, protect and respect the women close to them, but now chivalry is labeled sexism, and “respecting” women means being a mindless lapdog for a “Nasty Woman”! Men who would have gone off to fight and protect their women are now in need of safe spaces, trigger warnings, and flinch at the thought of a bruise! A father knows what is was like to once be a rambunctious spirited boy, and would raise his son to become a strong and capable man from a man to man perspective. As mothers relate better to daughters, sons relate more to their fathers, being the same gender, one day filling that role themselves. A single mom can devote her entire life to a son, but she can never give what a man can give in terms of becoming a man one day.

Daughters too, need a strong father figure. The PC liberals hate this point even more, as it reinforces notions they have decried as “sexist”, but the point still stands. Daughters raised with involved fathers are far less likely to become at risk, and promiscuous, have body image issues and of course “daddy issues” later in life! Many young women I know without dads have become victim of the PC radical feminist “Nasty Woman” and hook up culture, distrusting of men and committed relationships. The traditional role of the father as his daughter’s protector, guarding her from unwanted advances by manipulative boys and seeing who is worthy of her in relationships, and marriage, is decried by the PC liberals. While it was true fathers had ownership over daughters, to marry them off historically, fathers today covet the role of protector and guardian over their daughters. A father knows what men are like, being one, and what sort of man is good for his daughter. A good father helps his daughter choose wisely in relationships, and models what a man should be like in her life in how he treats her, her mother and other women. Also, he models what men should expect of her in return. Fathers that expect their daughters to have standards and conduct themselves as ladies raise girls to attract gentlemen who want well bred ladies, not vulgar “Nasty Women” of the radical feminist era. He also models what a strong man is for the family, and not some hyper feminized boy like single mothers raise all too often. A single mother can teach her daughter about womanhood, but she cannot teach her about men like a man can. Anyone who cries “sexism”! is mistaken, as it is not about anyone being inferior, but a question of insider perspective. As the PC liberals hate it when outsiders talk for minority groups, because they’re not insiders, they ought to realize a man’s and a woman’s perspective on the world are going to be different, and a child needs both to grow up well rounded. A man cannot have the same deep experiences of a woman, and vice versa. Mothers cannot do it alone, fathers have to be there too in a balanced family.

This is why it incenses me when the PC liberals try to stifle the role of a father in an attempt to be “inclusive” to the “any family is a real family” lie. Many schools have banned the father-daughter dance becuase it might hurt someone’s feelings that they don’t have a dad and can’t go, or reinforces the value of the traditional family. Butt-hurt whiny single mothers complained, and ruined it for everyone! Who says the girl can’t go with another male family friend or relative? Why ruin it for everyone who does have an involved father in the picture? A believe an involved father, standing up for the traditional family is a rarity now, and should be celebrated! I wish more schools had the backbone to send the message that a father figure is important, not just for individual families, but society as a whole. The father-daughter dance is an expression of the value fathers should have. It’s still amazing in the hostile PC climate, women are still letting their fathers walk them down the aisle, and give them away during their weddings! I fear in another generation or so, that will be gone too…

More slights against the father figure are embroiled in controversies surrounding the funny prom photo of dad between the girl and her date, holding a shotgun! What was once all in good humor, and not serious, is now an atrocity! “How dare a man have a gun in the presence of children!” “How dare he not let his daughter have sexual agency!” etc… What was once a joke in a nod towards the father’s role as his daughter’s protector is now construed as a violent patriarchal threat! I mean though, who should let their sixteen year old sleep with whoever she wants and get knocked up on prom night? Is it wrong for dad to forbid her to fling herself on any guy she wants and get pregnant as a teenager? The radical feminists envision weak dads who have no say in their daughter’s lives, while they go out in their pussy hats and feel vulgarity is empowerment, sleep with any guy to be “liberated” from the patriarchy and want weak men! Any dad who wants to raise a lady of standards is now demonized and called sexist and patriarchal!

Lastly, but certainly not least, another war on fathers is an attack on Father’s Day. Single mothers want two Mother’s Days, one on Father’s Day for their extra hard work, but why not just celebrate it all on Mother’s Day? Fathers deserve their own special day, just for their hard work. Mothers already have a day too, and single moms replacing Father’s Day is only a way to feel better about the gaping hole not having a father in their children’s lives is. Why not let dad have his day? The father is downplayed now so much in society, Father’s Day is a way to stand up for fatherhood and the nuclear family. Erasing fatherhood from our cultural memory and acknowledgement is a politically correct tyranny to soothe many bitter single moms and fatherless children. The truth hurts sometimes though, and it is a truth that fathers matter in the family unit and in our society! We need to fight back the PC notions of ” any family is a real family” garbage! If you stand for the intact stable family, of mom and dad, thank your father 🙂

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Back in the day, this is how the ideal family was once portrayed, not just “any family is a real family” PC propaganda!

Inspiration in Conservative Dress: Are Heels Too Sexy for Younger Girls?

Inspiration in Conservative Dress is a reoccurring series of posts of various modest and feminine outfits to inspire other women to dress modestly and resist society’s pressure to dress provocatively and subscribe to “hook up” culture. Through conservative dress, A Lady of Reason sends a message of resistance to the “sexual revolution” and radical liberal feminism, and the upholding of feminine virtue. Arguably, this could also extend to the support for social conservatism in general. How we dress signals who we are in society. I also want to state that this idea is not mine originally, but done on another religious blog called The Catholic Lady. I was inspired by hers to make a secular version for A Lady of Reason. 

