A Lady of Reason’s 1st Anniversary: My OWN #WalkAway Story…

Since doing the My #WalkAway Story Series, I’ve gotten a number of wonderful submissions of insightful stories for many different perspectives! While all unique, their common thread was the unity of coming to realize how radicalized the Left has become and have the sense to leave the party and the ideology behind for common sense and reason! That of course, made me reflect on how I became conservative myself, and I’m sure many of my readers and loyal followers would like to hear more about me, so here’s MY walkaway story in celebration of a full year of writing on A Lady of Reason: 

I didn’t have any political feelings mostly in elementary school, and not many children do at such a young age. In middle school I think is really when the first inklings of skepticism arose. See, my parents talked frankly about issues since I was very young. My dad especially talked about political topics such as the Left’s bias and political correctness from early on. At first, I was pretty skeptical of his opinions. I thought they went too far and weren’t open minded enough. I didn’t like his particular brand of patriotism, thought it wasn’t inclusive enough. Didn’t like he was more critical of other cultures, especially regarding his views on the Middle East. However, I started to open my eyes more as now with his take on things, I gradually started to see the bias and political correctness in the school curriculum. Certain words, certain topics were censored or oversimplified and glossed over. We weren’t allowed to use certain terms as they were “offensive” even though none of my peers thought so and used them in jest. Slowly, but more and more as time passed, I started to realize my dad was right in many aspects. I didn’t just take his word for it: I saw it with my own eyes, through my own experience what he was telling me all along.

Another important point that I can’t leave unmentioned is the amazing influence of my uncle. He, even more than my dad, was conservative from the get go, and open about it. Not only that, he had numerous facts and evidence to back up his points. We mainly got into topics relating to conservatism vs. liberalism through history, actually. I loved history, I still love to study it, and we’d talk about what I was learning in school and my own interests in history. As history is often the tale of the victor, the historian has to sleuth around and spot that bias, to get a better picture of both sides. This skill extended, I guess, into contemporary issues. My uncle and I talked in great depth about the bias in schools, as he too did not have a great public school experience 😉 as well as about political correctness, censorship, political bias and why he thought certain ways about certain issues. We didn’t always agree either. Some issues he leaned more to the right of my own view. We debated, I explained my side and he his. But same as with my dad, I eventually came around to seeing more clearly the evidence cited for myself.

Both never once imposed their opinion on me, nor pressured me to be in lockstep with their views. There are still things we differ in to this day. However they both are one of the huge influences on my current views today through talking in depth with them in my childhood about these issues. Without their influence, I honestly feel I would probably be a liberal right now if public school had all the say! It was because of their skepticism and frank discussion of the facts I could look at what I was being taught with a grain of skepticism and look for myself what was credible. Many do walk away even in highly liberal families, but it is much harder when everyone around you you respect holds a certain view. I’m not excusing them for not seeing the facts themselves, and simply going along with the crowd just because their relatives do, but I do admit that the views of the people you look up to do shape your own views for everyone on both sides of the aisle.

Even with all of this influence, I still never really got a more solid political identity, or was even interested in political issues and debate until my senior year of high school. That’s not to say I was naive as a teenager to the public school biases and political correctness and liberalism, to the contrary I was well versed in these issues having talked about them since 6th grade. However, some of my views still leaned Left, so I hesitated to label myself as a conservative. See, I still had what one could call a “soft spot” for other cultures such as 3rd world cultures, immigration, and Islam specifically, while conversely being “hard” on ideas about what I thought was overzealous patriotism, militarism, and cultural supremacy all in ways the Left would agree with. I think that mostly stemmed from my desire, still currently, to seek out objective reasons for my criticisms or support and at that time, I felt much of the issues on those specific topics were arbitrarily reasoned by conservatives even though I was right leaning on other issues such as political correctness, racism and sexism. I felt most of my opinions were conservative, but the few that weren’t held me back from declaring myself conservative.

I think the true walk away moment for me was for like many, when President Trump got in office in 2016. Both my parents supported Trump, but I was still skeptical about him. I didn’t know anything really about the man, and was worried he would make the country look bad being a celebrity and that he wouldn’t care about the middle class with him being so rich. The day he got in, I now admit with much embarrassment, I was not truly, but almost swept up in the panic over Trump! It wasn’t because of any strong feelings about Trump being wrong, but more just absorbing some of that atmosphere of hysteria! However, the story changed one he did get in and started making real change. The improvements our country has seen, and Trump’s fight for integrity in this country has changed my mind about him and alleviated my initial skepticism about him. Not to mention, and this is a big one, the Left’s insane meltdown!!! The Left since Trump got in, has become far more radicalized than before Trump came on the scene! Their meltdowns, vitriol, hypocrisy, and complete brainwashed lunacy came to the forefront in ways I haven’t seen and made me decide I was NOT one of them! By the time a year rolled around, I was confident enough to identify as a social conservative. That is also the time, not so coincidentally, I started A Lady of Reason 🙂

