Mom: The Most Important Job…

If you have been privileged to have an amazing mom then you know that she deserves her own special day and more! Regardless of race, gender, politics, religion, culture, etc… we can all agree a loving, caring, supportive mother who is your biggest fan and loves you unconditionally is one of your greatest privileges to have in this life.

Throughout history, across all cultures, all peoples, no matter what side you’re on, the shared experience many have of the love of their mothers brings most of humanity together. Yet, why is it then in our society motherhood is looked upon as a burden, a chore, enslavement even for women? Is motherhood easy? Certainly not! But what is easy in this life that’s worth lifelong happiness? The feminist movement now treats motherhood as part of the “patriarchy”, saying men pressure women to be mothers to enslave them as domestic servants while he goes out to have all the fun! They say that women should be able to get “real jobs” in order to be empowered. Fancy degrees, high powered careers, not “depend on a man” and that kids will hold you back. They say it’s sexist to think of women as mothers first and that their kids take away their identity. However, what if your kids are a permanent part of your identity and you want it that way? Is it possible a woman can live a traditionally feminine lifestyle as a wife and mother and find the fulfillment she wants in life without worrying about what the new age feminists think of her autonomy? What does it honestly say about our society when being the CEO of some company is more important and far more valued then raising the next generation of our future leaders? Or bringing new life into the world?

Some women are now raised to worry about what sort of “impact” she’ll make if she’s stuck at home living for her children and family? She says, “But I want to be empowered! I want to save the world! I want to have bigger dreams than beyond the walls of my home! I want to be autonomous like a man and dream of achieving everything my brothers can…” Now, I get that not all women want a domestic lifestyle and guess what? That’s fine by me. My issue however, is that such attitudes often are not made from many women’s intrinsic desires, but more of a way to “one-up” the patriarchy or “be like a man” as she feels this is the only way she’ll be empowered and autonomous, or make any impact on the world. She feels that it’s “sexist” to be told that motherhood is one of her greatest callings she can pursue, but what of the inherent sexism I’ve argued about before  in sending women the message that the only way to matter in this world is to become a man and shun traditional femininity? Isn’t it silly though, to believe that mothers make no mark on the world? Anyone who has had a mother in their life has been deeply impacted by her love, care, devotion and everlasting support, or in the unfortunate case where that was not the case, they do not forget how she was absent when they needed her to be a mother.

If motherhood does not make an impact, then why do countless cultures hold a special place of honor for a mother? Why is one of the rare times a man can break down and show real raw emotions is when he loses his mother, or get sentimental over the memories he’s had with her? Why can soldiers, trained for stoic bravery and fearlessness sob in the barracks at night over missing mom, or in their most vulnerable moment, cry out to her when sick or injured and people don’t see them as less of a man? Why have many high powered women in leadership positions, who have broken barriers for women often cite their mothers as their strength and inspiration to achieve their dreams? Or all the so called powerful men of the “patriarchy” credit their moms for their success as well? What about the phrase behind every great man is a great woman?

How can anyone say that the woman whose shoulder you cry on, the woman you laugh with, who loves you unconditionally, who applauds your successes and supports you in your weakest moments, who is your biggest fan, who has raised you since day one, who has carried you in her body to her own inconvenience big and small, or has opened her heart to you and raised you as if she had carried you within her, has sacrificed more than you will ever know for you and the family, etc…etc… did not make an impact in this world? Saying she has no freedom, and is reduced to a mere slave unable to achieve anything “worthwhile” like a job in the workforce is the most sexist insult you can give a woman, and yet society reinforces that message everyday to prospective mothers.

“Oh, you have so much life ahead of you…” “Don’t you want to be something else too?” “You’re too young to decide right now!” are all phrases we take for granted, and yet perpetuate the bias that motherhood and traditional womanhood is oppressive and limiting. Imagine anyone saying these things to girls when they say they want to be in a career! Absurd when you see it that way… A job isn’t everything in life. Yes, I realize that many women can’t be stay at home moms anymore, including my own mother. However, couldn’t that be argued to have been forced on women too, as a result of this “independent woman” craze? When we stopped expecting women to be home full time with the children and out in the workforce like men, we stopped supporting women as wives and mothers, and give less opportunities for men to be breadwinners in their families. Now, a woman not working is often considered a leech by men who feel she is just freeloading off his earnings, rather than being like the men before him who saw it as their duty as a man to provide for his wife and family.

Now, my mom did work like many mothers of this day and age in a solid career and actually was the breadwinner in my family! She enjoyed her career and did in fact, earn a graduate degree and is proud of that and of her ability to provide for her family. However, she was always mom first. Something many high powered career women who subscribe to the masculine ideal of a fulfilling life aren’t. She cut back her hours to always be a stable presence in my life and if she could have, she would have stayed home full time to raise me. She could have risen up higher in her job, but chose her children over her career ambitions because she knew that the impact she would make on me, and the legacy she would leave behind as a mother was far more important than a fleeting career promotion. She knew that a career was a wonderful thing to have, but being a mom was far more important and her #1 job no matter what!

The devaluing of mothers in society is the root of many issues today with women resentful of their own kids as obstacles rather than legacies, kids stuck in daycare full time rather than being with mommy, little help for stay at home moms to stay home and make ends meet, and the constant message of under-appreciation from a society bent on women becoming more and more like men. When will the so called feminists, advocates of women as they claim to be, stand up for traditional femininity as being equal to being like men? When will more women cherish the children they brought into this world more than their next job promotion? When will the lifelong impact and legacy a mother leaves on her family be valued just as much as the next scientific breakthrough or glass ceiling shattered? How worth it is shattering that glass ceiling if your children will be stuck on the other side?

Why does the world have to know about you? Why do you need approval from the whole world? Is the legacy you leave behind on your family enough? Why is being like a man with an outside job so much more meaningful than raising the next generation? To me, it speaks more of a society obsessed with money and worldly prestige, power and fame, which all fade soon enough, than with creating a legacy spanning generations of commitment, support, and unconditional love.

Look, there’s nothing bad about having careers or wanting other identities in addition to motherhood. Motherhood may not be for every woman, and if you truly don’t want to become one, for the sake for any future children raised in your future resentment and neglect, don’t be. But don’t discount becoming a mother because of some radical feminist message that it will make you a lesser human being or strip you of your empowerment, as the most empowered women I know are mothers and proud of it. It’s time we women  show the world we are NOT lesser or oppressed because we choose to value something different than being like the pseudo-men the feminist movement brainwashes us to become. Mothers, you ARE making an impact in this world, one FAR greater than any worldly career!

Thank you, Mom!

To the world, you may be one person, but to one person, you may be the world… 

—Unknown

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Ladies, Be Empowered!

