It seems talk about the #MeToo movement has been a really hot topic these past few weeks, especially in light of the Kavanaugh fiasco! My previous post, “The Flaws of #MeToo” has gotten a record number of views! I have touched upon many cogent points in that, and even older articles on the subject, however, I have not gone into greater detail over how it impacts men. #MeToo is a lose-lose for both sexes, and both sides of the political spectrum! The issue is, #MeToo by casting women as victims, casts men as perpetrators, as a corollary. It’s black and white, good vs. evil, quite literally! Any woman is a victim, and any man a perpetrator, leaving out any grey areas, and any nuances. A woman merely has to say “he did it” and is believed without a doubt, without credible evidence, credible witnesses or anything!
While many of us are aware to look our for our daughters, wives, mothers, sisters etc… to protect them from sexual assault, the current danger to our sons, husbands, fathers and brothers is overlooked. #MeToo plays up the risk of a woman being assaulted, but also the risk that any man is an assaulter! This creates an atmosphere of fear and tension between men and women, with women fearful of men, and men fearful of women accusing them falsely. The detractor may say, “but it isn’t a high risk of a man getting falsely accused, and we should focus more on our women than our men…” implicitly saying that it negates looking out for women, by looking out for men too. Both arguments are flawed.
One, many men have indeed been falsely accused, including one who should have been in the Supreme court a week ago!!! More and more cases are coming to light of men being exonerated after decades behind bars after the women admitted to lying. It is incredibly easy for a woman to accuse a man. Literally just say “he did it”, and all is believed! Don’t think for a moment women are somehow more morally upright than men, and would never smear a man for her own unethical gains. Women, like men, are simply human, for good and for bad. To think anything else, is to put women on a very condescending pedestal, treating her as childlike, instead of seeing her simply as a fallible human. A woman, equally as much as any man, could frame someone to gain something, money, notoriety, even absolve herself of personal responsibility if she regretted sex the next morning!
The other argument is flawed as well, because looking after the men in our lives, and standing up for their right to due process and a fair investigation, does NOT negate the fact we also ought to look after the women in our lives and empower them to speak up in case of real sexual assault! Can’t we do both??? Saying, “not all men”, and men need protection too from false allegations is just as valid, as saying women need protection for sexual assault and need to be empowered too. It is not merely an excuse to deflect off the women’s issue of sexual assault by men. The men’s issue of false accusations is JUST as real and has happened in reality, not just in theory! We, as humanity, should look out for our fellow humans, of BOTH sexes, and both measures can be done to help EVERYONE get justice and protection, it shouldn’t be a competition for victim-hood! #HimToo, the counter-hashtag to #MeToo has the right to exist just as much. The original intention of the #MeToo movement has been hijacked by radicals who abuse it to undermine who they want. #HimToo gives a voice to the victims of this radicalization from a more rabid, vitriolic #MeToo that has smeared many an innocent man, even boy!!!
Yes, the #MeToo hysteria has even gone after boys too young to even know about sexuality or even think of hurting any girl or woman! Cases such as a little boy being accused of sexual assault at school, in his ELEMENTARY school, for hugging his teacher, a grown woman!!! A kind, innocent, pure gesture perverted into something truly sickening as to imagine a child being capable of this, by the #MeToo mindset of paranoia against men! Even teenage boys, the same age as a teenage girl, are vilified as predators, instead of young people exploring their own budding sexuality while the girl of the exact same age and developmental stage is viewed as a vulnerable potential victim and damsel in distress! I don’t blame men in the least for being more afraid to hire women, date women, and even casually interact with them alone due to #MeToo! The movement, which was meant to empower real victims against abuse of power, now is vilifying all men as sex predators, from ages 6-60 and beyond!!! Not to mention, men and boys are sexually assaulted too, sometimes by women! Can they say #MeToo as well??? Apparently not by the Left’s double standards and hypocrisy!
We as women, must look out for our sons, husbands, fathers, brothers etc… as it could easily be them next! Don’t fall into the fallacy, ladies, that your men are too upright, proper and righteous to be framed, as some opponents of my view argue. Simply “not raping women” is not enough in this #MeToo hysteria! Even looking at women, complimenting anything on a woman, her clothes, her hair, her shoes etc…, merely being behind a closed door with one is enough! And for some, not even knowing a woman and being anywhere near her, as any woman can simply make up a story and be believed! One woman’s son was framed for assaulting these cliques in high school, and had to go to court dates, even detained in juvenile detention, over allegations the girls later admitted were completely false because they “didn’t like him”! This should send chills over every mother’s, wife’s, sister’s, daughter’s spines!!! Our country is in the grips of witch hunts, hysteria and the court of public opinion, rather than the court of law, due process, evidence and justice! Our men are called upon to defend us in case of assault, why can’t we be there, as only a woman can, to defend them if heaven forbid, they get smeared with an allegation. In this world of identity politics, and not believing someone outside of a group and not being allowed to comment on issues of that group, our voices as women are crucial in turning the tide on #MeToo! We need to show the Left not all women subscribe to demonizing our men and boys, and stand with them, to defend their innocence from the kangaroo courts of popular opinion and emotion. Ladies, our sons, husbands, brothers, fathers, uncles, nephews, male friends, and indeed, any man needs us, the female half of humanity, to say “#NotMe”, before we are forced to say “#HimToo” when “him” becomes “them”: YOUR loved ones!!!
(The painting “Not Guilty” by Abraham Solomon captures what a relief it is for the women to see the man they care about was proven innocent. In the #MeToo hysteria, such a scene today will be rarer and rarer unless we as women, defend our men!)