The Hypocrisy of The Pro-“Choice” Movement

The possible reversal of Roe v. Wade and the recent laws further restricting abortions in states such as Texas and others has brought the extremely heated, intense and polarizing debate regarding abortion to the forefront yet again. Each side has their own impassioned arguments regarding issues surrounding bodily autonomy, government interference, personhood, where one’s rights end and another’s begin and whether or not abortion is a type of murder and the ethical/moral equivalent of infanticide. For the pro-choice movement, more anti-abortion laws mean a dystopian future where women have zero bodily autonomy and will even die all for the sake of what they consider not to be a full person in the ethical sense. For the pro-life, abortion is a heinous crime against children, no different than knowingly and willingly killing an already born infant, most often for the sake of the mother’s own desires overriding another person’s right to life. To exist.

I’ve covered some of my personal thoughts on my own position in an earlier post, but I wanted to highlight another observation I have surrounding how this issue is being handled in light of the recent turmoil: Pro-choice Liberals accuse pro-life Conservatives of hypocrisy. They claim the pro life side only cares for the unborn, but is all too willing to toss aside the welfare for those that are born. If pro-lifers don’t agree with various left-leaning policies to “help” mothers and children then they must not care about the welfare of children! You are against abortion but don’t agree with mothers on welfare cradle to grave? Hypocrite! You don’t agree with socialized medicine and teaching young children sex-ed with the Left’s clearly biased agenda, or an infinite amount of paid maternity leave well beyond reason for any employer? You must hate the already born! You get the idea…

Aside from the easily made counter argument that to benefit from any of their proposals to make the country more family-friendly to new mothers, the children have to actually to be born, has anyone thought of how the pro-choice side has been hypocritical and at odds with their purported message?

They claim to be pro-choice, that is, giving women the choice to either carry a child or not and to let women know about the options for abortion procedures and what they entail. However, they focus in on that almost exclusively. What about the resources to keep the baby? They argue that so many women face mentally and emotionally excruciating circumstances and impossible choices to make, and offer abortion as a way out of the torment. They love to cite instances of:

The single mother who can’t even afford the children she has.

The victim of rape.

The medically complex case for the baby and mother.

The college girl who doesn’t want to drop out and dash her dreams.

The career woman who wants to get that promotion.

The teenage girl who wants to be “X” when she grows up.

The woman who simply doesn’t want to be bothered with carrying a child for nine months.

And the list goes on… And for all of these scenarios regardless of the gravity of the circumstance, the “choice” they fight for is abortion. They want to claim pro-lifers don’t fight hard enough for resources to help these women keep the pregnancy, but what information are they sharing other than a bias towards choosing abortion? They claim to want a world where every child is loved and wanted, but do they ever think to tell mothers that maybe it’s okay to adapt and embrace not so ideal circumstances out of love for their child? Why haven’t I heard the pro-choice side tell expectant mothers:

To the single mother: “X, Y and Z are resources we can refer you to in order to get help for your baby and other children.”

To the rape victim: “We can’t imagine the immense pain and anguish you are going through, but here are some women to reach out to who have gone through what you have and chose to keep the baby. Listen to their stories too before you make your final decision.”

To the medical case: “An abortion may be your only option for your life, or the ultimate welfare of your baby in light of their unsustainable condition, but make sure you know every possible option for the preservation of your life or to sustain quality of life for your baby before you make an irreversible choice.”

To the scared college girl: “Your life is forever changed no matter what you decide. Keeping the baby does not mean the end of your hopes and dreams. There is always time to go back to school, to pursue your dream career, and plenty of women have overcame the odds and had the joy of a career and the joy of parenthood. Abortion may be an option you have access to, but it is an irreversible decision. You can come back to pursue education or a career, but you cannot undo the choice to terminate another’s life. Make sure your goals are worth that outcome.”

To the teenager who’s dreaming of who she wants to become: “It’s true you may have an easier path to becoming whatever career woman you want, whether it’s a doctor, teacher, pilot, firefighter, scientist, etc… without the challenge of having a baby, but also realize that many doctors, teachers, pilots, firefighters, scientists etc. are successful career women and also mothers. At your age, you are not ready to be a parent, but there are many couples who are and would love your baby as their own. You have the option to give a gift to someone who wants more than anything in the world to be a mother.”