This is addressed to my fellow women out there. I’ve covered much of the flaws of feminist thinking, especially along #MeToo lines in sexual assault prevention, which is basically zero. I’ve also covered in several articles my argument for more personal accountability to lessen one’s risks of assault as well as holding the perpetrator accountable too. Look, I know this topic isn’t all that pleasant, and very serious, but it must be addressed head on. I agree with the Left that misconceptions are a roadblock to empowering women to fight back against sexual assault, but I argue that it is in fact their side, that is fostering dangerous misconceptions about sexual assault.

Their basic premise is that too often, we shift the blame on the victim rather than the perpetrator and even go so far as to say we created a “rape culture” where rape is not only tolerated, but thought of as a man’s “right”. They say that the only thing that causes rape is the rapist, and nothing else. Therefore, one cannot talk about how alcohol or drugs play a role. Nor other poor risky choices such as becoming isolated or suggestive behavior/dress. Now, I will say that they are correct that one does indeed, need a rapist, to commit rape. Alcohol, sexy clothes, drugs, partying, does not literally cause a rape to happen, just as gun violence can only happen if someone pulls the trigger. However, the above factors do indeed create an increased risk of victimization, and are correlated with incidents of sexual assault.

Rapists are going to rape no matter what, because if you are at the point where you feel entitled to rape someone, you don’t care one bit about how it will impact your victim. You may not even care what they are wearing either, as many argue rape is more about power than sexuality. However, barring any empathy for your victim, you still have to choose one! So, which girl, if you would put yourself in the mindset of a callous rapist, but doesn’t want to get caught, would you choose? The girl who’s sober, more modestly dressed surrounded by 5 other girlfriends, (a.k.a. witnesses) at the party, or the one who’s almost blackout drunk, isolated, and in suggestive clothing that can be used as an excuse later in court in your favor? Who do you think would be noticed more if missing? Who do you think would put up less of a fight?

Now, does either girl deserve to get raped? Absolutely not! No one ever “deserves” rape, and nothing ever “justifies” rape. However, the cold, hard ugly truth of the matter is, one girl is more at risk than the other to be chosen as the next victim. Rapists will indeed rape no matter what whenever they find the chance, but it’s on us, ladies, to make sure he has the least amount of chances possible to target us. Causation for increasing your risk is not justification for the crime! Is it fair that we must go out of our way to look out for creeps? NO! But that’s reality. We shouldn’t need to watch out for each other at parties, or a girls’ night out. We shouldn’t have to worry about trusting the guy to take us home safely. Or buy us that drink and worry if he drugged it. We should be able to dress as sexy as we want without any unwanted advances. However, what we should be able to do and what we are able to do without putting ourselves more at risk aren’t identical.

And yes, sometimes, rape will happen when we do everything right to lessen our chances. Rapists will rape, we get it… But isn’t that true for any crime? A burglar can still smash in your window even when you lock your door every night, but does that mean you shouldn’t bother to lock your doors? We talk about more emphasis on teaching boys not to rape and assault women, instead of teaching girls how to empower themselves and lessen their risks in the logic that the solution is solely on telling men not to rape.

However, look at it this way: We teach our children not to steal, yet there are still thieves. Should the solution for burglary be simply to teach people to not steal and call any attempt at advising people to lock their doors or hide their valuables victim blaming? After all, no one has the right to steal your stuff no matter where you leave it! Similarly, there are still rapists despite teaching boys not to rape. The crime is not going away in both cases sadly. So what are we to do? Just sit around on our hands and complain about the obvious injustice, or do something to protect ourselves from becoming a victim, even if it means making inconvenient and yes, unfair, lifestyle adjustments?

Ladies, we need to live in the world as it is, not live in the world that we want it to be. Even if that world demands a “sexist” or un-PC answer to lessening our risk. We ARE judged by how we dress, whether we like it or not. Wearing sexy, provocative clothing, while never justifying any unwanted advances, sends off the signal that you want a consensual interaction and if the wrong guy who’s a complete callous jerk feels you “led him on”, yes, some will cross that line into assault. It’s ugly and unfair, wildly unfair and unjust, but ladies, this is the reality we live in. It’s not about simple morality, or saying that the girl in the sexy dress is morally “lesser” or “bad” and deserves assault, but it is about the fact that as unfair as it is, you ARE judged by how you choose to present yourself, and a real rapist can use it as an excuse in his sick twisted mind to justify harming you.

Drinking until you’re black out drunk, going off alone with a strange guy at the party, taking a drink that could be roofied easily etc… increases your chances of victimization and puts you in a vulnerable position. No, alcohol doesn’t cause rape to happen, but it does increase your risk the rapist will target you because you can’t physically resist or even say “no”. Going off alone with no witnesses and no one to step in to protect you is the perfect way to be victimized. Is this fair? Is it fair that women need to be careful instead of just being carefree when out for the night? Of course not! But as said before, this is the cold hard reality of the world we live in.

Saying all this is bound to draw the ire of many screaming “victim blaming!”, but this is no more victim blaming than suggesting one lock their doors or hide valuables to lessen chances of a burglary. Rapes can happen even after every base is covered. But so can burglaries. So can any crime. NO set of precautions has a 100% guarantee or covers every situation. That however, doesn’t mean we don’t take those precautions. Yes, the rapist could be someone you know and trust. Yes it can happen elsewhere than parties. Yes, more subtle coercion could be involved. Yes, I know all those things! That however does not belittle the merits of precautions against rapes that do happen with strangers, or in parties for instance. You may not be able to avoid one scenario, but does that mean “Why bother learning how to avoid the other”? Sure, the burglar can just smash in my window, but he sure won’t come through my door if I can help it! 😉

Ladies, it’s also not black and white. I’m not saying you can never party, you can never go out, you can never wear that “cute little number” to the club on girls’ night, you can never have a drink or hang out with a guy. We don’t have to dress like nuns and never leave our homes! All I’m proposing is to be aware. Awareness is half the battle, and with a good dose of awareness and common sense, you can have that night out of fun and be as safe as you can. Empowerment is liberating, not constraining. The awareness to know what the risk factors are, and how to avoid them is liberating, as you can live your life, just be aware and vigilant. When we drive, we learn the rules of the road. When we choose where to live, we look into crime rates. We have fire drills. We have emergency drills. We look over our shoulder in that sketchy area. We hide our valuables. We do all these things AND live a normal life full of excitement and fun. Can we do everything we want, (drink to excess, dress like we’re turning tricks, go off with every guy in the bar etc… etc..)? No. But in moderation, and with awareness of the risks, we can weigh our chances and act accordingly.

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My Womanhood is NOT Your Costume…

Transgenderism is a hot and contentious topic for the Left, with many angles at play! The part I want to focus on in all this lunacy though, is on the premise the Left has put out in that since gender is a mere social construct, it justifies the legitimacy of recognizing transgender people, especially women, as being entitled to be treated as if they were actual biological women (or men, but I’ll focus on women for the scope of this article)! Their argument is that gender is a social construct, something society raises you to be, rather than an innate quality. They further add the confusion that the undeniable biological aspect is now written off as its own separate thing as one’s “sex”, but “gender” is the purely social aspect, such as wearing certain clothing, or liking certain things over others. In essence, it really comes down to a nature vs. nurture debate, and how fluid these concepts really are.

