Yes, Sometimes You Have to Work Harder Than The Next Guy…

I’ve wanted to bring up this point for a while now: Sometimes it takes more work to get where you want than for another person.

Now, as obvious as this sounds to most people, apparently this is breaking news for the Left! Their beef is the fact that not everyone has that “even chance” in life. The most commonly cited examples being racial minorities or women. The Left argues that racial bias and prejudice has held back countless qualified employees, brilliant students and hard working people from reaping the deserved rewards for their hard work. The idea that even despite the civil rights movement and a bigger push for equality, racism is still rife and people will do anything to get around anti-discrimination laws leading to the system keeping racial minorities in poverty and trapped in a downward spiral. Instead of seeing many minority communities as represented by lawyers, doctors, CEO’s etc… they are seen as welfare leeches, criminals and a drain on society.

Women too, as gender is the other huge example they argue about face similar bias in the eyes of the Left. Women are dismissed, not taken seriously, looked upon as weak, incompetent, and unsuited for many lines of work traditionally done by men. However, the trends have changed as more and more women break the barriers once faced by women historically. Never the less, the Left still argues women only are paid 3/4 of what men are and are held back from reaching higher levels in their respective careers and limited in stereotypes of more “feminine” lines of work.

In both cases of race and gender, the idea is that those who fall in to either (or both!) don’t have the same chances of a white male in particular of landing a good career or getting into a good school. In the minds of the Left, the system keeps them trapped, and the idea that in America, you can work your way up in this life is a fantasy. Now, I don’t deny that gross inequalities have existed historically, and still exist in society. I understand that not everyone does have an even chance at life and success and the wider forces of society do influence all of us and what we’re able to achieve. However, the Left misses a very crucial other piece of the puzzle to success: The individual’s determination to get what they want.

I think the Left has created their own reality about the situation. They over attribute social factors negating personal ones and other factors that may have had the outcome of being held back. I’ve argued more in detail about the whys in previous posts, but for the sake of the argument I want to make let’s assume everything the Left says about “the system” keeping women and minorities down is trueSo, to be clear here, the basic assumptions I am going off of are the ideas that racial minorities and women are kept back by society and that their race, gender or both have been the main factor in hindering their success in life.

However, who says race and gender are the only factors holding you back? Yep. Just because you weren’t hired you can automatically assume it had to be racially motivated, or because you’re a woman? What about factors such as social connections, family connections and networking? I personally have applied for many jobs where I had none of the above, and got the job. However, I’m sure I didn’t get the other 9 out of 10 I applied for because there was a shoe-in from within the company. Or the manager’s cousin needed work. Or I just didn’t know anyone who could put in a good word about me. Or in college, the professor running the research or that internship already knew another student well and liked their work while I came in as a complete stranger. College is the same! Ever heard of legacy admissions? 😉 Or the other family donated a ton of money to the school. Or the last spot was filled by the Dean’s nephew ahead of 20 other qualified students including you. You can’t rule out that factor if you have no connections for the job or the dream school you want no matter what your race or gender! You cant know for sure exactly why you didn’t make the cut, and if you lack connections of any kind, you can’t rule that out.

What about prior experience and qualifications? Yes, you might have a Master’s degree in business administration, but that company wants someone who worked in a bigger company or with a specific skill set. A college may not accept you if they want to fill some quota of different majors or clubs people are in. Maybe they wanted a more intense focus in specific types of community service. Just because you’re a female professor, or a professor of color doesn’t mean that’s the reason you didn’t get tenure. They might have wanted someone with different research concentrations. Or your class reviews went down this year. Or they have that shoe-in already no matter what you do to make yourself the most deserving. You would think jobs and schools would be transparent about such specific desires, but often times they’re not. I have applied to many opportunities without a strong history of past relevant experiences, and surprise, surprise, I wasn’t chosen. Am I entitled to jump to the conclusion it’s because I’m a woman despite my lack of relevant experience?

Now some might say, “but I did have a stellar resume, GPA, etc… and still didn’t get the job or into the school I wanted!” For that, I say see the paragraph on lack of connections, and consider the fact that as I just said, they might be looking for a specific thing you don’t have despite your experiences and qualifications. I had a strong academic record to bring to the table in my college application to my top choice school. However, I wasn’t accepted. Why? I don’t know exactly, but my guess is I didn’t have something else they wanted to bring to that next year’s class. However, a Y chromosome wasn’t my first guess! 😉 So in conclusion, there are other factors you need to consider before crying victim to racial or gender discrimination.