To the career woman facing a roadblock in her professional goals: “Are your goals only reachable by having an abortion? Is the goal time sensitive and can never happen unless it happens right now? Is your professional goal worth more to you than giving another person a chance to exist in this world? Does the potential professional and possibly financial impact of not attaining your goals due to carrying to term outweigh the implications of what it would mean to you personally, could you live with that decision? This may not be the right time in your life to be a parent, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t give life to another person who can then have the chance to be loved by someone who is ready to parent.”

To the woman who doesn’t want to be pregnant, period. “Not all women need to be mothers, or are suited to parenthood. Just because you are pregnant does not mean you have to keep the child, and there are countless families whose dream is to have a baby just like yours. If the issue is physical symptoms or a more serious health issue, make sure to ask your doctor for all available options to alleviate symptoms and treatment options for health problems. Unless there is life-threatening danger to you by carrying this pregnancy to term, consider if temporary unpleasant side effects of pregnancy are worth terminating what could be a perfectly viable and healthy baby.”

To anyone: “It may be your choice, but maybe, that choice isn’t about just you and only what you want.”

We argue that to make an informed decision, you need to hear all sides, and every option available to you. Abortion for pro-choicers is one option for unwanted pregnancies, but there are so many more for women who would consider the choice to keep the pregnancy and even decide to raise the child. Sadly, the overwhelming amount of pro-choice articles I read aimed at vulnerable women emphasize the need for access to abortion rather than access to resources that would help support the child, a career and parenthood, adoption, medical advances, a support network, etc… Even flexibility to adapt and grow in light of an unexpected life circumstance. Is it really giving women a choice if you give them the impression that they will no longer have any choices in life unless they choose abortion?

Let’s not forget either: Whatever choices we make in life, even positive choices, come with consequences. By choosing A, you also will wonder what your life would be like if you chose B instead. If the outcome is desirable for you, you can live with not having the life you could have had with option B. In the case of a choice of such magnitude as whether or not to have an abortion, let it really sink in: It CANNOT BE UNDONE. A literal life is at stake. Make sure your choice is one you can live with for the rest of your life, not just for a specific outcome, goal or circumstance.

That’s what it means to truly be pro-choice.

18 comments

  1. WHERE WERE THE HEADLINES ABOUT THIS?
    Eight (8) shootings erupt overnight, including death of pregnant woman, as weekend begins in Philadelphia.
    Was it not reported because it was a Black Democrat that did the Shooting?
    Had it been called One of Biden’s “White Supremacist” we would never had heard the end of it!

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  2. We are all about to have a rude awakening. Some of us are old enough to remember the past. The younger generation has been so spoiled by the goodness of living in the USA, that they have no idea what is coming…
    They are about to see why our parents/grandparents drove cars until the wheels fell off. And our car was always a Used one, and never a Brand New one like the rich people had. . And why it was typical to have one car per family. Because we only needed one, as one one member of the family worked. . And why young newlyweds weren’t automatically entitled to a fully furnished house. Or lavish wedding (Do y’all remember when a wedding reception typically occurred in the fellowship hall of the church? And the only food was wedding cake, mints, mixed nuts and punch?) A honeymoon might include a night at a hotel, or if they were really lucky, they might get a weekend at Atlantic City, New Jersey, or a trip up State New York to one of the Hotels in the Catskill mountains. There weren’t restaurants on every corner, because people only RARELY ate out. They cooked every meal at home. Or packed a lunch for the road. And they never wasted leftovers. Picky eaters? You either ate what your Mama cooked or you did without. AND NO ONE CARED. We are about to rediscover potato patties, soup, hash, biscuit pudding, rice pudding and bread with gravy. NO FOOD WAS WASTED.
    People had few outfits. You had church clothes and play clothes. And you took care of those clothes. Holes were mended and it didn’t matter if you liked the clothes or not. You wore what you had.
    And people didn’t snack or eat all day long either. People were rarely overweight. Because they didn’t have an unlimited supply of food at their fingertips.
    People weren’t being constantly entertained. Kids played outside and made up games with their imaginations. No fancy vacations. There was no money for all these extras that we consider “Rights”.
    But I’m afraid that those days are gone, these days we have people shooting at each other for no reason, some even beating up police officers, breaking windows, burning down cities, and looting stores, mugging people on the streets only because they look different, or they may have looked at you the wrong way.
    In those days we felt good about our President, in fact the Kids wanted to grow up to be the President first, and second to be a Police Officer, or a Baseball Player.
    Today wanting to be the President would be the LAST thing on a child’s list, especially after seeing the damage that Joe Biden has done to this country.
    Maybe people will finally wake up and realize that it is a Privilege to be an American. And feel gratitude and quit being such entitled whiny babies.
    Some people never realize that other People shed blood their and died to give us this life that we enjoy..
    BUT WE ARE STARTING TO PROVE THAT WE DON’T DESERVE IT.