Now, I will say up front, I don’t think that many people who label themselves transgender are being insincere or that they just want to be say, a woman on a superficial whim. I think many truly do feel they were born in the wrong body, and have sympathy for how much that must hurt and how utterly confusing that must be. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone! However, society deciding that this is normal for a person to feel about themselves is absurd, not just a normal biological variation! I also argue that the idea of “gender as a social construct” brings with it many detrimental and frankly insulting implications that many take for granted and completely overlook!

First off though, what are we really saying when we say that? It’s not just a neutral statement of a proposed fact. No! It’s the logical flaw that by implying it’s not a natural trait, and it’s not innate, it doesn’t matter at all. The real idea behind this is that gender should be obsolete, and because it’s not something we consider natural anymore, it’s completely outdated and irrelevant! What we really mean by “gender is a social construct” is that “gender is something artificially imposed and needs to be gotten rid of”.  That statement is loaded, and carries a very heavy value judgement! If it were natural, in Left’s mind, they couldn’t undermine and de-legitimize it as easily..

But, you know what also is a “social construct”? Race! That’s right, the Left now says race too is not grounded in biology, but in society’s whims! However, can we be trans-racial??? Heck no! Just ask that woman who was ousted for being biologically white, but identified as black! If a white person tries to do so, they are automatically being racist, and appropriating someone’s race! One may argue, “but racial differences are very obvious, so you’d know someone cannot be another race…” but don’t men and women look different? And not just clothes, make up and hair! Men grow beards, women don’t. Men’s bodies are bigger, stockier, stronger, differently shaped. Not to mention what’s down below! 😉 Humans after all, are a sexually dimorphic species! The argument against racial appropriation by the Left, that especially if white, you can’t just wear say, a black person’s styles, appropriate their music, their traditions, their food, their heritage and claim you’re one of them, is based on the idea that you haven’t been through their struggles. You want the “fun” aspects of being them, but you haven’t faced their hardships. Haven’t faced their struggles, their obstacles, and to add insult to injury, you’re part of why they have those struggles. Yet, you want to claim their unique heritage as your own??? The nerve!

Well, guess what? This should apply to gender too! If what the Left says is true, about women being disadvantaged, then what gives a man the right to appropriate what belongs to women? If women are living in fear of being assaulted by men, raped by men, paid less than men, devalued as lesser, then why on Earth should a man get to appropriate their unique heritage, in other words, as women? If it is true, as many Leftists believe, that men have male privilege, just like whites have white privilege, then isn’t it privilege to be able to just pick and choose to express one’s self as the female gender but have the option of going back to being a man when convenient? It’s just like a white person wearing blackface! They can take off the color at the end of the day. A person of color has to live with it, and the stigma it allegedly brings. Well same for gender! A guy can take off the dress, the heels, the make up, shave his head again. A woman, however, cannot just transform into a man and all her troubles will go away! She cannot take off her “costume” so she won’t be assaulted, raped, paid less, devalued. She has to live with the struggles too, not just the perks. The man in the dress can punch the attacker, throw off the rapist, while she is helpless to throw off someone twice her strength! Even if he decides to never live as a man again, he still can get the upper hand with his physically stronger body! Also, in line with the Left’s concept of privilege, isn’t it a form of privilege to be able to just throw away your privilege??? A man choosing to be a woman gives up his “male privilege” and swapping it for vulnerability and scorn. However, as “oppressed” as he then makes himself, he chose to take on that. A real woman didn’t. She was born with the fact she would have far greater chances of being assaulted, raped, devalued. She does not have the luxury to throw away privilege wantonly, nor gain it by becoming a man!

No. It’s NOT a two way street. Transgender men are not just “one of the guys”. They do not have extra “privilege”. However, a transgender woman now must be treated as a full woman by Leftist decree! Even if he genuinely feels like he wants to live his life as a woman and never go back, he can. That’s the thing. And that he had the choice to give up his “privilege” of being a man in the Left’s allegedly “patriarchal” society. Real women never have those luxuries. Just like a white person can impersonate, and maybe even genuinely feel like a black person, but has the choice to go back to being white and on top, to take off the “costume”. If a guy wanting to be a girl wants to wear the pretty dresses, the heels, curl his hair, go to the girl’s nights as one of the girls, hang at the mall, do all the fun things women like to do, he should also have had to face her struggles. To be afraid to walk alone at night. To carry pepper spray. To know the fear of being harassed on the street. To be held back on the job. Underestimated, viewed as weak, a victim. Why should someone get to reap in the rewards, without having to go through the struggles? Do I believe the world is really so bleak for women? Not as much as the Left certainly does! But by the Left’s own logic and views on women being oppressed, this is a logical argument…

Also, and less obvious, is a quite insulting implication inherent in this argument: That womanhood, as a social construct, is merely just a superficial costume that anyone can put on… The idea that all womanhood really is, is putting on a dress and heels and make up, styling your hair, and doing “girly things”. As long as you do those, you’re a woman! However, I and many other women would disagree! There’s so much more than superficial looks or going through the motions involved in the intangible parts of womanhood.  The sisterhood all women share together in their deep experiences, and very natures runs far deeper than our make up, our heels, or dresses and hair. Liking shopping and fashion and traditional womanly things is not all there is to our very essence, our unique humanity as women. See, also like one’s race, one’s sex does indeed affect how you perceive the world, and how the world perceives you. Women do not have the same upbringing, the same experiences as men, not because there’s a mass conspiracy that half of humanity wants to oppress us, but because of the simple fact we are NOT men!

Our trillion or so cells speak the plain and simple truth: we are different in our very core. Study after study shows girls consistently play in a more nurturing way than boys. We evolved to nurture, to be more gentle, to be social. We evolved to be the child bearers, and experience the wonders of motherhood, which no man will ever experience. Even the Left acknowledges this in its anti-man “you can never have an opinion on women’s issues because you aren’t a woman!”. See? Even they know, deep down men and women are innately different! That our experiences differ. Our challenges differ. Our womanhood runs far deeper than any costume, any “social construct”, yet, the Left argues implicitly in the idea that a man can put on a dress, heels, inject some hormones, that he can be a woman through superficial behaviors alone, that womanhood is just an actor’s role to play and our feminine style a mere “costume” that can be taken on and off. Oh, and by the way, doesn’t the use of hormones help point to our biological differences too??? 😉  One can’t say hormones our bodies we’re genetically programmed to release upon puberty that make us different are a “social construct”!