In the interim between then and now, I’ve witnessed the insane denial, hypocrisy, lack of integrity and outright lies by the Left! I now know what it is like to feel like you have to hide oneself in fear of ostracism, even violence. I’ve seen their denial of the dangers of open borders, and cultures that denigrate our values of democracy and equality and the price of tolerating that in our country. The threat of radical extremist terrorism is real, and any religion who is a part of that needs to be scrutinized. I’ve seen how the Left denigrated our military and country and decided it wasn’t fair nor justified. I know now that we can’t be weak anymore, and must have a strong military and assertive stance with our enemies such as Trump is doing. Most importantly the reason why I am conservative about many issues I was left leaning on is that I found objective reasons to feel that way, which back in my teens I didn’t have before. The most recent events leading up to the midterms only solidified my resolve not to lean Left. Kavanugh’s MeToo witch hunt brought out the very worst in the Left. The caravan situation is showing the world the precedent it will send if we let them all in. The internet censorship has gone wild to try to influence the votes. Violent mobs are terrorizing people, screaming in people’s faces, harassing them, sending them death threats etc… That only strengthened my resolve and alienation from the Left. In essence, the Left lost my respect, so their positions are now seen with a heavy grain of salt and much scrutiny!

Since 2016, I’ve only walked further and further away… I don’t think my journey into being conservative is over yet, even now. My views will still grow and evolve with time and circumstance, and even though I was never a strong liberal by any means, nor even identified as liberal, I am proud to say I walked away! 🙂

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My #WalkAway Story Series: Susan

My #WalkAway Story Series is a bigger and more long term project for A Lady of Reason, and it’s all about YOU! This is your big chance at getting your voice heard and your own story out there! For many closeted conservatives, afraid for our livelihood, social networks, family connections, even physical safety now, being stuck in the closet can be extremely isolating and it’s easy to feel like it’s you against the world sometimes! I certainly feel that way! By sharing our stories collectively, I hope to give a voice to you, my dear readers and followers here on WordPress and Social Media, to show each other camaraderie and that in fact, we’re NOT alone, just in the shadows. Well folks, it’s time to come out of the shadows and into the light! The “silent majority” is at least half of our nation, so you’re not truly alone. Come and hear others, and add your own voice, your own story to the mix, of what it’s like being a conservative in an increasingly Leftist country! Send me an e-mail at aladyofreason@outlook.com or direct message me at @aladyofreason1 on Twitter to add YOUR story!!! 🙂 I’ll send you the standard question list, or you can just write it free form as a narrative…

This #WalkAway story comes from Susan, another awesome conservative who reached out to me to do an interview via Twitter!

Tell me about yourself briefly:

Well I’m 50 years old. Caucasian and grew up with a conservative military father and a radically liberal mother lol! I really didn’t think about politics until I was 20 newly sober and a single mother of a half Hispanic daughter. By this time I was living in Anchorage, Alaska and I wanted to help all of the marginalized people I was aware of! So I set out to earn my BA in Social Work at UAA. After 7 years and additionally a AA degree in Human Resources I was absolutely through trying to deal with the crazy professors and bureaucracy. And had started to see a lot of truth in what my fiancé of 4 years had been saying. I graduated went to doing my husbands books and putting our money to work on Wall Street. Oh and raising our (5) kids, 3 stepsons and a boy and girl of my own. My last child was from said husband.

When did you become conservative? If you were ever liberal, what made you walk away?

I still feel strong support for gay men and women but I really worry about children who are confused, how they got that way and why it’s encouraged. Also I currently live from state support because of my many health issues but that’s another story. So I can see where if utilized properly it is an effective tool but let me tell you I think it is a disgrace how many able bodied people with no children are getting handouts. So now here I am in Southern California, thinking it was pretty conservative and alone. Look I’ve been through a lot in my life. Twenty years of emotional, financial and psychological abuse. Rape last summer. Addiction that took me out after 20 years of sobriety and yet here I am in a conservative but great relationship again and having to seek assistance but I am fiscally, morally and by all other norms a conservative. I have a very strong drive to see justice done but I don’t think our president, his family or conservatives in general are getting a fair shake! I don’t believe in blatantly following because he/she said so! I lost respect for HRC when she stayed with Bill!!! And have zero respect for her for many reasons today! I do respect Donald J. Trump and all he stands for. All he has and is doing for our country. I do believe we are a country built of migrants but not one demanding to be let in and supported and certainly not if they are violent on their approach. I do believe that welfare, ugh I cringe at the word, can and is useful but not for anyone or everyone and certainly not for years!!!

Do you feel at all afraid to be openly conservative? If so, how do you cope with being closeted?