Even if you can eliminate those other factors in why you weren’t given the opportunity, and you can solidly conclude it was your race or gender, does that have to stop you? Maybe you do have to work twice as hard to prove yourself. Maybe you do have to put out more applications, follow up more, become more assertive in pursuing your career goals. Maybe you do need to prove to them your priority is with them, and not with what they assume it is. Is it fair you are under a microscope your colleagues or classmates are not? No! But is life fair 100% of the time for anyone? Maybe white guy down the hall isn’t getting promoted or is in danger of getting laid off because he doesn’t have connections despite being white and male, but you just don’t know his situation and assume he’s working his way up easily because of his skin color or his chromosomes when he might be under his own microscope too. Maybe you’re a minority, but have a degree, training, specific research, past relevant internships etc…the white person doesn’t giving you the edge on your resume when coming up for review.

Point is, regardless of if we get what we want or not, we all have a mixture of advantages and disadvantages that may include race and gender. I’m not saying there is no gender or racial bias out there. However, why is race and gender “extra special” and entitle you to cry victim over for example, someone who simply doesn’t have the right connections? You can argue, “but you have no control over race or gender”, but how much control do you have over whether or not you’re the manager’s cousin?

So what’s a person to do? You have to work harder than everyone else, exceed expectations, be held to a higher standard, and you can’t control your race or gender. The solution seems to be mind blowing to the Left: Instead of whining and demanding affirmative action programs and quotas, actually put in the extra work to get what you want. Yes. Outwork the next guy and if you have to work twice as hard, work twice as hard! If the world thinks you don’t look like what you want to be, don’t whine about how oppressed you are, prove them wrong by pushing hard to achieve your goals. You may need more patience. People might push back and try to limit you. Not hire you. Not admit you. You probably won’t get in as fast as a more “privileged” person. But will you let that stop you? And what if there is no one like you in your dream field? Well someone had to be the first woman/minority doctor, lawyer, researcher, PhD holder, engineer, etc…  Why can’t the next someone be you? Blaze the trail yourself if you want the path created. Our heroes we look up to in the history books all did in spite of the prejudice and bias.

If you give up, doesn’t that just let those whom you feel are keeping you down win? If you throw in the towel and don’t call back, stop applying, don’t push for what you want to do in life and say “Well, I’m a person of color/woman so I will never get where I want to be” then you gave up on yourself. Not the world. Is it fair you’re held back more than others for reasons you have no control over? No! But that’s reality. Don’t whine about wanting change, BE the change! Hurdles don’t mean a closed door. They just mean a door that’s a little harder to unlock. But there is a key. That key just means working harder than the other guy sometimes… All you need is to be given one chance for that door to open. It’s up to you to have the motivation to seek it out. You CAN go far in life, you just have to work a little harder sometimes 🙂

One final point: What about the fact that white males are passed over now due to affirmative action programs? Perhaps today being a woman or minority is now the advantage 😉 …

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27 thoughts on “Yes, Sometimes You Have to Work Harder Than The Next Guy…

  1. It’s sad that you have to question your self why you didn’t get a job or admittances, because of x factor. Believing everyone should be accepted because of their skills and intelligent should be sufficient and not be looking at ones skin color, heritage, social background, or political status, gender.

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  2. Our system though flawed is still better than past alternatives.

    As to voting it used to be in many countries only land owners got to vote and that enshrined elite rule.

    Other countries like India had an obvious caste system and even others has a strong subtle form of the casye structure to keep people from moving up too much in social structure.

    We may have flaws to society but it is only through ignorance of the past that people don’t see we have it better. A poor person may have to work harder but there is a chance no matter how hard it is for a homeless person to become well off.

    Or for many possible outcomes to occur.

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  3. Once again, I am in total agreement with you. One should be slow to claim to be the victim of discrimination, because that overlooks the most common form of bias of all. Most everyone is biased in their own favor. We tend to magnify our qualifications and accomplishments while minimizing our shortcomings and blunders. Each of us is the hero of our own saga and we are quick to brand those who seem to impede us as the villains of the piece.

    Many accuse business owners of being racist and of being greedy capitalists without realizing that those two accusations are contradictory. The color that greedy capitalists are concerned with is green, that is money. Racists are more concerned with race than with profit because discrimination costs money. Everyone’s money is green and a business that turns away customers because of race is turning away money, hardly a sign of greed. Similarly, businesses compete both for customers and for the best employees. A business that declines to hire someone because of their race or sex despite their superior qualifications is effectively sending those potential employees to their competition. Given that, perhaps that greedy capitalist might have some other reason for not hiring, such as the applicant’s attitude or their qualifications for that particular job. If being of a minority race were that much of a disadvantage currently, one must ask why people such as Massachusetts Senator Elizabeth Warren would voluntarily hinder themselves by falsely claiming to be of American Indian race.

    Organizations that are immune from the profit motive can afford to discriminate. Academia is one example. Universities compete on a very different plain and they openly discriminate in several ways. Applicants are judged on race and other non-academic factors for admissions as current lawsuits indicate. Similarly, those universities discriminate in their hiring practices based on political viewpoint. Try getting tenure when you’re openly conservative. Unlike academia, businesses face competition and determination is more important than discrimination.