Ladies, we are NOT just a costume that anyone can just put on and pretend to be! Our womanhood, our shared experiences, our challenges, the deep bond rooted in womanhood we share with our mothers from day 1 cannot be replicated in someone who is biologically, and socially, raised as a man! Even those who were raised to be men from infancy, but were biological women always felt “different” and not like just another “guy”… Same for girls who were guys inside… To say that womanhood is something anyone can be on a whim, on a feeling, is gravely belittling and insulting to women everywhere! It’s like a woman saying she can just experience every aspect of manhood, without his struggles, his upbringing, his innate nature.

Yes, I know people literally feel they were born in the wrong body, a woman’s soul/mind in a man’s body, but if you were raised as a man, are biologically a man, then no you can’t truly feel like a true woman, know what it is to be one, anymore than one can truly, intrinsically perceive the world like someone who’s a native speaker of a language can versus someone who happens to speak it fluently but was not raised from day 1, in the culture of the speaker! Yes, you can learn a language quite well, but you can never truly perceive the world and be a native speaker within their cultural matrix and have their exact perception of the world though their native tongue. That’s my analogy for experiencing the opposite sex’s world… You can play the part well, but you cannot truly be the real deal unless you are!

Look, I don’t demonize transgender people for wanting to be the other sex. What I do heavily criticize though, is the idea that they can be the exact same, and be entitled to the exact same treatment as a real woman in this case, because they never truly can be. And they know that themselves! Indeed! No matter how much they “transition”, they know in their heart of hearts they are not a woman in the same way as real biological women! They can come mighty close, even look like a woman, sound like one, like in the case of Jazz Jennings, maybe you can’t even tell just by looking. But do you honestly feel “women” like “her” truly, honestly, and 100% believe they are indeed women in every single sense of the word??? I’m not out to say she needs to switch back, or she’s out to hurt anyone personally. She’s probably just trying to genuinely live out “her” life as a woman.

However, she and the others set a precedent where society devalues our essence, our very humanity as women that only a real, biological woman can ever truly know. The inherent sexism in the idea that men can just be women upon their choice devalues our womanhood into a superficial acting job! If a person’s race is not your costume, a person’s culture is not your costume, why should a person’s gender or sex be someone else’s to appropriate? This is heresy for the Left to say, but I will say it loud and clear guys, : My womanhood is NOT your costume! 

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Saving Yourself for Marriage: It’s Not Just for the Ladies…

I advocate for waiting until marriage to have sex and practicing abstinence as it is about the only 100% effective birth control 😉 The dangers of promiscuity are rife, and include STD’s unwanted pregnancies and not to mention, a damaged reputation! Sleeping around has real and lasting consequences. It’s not just theoretical fluff made to scare you in middle school health class! From seedy people, to getting into a mess of who gave whom that nasty rash, to “who’s its daddy?”, the dangers of promiscuous sex are rife! It makes sense that sex has been linked to morality throughout history, as the consequences are steep if not done carefully and with great consideration of who you choose and when you choose to. However, a large criticism of the topic of the heavy risks of promiscuity is that it’s mainly, unfairly that is, geared towards women but not men. The feminists say that men get a free pass often times, and can be “players” and use promiscuity as a status symbol, while women are expected to reign in her sexuality and not be promiscuous like men can. While there is truth in this allegation, I argued before that women should be more guarded and cautious about their sexual appetite as women do in fact, have a lot more to lose such as an unwanted pregnancy! Never the less, my main point now is, it’s not just the ladies who need to be careful and avoid promiscuity!

Yes, men face less risks that women do in regards to unbridled sex. Less stigma, danger of meeting the wrong people who could hurt them, and no unwanted pregnancy! However guys, the coin has two sides 😉 You can get a girl pregnant and have to pay child support for the next 18 years! She can say you’re the dad and smear your reputation along with hers. You may avoid being raped forcibly or beaten up by a bad guy, but beware the wrath of an angry father who thinks you corrupted “his little girl”! STD’s don’t discriminate between sexes at all. She has it, you got it! Being a “player” may sound cool to your buddies, but no respectable girl worthy of a stable marriage and family life will want to marry a guy who plays around! To get a lady, you must be a gentleman. Players attract cheap girls who will do it with anyone, not suitable wives and mothers of your future children! The “fun gal” wears off by the next morning. Better to wait for your forever wife 🙂

If none of this persuades you, consider the immense legal risks of playing the field with every girl you see! Let’s say you’re in college… You go to a party, want to have a little fun tonight, meet some hot girls. Ooh! That girl across the room is a 10! Your buddies encourage you to make a move. She likes you, and pretty soon, we all know where this is going next… Fast forward to the next morning. She’s gone. You get an angry text from your parents. What’s going on? Turns out her parents contacted yours and threatened to press charges in court for statutory rape! What??? But how? She basically jumped on me! Turns out she wasn’t 18 yet. She was the 16 year old sister on the college tour staying for the weekend with her older sister in college. But, she looks like she’s 20! She didn’t act like she was only 16 years old… She sounded like a fellow college girl! But here you are, facing potential charges in court for statutory rape because her daddy thinks you corrupted his “sweet 16” naive, innocent little angel!

Yes guys, this scenario plays out all the time! You could be the guy who would never dream of taking advantage of an underage girl, but easily mistake a well developed and mature sounding 16 year old for an 18 year old! I mean, honestly, let’s all take off our PC hats and say it out right: 16 and 18 are NOT that different! Two years. That’s all it can be between consensual sex and a criminal act with the law set at that arbitrary number. Even 17 a few months shy of 18 is still considered a minor, incapable of consent! And yes, girls do lie…. Take this example! Is this fair? Not really when you think of it. Are honest, moral guys just looking for a good time with an appropriately aged consenting partner supposed to demand ID now? How can you ever be 100% sure that young lady is of age or that other girl isn’t! Looks CAN be deceiving. I personally looked younger than my real age, so a guy could have passed me up at 18 but taken the other 16 year old who looked like she was 20! (Thankfully, I was raised to be wiser than to ever be in such a scenario!)

The only 100% “safe” solution is to A: Never choose young looking women as sex partners and only stick to those over 30… (Yes, many older teenagers, 16,17, even 15 in some cases look like they’re in their 20’s) or B: Don’t be a player and want to score every girl you don’t even know and only choose a well known intimate partner who has no secrets from you, a.k.a. a girlfriend or preferably wife! If you play around, it can be like Russian roulette, not only for unwanted pregnancies you have to pay for, angry fathers, STD’s, and decent women not wanting to come within a mile of you, but you could end up in jail, and on a sex offender registry. Trust me. That will ruin your life. Period! NO ONE wants to live near or hire an alleged “sex offender”! Oh, and last point on this topic, even with a steady girlfriend it can be statutory rape!  It happened to a 19 year old who dated a girl only 2 or 3 years younger! Wait until you meet a girl, get to know her and tie the knot!