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    • This very much sounds like a boomer post. While I wholeheartedly agree with reusing. mending, less gas consumption with vehicles, exercise and eating healthier and portion control (yay for going green), and appreciating being an American…why must we live the hardships you had to live? Why is it bad for more than 1 person to work? Why must the stay at home person not have availability to transportation? If my fiancé and I can afford it, why not take the 2 week honeymoon to Australia? This is what we work for. This is also what it means to be an American. My American passport in and of itself is my biggest privilege and blessing. My fiancé and I love to travel and we don’t need to worry about the hassles of visas for entry to other countries. If I’m able to afford and work for my comfortable lifestyle, why not and what’s it to others?

      I will definitely say tho, that I will raise my daughters to hopefully want to be president. I can’t wait to see what this generation is going to do with legislation. Look at the ages of our legislators right now. They and their mentality will not be there forever.

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      • And, this reads like a Gen. Y or a Zoomer post. The comment above you was a warning…of what is to come. If you want to whine about not having “your privileges” and “not suffering like the previous generations”, go ahead. If you consider your passport your “biggest privilege and blessing”, you are so gravely out of touch with the world’s situation that it is heartbreaking.

        As an older Gen-Xer, I know exactly what this person is talking about. I remember families living on farms. You ate what you grew…or killed…or you didn’t eat. There were no restaurants on every corner. Mass travel was usually by train. Flying was rare and international travel was only for politicians, military & royalty, if at all.

        Your first sentence is incredibly rude. I’m guessing you were born in the 90s. You have no benefit of context and you come across as a pampered brat.

        You will find out, soon enough, tho…

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  3. There are 19 children that were recently killed in the most ‘pro-life’ state. 19, 9-11 year olds that laid their lives for our right to shoot others. The priorities here need a little reevaluating before we throw “hypocrisy” stones.

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    • I was just thinking this. Hypocrisy of pro choice people? Texas is pro-life they’re willing to attempt to pass laws that charge abortion with the death penalty. So pro-life any wacko (literal wacko, even people with a history of domestic violence are allowed to buy guns) can purchase an assault rifle, walk into a school with walking/talking/independently breathing older children and, in the words of the pediatric ER doc, “pulverize” them so badly with bullets that some had to be identified by the clothes they were wearing. This is Texas. They’re so “pro-life” that they’ll kill you for it. And they mean it.

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  4. Lady of you are off base.

    “The single mother who can’t even afford the children she has.

    The victim of rape.

    The medically complex case for the baby and mother.

    The college girl who doesn’t want to drop out and dash her dreams.

    The career woman who wants to get that promotion.

    The teenage girl who wants to be “X” when she grows up.

    The woman who simply doesn’t want to be bothered with carrying a child for nine months.”3.

    1. Adoption
    2. Adoption
    3. Adoption

    We are not talking about incest or the mother’s life is in jeopardy. We are talking about immoral women and some moral women who do not know how to keep their panties on or use birth control.

    Abortion is murder a zygote cannot become an embryo, nor can an embryo become a fetus, nor is a fetus a live baby at birth if it is not living at the time it is a zygote. Learn biology, learn that there is a God watching. Those that support life are not idiots because abortion equals murder.

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    • Talking about being off base, Abortion IS murder over 90 percent of the time. Abortion today has become a matter of Convenience.
      Lets call it like it is.

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      • Don’t speak of what you do not know. Very ungodly of you. I have not been here in a bit and I was planning to leave an apology for misreading as at the time I read this I had massive oral surgery and in pain. You have a lot of nerve. You’re what we call a useful idiot! Speaking out of turn much different than misunderstanding or misreading. Go fly a 🪁