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  4. I think it is safe to assume that you are a white woman born in a middle class to upper class family. Tell this to the black woman who was born in an urban neighborhood with little to no chance of escaping. The Elite White Make still rules. That’s how Trump got to reside in the White House. He started with Daddys money and despite his many bankruptcies and debt, he still rules. Disgusting. Mrs. Clinton (for whom I voted) rightfully won the Presidency.


    • Really? Maybe you would have a chance if you didn’t give up on yourself because you threw in the towel and said “Oh well, the white man is keeping me down so why even try. I’m stuck.” May I remind you our last president was a person of color. And that there are countless people of color who DO believe they can achieve in this world and put in the work to break down the barriers they face. Candace Owens, Walter Williams and Thomas Sowell for starters. Don’t take my word for it, listen to those fellow people of color if you’re so closed minded to considering a point of view from someone who doesn’t look like you. Your derisive resentment toward white people is what is contributing to the derisiveness in this country. On a final note, if you could see what I actually look like beyond your assumptions based off my opinion, you might be in for a big surprise 😉

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    • Sadly for you and Mrs. Clinton, we live in a REPUBLIC, wherein you have to win on a state-by-state basis in order to collect Electoral College votes. She may have carried the popular vote, but our Founding Fathers made sure two states like California and New York couldn’t dominate the election. This is what happens when Liberals all move to Blue States – they deplete the Democratic Party vote from other states, leaving them Red. Thus, Mrs. Clinton most certainly did NOT win. It’s best you make peace with that now because it’s going to be a long six years for you judging by the lacklustre crop of Democrat candidates.

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      • You’re really missing the boat, friend. No one is questioning Trump’s win (or Hillary’s loss). That’s the presumption of all Trumpsters that Liberals are obsessed about, and couldn’t be farther from fact. The idea that Clinton won the not-to-be-counted popular vote is a loud-and-clear signal about Trump’s political future and a very plausible concern if he thinks he’s gonna win in 2020. It shows that the majority of the voters did NOT vote for Trump. The only way he might win in 2020 is IF he repeated the red state electoral anomaly. I’m guessing here there’s gonna be a lot of folks turning out in the next election (given the results of 2018) to nullify that.


      • Doug,

        Unless there’s been a large influx of legal Democrat voters into the states that were decidedly for Trump in the last election, I don’t see how you figure this. Are you unaware of #WalkAway, #Blexit, #Jexodus, etc.?? Democrats, Left-Leaning Libertarians and Liberal Independents are all bailing out of your party in increasing numbers. They see the booming economy and love their tax cuts, and they’re seeing they’ve been lied to for two years straight. And they see the Alt-Left carrying on like a bunch of lunatics and reject that kind of behaviour. They also don’t buy into the fictional “Climate Change” that upper-class privileged white Dems are selling, and now Venezuela is proving most poignantly that Socialism is a losing platform. They’re people of common sense who see that President Trump is a man who does his damnedest to keep his promises. Name me one Democratic president who’s had as much success as Trump has had in just two years. Bet you can’t. And now we’re discovering that Obama was abusing the Office in every way possible and Clinton is going down for obstruction among other crimes. It really isn’t a good look for the DNC. You might have a shot with Mayor Pete or Tulsi Gabbard, but Creepy Uncle Joe and Eight-Ball Beto are a losing prospect. Just take the L, Doug. If we could tolerate eight years of Obama, you can deal with eight years of Trump.

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      • Well.. ok… we aren’t about to change each other’s minds.. nor was I trying. I was adding some actual perspective to your original response regarding Clinton’s popular vote having meaning down the line. I honestly have not heard of “#WalkAway, #Blexit, #Jexodus, etc”. So I suppose if I wanted to join Trump’s bandwagon I’ve be hard pressed to find those places so that the cockles of my heart could be warmed by like-minded ex-pats. But.. whatever works for you.
        “My” party is Republican, btw… traditional, not this Trump facade.


    • Given the system we have for electing the POTUS, Mrs. Clinton did not “rightfully” win the election. That is how it is designed and that is the reality. And, by the way, how are President Trump’s policies and programs affecting those in our country who have been ignored by the left for decades? Be honest.
      I recommend you read Dr. Carson’s book about his life and how he got to where he is now. He did not allow his race or anything else to get in his way of his dreams.
      There are so many more examples of how the determination of the individual overcame all the challenges of their goals that you need to consider taking a look at how they did it.
      Amazing hurdles for most follks to overcome on their paths in life. If you want that dream bad enough, you’ll get there.

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  5. “We all have a mixture of advantages and disadvantages that may include race and gender. Why is race and gender “extra special” and entitle you to cry victim over for example, someone who simply doesn’t have the right connections?”