And another major point and for men of every age! #MeToo hysteria. If you sleep around, it may haunt you even decades later if the girl wants to get back at you for something, be famous, get money or some other gain. Just look at Kavanaugh! He probably didn’t even have sex, but that didn’t stop Christine Ford from smearing him for a month or more! One word from any woman, one who regretted the foolish drunken sex you both had, wants to get out of her daddy being mad at her for getting pregnant even though she freely consented even if you’re both minors, wants to spite you on the job, anything really. Good, decent, honest boys and men who would never even think to take a woman against her will, never say lewd things, never touch her inappropriately, can be smeared in the blink of an eye! Being a private act, it’s just your word vs. hers, and in this society, hers often wins. I hate to say it, but in this society, you are a predator, and she is the victim. Doesn’t matter if you never touched her. Even were in 100 feet of her. In a society now where a little 5 year old is labeled a predator for hugging a teacher, it’s easy to see how every man is seen as a rape waiting to happen by the #MeToo crowd!

While even men who never had sex with a lot of women or were promiscuous are being smeared, not having sex with women you don’t know well even an acquaintance, lessens your risk of being framed and accused. Mike Pence, though being smeared now as misogynist for staying away from being alone with women, has an excellent point. By never putting himself in a position were a woman can say anything unsubstantiated, he drastically lessened his risk for false allegations! Being more guarded around women, and not putting yourself in potentially risky situations such as alone, behind closed doors, and of course, being intimate with women you aren’t intimately close to such as a long term steady girlfriend or wife, is not just about arbitrary morality and prudishness. It can save your butt from being thrown in the slammer 😉 A sad world I know, but this is the reality for men in the era of radical feminism, #MeToo hysteria… Nothing is ever innocent to the left!

Gentlemen: Please wait for just that perfect girl. Wait to be with your wife. Wait to be with the woman you can fully trust, be vulnerable around and still feel safe in that there isn’t a risk of her smearing you later, the woman with whom you shared all your secrets, the woman who is faithful to you alone, the woman who will spend the rest of her life with you, the one woman you want to call “wife”. Girlfriends can come and go, but a woman who honors her vows in marriage to you, and entrusts her body to you in the form of deepest intimacy is about the only truly “safe” woman to be intimate with. Don’t settle for skanks, and “good time gals”. Don’t choose instant gratification and a mountain of risks and liabilities over a lifetime of intimacy with just the perfect girl for you. True love, (and satisfaction 😉 ) waits!

And on a last, but certainly not insignificant note, is think about the girl. Think about the girl who should save herself too for just the right guy. You dally with her, and she too is deprived of giving her future husband one of her greatest gifts. You helped turn her milestone as a woman into a cheap handshake. Be the bigger man. The foolish, naive young girl who thinks a fling would be fun needs guidance, not instant gratification for her curiosity! A real man tells her “no” and that she’s worth more than to give herself away to any guy who asks! Treat her like how you would want your daughter to be treated by a gentleman! A real man waits for a woman ready to give herself to him for life, and honors and protects the integrity of young ladies who have yet to find their one and only 🙂

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The (New) Modern Woman…

The image of the “modern woman” has pervaded since the rise of all waves of feminism. She may be different depending on the era, the woman who could vote, the woman who could work, the woman who could wear pants, get dirty, own property, choose her husband, plan her family or chose not to have one, think for herself, be heard in the world, have a voice in society, etc..etc… The modern woman was one who could look to a bright future for herself, on her own terms. It’s a vision that all women like to think of themselves being able to be. However, like most idealistic visions, the reality often falls short. Am I saying that the “modern woman” ideal is necessarily bad, in the qualities listed above? No, not really. I want women to have autonomy, to get to choose her life choices, to decide who she deems worthy of marriage, to think for herself and be heard in the world, yes, all of those are not things I’m against. The problem arises though when this vision goes to extremes and becomes radicalized. The “modern woman” of today is not what our grandmothers and great grandmothers who fought for the vote pictured in their youth!!!

The “modern woman” of today is one who embraces vulgarity, loudness, and vitriol over the strength that comes from valid ideas and the feminine softness of ladies past. She is one who embraces sexual anarchy rather than sexual freedom through promiscuity and immodesty rather than tempered choices. She is one who will flaunt that sleazy vulgarity through “pussy hats”, dressing like vaginas, smearing fake blood to mimic menstruation as “girl power”, and shun all aspects of traditional femininity. To her, sex is a handshake not a milestone. A child is a burden personally and professionally to be cast aside and neglected emotionally, mentally, even physically lest it get in her way of being the “modern woman”. Motherhood is enslaving, not her highest calling as a woman. A man is the enemy, a hindrance and source of all oppression just waiting to force her back in the kitchen! Divorce is normal for the empowered woman, and marriage is merely dating 2.0. The honor and privilege of being a wife is now erased through terms like “Ms.”. Feminine dress is seen as enslaving and dis-empowering, as she must mimic a man in all aspects of her life to feel worth something as a person. She must have a career like a man does, earn like he does, dress like he does, think like he does, even talk like he does to feel worthy and empowered. A man in all but name! She must talk back, never compromise or acquiesce to her husband or father’s wishes, even partially least she be oppressed by the patriarchy! Protest male only spaces while entitled to women only spaces. Hate standards of beauty, decry make-up, bras, nail polish, beauty products, as part of the “patriarchy”. Mistakes bossiness and pushiness for healthy assertiveness and confidence. Sees perversion, injustice and oppression in girls being girls and embracing girl things such as dolls, dresses, fairy tales etc… Be the perpetual victim, damsel in distress when it suits them such as the #MeToo card, etc… etc…

That said, many reasonable women who decry the hypocrisy, inherent sexism, condescension, and vitriol of the radical feminist movement would think the notion of the “modern woman” must be thrown out! However I propose the idea can be reclaimed for the positive. There is a way, I feel to reach a healthy middle ground in this desire for more equality, while also embracing traditional feminine virtues and our womanhood as is, not feminist imposed pseudo-manhood! I propose a vision where we can be ladies of elegance and grace, like our grandmothers, while also embracing some positive aspects of the desire for increased autonomy and independence for women of today. Being a lady does not mean you have to be stuck in 1918 in 2018 😉 For example:

