It’s been a fact of life for every person who ever had an opinion: some people will disagree with you! Taking criticism is a hard feat for most people, me included! However, if you put yourself out there for people to hear you, they will respond back, and you won’t like every response. Since making A Lady of Reason, I have gotten a fair amount of critiques valid and vitriolic. Praise and condemnation. I knew by speaking out on hot button and very controversial loaded topics as frankly as I do, I’m bound to get backlash 😉 And now that I’ve popularized my blog even further by using social media such as Facebook and Twitter, more people come to see what I have to say. The pros are of course, more publicity and more awareness of conservative view points. The cons of course, with more people, come more critics, and more radical liberals just waiting to have it out with me! They have called me all the common ad-hominem insults now: “racist”, “misogynist”, even “vile nut-job” and “an ignorant, shitty human waste of space” by one vitriolic snowflake! Geez, the heat was turned up high in that kitchen 😉 Criticism, and especially vile attacks on your character are hard to hear, even for the most thick skinned of us. However, when we put our voices out there, we take on the fact we will get such vitriol from the radical left who can’t stand reasoned discourse. So what do you do when you are criticized? I thought of some tips , but please let me know some of yours too!
Some advice in the meantime:
Be Confident in What You Wrote
You have the evidence? You have truth on your side in what you wrote? You backed up your claims with facts? Then be confident you are in the right, and the others are simply in denial! If you need to revise some things, or word things differently, owe up to it and do. If their criticism has a valid point, address it. If you need to revise your thesis, do so, as the bigger person will consider valid points and adjust accordingly. They may say they “won”, but you look like the fair minded one if you do make a valid change. But if you feel you covered all your bases, be proud and let the readers judge for themselves 🙂
Know Many DO Agree With You
We are a “silent majority” here in America. While the radical left is very vocal, and dominates the mainstream media, that doesn’t mean they reflect the views of the average Joe! The fair and balanced reasonable person will consider what you have to say and make up their own mind. There is a growing backlash for the radical liberal intolerance, vitriol and denial out there! If you sound level headed and articulate, you will gain the respect of many reasonable people, even if they don’t agree with you in the end…
You Shook Them Up As Much as They Did You!
If they’re spewing ad-hominem attacks know they have no real argument, they’re just puffing up their chests in anger! If they had a valid point, they would make it instead of calling you a petty name and slandering your character just to make you upset. They lost it because they know you spoke the truth, and had valid points they couldn’t find counter points for. You may have been shaken up and upset by their attack, but believe me, they only reacted so strongly because they felt threatened themselves by your articulate logic and facts!
Keep Your Online Identity Separate From Your Personal One
Another important point, if you blog under a pseudonym, or anonymously they’re attacking that, not you personally! You still have the luxury of walking away and taking a break from your online identity to just be you. Go about you day, live your life, and be comforted in the fact they’re attacking your fake internet persona, not who you really are in real life! You can always come back later into your internet persona when you regained your energy to fight some more, and take comfort in the fact the haters aren’t hating on the real you 🙂
Speak Out For Others Too!
If you find a fellow ally being attacked, be an ally and stand up for them! You don’t need to get into a fight, but a comment in their favor can sway others to have the courage to speak for that person too, and it means the world to that person! Private message them if you have the time 😉 You’d want someone to speak up for you in your time of need, do the same for others too!
Don’t Forget to Leave Positive Feedback To Others You Agree With
Praise goes a long way! Complimenting a comment or post well written means the world to the author. We’re quick to criticize, but often slow to give people their due credit in life in general. Thanking someone for a job well done makes the world a better place and a little nicer, and keeps spirits up when there is a lot of vitriol being thrown around! I love getting positive comments and likes on my posts, it’s so encouraging! I try to do the same for posts I like by others too 🙂 A little positivity can outweigh buckets of negativity and give someone that little push of encouragement to keep going!
Well, that covers a lot! What are YOUR personal tips for handling intense backlash and coping with vitriol? Comment below!