So I speak with my boyfriend and I come speak out on Twitter, but none of my family know I’m on there and unfortunately my “mothers” (yes my mom and her partner of 35 years got married) are radically liberal. I’m pretty sure they know I’m not but have agreed to not talk politics with me. One of my neighbors is conservative so I can talk to her but she doesn’t follow everyday like I do. Honestly I thought to myself if that young girl in NY can get elected to Congress surely I can, however, I cannot stand longer than a short line at the supermarket so how would I handle speakers etc. Lol! I guess I can honestly say also that while I feel overwhelmed by the dishonesty and meanness on the left, to try to talk to one of them is really difficult. I have all these well researched facts but immediately when I’m looked at and treated like a monster I fail to be able to articulate a thing.

What advice to you have for other conservatives afraid to speak out?

And last I think your blog about being a conservative at Thanksgiving dinner with liberals makes excellent points on how to handle speaking out. Simply put, know your facts, don’t try to “win” and be willing to walk away. On the other hand I think it’s about time that we follow great examples set by the Fox News team and confront stupidity!!! Thank you for giving me the chance! Sincerely, Susan

Thank you, Susan! Your story needs to be heard too! I’m sorry you went through so much in your life already, but you’re a victor, not a victim as Candace Owens says 🙂 Stay strong, patriot! We need you to speak out and show others we’re not as alone as we think, and of course, you’re always welcome to comment and speak your mind on my blog 🙂

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My #WalkAway Story Series: Suzanne

My #WalkAway Story Series is a bigger and more long term project for A Lady of Reason, and it’s all about YOU! This is your big chance at getting your voice heard and your own story out there! For many closeted conservatives, afraid for our livelihood, social networks, family connections, even physical safety now, being stuck in the closet can be extremely isolating and it’s easy to feel like it’s you against the world sometimes! I certainly feel that way! By sharing our stories collectively, I hope to give a voice to you, my dear readers and followers here on WordPress and Social Media, to show each other camaraderie and that in fact, we’re NOT alone, just in the shadows. Well folks, it’s time to come out of the shadows and into the light! The “silent majority” is at least half of our nation, so you’re not truly alone. Come and hear others, and add your own voice, your own story to the mix, of what it’s like being a conservative in an increasingly Leftist country! Send me an e-mail at aladyofreason@outlook.com or direct message me at @aladyofreason1 on Twitter to add YOUR story!!! 🙂 I’ll send you the standard question list, or you can just write it free form as a narrative…

This #WalkAway story comes from a fellow Lady of Reason named Suzanne! This is how she walked away and came to appreciate the conservative side:

When did you become conservative? If you were ever liberal, what made you walk away?

Well …. I walked away 25 years ago and am walking further and further every day! After being raised by conservative, extremely kind, ethical, hard working parents who valued hard work and accountability, I became more liberal/independent in a liberal NYC college in the 80’s. Conservatives were evil to this group, as they are now. After marrying a hard working man with his own business I realized the scam of liberals taking our tax money for their liberal ideology and groups I did not agree with. I continued to listen to conservative talk radio and stay out of politics but vote Republican.Hillary was a diameter and embarrassment to NY, then Obama turned our country into the leftist state it is becoming, I was no longer to be respected. I was a racist and privileged white person instead of a hard working woman who cared about values and safety and was against abortion on demand. Them when Donald Trump ran, I was energized to take more interest in our country direction. MAGA people were like me, normals, against the radical left.

I first embraced liberal ideas in a liberal NYC college in the 80’s. Only because it was the thing to do (although we were happy liberals, something that does not seem to exist now). After marrying a hard working man with his own business, I starter to realize what a sham the Democrats had become. They didn’t care about me or about the excellence of the individual. They just wanted our tax money to increase their power and sow division. I started to really appreciate my conservative hard working amazing parents and how they raised their family to be responsible and self-reliant. Thru Obama and Hillary I was angrier and angrier about how they treated us, normal Americans. I am NOT a racist, sexist, dumb stupid frail woman as they profess. When Trump ran, I felt more energized ! I was so excited because I knew people that worked for him and loved him. Then,disappointed as the left attacked us “deplorables” more and more and saw how divided this country become. I just got more and more emboldened in my views and now see more clearly the truth of the lefts hatred of American values.

Do you feel at all afraid to be openly conservative? If so, how do you cope with being closeted?

Its shocking how friends with liberal views have cut me off but I continue to let people know I support conservative values, hoping this helps us turn a corner back to sanity, The good thing is there are LOTS more like me, Yes, a lot of them whisper it like we are in a secret club. Time to stop that. Let’s have a coming out party…go say ” Yes mom and dad, co-worker, brothers, sisters, I am a conservative!”

What advice to you have for other conservatives afraid to speak out?

Come out of the closet! Not with hatred and anger like the left. Practice your FACTS so you can inform. Acknowledge their feelings but ask them to listen to facts. Maybe if they can’t deny the good things happening you might convince someone to walk away.

Thank so much Suzanne! your voice is valuable in the fight for common sense and reason! It is true many do feel pressure to be closeted, but you’re right: at some point we must come out and speak! If not now, then later down the road when you have less to lose, or this country (hopefully) becomes more tolerant! In the meantime, you’re always welcome to speak out more here on A Lady of Reason!

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