  • The modern woman can make her own choices, but chooses them because she should, not merely because she can!
  • The modern woman uses her freedom to enhance her life, not spite others, such as doing something specifically to “spite the patriarchy”…
  • The modern woman has sexual freedom, but not sexual anarchy! She knows with freedom comes responsibility, and embracing hook up culture only leads to danger, unhappiness, STD’s, unwanted pregnancy, etc…etc…
  • The modern woman chooses her partner freely, without being coerced or forced by her father, but honors and cherishes the man she chooses and respects his wishes…
  • The modern woman can embrace a marriage of equals in dignity and worth, with separate but complimentary roles…
  • The modern woman can give her heart and her person to one man in marriage, till death do you part, be “one flesh” with him and give yourself to him without being his “property”, as he ought to do the same for you. She knows that she is forever his, and he is forever hers… She embraces the title of wife (“Mrs.”) as an honor, not a slave-name!
  • The modern woman is not “dependent” on a man, but leans on him, looks to him in times of hardship and vulnerability for him to be her rock and protector, with the knowledge she does so freely and that she will be his rock in his time of need. She knows she can share her sorrows and joys with him, without being “dependent” and “weak”…
  • The modern woman listens to the wise counsel and guidance of her father in her younger years and as a budding woman, so that she will not be lead astray by bad people and tricked by her own naivety to the world, without feeling her father owns her and micromanages her life! She lets him give her away at the alter, in the spirit of transferring the role of his love and support to her new husband, who when he passes, will be her rock as he once was. Not in the sense it is a literal transfer of property anymore!
  • The modern woman can be a leader without leading the same way a man might go about it. She realizes that the strongest people can be the most soft spoken and gentle in nature but rise to every challenge…
  • The modern woman can embrace traditional feminine dress and styles, and live her life unhindered by that choice without the pressure to wear pants just because a man does! Her worth comes from inside her, not what’s covering her legs!
  • The modern woman can be the keeper of the home, nurturer of the family, and be worth more than anything to her family and to a wholesome society of intact families raised in love and devotion.
  • The modern woman can have a career, but values the title of M.O.M. or M.R.S. over any degree or credential or title she might earn!
  • The modern woman can speak her mind and use her voice for the betterment of her society, but does so through facts, logic and reason, not vitriol, shouting and ad-hominem attacks!
  • The modern woman defends the wronged, not as a man should through physical strength, but in her own special way, through using her voice as a woman to advocate for wrongly accused men for example in this #MeToo hysteria, or the neglected and devalued child by the ideology of radical feminism as another…
  • The modern woman can think in a deep intellectual manner, but not forget her manners as a lady in her conduct and get heated and spew vitriol at the opposition!
  • The modern woman knows assertiveness and confidence is NOT snapping orders and domineering over others, rather the persistent, quiet and reasoned assertiveness and knowledge of her skills and her worth…
  • The modern woman is responsible for her actions, and accepts the consequences with grace and understanding, not crying victim, and blaming everyone but herself for her own transgressions.
  • The modern woman is not a victim, but empowered to stand her ground in the face of injustice and unethical coercion. She has the power to choose integrity over the superficial rewards coercion has to offer her.
  • The modern woman has a voice to be heard, but conveys her ideas with elegance and grace as a lady, not a “Nasty Woman”…
  • The modern woman can be a true lady, one of elegance, refinement and grace as her fore-mothers did before her, while also embracing the modern freedoms women can have….

Overall, the “modern woman” of reason, is a lady in spirit and character, while taking the best female empowerment has to offer such as increased autonomy and independence. She is bright, driven, a victor, not a victim, a leader, a nurturer, a devoted partner, a dutiful daughter, a loving mother, a person of integrity and accountability, a deep independent thinker, a person of refinement, has strength in her quietness, embraces her traditional femininity and is above all, a LADY!

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A “Matriarchy” is NOT what I have in mind for empowering women!

10 Scary Issues The Liberals Conjured Up…

Halloween is here and everyone’s in a spooky mood! Like most people, I can appreciate a good scare around Halloween. However, fact can be stranger than fiction any time of the year, and the scariness of the real world is no trick! Here are some of the scary issues going on today spurred on by radical liberals and the culture of political correctness (click on the links to read more in detail about each issue):

1. “Hook up” Culture

As said many times before, in our current culture, sex is just a handshake. Marriage is just dating 2.0. Young ladies are told they can dress like skanks for men. Traditional values of committed life long marriages, and striving for marriage as your ultimate relationship goal, not just a hook up, being a virgin on your wedding day, the things our grandparents did, is going away in our society in favor of cheap sex or instant gratification and pleasure. It’s society’s reflection of the “I can do whatever I want consequence free” attitude of irresponsibility and instant gratification. Sites like Tinder and others don’t help the matter! Nor does the mainstream media, TV and movies! Our youth is being taught this sleazy lifestyle, and many boomers are embracing it too, on to their 2nd and 3rd marriages in a culture rife with divorce, STD’s and unwanted pregnancy! When did we decide instant gratification took precedence over the desire for a better future down the road? When did it become acceptable for our daughters to fling themselves at every guy they see to be “empowered” women? When did marriage become dating 2.0? Scary if you ask me…

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2. “Any Family is A Real Family”

To add to this list of horrors, and on a related note is the disintegration of the nuclear family. In a culture that goes for cheap sex and hook ups, more and more people who start families break them up for baser urges. “I’m leaving you for my secretary!”, “I’m divorcing you because I hate you and the kids!” “She’s hotter and gives me what I like…” etc… Then, many single mothers go on and whine then, and raise sons to be weak and feminized, and daughters to hate men and reject traditional femininity and marriage. Children are the ones who pay the price on this one. Children for broken homes are much more likely to have issues such as depression, substance abuse, eating disorders, trouble in school, “daddy issues”, a promiscuous lifestyle and repeat the cycle as adults! The glorification of single parenthood and the oppression of fathers in their children’s lives is rampant, and reflected in every psychology journal, magazines, TV, movies and the media! Even events like the father-daughter dance are being eradicated thanks to bitter single mothers! That’s not all though, the concept of same sex parents, who are in essence one parent since they don’t have the perspective of the other sex are being normalized too. The politically correct platitudes of “every family is a real family” go down the drain of reality when one sees the children who come out of it.

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3. The Welfare State

Oh, this is a biggie! All the minorities and immigrants on welfare crying “victim” of past oppression and won’t better themselves or their communities but settle for government housing! They drain our school system who has to raise their children for them, drain our healthcare with all their problems and unwanted pregnancies, drain our economy, our government, our charities, our food supply, our housing, and certainly our tax dollars! Indeed, it’s you and I, the working class and the middle class, who foot the bill through our tax money. A portion of your salary goes to these leeches! And who would blame them? We enable them and they’ve been doing it for generations! Welfare should be for those who genuinely can’t work, like our wounded veterans, and respectable families who need that leg up to get back in the workforce. However, now, people are leeching off it and are they grateful? No! The people who bombed the Boston Marathon sure weren’t! Nor are the ghetto hoodlums in low income areas around the country, only bringing crime and continuing the cycle of poverty and anti-intellectualism (lest you be called an Uncle Tom). To make matters even more frightening, many literally believe WE owe THEM welfare from cradle to grave, and they reason why they have so many problems in their communities is due to white oppression! Even if that were true, why keep your neighborhood in crime and disarray? Why want nothing better for your children except to repeat the cycle and torment any good kids who want a future? Why bring nothing to this country in return for its charity? Appalling if you ask me, and guess who subsidizes all of this? (Hint: Liberal Democrats who want more votes…)

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4. “Gender Benders!”