    This is an excellent point. No disadvantage is “fair”, but like you said, life is never fair.

    Thank you

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  6. Part of the problem is, we are dealing with the “self esteem” generation, with their participation trophies and competition-is-bad attitude. My generation is largely to blame for this.

    What is forgotten is, discrimination has more than one meaning, and only one of then is “bad”. As far as I’m concerned, we need to discriminate more.

    transitive verb

    1a: to mark or perceive the distinguishing or peculiar features of; Depth perception may be defined as the ability to appreciate or discriminate the third dimension …— H. G. Armstrong

    b: DISTINGUISH, DIFFERENTIATE discriminate hundreds of colors

    2: to distinguish by discerning or exposing differences : to recognize or identify as separate and distinct; discriminate right from wrong especially : to distinguish from another like object; discriminate the individual voices in the choir

    intransitive verb

    1a: to make a distinction discriminate among historical sources ; discriminates between literary fiction and popular fiction

    b: to use good judgment

    2: to make a difference in treatment or favor on a basis other than individual merit; discriminate in favor of your friends; discriminate against a certain nationality

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      • No question they are not overtly harmful to the little kids as they are celebratory. Honestly.. if they were started at a social period of time where there was no emphasis on this “new” concept of competitive equality at early ages to stifle performance “discrimination” with children’s individual abilities it might be better accepted. Like maybe a bunch of parents got together to make a party out of their kids’ completing kindergarten. But this is all over and pretty much suggests an application of educational behavioral theory than just a fad to make kids happy for a day. It’s obvious that it’s aimed at positive reinforcement and reward for equal completion… which, BTW, is not supported in the later grades as a child can be held back from advancing a grade for performance issues.
        I dunno.. I just have issues with “coddling” our young to insulate them from life lessons.

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  7. You are pretty much correct here in your post. There are many “discriminatory” things about seeking employment that go well beyond the socially obvious of gender and race.. and religion… that could be considered illegal. It’s the informal discrimination.. appearance, verbal nuances, accents, the attitude one presents at an interview… the resume could be absolutely perfect, but the other “discriminations” can easily take hold with an interviewer. Oddly enough.. you might have a better chance at employment… less discrimination… with a company that uses their HR department to do the initial screening process. Larger corporations generally require managers and supervisors and other department heads to submit a hiring request to the HR department who then scrutinizes the requirements and places the ads. At that point the job request is in their “in box” and they tend to look for a qualified body… perform the screening interview.. then refer the person up to the department head.. as this fulfills the HR requirement of finding a qualified person. If the department head refuses the applicant then HR generally expects a “non-discriminatory” reason in order to improve their job search for the next applicant. There is a bit of a checks & balances in the process. This process significantly reduces non-official reasons for rejection like skin color, gender, or the wearing of religious garb.
    I’ve hired and fired people as a business owner and inside the larger corporations indicted above. When hiring for myself I was indeed far more specific on the “kind” of person I was looking for.. and some of that bias would/could be considered discriminatory. That’s not to imply I was some racist or other such social discriminatory, but I could be “inspired” to hire based on a person’s outgoing personality, a displayed attitude toward life, an ability to compose a sentence, etc. Put two people together with identical resumes and being human we will always default to the person we find that fits our positive personal bias.
    The resume gets you in the door (if your name isn’t overly unique)… the rest is up to you.. and the first rule in having job hunting expectations… this is not a perfect world and no one can pass laws to make it so.

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      • My current GF has gone through life with her God-given personality and very good looks… and it has sometimes bothered her that she might have gotten some past jobs based on her looks rather than qualifications. Yes.. it’s not fair in life that some people were born attractive and others have to really work at it. And it’s not just hiring males being swayed by a pretty face. Generally speaking it’s human to tend to favor the better looking of both genders, by both genders. I oft share the chuckle and tease with my GF about her having gotten hired to be an HR director for a bank… without having gotten a degree or having had any previous HR experience. This was during the early 90’s when things were more “wild west” in the workplace (it ended up the obvious… they were looking for a management scapegoat as the bank was doing some not-so-good hiring practices). But I told her that getting a job because you are a pretty face rather than having a solid resume is still using the attributes that you have to get the job.. get in the door. Your performance IN that job dictates who you are as an employee.. and helps you to be a value and keep that job. Everyone wants employment based on the reasons they put in the resume… but your appearance and demeanor is just as valuable.

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  8. My lack of success wasn’t because of (x) factor, it was because I either didn’t have the right work ethic, skill set, or ill timing. I have been fired because I wasn’t the right anything for certain jobs. It is an illness to stay bitter. To be a success , it is advisable to keep going at what you have the correct (x) for. To expect some conceptual manna from heaven solution isn’t what brings success, its combining skills/work/situation/correct attitude/correct personality.

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