It’s a heated topic on both sides, liberal and conservative: the sexualization of young girls. Both agree that over sexualizing young girls is detrimental to their self image and confidence, and also promotes destructive behavior such as acting out sexually too soon and running into harm. As a woman who advocates for the virtue of modesty in dress and behavior for women and girls, and condemns hook up culture, I also agree that teaching young girls to view themselves in solely sexual terms is unhealthy and detrimental. However, I believe the movement to prevent such occurrences has reached the stage of hysteria and moral panic, ironically doing what they claim to stop: sexualizing young girls and women. A prime example of what I mean is a raging debate around heels for girls and young teens. Some feel that heels are inherently sexual and over sexualizes them, while others see it as part of a harmless way to just express femininity and be girly. My personal stance is that it all depends on the shoe in question, and the context its worn.

A cute pair of little girls’ kitten heels are in no way sexual! Whoever thinks they are I believe, is sexualizing that child and being hypocritical in their aim not to. Who hasn’t dressed up in cute little heels as a child? Small, wide heels on little girls are adorable! Related imageSome arguments range from the fact that heels on adults are often viewed in a more sexualized way and women can wear them to “send off signals”, to a feminist message that it makes little girls care more about their looks than abilities, or they can’t play as ruggedly in them like boys. They claim little girls ought to be more rough and tumble than ladylike. Other concerns are about health in that wearing them constantly is not healthy for properly developing feet, and indeed, adults can have issues if they wear heels too often.

To address the first concern, I argue that unless it’s some sort of 6 inch stiletto with a pump, it’s not sexual and does not look like you’re a prostitute or any other questionable woman. Tiny wedges on little girls cannot be compared to that image and shouldn’t be! Even wedges and smaller regular heels for tweens and teens are perfectly tasteful for special occasions or school if it’s not too fancy or impractical. Sexualizing what was once innocent, like little girls in cute feminine shoes, or a cute wedge for summer only contributes to the toxic over sexualization of our culture in general. In our toxic hook up culture, nothing is ever “innocent” anymore! A hug from a male relative is dangerous, a

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Okay… these are impractical, dangerous and inappropriate for any age…

boy-girl friendship is sexualized, a note from a teacher is a come-on etc… Sexualizing moderately heeled shoes is just another thing in the list of innocent things turned sinister. While some, and I emphasize only some women might wear heels to send off indecent signals or be in questionable professions, the vast majority including myself and many other modest and upright women do wear heels tastefully to work, parties and other events in society. The key is moderation and knowing what is appropriate for when. I myself as a grown woman do not appreciate the  implication that adult women wearing heels is a sexual act in arguing that little girls shouldn’t wear them because of that. I’m sure other women do not appreciate being sexualized in that manner any more than you would want your daughter to be by others! Wearing heels as women can be simply an innocent expression of our femininity as women.

The other major concern concerns the feminist agenda. What is wrong with teaching our daughters more lady like habits and activities? While little girls should be allowed to play more roughly at younger ages, I feel as a girl grows older, they should be taught more lady like elegance and grace in their activities. While at 5, they can tumble in the mud with their brothers, at 15 I’d hope they would be more lady like! Heels are a way to teach little girls to enjoy more feminine things. While I do feel that heels should not be worn on very young girls all the time, for special dress up occasions they are a good way to teach them how to carry themselves like little ladies. As long as they can wear them safely and not trip and fall every step, it’s fine. The feminist argument that little girls shouldn’t be taught to conduct themselves more daintily on certain occasions, like parties and special events or learn to act more feminine in heels such as not running wild is mostly an attempt to masculinize them. Little girls have plenty of time where they can play outside and roughhouse alongside the boys in sneakers and overalls, even historically, but on special occasions, they were taught to act like ladies in dresses and cute shoes. Why can’t we strike that balance today? Freaking out over girls doing feminine things, like wearing light make up and cute heels crying “sexualization!” may also have the undertones of the radical feminist’s fears of traditional femininity and what womanhood used to be. For ages, little girls pretending to dress up like mommy, and envision herself as a grown up lady by trying on her mother’s shoes, clothing, and yes, makeup, was considered cute and an important part of any girl’s development towards embracing womanhood. Making it into something damaging and perverted only speaks to our sad state of affairs of how our culture handles sexuality. In this world of sexual hysteria and #metoo, where Girl Scouts are told not to hug their male relatives, women are infantilized into helpless victims, messages of vulgarity and promiscuity are labeled as empowerment, no wonder the innocence of a girl wishing to be a woman someday is also now perverted!

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When did this sentimental image of a little girl wanting to become a lady become perverted and damaging?

 

Hypersexualizing cute little kitten heels, or wedges, or mommy-daughter make up or nail sessions only serves to sexualize the little girls you claim to want to de-sexualize. Whatever happened to the innocence of a child wishing to be grownup? Most children are not thinking in sexual terms when they wear mommy’s dress, or try on mommy’s make up, or wear mommy’s shoes. They just want to be like mommy! If what they’re doing is inappropriate, maybe mommy needs rethink how appropriate those things are for her to wear and what kind of a role model she’s being for her daughter to imitate! Wanting to be grownup has been a part of everyone’s childhood since childhood was a thing. Why don’t we stop sexualizing childhood by sexualizing adulthood? Monkey see, monkey do…