The issue of sex vs. gender is big now, and propagandized by mainstream psychology and science! In the “before time”, gender (which now the liberals say is distinct from biological sex) was determined the same way as sex. XX or XY human chromosomes. In recent years, due to influences like radical feminism that hates traditional gender roles, they decided it’s all arbitrary, and you can be anything you want regardless of genetics or settled science! People with what used to be called gender dysmorphia, are now normalized and victims of gendered oppression! Instead of a deep mental illness, it’s now perfectly normal for little boys to want to be little girls for instance! For grown men to “transition” into women and dismantle their families! Now, I don’t demonize the transgender people themselves, many do genuinely feel that way and have a real mental disorder. However, it’s not all harmless, such as the fact predators now are enabled to merely claim to be women to enter girl’s and women’s restrooms and locker rooms! More and more young people are being brainwashed by the idea gender is merely a social construct, not a normal biological one in normal people, and decide on impulse they’re the opposite gender, or even “other” that is neither gender! Until society stops normalizing a mental disorder as being progressive from the chains of gender roles, real women will be endangered by men pretending to be women to access their spaces, little boys and girls will be confused and brainwashed, families will be torn apart, and established objective science will be thrown away for popular sentiments and subjective propaganda!

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5. The Cult of Victim-Hood

This encapsulates so many groups, minorities, women, LGBT etc… The common denominator though is the world is out to get them, and owes them compensation and reparations! They seek not to better themselves, or appreciate the work that was done to help them, but rather to constantly whine, complain and demand more and more! If you don’t comply, they go full blown tantrum, with vitriol, ad-hominem attacks, and straw man arguments! They don’t want you to speak frankly or give any honest critiques of them. They pretend to be helpless against their misfortunes, such as crime, gangs, and poverty, or “sexism” and the “patriarchy”, or traditional marriage, gender roles, biological sex, the nuclear family and such that they deem oppressive. They’re “triggered” by an opposing view, “microagressed” on by innocent people who have no clue what they said was even remotely offensive. They’re the snowflake generation that feels doomed for life and doesn’t lift a finger to build their own future because of propaganda by liberals about our doomed economy, workforce and prospects for young people. The women who cry #metoo for a sexual mistake after the fact decades from when it happened. The minorities that claim “white privilege”. The transgender people who demand science be overturned for their gender dysphoric disorder and the world cater to 1% of 1% of the population. The bitter single moms who hate men and the traditional family set up as the norm. Basically, a generation of snowflakes with no resilience and immense fragility!

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6. Uncontrolled Borders

Immigration is a huge hot button topic. So are refugees. While many of us came from immigrants, it’s fair to say these ones are a bit different from the hard working industrious ones who helped build our country! The ones coming now, are draining our welfare system, medical care, schools, jobs etc… They’re bringing 3rd world cultures over to our country and making more crime and poverty. Many of these war torn refugees also bring the threat of terrorism in addition. Now, of course, there are exceptions to the rule. Some groups do bring more industry, and technology here, working in high powered careers. Not all Hispanic or Muslim immigrants are the lazy, backwards, stereotype and do work hard and try to better themselves and their families. Many do come here through legal channels, and don’t hop our borders only to leech off our system undocumented. I do genuinely feel for many in poverty and desperate straits who were forced to leave their culture and country. However, we can’t care for every person who is in need around the world. What about our own citizens? The homeless children and veterans. The poverty in our own country. Why is it always on America to take in these people and baby sit the world? Why can’t other countries pull their fair share too? People from war torn areas who have nothing are raised to be in a dog-eat-dog world. They bring that attitude of brutality over to 1st world nations like ours. Europe is in shambles over refugees bringing violent crimes like assault and rape as well as terrorism! MS-13 gangs and others plague our country from Hispanic countries. Why can’t our immigrants bring more assets to our country, not leeches? Until we can screen them more thoroughly, the bad apples get though too!

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7. “Clash of The Cultures”

On another related note, comes the cultural clashes between 3rd world vs. 1st world values. Ones like freedom, equality and democracy! Ones where women aren’t assaulted, and people robbed at gunpoint, or killed! Ones where hard work is the norm, not victimhood and leeching off the welfare state only to bite the hand that feeds you! The extremes the PC liberals go to cater to them are astounding, with special Sharia law set up, or ethnic neighborhoods where any outsider will meet their doom, or turning a blind eye to 3rd world criminals and gangs so you can be politically correct and not face uncomfortable truths. The traditional American work ethic of the working middle class who supports themselves and brings more to the country than takes is going away for fragile snowflakes who cry oppression. Not just immigrants and refugees of course are guilty of this. Minority groups here in the US like the much of the poor black community for instance! A culture of ghetto life, welfare, crime, and poverty that hates education and intelligence is not good for the country! It’s all a slight to every one in these groups who is NOT like that and does work hard at an honest living and values our country.

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8. Radical Feminism

The “Nasty Woman” movement really showed the extremes of the radical feminists. They brainwash our daughters to hate men and cry victim too. They infantilize women through the #metoo movement, painting women as helpless and clueless little children when it comes to sexual coercion. They try to say that traditional femininity is oppressive, traditional strong men are misogynists, and women ought to take part in hook up culture to be “liberated”. They do anything but make women look dignified! They replaced feminine elegance and grace of past generations with vulgar promiscuity, loose morals and masculine wannabes who resent men. From this movement stems callous attitudes like “her body her choice”, to misguided ones like shunning traditional femininity, the guidance of fathers, feminization of men, and more scary happenings!

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9. Reverse Discrimination

White privilege and affirmative action are prime examples! It’s unbelievable what the victimhood culture has duped many to believe is right! They claim that only whites are racist, or men are sexist, due to social power, but discrimination is discrimination no matter whose side it’s on! Many white men and women too, are refused job offers, college acceptances and other opportunities like housing or even being chosen for promotions for instance due to their sex or color of their skin. Now, for some groups it’s racist or sexist, but others it’s not??? Pretty scary to think that inequality is being done in the name of equality!

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10. Censorship of Conservative Views

Lastly, but certainly not least, the most scary thing of all is you can’t publicly say ANY of the above!!! I am forced to use a pseudonym as any of this would derail me socially and career wise! Almost all mainstream news sites are liberal and demonize conservatives (minus Fox News for now…). Major search engines like Google are blatantly liberal, and censor conservative sites, and social media like Facebook and Twitter also censor conservatives, even YouTube! Which are all owned by Google 😉 Even offline, people will shun you, and spew vitriol over conservative views. You can’t speak out even in your own family many times, and indeed, at least one family member shunned me over my blog! People have lost jobs, friendships, even family over being conservative. Some were even assaulted and lost their lives over conservative views! I guess we’re “in the closet” now! It’s a scary world out there for our lot, but there’s a silent majority rising, and pushing back. We need to support each other and speak out, to make our world a bit less scary 🙂

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Lastly… Happy Halloween!

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Leftist Parental Fears in Their Own Societal “House of Horrors”….