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  5. Well, first off, humans by nature all tend to live life in various forms of “hypocrisy” so to debate what comprises a hypocrisy on an issue like this is irrelevant to the issue at hand. Both sides of this debate contain a myriad of definitions, perceptions, motivations, and convictions for how a person might feel on this subject. What makes the issue of abortion-yes-or-no is more about the debate itself than the actual act itself. So far we’ve been unable to separate the two. The single common factor that both side “should” be able to build upon is that in the broader sense I can’t imagine anyone actually WANTING an abortion. It’s a decision of choice based on extenuating circumstances of living life…. quite often a decision made under a duress-of-the-moment, playing entirely on a woman’s natural instinct to spawn and nurture offspring because this is how nature assures the continuation of our species. In that mix of human nature is also our propensity to want to live in a community. Our ability to reason has channeled us to realize that living in a community.. tribes… serves to protect all, spreading the various food gathering and social needs among many. “Nature”, in whatever form one might take to define that, could care less if humans live together under a “Hitler” or the U.S. Constitution… just that humans exist to procreate.
    My greater point here that it seems “we” are far more concerned about applying law to restrict (or not) abortion rather than dealing with the human and social issues that might “force” a mother-to-be to want to intentionally abort an unborn. For example, some recent CDC or other such government numbers suggest 57% of mothers looking to abort have already given birth to one or more prior. Yet we see the abortion “problem” not being to determine the reasons and try and remedy a social dilemma… but rather “we need to punish those mothers for killing their unborn child, or in the least make it unlawful to even think about it”.
    The huge part of the current abortion issue is far more about establishing some legal definition in order to permit or deny individual choice rather trying to solve a greater social problem. The same goes for drug use. All the laws in the land haven’t been able to stop drug use because laws do not make the reasons vanish. Making laws against the act of abortion will not remove abortions from being done.
    Humans also have a tendency to want to impose themselves on each other. Whether it’s about how we think government should act, or what religion we choose to live by, or how often our neighbors should cut their lawn… we always want it our own way.

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  6. Oh, my, yes. The hypocrisy and hyperbole is through the roof! Just yesterday, I had a guy on FB tell me that, because I didn’t support RvW, that meant I supported the rape of 10 yr olds.

    Of course, the people sharing memes and long texts claiming, they don’t support abortion, they support (insert long list of “dire” circumstances, most of which you include here, but with random female names attached), never give a rip about any of these imaginary women until laws about abortion are challenged. What they reveal is their utter contempt for women. Apparently, we are such useless, pathetic creatures that, unless everything is exactly how they want it, we are incapable of having babies and raising children.

    Then there is the “they will be banning interracial marriages, next”, claim.

    I’ve never seen so many bad arguments than the ones used to defend RvW

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    • Exactly. The arguments about not hosting a growing baby comparing it to forced organ donation just reflect how selfish the left is. They know that a fetus is its own person, they just need to concoct any excuse to dehumanize them in order to pursue a shallow career goal or more me time in the majority of cases. If a woman miscarries it’s a profound loss of a child and shouldn’t be minimized, but if that same woman chooses to abort the baby is medical waste??? You can’t have both without massive hypocrisy…

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      • You can have both. One wants to continue a pregnancy while the other does not. If the pro-birth-uh life movement wants to share their perspective, they are free to do so and people are free to acquire it if they wish, with the ease that is provided by a simple google. Taking away abortion entirely is taking away a choice, not simply making sure they have an “informed choice”. If I was pregnant and did not want to continue a pregnancy, why on Earth would I want to do so (in addition to going through the excruciating process of labor and birth and associated risks during and after*) for another couple is beyond me. And that’s not even touching the subject on the amount of children in foster care that are available for adoption. I personally don’t like to bring up any reasons or sob stories to justify abortion because it doesn’t have to be justified and there is no one I have to justify it to if 1. I pay my own private health insurance 2. Other people are not going to help me financially in the process of gestation/parenthood. My body my choice when it comes to vaccines tho?

        *Just to list a few of the complications that no one who does not want to continue a pregnancy should be forced to risk are: preeclampsia/eclampsia (can be fatal if not leave life long health issues), amniotic fluid embolism (life threatening), uterine rupture, placenta acreta (will usually require a hysterectomy), placenta previa, placental abruption (all can lead to severe bleeding), vaginal/perineal/anal muscle tearing and many more. This isn’t to scare anyone but rather to let the “it’s just nine months of pregnancy” crowd know exactly what they are asking me to risk. And to know that they don’t get to decide the weight of that risk.

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      • It’s selfish of me to want to control what I do (that includes what goes in and out) with my uterus? I want SMALL government. Not Christian Sharia Law-minded wrinkled old raisins trying to make laws over my life. If they don’t want an abortion, they don’t have to get one. If they don’t like gay marriage, don’t marry a gay person! What a concept!

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