In keeping with a spooky theme of the Halloween season, I wanted to bring light upon this very pertinent, and honestly sad and disheartening observation: The Left sees everything that was once innocent or innocuous as sick and perverted in some manner or another! From extreme examples in parenting, to aspects of our #MeToo culture, to the Left, the world is a scary, predatory, unforgiving place! Ironic much of their fears revolve around sexual matters, when they advocate for sexual anarchy and hook up culture! The innocent is now perverted, and the perverted is now innocent! Thus, the paradox of the Left…

My first example, which inspired to to write on this comes from the many parenting forums and magazines I’ve read over the years. See, there seems to be this sense of moral panic, especially about raising girls. Questions of modesty, sexuality, and such are hotly debated, which seems appropriate for concerned parents, but many of these discussions take on paranoid extremes. For example, and I’ve written on this in specific detail before, the topic of little girl’s kitten heels and standard summer wedges are now seen as a way of exploiting and over-sexualizing girls. I’m not talking stripper stilettos mind you, but shoes such as these:

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Now, do any aspect of these shoes scream “sex kitten” to you??? Are they the shoes you would imagine on a prostitute or stripper, or a little girl in a poofy flower girl dress??? If you’re like minded and reasonable, your answer would probably also agree with mine being the latter conclusion… 🙂 However, many of these “woke” mothers, radical feminists, look at such shoes in disgust, only seeing the worst possible interpretation, that they make girls look at themselves as sex objects and have low self esteem! Whatever happened though, to the image of the little girl wanting to look like mom and look like a grown up lady and that’s literally it? How exactly does 2 inches of kitten heel make you magically turn into a sex object???

Another example goes of course, with lightly padded bras for tweens and teens. Some parents literally sought out to decry a lightly padded training bra accusing it of over-sexualization, but the padding was merely to cover indecent nipples on a developing girl!  Or panic over the lace underwear that looks regular, not lingerie mind you, just plain old panties! I don’t understand this immense fear, as underwear is UNDER your clothes! The point for a modest girl is to NOT see it in public! Ergo, it makes ZERO difference if it’s plain white, lacy or leopard print. It will not be seen by anyone but you!!! Also noting, push up bras are not the path to promiscuity, I’ve worn them for years in my teens, with no thought of hooking up, nor unwanted advances. Your brain, not your boobs, ladies, decide how you act 😉 I’m so grateful my parents did not let such paranoia cloud their judgement, and raise a rebellious girl who was starved for autonomy, but instead one who thought for herself, and chose to be modest in action and dress as her own intrinsic choice!

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Oooh!!! So sick and perverted! The Horror!!!

Parents, there are FAR bigger battles to pick than underwear and 2 inch heels! I honestly  feel sorry for the parents, who parent in such extreme fear. I mean, what made you feel that the world is so sick and perverted, that a little girl’s kitten heel signals a toxic view of her sexuality she doesn’t even have yet?! I’m inclined to think some of these pearl clutching parents have had some traumatic experience of their own, by the level of fear they write with in discussing these issues. Perhaps it’s also radical feminist brainwashing that anything feminine is oppressive to women. Hook up culture is real, but kitten heels and training bras are not the path to it…

On a related note, comes the paranoia of the #MeToo era. I’ve written about this in great detail too in several posts already, however, I wish to bring to light the paranoia it spawned in what many would have seen as completely innocent and innocuous things even a year or so ago! The Girl Scouts, for example, told parents to stop having girls hug their relatives, or else it would set them up to take sexual favors in the future! I mean, seriously??? Hugging grandpa will send signals of sexual coercion being permissible? Is that the message YOU got from your childhood??? What about the idea that a fairy tale with the prince kissing Snow White or Sleeping Beauty sends a message of male sexual aggression and rape? Now a fairy tale must be “unpacked” to uncover its dangerous rape apologist side? Now think back: as a child, growing up with these stories, did you truly believe it was okay for a man to forcibly kiss or touch a woman because prince Charming kissed the princess awake? What about the idea that a little boy being a boy was a sexual threat if he kissed a girl on the cheek and she said “Eew! Cooties!” or a 5 year old boy being seen as a sexual assaulter because he hugged his teacher? Does this seem even remotely realistic, that a child who is years away from puberty could be some perverted sexual predator? What sort of sick perverted, twisted view of the world does one need to think on such terms? A world where a hug from grandpa is a set up for accepting sexual coercion.  A world where a little boy, in kindergarten is a sexual predator for kissing a girl in an innocent way as children do. A world where hugging your favorite teacher is an assault of the vilest degree. A world where the innocent is now evil, and the evil now innocent (as in many Leftist agendas)… What a strange paradox!

Hook up culture, promiscuity, immodesty, are all a-okay now and promoted. Broken families, divorce, sub par parenting, a consequence free attitude of entitlement are all perfectly acceptable to the Left, but heaven forbid a child hug her grandpa, kiss a girl, wear 2 inch heels to a party, try on her first training bra, enjoy a fairy tale, just be a little boy even! Such things that were once innocent and innocuous are now seen as perverted and damaging! I ask again: What leads a parent, or anyone really, to have such a distorted view of the world and society??? Things a generation ago were perfectly okay, and a part of everyone’s childhood!

Is our world really so perverted and disgusting, a cesspit of toxic sexuality and promiscuity hiding behind every corner, that a kitten heel is the same as the stripper’s stiletto, or the innocent elementary school crush toxic masculinity at work? That hugging your relatives on the holidays will lead to a life of sexual abuse by men? If they are indeed correct, maybe it’s their own fault we have fallen so far! A society where hook ups are handshakes, girls sleep around, and not save themselves for marriage, women are told they can dress as sleazy as they please, and are “empowered” to do so, divorce is normalized, broken homes rife all for the thrill of the next partner, I guess we have fallen far from being a more virtuous society!!! Thing is though, it is not us conservatives stirring that pot. We want a world where girls cherish their purity, and have self-respect. We want a world where every billboard has something else than a half naked lady on it. We want a world in which girls can be girls, and boys can be boys without some Freudian fantasy of sick perversions and uncontrolled ids!

The Left, and radical feminism has told lies of sexual anarchy equals empowerment though. Hook up culture is on them, not us! All the Leftist parents cowering in terror for their children’s innocence have played a part in creating this monstrosity by drinking the radical feminist kool aid about hook up culture as empowerment while sending mixed signals to repress one’s sexuality or see adult themes in innocuous things! Good news is though, I don’t think our world has indeed fallen as far was we think. Hugging grandpa is still just hugging grandpa. A playground kiss is a playground kiss. A little girl’s party shoe is for a party, nothing more. A training bra for tweens is a rite of passage, not a passage into promiscuity. Stop cowering in fear, people, and just see innocent things for what they are, not what your fears tell you they are. This sick perverted worldview is unhealthy and mentally damaging for you just as much as your children! Often, there really is nothing to fear but fear itself…

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